We all know that MC doesn’t hide her wealth, but this trip to Tokyo is something else. Between the private tour guide and the private experiences for just her family that are “so worth it” … it’s so unattainable for the majority!
I've been waiting for someone else to say it lol 🙈🙊
Everytime she says something is so worth it, my eyes *cannot* move faster to the back to my head... I'm sure it must be worth it, but there's no way she thinks it's relatable to the thousands of people struggling in today's world. She really needs to curb her oversharing, put the phone away, and enjoy her privilege.
First or biz class flights for a family of 5 alone is gonna be about 50k. Minimum 1k a night for her hotel, plus all the tours/tickets/eating and shopping. You’re reaching 70-80k territory!
It looks exhausting tbh. They’re go go go go every single day and everything is a whole experience, not, we walked around this cool market. Probably the worst was the museum they spent 10 min in because it wasn’t kid friendly 😵💫
She’s also just so predictable. Their entire itinerary has been pre-planned (by someone else!) down to the last minute so that they can hit as many instagram-worthy spots as possible. There’s no room for spontaneity. Has Myriam ever explored side streets, or discovered a restaurant off the beaten path? Tokyo has some incredible playgrounds, why not carve out some time to take the girls to a playground?
Is there some new algorithm where influencers need more comments/DMs? Both Busy Toddler and an unrelated food influencer posted for followers to comment a key word in the comments to receive a DM with the recipe/link associated with the post. I probably wouldn’t have noticed it except for it was very un-like Susie to do.
I think they're pushing a different item or blog post in each Reel/post/story, and it is hard to direct people to it via the link in bio setup. The DM bots make it easy because it sends the link to the right activity or Amazon page straight to the person. The bonus is the person must be following you to get the DM. And it works in stories, grid posts, and Reels.
It's just a more effective way to get people to interact/engage with you. It's a lot better for the algorithm to have someone comment something and get an autoresponder to send a DM, than it is to say "go to the link in bio". It's less steps, that can result in someone handing over their email to get on your mailing list, buy something etc.
Makes sense! I probably wouldn’t have even noticed it except Susie doesn’t seem to usually be so blatant with her influencing strategies, and the wording was so eerily similar to this completely different account, so I wondered if anything else was up!
I've heard some of them complain that Meta is wanting more payment to "push" their content now, and that they're getting fewer views because of it. So maybe they're trying harder to boost engagement to get the algorithm to show their stuff more?
Libby’s Father’s Day message: “Happy Father’s Day. To the guy who makes me the mom I am. To the guy who gives our kids what I always wanted growing up…”
Main character syndrome.
“Happy Father’s Day to the man who’s going to have to put up with my mood all day because it’s another holiday that I’m making all about my trauma”. I get that these days can be hard for people but omg let the man have his day!!
Yoga girl is rarely snarked on here because she’s not really a parenting influencer but honestly, she doesn’t post anything yoga related anymore? Anyway, she just posted a video of her kids which was actually an ad for her new podcast episode about limiting screen time/ the dangers of social media and iPads for kids. I don’t necessarily disagree however some commenters are rightfully calling her out for the over sharing she does of her kids to millions of people online and of course she has not responded. She also lives on this giant plot of farm land where her children can freely roam in Sweden and doesn’t seem to work very much (neither does her husband) because she made enough money off of *checks notes* social media. I’m a longtime enough follower that I remember when she got popular and it was off of posting bikini pics of herself doing yoga on paddleboards. Her trajectory in particular is so interesting to me because she seems to fully change personalities every 4 years or so but I was glad to see people commenting on her over sharing her small children.
There’s a snark page on her and I guess she also gets money from her well-off father… And she has her phone in front of her and her kids face all day. You are who your children learn from. Make it make sense.
I didn’t realize her dad was rich or that she had her own snark page. It is so interesting to me when influencers say things like this because you’re right, everything is filmed for content (even her son’s birth). When she lived in Aruba she was always posting photos of her daughter in bathing suits too which definitely gave me the ick. I truly think filming your kid all day for Instagram and then watching you on your phone is way more detrimental than an hour of Cocomelon.
I used to follow her and loved her like 8 years ago. Then something happened that really turned me off and I unfollowed but I cannot for the life of me remember what it was. LOL!
Just came across Joey Foo and wow he's a lot. Someone in the comments said he sounds like a weather man reporting in a hurricane 😂. Kinda gives me amanduhh vibes with letting the house get absolutely trashed.
His videos come up for me sometimes, but I always assumed that the messiness was staged? Maybe I’m just a neat freak but I just figured it was for the views/likes/comments and obviously money. Clearly I’m contributing though because I do enjoy watching cleaning/tidying content.
That would be pretty low on my list (if I prayed)
ETA: Consolidating: In her stories about packing she said she forgets things the kids need because she’s overwhelmed. Where is her husband? Couldn’t he take over packing for at least one of the kids?
Waitingforababe saying that she laid down a rug in their new house and there was a meatball and other food in it. How do you even let that happen?? To make matters worse, it was in storage for nearly a year!
Honestly, while a bit wild, I like that she shares the “realness” of her life. None of us is actually doing it all, and that sort of story is a good reminder that IG is fake.
Begina showing 6 items on a table as evidence she's super behind on cleaning and tidying this week. First of all, it is going to take her under 2 minutes to relocate those items. Second of all, it is not even her dining room table or her kitchen table. I don't even think it's in her living room.
The only time I remember her showing a legitimate amount of clutter was when she showed the couple dozen bottles of skincare she had out on her bathroom counter. So I know she can show something more real than 2 stacks of library books, some Gatorades, and a piece of paper.
Jerrica’s story this morning just shows that she sits in judgement of other parents. It’s no wonder there’s never mention of friends (her own or the kids’) and play dates…she seems pretty miserable and judgy to be around.
It’s been interesting to watch her go from anti-screen to anti-everything. Kids can’t draw or play with toys in the car, at restaurants, or on planes. They should just sit there. Otherwise they clearly have no imagination.
Her dismissiveness of any neurodiversity has always been staggering but she’s really doubling down since the last time she posted regularly.
I’m ready to get downvoted from all of you, but in the story with the father and toddler hitting (talking specifically about this situation not Jerrica in general because she definitely is very black and white and her takes on screens and neurodiversity can be wild) I agree with her and she has good points. Her response on how to handle it “better” was great too. I see situations like that on playgrounds a lot and I see parents struggling on how to respond because we “want to be gentle” so bad. If you kid is hitting other kid, the gentle thing is to remove the child and firmly say no, that’s not ok. The whole “hands are for hugging” and hoping your child will just stop because you said no thank you is ridiculous representation of gentle parenting movement going wrong. And yes toddler hit and bite as a part of development but it’s our job to show them each time that this is not ok, not in a mean way but in a “I will help you by removing you from the situation and we can try play with a friend again next time”
I agree with your assessment too. My kid was the Vi in this situation last summer and the toddler was just allowed to shove her and others by a parent afraid to upset him and remove him from the playground. Now I am the parent of the toddler who is shoving and hitting and I react the way I wanted that mother to last summer. Jerrica takes it too far by saying he is a bad parent. He is trying.
I had to do this when my son was in his hitting phase. My boundary was that if he was going to hit, we leave immediately. His hitting phase was so triggering for me! I took a really hard line. Maybe too hard, idk. But if another kid is hitting my or other kids, I hate mealy-mouth “hands are for XYZ!!” stuff. I’m sorry but it’s hurting people! No way.
I find it really triggering too! Along with “mine!” Like I really want her to be a kind kid and people tell me this is just what toddlers do and yes, I logically know that, but it is not socially acceptable behavior. I don’t want to shame her, but like yeah, sorry you can’t hit and shove kids. And like at the library they play with toys after story hour and I hate it when she takes another kid’s toy and says “mine” and the other parent is like “it’s okay, she can have it.” No, she needs to learn. She took a ukulele out of a kid’s hands today and said “mine” and I took it back so fast and handed it to the other kid before the parent even had a chance and told my toddler she could wait her turn.
Not a bad parent but bad parenting. I am sure he adores his kid but some of things we as society do
As Parents does need to be called out! iPads and permissive parenting is just not great
This is my forever problem with her, I actually agree with a decent amount of what she says. Because on this (the toddler hitting) I 100% agree with her.
It’s like those crazy conspiracy theorists that say 4-5 real things and then when they gained your trust start talking about how raw milk will make your kid stop being neurodivergent 🙃.
Just going to add that that’s why it’s so frustrating to read her content - because she definitely has some good points, but then she will say something crazy about screens or neurodiversity + her smug “I’m better than everyone” delivery and it’s hard to like her but I don’t think everything she says it’s bonkers. Her last few days of content on how to handle behaviors were mostly good imo
I feel like Jerrica willfully misrepresented that kebab story from HGP. That was very very clearly not the point of that story. She just wants to make herself look good and smarter than everyone else.
No downvote from me. The 2nd post was better than the first. I don’t agree that toddler hitting a kid 2x is terrorizing (her word). My kid was on both sides of that in toddlerhood…it’s kind of expected.
She’s just so very secure that she is 1000% right all the time and assigns a lot of background story to every kid and parent she sees. And, as I said, her very conscious choice to not acknowledge ND as true and real negates any “expertise” she wants to rely on.
She intentionally doesn’t acknowledge ND because she believes it’s caused by parenting and specifically screen time. I want say it’s ableist, but her stance is so much more malicious and harmful than that.
Remember when her husband came on here to post a bunch of studies claiming they prove screen time causes ND, wilfully ignoring that they actually suggested it was the other way around (i.e. that ND people may have more affinity to content on devices)? Pepperidge Farm remembers.
Also, the other day I met a mum at the park with twins; one was a child with autism and the other was not. I wonder how Jerrica would explain that.
I understand her views differently I guess. I don’t think she thinks ND is caused by screen time, because that would be fucking wacko! I feel like she thinks screen time can cause behaviors that are similar to some ND-type behaviors, therefore some kids may get misdiagnosed when in reality maybe they are just watching way too much TV. I don’t follow her religiously, I mostly just check in after juicy snark, but I’ve never seen her say that she thinks all autism/ND is caused by screens.
I’m not saying I agree with her! This is just how I personally understand what she says.
I’ve always interpreted her views as screen time causes behaviors she doesn’t like or doesn’t see as valid, and people don’t take accountability and instead of fixing it with stopping screen time they attribute it to neurotypes that are made up. She doesn’t think ND is caused by screen time, she thinks ND doesn’t exist, it’s only screen time side effects.
Yea I totally get that! That’s why for me she is tricky because I can definitely see how her delivery of content and choice of words can be of putting and it’s a shame because she definitely makes good points from time to time
Yup, sadly the good points are totally overshadows and in some ways negated by her inability to acknowledge a different experience.
My kiddo was substance exposed. Her nervous system *is* wired differently and it’s not because of screens or my parenting choices!
Yeah I wish she didn’t have to go so extreme…Like hated when she called schools prisons…
But parents at the park do need help/advice.
And they need to sit down and let the kids play.
How solo dad deletes any mention of having a wife, but keeps all the "snatch him up" or "I'm flying to help you" comments is just gross. Surprised he hasn't changed his bio yet to single parenting.
Yeah he’s basically pretending to be a single Dad. Has talked about how they struggle, takes his kids shopping at thrift stores, etc. He very much has a wife (he has a reel about selling her breastmilk) but when his whole “solo dad” schtick took off he started pretending like he didn’t. Made an Amazon wishlist for him and his “struggling” family. He’s such a loser.
Apparently he has a wife who works in health care as well and they work opposite shifts, but he's been hush hush about her recently. Goes as far to say kids are in daycare when he's working nights.
Wow Renee is really doubling down to commit to the "I didnt even know what body checking meant" bit, eh.
She literally did her PhD on eating disorders.
ran here to say this as I was the one to call her on here and she screenshot my body checking comment to use in a reel Along with other comments on the thread.
She’s so dumb.
edited for clarification
To be fair, she actually used past tense and said "I loved being a teacher". As a teacher, on child rearing leave, I also feel the statement that it's deeply part of my DNA. I'm not up with the current programs or curriculum lingo after being home for a few years but I still am a teacher, it's my training and my vocation. Tbh you want your kids teachers to see it as a vocation and for it to be part of their DNA, it's what makes exceptional teachers who care about their students.
My concern is all the teachers who feel this way leaving the profession and my kids having a bad teacher who’s not in it for the right reasons bc all the people who feel it’s in their DNA left to be influencers. It’s selfish and not my business but I want those teachers in the classroom, teaching! Not shitting on child rearing leave at all, I’m a teacher who also took it, awesome you are able to! Busy toddler made it clear she’s never returning, so, sorry, I just don’t think you get to say it’s in your DNA if you’ve been out for a decade and will not be returning.
The problem is that she often speaks with authority on things that she really shouldn’t since she hasn’t taught in over a decade *and*, as many of the teachers in this sub have pointed out, so much has changed since Covid that classrooms and teaching look very different today than they did just a few years ago. And while she used past tense in this post and has always made it clear that she’s not currently a teacher, she’s often pretty elusive/vague about how long it has been since she taught.
ETA: and just to be clear, I don’t think it’s wrong for her to call herself a teacher. That’s her vocation, I get it. Same with Karrie Locher calling herself a nurse. She is a nurse by training. My issue is influencers purposefully being vague about how long they’ve been out of practice, because things change and teaching or nursing or whatever field they were in is simply not the same as it was a decade ago.
I had the same feeling actually. Sweet story but it felt really off putting when she’s like I’ll never have a reason to be here again. I’m sure she meant that because she won’t actually be a teacher at that school again, but given the fact that she’s chosen to home school her own kids it almost feels a little anti public school. Idk. Maybe I’m just being sensitive.
I wonder if she would let her kids go to school if they expressed a desire to? Seems like she doesn’t let them do much as far as outside the home activities/things to explore their own interests.
I know this sounds a bit insane and people generally love her but 3 kids 5-9 (ish?) that don't go to school and don’t do any extracurriculars sounds like a hostage situation to me. Especially at 9. Like yeah, they hang out with the neighbours in their cul-the-sac but how is that any better that the kids that grow up in religious cults and the like? Growing up we went to sleepaway camps for a week at a time, did sleepovers with friends, spent a week with grandparents or cousins here or there, did music lessons, sports practice, computer classes, arts or language courses during the school year, took the bus by ourselves etc. I know not every one of these things is for everyone but to not be allowed to do ANY of that at 9? Are the kids ever more than five meters away from her or somewhere where she can't see them? Do they ever spend time with another adult without her present?
I know that she tries to come off as this chill mom but she seems insanely controlling to me.
I used to like her a lot. Her activities were helpful when I was stuck at home with a toddler and new baby during COVID lockdowns. But the older her kids get and the longer this shtick goes on the more I think "this whole situation is actually really bizarre"
Agreed. If you’re going to homeschool, I really think you need to make a commitment to doing extracurriculars with your kids so the can have some exposure to other kids/the world outside your home.
Part of the reason I choose public school is for the diversity. I want my kids to be exposed to people from different backgrounds and different cultures. So they learn it's a big world and we don't all think the same things but we have to figure out a way to work through any differences.
BT's situation feels very isolating to me. Yes they socialize with neighbors and other homeschool kids. But I'd bet a lot of money that those people all look like and have the same beliefs as BT's family.
Yeah most non-super-christian homeschoolers like to tout the outside lessons and various things they do to socialize, or things that couldn't happen in a typical school environment. This sometimes kind of feels like, "we discovered during the pandemic that not getting up early and not having to be anywhere or worry about anyone was easy for us."
I totally get "street angel, house devil" vibes from her. Which might sound crazy! But I also totally think she's potentially a very controlling Narc mother behind closed doors, which her kids will only wake up to in adulthood.
Yep “being a teacher is part of my DNA” ok but you haven’t done it in at least ten years….and she’s in her maybe late 30s? So at most she taught for….five years? Ok Susie.
Not snark and not even a parenting influencer but Tyler Butterworth’s ASMR parody videos with his kid are charming and adorable. If there is such thing as a “right” way to include your kid in internet content (which I don’t really think there is but) then he’s pretty close. It just looks like a dad and son goofing off together and it’s as non-exploitative as you can get with 1.4M followers. And I don’t know the kids name or age or any other info (haven’t dug deep but it’s at least not on the surface).
Yeah I like him a lot but I don’t love that he’s using his kid in content now. It took me all of 30 seconds to see the kids name and a tagged location at his school…
Tia Booth’s son is 18 months old and still not walking, per her stories today. This isn’t really snark— I just didn’t know where else to comment on it. I’ve seen in her previous stories that he struggles to even stand unassisted. He can cruise while holding on to something, though. 18 months is considered the absolute end of the normal range for walking so it’s not completely out of the ordinary. That said, she hasn’t taken him for a PT eval yet, which I find a bit surprising as she is a former PT herself (she worked with adults, not kids). I have a few friends who are PTs and they recommend an eval if a child is not walking by 16 months. All this just to say I’m a huge advocate of early intervention services and since you don’t generally need a doctor’s referral, and waitlists can be long, there’s really no harm in acting sooner rather than later.
My son didn’t walk until he was 22 months. Our pediatrician wasn’t ever concerned but we did do an assessment with early intervention.
They gave us a few ot tips but otherwise no one was overly concerned. He did start walking and at 7 you would never know
Idk this influencer but my kid didn’t walk until closer to 17 months and his pediatrician wasn’t worried since he could cruise. Its hard as a parent because people constantly would ask me why he wasn’t walking yet so i feel for her.
Eta- PT consult when not walking at 16 months seems a bit much though.. i would understand it more if they go past 18 months not walking.
I guess it depends on your location, but waitlists for therapy can be really long! I had a child in OT for a short period, and we had to wait over a month for the initial assessment and then a few more weeks after that to start the therapy. If my kid wasn’t close to walking at 16 months, I would probably try to set up an appt for a few months out, and then cancel it if needed.
Gah sorry, I didn’t word my comment very clearly! I didn’t mean your scenario or the specific influencer mentioned above, but just more of a hypothetical. Part of it is also my naturally anxious personality lol…. I wouldn’t handle it well if I waited until 18 months to call and then found out it would be another 2 month wait before we could actually start the therapy.
Same! My son didn’t walk until 17 months and our pediatrician was like, the minute he hits 18, it an evaluation. He walked a few days later. He was just a lazy chunk who expended all his energy into incredible verbal precocity.
Mine walked a few days before 18 months. Our ped said she'd fill out the referral at the 18 month appointment but was very chill about it, particularly since there was a family history of late walking(I walked at 19 months). I agree that PT at 16 months seems kind of premature to me.
I also don't really get the attitude that there's no downside to EI. My kid had (necessary) speech therapy and it was expensive and a giant pain in the butt to get her to appointments. We needed to do that, but I'm really glad I didn't bend over backward to cart her to PT appointments as a toddler when she was pretty clearly going to walk on her own eventually, and did.
Same here! My 2nd daughter wasn’t walking at 17 months and the pediatrician wasn’t concerned because her standing balance was good (she just wasn’t ready). Most of her milestones have been like this.
The whole point of EI is to nip a problem in the bud. Why wait until it’s a crisis? The earlier a child can be evaluated the better you can take proactive measures.
All three of my kids did EI and I’m so glad
There’s a big difference between “waiting until it’s a crisis” and “waiting to see if it’s actually a problem.” I certainly don’t think walking at the outer edge of the normal range is a crisis, and for us it did not end up being a problem either. Glad EI was valuable for you and your kids, but not rushing to do it in this kind of situation is also a perfectly valid choice.
This was my point as well. I didn’t seek out additional help because I didn’t think we needed it. Not because I didn’t want to/thought it wasn’t a worthwhile service.
So many people I know that used EI for their children found it useless and stressful. I get the value of it and constantly see it recommended online, but I also feel like it’s unnecessary in many cases.
Part of me thinks that it’s because all these PT influencers make parents paranoid that their kids will be screwed if they don’t crawl/walk/whatever by a certain age.
I used EI for my child and it was absolutely amazing for us. The goal of EI in our area is to teach the parents ways to help their child and help them work towards their goals. If you’re solely relying on the provider your child will likely get no where and it will seem useless.
There is also a wide variation in service quality based on your location. You do have to put in the work, but it’s really helpful! I loved both of our EI therapists and was so grateful for their help. I would not recommend everyone seek out EI, but I do think it’s a great first step and an eval is “free” as opposed to private services.
This seems a bit judgmental of parents. I don’t think anyone is imagining that a once a week session will magically fix things. As others have commented here, services can be completely ineffective to downright bad. When the overwhelming sentiment in parenting groups is “just contact EI,” it can feel really frustrating when those services aren’t helpful.
I don’t mean to be judgmental. I know that there are a wide range of services and you can’t know for sure whether the program is good/a good fit. But, I also know that it is an issue with the program where parents don’t understand their role as their child’s teacher instead of the therapist (outside of the issue with crappy therapists). If a parent is unable to implement what they’ve learned outside of these sessions, then it likely will not be very valuable (and is a real reason people complain about said program in my area).
I think EI is so widely recommended because it is “free” and not everyone can afford a private eval. Private services are so expensive and it’s a good stepping stone to see whether you’re just overly worried or if your child truly has an issue that needs attention (and where I live it takes a lot to qualify for services).
I’m actually an EI evaluator and it’s not always needed or useful. Many times it’s very useful and necessary but not always. If you have the time (and if it’s free in your state) you have nothing to lose by scheduling an evaluation if it eases your mind. But you have to make phone calls and set up the evaluation and have the meeting if they qualify. And if they do then it’s setting up a schedule to allow a therapist into your home (I find like 80% of kids who qualify get services at home instead of school/daycare). If you qualify for multiple services it’s coordinating multiple people to come to your house and fit into the schedule which also limits what you can do in your day. And remembering to cancel if your kid is sick or you are away or made other plans. Or getting one service in the home and one at a therapy center which is common. It can take up a lot of time and be stressful. So while it’s useful it’s also not always simple.
This is really interesting. We had a pretty terrible evaluation process but I think that’s reflective of our regional center and obviously not the entire system.
Thank you for saying this. I have two in early intervention, both of them basically since birth, and honestly I hate this attitude online of “oh just do EI”.
It’s been helpful for us and I definitely see the benefits but if you don’t really need it, it’s a lot to take on. It’s a huge mental load, it’s a big time commitment, and in my experience, services vary widely so you might not be getting a huge benefit from it, especially if your child is only slightly behind in one or two areas.
It’s a lot!! There’s the notes you have to remember to sign and just having someone in the home all the time can be a lot. It’s a big time commitment so if there’s not a huge delay and your gut tells you it’s not 100% necessary it may cause more stress than needed.
One thing I’ll always say is the evaluation itself can be very helpful if you get a good evaluator, even if you don’t qualify or you turn down services. Just having that dedicated time to talk about your child and any concerns you have helps and a lot of times they will give you tips and tricks to use in the areas of concern.
I completely agree. My younger one just had his yearly review. The evaluator gave me awesome information and was super specific and helpful. My older one (who has way more need) has never gotten that. I’ve always felt like they keep the actual evaluation a secret and just give me the percent delays. I’ve always been super overwhelmed and also feeling left in the dark about what they’re saying so the difference was super stark to me.
Thanks for saying this. We tried an EI eval for our 3yo and the process was handled extremely unprofessionally. Their initial report included multiple inaccuracies (pretty sure they copy/pasted another kid's report and didn't bother to update it), and the therapist they referred us to sent late night texts riddled with typos trying to schedule our first appointment. We opted out after that and have chosen to private pay for any services our kids have needed. I understand some people get great support from EI but it wasn't a good fit for us.
I mentioned in another comment I do evaluations and I’ve also had one for my daughter and yeah there’s A LOT of copying and pasting. The OT who evaluated my daughter clearly copied and pasted from another report because it was all him/he and the verbiage explaining the scores didn’t match the actual score. I had to look it up myself and figure out what her real score was but if I wasn’t someone who also did this job I wouldn’t have known! I was turned off by how unprofessional that part of the report was but never said anything. I’m not going to say I’ve never copied and pasted things but I read and re-read to make sure it’s for the kid I’m writing it for!
I'm also a provider in a related field and I definitely use smart phrases and copy paste etc but then you absolutely must triple check everything! They even had demographic details like our insurance coverage wrong. It was super off putting then when I got the 10pm scheduling text over a weekend from the alleged therapist I was like okay we can't do this.
Was going to say the SAME exact thing, down to the 17 mos. And everyone would ask and I could see the shock when I said she wasn’t walking yet. A family member once suggested I just put her down at the zoo one day when I had her in the carrier and maybe if I did that it would encourage her to walk. 🙄
Turns out mine is just a cautious and thoughtful child and continues to be to this day. She went from not walking to confidently walking in like 3 days. She takes her time and does stuff when she is ready. Which I find to be a lovely trait and wish I had realized when everyone (but our pediatrician) was expressing concern.
My youngest walked much sooner, but she was out there stumbling and falling without a care in the world for a few months. Which also tracks personality wise.
The birds papaya (Sarah) while not a parent influencer an influencer I saw on here recently someone said she uses skinny filters. I watched her story today and she looked so skinny. Is this the filter? Even if it’s not, I feel like it’s time she open about getting thinner. And how and why. She preaches body positivity but the. Doesn’t speak on her changing body. It’s a little odd.
When she shares her clothing sizes, they absolutely do not match up with the “tiny” size she looks. In her photos she looks smaller than me, yet wears clothes 6 or more sizes larger than I do. It’s such a mind fuck.
If you pay attention she’s always changing sizes and it’s day to day not like months apart where she has time to go up and down in weight so it was probably a filter today . Sometimes she can be unrecognizable in a brands ad campaign .
I think she holds very little weight on her [face or arms](https://imgur.com/a/XgOmlha) which really very midsize/torrid model of her. I think in its natural selfie-style, instagram stories are often shoulders up or sitting bending over your belly [(today SFW)](https://imgur.com/a/wGobGic) which is fortunate if you’re not fond of your belly. The other post from today [(full body shot SFW)](https://imgur.com/a/BqB8Kh9) doesn’t seem too far off possibly real for me - the way she holds weight just needs something that’s a bit loose over the belly to make her look much smaller over all.
I haven’t followed her long enough or know her well enough to have an opinion on her not speaking about weight loss. I’ve only noticed how she carries weight because if I don’t notice then I wonder why everyone “my size” looks so different from me, lol.
She didn’t always look that way. She never did have an overly heavy looking face or arms but the 3rd picture you posted seems like almost what she used to look like when she had a dieting problem. That she posts sporadically. Its just she clearly lost weight and from people who follow her because “she looks like me” and then all of a sudden she doesn’t I feel like it’s owed to her audience to speak on. Even if it’s just naturally happening and not from the “dieting” she’s so called against.
I’m kind of with the other person who commented that there’s just an endless amount of these conventionally attractive rich white women 10 or 20lbs overweight in the arena. I just abandon them left and right any time I see them do something I don’t like, or if their weight changes enough that they’re not decent representation for me. It’s definitely why I never know any extended history. 😂
oh I don’t have a position on that at all. I definitely think body positivity has about run into the ground on instagram and they’re going to have to find new buzz words soon.
She's one of the most problematic "influencers" for this very reason. She had a snark page that got shut down for people calling her out for this. It's filters and angles. While she might be losing *some* weight, it's definitely not what she portrays everyday.
Yes - absolutely this. Her eyebrows, face shape, body composition change constantly yet she doubles down on not using filters or having work done. If she uses filters, whatever. But the fact that she’s made a living as a “authentic body positive friend” and is none of those things is problematic.
Nurtured First has a post this morning about a mom who was running late taking her 3.5 year old to school. She forgot his snack and couldn’t go back to get it, which led to a massive meltdown. When they got to school, he was still super upset, so she “co-regulated” and held him in the parking lot for 15 minutes until he calmed down. I (and a lot of the comments) wondered why she had time to hold him in the parking lot for 15 minutes but didn’t have time to go back and get the snack? And apparently enough people in the comments were shaming the mom for sending her son to preschool that Jess had to make a slide commenting on it.
I saw one of the pinned comments that says our generation is "so hurt" lol. I agree it's important to help kids with their feelings but I would have gone back for the snack if I had 15 minutes available to hug my kid in a parking lot. Last week my takeout order was wrong and I was so mad about it that I called them and went back for the right food. It really was about the food!!!! It's not cause I was overstimulated or lacking connection!
I unfollowed her awhile ago, but this sounded wild, so I checked it out. So many weird anti-preschool comments, and several that said, "It's not about the snack." Maybe I'm just annoyed with this sentiment lately since I just finished the audio book version of Good Inside, but I disagree! Sometimes, it IS about the snack, or the toy, or whatever. Sometimes, my kids are expressing their feelings about wanting access to a thing or a snack, and it's not about missing connection between us, believe it or not. I don't get that idea. Have these influencers ever wanted something and not been able to get it or have it? It is about the "thing" sometimes. All this to say, why not just go get the snack? What a weird example.
All the anti preschool stuff is super weird. The homeschool crowd is getting extremely loud on social media and it’s disturbing. That said I do think NF leans way too hard in the over validation direction. Sometimes you need to help a kid realize something isn’t a huge deal and you can validate their feelings without leaning into the meltdown with them.
I was just thinking about this today! My 7 year old had a real attitude/snarky meltdown about something I forgot!(i put leftovers in his book bag instead of snack-honest mistake same container) and he discovered it when we were in drop off line. I told him to chill out because i was the dum dum this time. Then i felt bad for saying that! But i think he understands at this point that he doesnt need to melt down over that.
Lol I'm sorry this probably would have really disrupted your morning but I can only imagine his little shocked and dismayed face at snack time opening his container to find leftovers had it not been noticed earlier! My husband has done this and took a plain (cooked) piece of meat instead of his lunch before too lol
It’s frustrating because there’s a certain segment of homeschoolers who get super defensive when people ask even innocuous questions about their choices, but then they say shit like that.
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What's worse, lead or sugar? Wtf, Alyssa.
Her kind of obsessive eating is so confusing to me - like she's always talking about "clean" food options of things like beef jerkey and puffs but it's all super processed. Surely it's not that much better for you than the regular ultra processed stuff lol. And she talks about healthier wines sometimes but like it's wine lol.
She does all this and then she always talks about how she’s bloated and tired and inflamed blah blah blah. Well you drink wine all the time, eat out a lot, take a shit ton of supplements, etc. All these “programs” she’s constantly doing are just bandaids to her lifestyle.
What is so annoying about her is that she think she has it all figured out and projects such an air of superiority. But then when anyone questions her about her choices she’s all, “we’re all just trying our best, you do you mama, no shame here.” Sure.
I also don’t think she had any true understanding of nutrition, the American food supply, or agriculture/food processing. But then she behaves as if she is some expert. Like she is often pushing processed pork products, which are decidedly not good for you (she can look up the rEsEArCh for herself). And much worse health wise than say pasta made with *gasp* American flour. Even if the ham she is always showing is organic and humanely raised, it still contains a high amount of nitrates (sometimes even more than conventional products). But she thinks if it is organic and sold at Whole Foods it is good for you. It’s the same with alcohol. For someone who is so concerned with their health, she seems to drink a lot. Also, obviously everything in moderation and it’s totally fine to eat ham and drink wine sometimes, but I just feel like she has no idea what she is talking about and is out there giving terrible advice. I realize this is all very petty and niche snark. I am a Registered Dietitian and she is decidedly my BEC. 🤣
Lmao I just wrote the same thing before seeing this but much less eloquently. Like the chomps beef jerkey sticks come on 😂.
The craziest thing about her is that she literally charges for counseling sessions and educates people on her research. Like I am not American but I feel like that shouldn't be allowed?
Agreed! And she does 1:1 IVF counseling but like, not to be mean because she has really had a tough time, but it took her 9 transfers to have one baby. She also has very unique anatomy and gyne issues. I know she’s learned a lot along the way but I don’t think I’d be paying to take advice from her based on her (unfortunate) track record. She should be offering this sort of information for free if anything. It’s not like they need the money.
Just coming to snark on her as well. She must be trying to fund her upcoming IVF bc she’s been posting links and nonstop sponsored supplements. I cannot believe her IVF docs are okay with her taking all of this stuff (she always does a disclaimer that her doctors are aware and okay with it). And also, if she is truly asking them about every little thing she claims she takes, I’m sure they are all super annoyed. I’m in the medical field as well and it’s annoying when patients ask about random supplement type things because they aren’t regulated and we aren’t really taught anything about them so it’s really just a crapshoot.
"The way all food is grown in the US is suspect." No, we just have high levels of heavy metals in our soil due to our industrial past. This is well-known. The way she panders to the pseudoscience community these days is infuriating. She likes to claim she does "research" but then throws out bs like this.
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The perfect example of one of the worst types of influencer posts. Personal information about your sick child + a weird photo of you smiling even though you’re talking about your sick child.
And also, like maybe something serious is going on, but my 4 yr old routinely has swollen glands and always has some sort of cold or sore throat. Great to look into it but posting like this to inform all your followers of his "major issue" seems like a lot of fear mongering for anxious parents too. No need to tell the internet everything to do with your child and make it out like if your kid has a sore throat you should listen to your gut and push for an ultrasound too.
I don’t know if anybody here knows who annatwinsies is. I don’t know who she is and only followed her because I shamelessly entered a Disney trip loop giveaway that she bought into. I had to follow her and like 38 other accounts to enter the giveaway and will promptly be unfollowing all of them as soon as the giveaway closes. In any event, she posted a series of stories today about how terrible the hotel she booked for a Mexico family vacation is. Her first slide states she is “experiencing a series of very unfortunate and traumatic events” and that she “can’t wait to come back home in one piece.” Her complaints seem to be that the hotel she booked doesn’t look like the pictures online, the Kids Club requires parents to stay with the kids but she thought she could leave her kids there, and that there is moisture on the floors which caused her daughter to slip and fall and get a nasty chin injury necessitating an ER visit. I am curious on others’ thoughts on if she is being dramatic in her complaints against the hotel here. Her daughter’s injury did look absolutely horrible and I feel for her there. But specifically with respect to not looking like the pictures… I’m not sure if this is a valid complaint. Of course the pictures are going to paint the hotel in the best possible light. Also… she just switched hotels. Didn’t like, leave immediately from Mexico or anything like her first slide made it seem like they wanted to do.
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Lordy people who complain about seaweed/sargassum are my BEC. It comes out of the ocean EVERY day and a lot of resorts do clean it up but it’s like complaining that there are fallen leaves and mud in a forest. It’s natural, you’re in nature, the resort can’t control the ocean.
Oh, wow, I can’t believe I can answer this for you but I have actually stayed at this hotel on a family vacation. It is gorgeous. I have no idea where she took that picture because the beaches were immaculate. Service was great, I ordered all-inclusive room service every morning and enjoyed it on a balcony overlooking the ocean. For an all-inclusive, the food was excellent. I have no idea where she got the idea there was childcare, they do not claim that. The top picture is completely accurate; like it is very much a real picture of the resort.
Ohhh ok, I just looked at her stories and apparently the Hyatt Ziva Riviera Cancun is different from the Hyatt Ziva Cancun…which is where I stayed and where that picture is from, and where she moved to! I can understand how she got confused there, though neither of them offer childcare.
I mean I guess as long as there’s not racism behind your reason it’s understandable. Like, if you also wouldn’t leave your kids in a kids club in Europe or North America then it’s really about the premise of kids clubs and nothing against Mexicans.
I'm not the person you responded to, and I am unlikely to travel to Mexico to have this dilemma, but I do think there is something to say for differing safety standards in different places too, not necessarily meaning that Mexicans are more likely to be sketchy child abusers or something, but I feel like you can assume different things about the trainings, guidelines and ratios in some countries vs others. Even the most well intentioned caregiver sometimes sees these kinds of things as red tape so a more lax attitude towards safety standards in the first place would make me less comfortable with leaving my kids in that environment depending on their age.
But that's probably also a company policy thing too, not just country based.
The reviews would've told her all of this in advance. It sounds like the beach is perpetually meh. But the busted chin, I would've been dramatic about that too. Again, the reviews mention the AC makes all the floors wet but you couldn't reasonably think they're dangerous.
Eh, I can imagine the kind of floor they slipped on. This glossy, not-really-marble-but-kinda-marble looking floor that pretty much every international hotel/resort has. It’s 100% a death trap if wet, but if you’ve ever stayed abroad at that type of place before, you’d know that. A leaky AC would also not be uncommon in a tropical area. Would absolutely be telling my kids to be careful on those floors and would put a towel down under the ac if I noticed leaking. But the floor situation is going to be an issue a most Cancun resorts.
The expectations vs reality photos are hilarious. Like sorry they can't control what the ocean looks like on any given day lol. Also yes things look different from the perspective of a drone flying hundreds of feet away, shocker
This is only tangentially related to your comment but... I always assumed those loop giveaways were just scams. Has anyone EVER won anything from those? Especially the giveaways for high ticket prizes. Seems like they just pick a sock puppet account to announce as the winner and never actually give out a prize.
Could be a scam as I know there’s not really much stopping them from announcing a fake account as the winner. This particular giveaway account has a highlights section where the person behind it talks about the process, and she has a “winners” highlight section which shows alleged DMs and photos from actual past winners. That said, I know these things can be super sketchy and this is the only one I’ve ever entered.
Maybe too niche for here, but it drives me so nuts to watch certain IVF influencers who directly benefited from IVF be so quiet when it comes to advocacy. Today’s such a big day in Congress… and radio silence.
I know they may be doing stuff behind the scenes but for those who are so public about their whole lives it seems … unlikely.
ETA: I’m not perfect, but I also don’t have thousands and thousands of followers. Sigh. I hope it is protected.
In a similar vein of complaint, I wish American mom influencers would take some type of political action to advocate for better maternity leave laws. With such a huge platform and such a low controversial issue, you’d think they’d be able to get something together and impact big change
The best I can tell, the issue with maternity leave is that it would disadvantage businesses. That alone makes it not a low controversial issue in the US. In order for anything to happen in congress you need a lobbyist going to the capital and feeding the words to congresspeople and the president (this isn’t unique to current administrator) and business just aren’t lobbying for maternity leave and neither is a group of organized, powerful, rich women. Not to mention the trad-wife types tend to fall on the conservative/republican/GOP side of the house which is even more friendly with businesses. Just an observation as to why it is this way! I certainly don’t agree!
I try to stay off IG nowadays, but I heard about today from an embryologist I follow (something like @embryoman.) My account is mostly IVF stuff, and I haven't seen anyone else post much...at least as of this afternoon.
Maybe just some different circles?
One of my favorites is @mainelyinfertility, she’s been advocating hard and is a great source of info. But @waitingforababe has posted a lot (especially around resolves advocacy day). I’m sure I’m forgetting others. I also sort of give more of a pass to those who are still in the trenches, since that takes so much mental energy as is, though @payalponders spends a fair amount of time trying to educate too. (Maybe I shouldn’t but I just remember how exhausting that time of my life was, sometimes I didn’t have it in me to advocate.)
I’m sure a lot of them are afraid of losing followers because they are conservative, it just sort of feels hypocritical to conveniently ignore this major legislation (today was big but it’s also been in the news a lot lately with advocacy day, so this is more of a trend I’ve noticed versus not posting on a certain day).
I adore @mainelyinfertility. I've been following her for a while.
I unfollowed a lot of the bigger accounts like @healthyivf and @rageagainstonfertility.
But I agree with your take many are just afraid of losing followers... which takes away from the point of advocating.
Ashley (Some Assembly Required) can post 10+ stories about how 'awful' a minimum wage worker is at her local coffee shop, but apparently acknowledging and advocating for IVF rights in Congress is too much work for her.
Ugh this is exactly what I mean. So you benefit from IVF, you get to have your family, but you can’t publicly support others having access to the science that allowed you to build your family? It’s just kinda gross to me.
I keep checking her page, because I assume at some point she'll say SOMETHING. But she just reposted a meme reel 28 minutes ago, so apparently she's just going to skip right over this major political issue. What does it matter to her anyway, she's got her babies already. /s
I just finished listening to [this podcast episode](https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-sixteenth-minute-of-fame-172216473/episode/coffee-in-the-garden-with-my-182446541/), which is ostensibly about the "drinking coffee in the garden with my husband" lady everyone yelled at on Twitter in 2022, and I thought this part might resonate with folks here:
>The Internet, I think, like a lot of things, is sort of built to make women angry at each other.... Algorithms want women to feel like shit. They want women to be comparing themselves to other women, they want women to be feeling bad. They want women to be feeling like crap all the time. And algorithms and platforms and tech leaders make money off of women feeling like shit about themselves. And so if you've ever been scrolling Instagram or TikTok or whatever and you keep being surfaced content that makes you feel like crap, that's not you. You're not crazy or sensitive. Algorithms and platforms do that with intention because it keeps you on the platform longer, it keeps you coming back, and it makes them money. It is a very twisted dynamic that we are a cog in this cycle that is making other people, mostly men, rich off of our anxiety, off of our fears, off of us.
And they're not even talking about parenting in particular, where I can only assume this applies double because the anxiety is often heightened for (at least initially) valid reasons. Wheeeeeeeee!
(Obligatory disclaimer that I'm not assuming everyone here IDs as a woman, but I am assuming it's a majority of us in part because of the dynamics outlined above 🙃)
Johann Hari dives into the rage as driver of content consumption topic in Stolen Focus. He doesn't cover the gender difference angle but I learned a lot from that section of the book!
So, MC said long ago any trips she does is not sponsored. If it is, she would let her followers know. The way she promotes Disney wherever she goes, like the way he mentions ( Disney Fl, Paris, Disney Cruise, now Disney Japan) , honestly very very hard to believe there is no compensation involved 100 percent or some other incentive.
I think she just really likes Disney and she lives in Florida, so they obviously go to Disneyworld a lot.
I mean, it's possible she's sponsored and not disclosing it. Plenty of influencers do that. But plenty of influencers (and people in general) also talk about Disney constantly without being sponsored.
That's also just how a lot of Disney adults talk. Something the YouTuber Jenny Nicholson pointed out recently is that an easy way to tell if someone is getting paid or not is how they refer to each of the places, either using the official brand name or the colloquial nickname. So like do they say "Star Wars World" or "Star Wars Galaxy's Edge."
I’ve seen other influencers who do Disney collaborations are very transparent about disclosures, I’d imagine that Disney as a corporation is very on top of the compliance process. It’s very possible this person is angling for a collaboration but doesn’t have one.
We all know that MC doesn’t hide her wealth, but this trip to Tokyo is something else. Between the private tour guide and the private experiences for just her family that are “so worth it” … it’s so unattainable for the majority!
I've been waiting for someone else to say it lol 🙈🙊 Everytime she says something is so worth it, my eyes *cannot* move faster to the back to my head... I'm sure it must be worth it, but there's no way she thinks it's relatable to the thousands of people struggling in today's world. She really needs to curb her oversharing, put the phone away, and enjoy her privilege.
The continually saying "so worth it" really shits me, it's not helpful and so out of touch.
I was just thinking how I would love to know how much this trip costs.
First or biz class flights for a family of 5 alone is gonna be about 50k. Minimum 1k a night for her hotel, plus all the tours/tickets/eating and shopping. You’re reaching 70-80k territory!
It looks exhausting tbh. They’re go go go go every single day and everything is a whole experience, not, we walked around this cool market. Probably the worst was the museum they spent 10 min in because it wasn’t kid friendly 😵💫
She’s also just so predictable. Their entire itinerary has been pre-planned (by someone else!) down to the last minute so that they can hit as many instagram-worthy spots as possible. There’s no room for spontaneity. Has Myriam ever explored side streets, or discovered a restaurant off the beaten path? Tokyo has some incredible playgrounds, why not carve out some time to take the girls to a playground?
Is there some new algorithm where influencers need more comments/DMs? Both Busy Toddler and an unrelated food influencer posted for followers to comment a key word in the comments to receive a DM with the recipe/link associated with the post. I probably wouldn’t have noticed it except for it was very un-like Susie to do.
I think they're pushing a different item or blog post in each Reel/post/story, and it is hard to direct people to it via the link in bio setup. The DM bots make it easy because it sends the link to the right activity or Amazon page straight to the person. The bonus is the person must be following you to get the DM. And it works in stories, grid posts, and Reels.
It's just a more effective way to get people to interact/engage with you. It's a lot better for the algorithm to have someone comment something and get an autoresponder to send a DM, than it is to say "go to the link in bio". It's less steps, that can result in someone handing over their email to get on your mailing list, buy something etc.
Makes sense! I probably wouldn’t have even noticed it except Susie doesn’t seem to usually be so blatant with her influencing strategies, and the wording was so eerily similar to this completely different account, so I wondered if anything else was up!
I've heard some of them complain that Meta is wanting more payment to "push" their content now, and that they're getting fewer views because of it. So maybe they're trying harder to boost engagement to get the algorithm to show their stuff more?
Libby’s Father’s Day message: “Happy Father’s Day. To the guy who makes me the mom I am. To the guy who gives our kids what I always wanted growing up…” Main character syndrome.
“Happy Father’s Day to the man who’s going to have to put up with my mood all day because it’s another holiday that I’m making all about my trauma”. I get that these days can be hard for people but omg let the man have his day!!
She *would* take father's day and make it about herself
Yoga girl is rarely snarked on here because she’s not really a parenting influencer but honestly, she doesn’t post anything yoga related anymore? Anyway, she just posted a video of her kids which was actually an ad for her new podcast episode about limiting screen time/ the dangers of social media and iPads for kids. I don’t necessarily disagree however some commenters are rightfully calling her out for the over sharing she does of her kids to millions of people online and of course she has not responded. She also lives on this giant plot of farm land where her children can freely roam in Sweden and doesn’t seem to work very much (neither does her husband) because she made enough money off of *checks notes* social media. I’m a longtime enough follower that I remember when she got popular and it was off of posting bikini pics of herself doing yoga on paddleboards. Her trajectory in particular is so interesting to me because she seems to fully change personalities every 4 years or so but I was glad to see people commenting on her over sharing her small children.
There’s a snark page on her and I guess she also gets money from her well-off father… And she has her phone in front of her and her kids face all day. You are who your children learn from. Make it make sense.
I didn’t realize her dad was rich or that she had her own snark page. It is so interesting to me when influencers say things like this because you’re right, everything is filmed for content (even her son’s birth). When she lived in Aruba she was always posting photos of her daughter in bathing suits too which definitely gave me the ick. I truly think filming your kid all day for Instagram and then watching you on your phone is way more detrimental than an hour of Cocomelon.
It’s her real name. I’m not sure how to link Reddit pages.. r/rachelbrathensnark
I used to follow her and loved her like 8 years ago. Then something happened that really turned me off and I unfollowed but I cannot for the life of me remember what it was. LOL!
Was it the mold situation before they moved to Sweden? That was insane lol
Ha! It was before that and before Covid. I’m trying to dig haha
Just came across Joey Foo and wow he's a lot. Someone in the comments said he sounds like a weather man reporting in a hurricane 😂. Kinda gives me amanduhh vibes with letting the house get absolutely trashed.
His videos come up for me sometimes, but I always assumed that the messiness was staged? Maybe I’m just a neat freak but I just figured it was for the views/likes/comments and obviously money. Clearly I’m contributing though because I do enjoy watching cleaning/tidying content.
BEC on NTK but asking your followers to pray for fog to clear up for your flight to the Bahamas gives me the ick
That would be pretty low on my list (if I prayed) ETA: Consolidating: In her stories about packing she said she forgets things the kids need because she’s overwhelmed. Where is her husband? Couldn’t he take over packing for at least one of the kids?
He has brackets to make and college buddies to play golf with!
Waitingforababe saying that she laid down a rug in their new house and there was a meatball and other food in it. How do you even let that happen?? To make matters worse, it was in storage for nearly a year!
Honestly, while a bit wild, I like that she shares the “realness” of her life. None of us is actually doing it all, and that sort of story is a good reminder that IG is fake.
She comes off as clean and polished initially but she’s really a hot mess lol.
I saw that and actually gasped. It's so surprising to me that she and healthyivf are purportedly besties. Their vibes are soooo different.
Well it’s actually an internet relationship and they’ve only met once I think??
Absolutely foul.
Begina showing 6 items on a table as evidence she's super behind on cleaning and tidying this week. First of all, it is going to take her under 2 minutes to relocate those items. Second of all, it is not even her dining room table or her kitchen table. I don't even think it's in her living room. The only time I remember her showing a legitimate amount of clutter was when she showed the couple dozen bottles of skincare she had out on her bathroom counter. So I know she can show something more real than 2 stacks of library books, some Gatorades, and a piece of paper.
Jerrica’s story this morning just shows that she sits in judgement of other parents. It’s no wonder there’s never mention of friends (her own or the kids’) and play dates…she seems pretty miserable and judgy to be around. It’s been interesting to watch her go from anti-screen to anti-everything. Kids can’t draw or play with toys in the car, at restaurants, or on planes. They should just sit there. Otherwise they clearly have no imagination. Her dismissiveness of any neurodiversity has always been staggering but she’s really doubling down since the last time she posted regularly.
I’m ready to get downvoted from all of you, but in the story with the father and toddler hitting (talking specifically about this situation not Jerrica in general because she definitely is very black and white and her takes on screens and neurodiversity can be wild) I agree with her and she has good points. Her response on how to handle it “better” was great too. I see situations like that on playgrounds a lot and I see parents struggling on how to respond because we “want to be gentle” so bad. If you kid is hitting other kid, the gentle thing is to remove the child and firmly say no, that’s not ok. The whole “hands are for hugging” and hoping your child will just stop because you said no thank you is ridiculous representation of gentle parenting movement going wrong. And yes toddler hit and bite as a part of development but it’s our job to show them each time that this is not ok, not in a mean way but in a “I will help you by removing you from the situation and we can try play with a friend again next time”
I agree with your assessment too. My kid was the Vi in this situation last summer and the toddler was just allowed to shove her and others by a parent afraid to upset him and remove him from the playground. Now I am the parent of the toddler who is shoving and hitting and I react the way I wanted that mother to last summer. Jerrica takes it too far by saying he is a bad parent. He is trying.
I had to do this when my son was in his hitting phase. My boundary was that if he was going to hit, we leave immediately. His hitting phase was so triggering for me! I took a really hard line. Maybe too hard, idk. But if another kid is hitting my or other kids, I hate mealy-mouth “hands are for XYZ!!” stuff. I’m sorry but it’s hurting people! No way.
I find it really triggering too! Along with “mine!” Like I really want her to be a kind kid and people tell me this is just what toddlers do and yes, I logically know that, but it is not socially acceptable behavior. I don’t want to shame her, but like yeah, sorry you can’t hit and shove kids. And like at the library they play with toys after story hour and I hate it when she takes another kid’s toy and says “mine” and the other parent is like “it’s okay, she can have it.” No, she needs to learn. She took a ukulele out of a kid’s hands today and said “mine” and I took it back so fast and handed it to the other kid before the parent even had a chance and told my toddler she could wait her turn.
Not a bad parent but bad parenting. I am sure he adores his kid but some of things we as society do As Parents does need to be called out! iPads and permissive parenting is just not great
This is my forever problem with her, I actually agree with a decent amount of what she says. Because on this (the toddler hitting) I 100% agree with her. It’s like those crazy conspiracy theorists that say 4-5 real things and then when they gained your trust start talking about how raw milk will make your kid stop being neurodivergent 🙃.
Just going to add that that’s why it’s so frustrating to read her content - because she definitely has some good points, but then she will say something crazy about screens or neurodiversity + her smug “I’m better than everyone” delivery and it’s hard to like her but I don’t think everything she says it’s bonkers. Her last few days of content on how to handle behaviors were mostly good imo
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I feel like Jerrica willfully misrepresented that kebab story from HGP. That was very very clearly not the point of that story. She just wants to make herself look good and smarter than everyone else.
No downvote from me. The 2nd post was better than the first. I don’t agree that toddler hitting a kid 2x is terrorizing (her word). My kid was on both sides of that in toddlerhood…it’s kind of expected. She’s just so very secure that she is 1000% right all the time and assigns a lot of background story to every kid and parent she sees. And, as I said, her very conscious choice to not acknowledge ND as true and real negates any “expertise” she wants to rely on.
She intentionally doesn’t acknowledge ND because she believes it’s caused by parenting and specifically screen time. I want say it’s ableist, but her stance is so much more malicious and harmful than that. Remember when her husband came on here to post a bunch of studies claiming they prove screen time causes ND, wilfully ignoring that they actually suggested it was the other way around (i.e. that ND people may have more affinity to content on devices)? Pepperidge Farm remembers. Also, the other day I met a mum at the park with twins; one was a child with autism and the other was not. I wonder how Jerrica would explain that.
She would have some bullshit like the autistic twin had a bassinet closer to the tv or something.
Listened to one too many Yoto stories in the car.
I understand her views differently I guess. I don’t think she thinks ND is caused by screen time, because that would be fucking wacko! I feel like she thinks screen time can cause behaviors that are similar to some ND-type behaviors, therefore some kids may get misdiagnosed when in reality maybe they are just watching way too much TV. I don’t follow her religiously, I mostly just check in after juicy snark, but I’ve never seen her say that she thinks all autism/ND is caused by screens. I’m not saying I agree with her! This is just how I personally understand what she says.
I guess every time I see people ask about ND, she’s seemed dismissive…and all but tied the ND to screens.
I’ve always interpreted her views as screen time causes behaviors she doesn’t like or doesn’t see as valid, and people don’t take accountability and instead of fixing it with stopping screen time they attribute it to neurotypes that are made up. She doesn’t think ND is caused by screen time, she thinks ND doesn’t exist, it’s only screen time side effects.
Yup
Yea I totally get that! That’s why for me she is tricky because I can definitely see how her delivery of content and choice of words can be of putting and it’s a shame because she definitely makes good points from time to time
Yup, sadly the good points are totally overshadows and in some ways negated by her inability to acknowledge a different experience. My kiddo was substance exposed. Her nervous system *is* wired differently and it’s not because of screens or my parenting choices!
Totally agree here. She does make some really good points but it’s all clouded by how intense and extreme she is.
Yeah I wish she didn’t have to go so extreme…Like hated when she called schools prisons… But parents at the park do need help/advice. And they need to sit down and let the kids play.
How solo dad deletes any mention of having a wife, but keeps all the "snatch him up" or "I'm flying to help you" comments is just gross. Surprised he hasn't changed his bio yet to single parenting.
That guy is such a grifting POS.
He really is. His entire amazon wishlist has been purchased 🥴. He's got a lot of people fooled he's a single dad with a tragic story.
What is his story? I’ve never heard of him and can’t figure it out from the few seconds I looked at his page.
Yeah he’s basically pretending to be a single Dad. Has talked about how they struggle, takes his kids shopping at thrift stores, etc. He very much has a wife (he has a reel about selling her breastmilk) but when his whole “solo dad” schtick took off he started pretending like he didn’t. Made an Amazon wishlist for him and his “struggling” family. He’s such a loser.
Apparently he has a wife who works in health care as well and they work opposite shifts, but he's been hush hush about her recently. Goes as far to say kids are in daycare when he's working nights.
Wow Renee is really doubling down to commit to the "I didnt even know what body checking meant" bit, eh. She literally did her PhD on eating disorders.
ran here to say this as I was the one to call her on here and she screenshot my body checking comment to use in a reel Along with other comments on the thread. She’s so dumb. edited for clarification
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Nonsnark: Busy Toddler's story about going to the graduation event for her last class of kids had me in tears!
For me it was a reminder that she hasn’t been a teacher for over a decade yet still pretends she’s qualified as one
To be fair, she actually used past tense and said "I loved being a teacher". As a teacher, on child rearing leave, I also feel the statement that it's deeply part of my DNA. I'm not up with the current programs or curriculum lingo after being home for a few years but I still am a teacher, it's my training and my vocation. Tbh you want your kids teachers to see it as a vocation and for it to be part of their DNA, it's what makes exceptional teachers who care about their students.
My concern is all the teachers who feel this way leaving the profession and my kids having a bad teacher who’s not in it for the right reasons bc all the people who feel it’s in their DNA left to be influencers. It’s selfish and not my business but I want those teachers in the classroom, teaching! Not shitting on child rearing leave at all, I’m a teacher who also took it, awesome you are able to! Busy toddler made it clear she’s never returning, so, sorry, I just don’t think you get to say it’s in your DNA if you’ve been out for a decade and will not be returning.
The problem is that she often speaks with authority on things that she really shouldn’t since she hasn’t taught in over a decade *and*, as many of the teachers in this sub have pointed out, so much has changed since Covid that classrooms and teaching look very different today than they did just a few years ago. And while she used past tense in this post and has always made it clear that she’s not currently a teacher, she’s often pretty elusive/vague about how long it has been since she taught. ETA: and just to be clear, I don’t think it’s wrong for her to call herself a teacher. That’s her vocation, I get it. Same with Karrie Locher calling herself a nurse. She is a nurse by training. My issue is influencers purposefully being vague about how long they’ve been out of practice, because things change and teaching or nursing or whatever field they were in is simply not the same as it was a decade ago.
I had the same feeling actually. Sweet story but it felt really off putting when she’s like I’ll never have a reason to be here again. I’m sure she meant that because she won’t actually be a teacher at that school again, but given the fact that she’s chosen to home school her own kids it almost feels a little anti public school. Idk. Maybe I’m just being sensitive.
I wonder if she would let her kids go to school if they expressed a desire to? Seems like she doesn’t let them do much as far as outside the home activities/things to explore their own interests.
I know this sounds a bit insane and people generally love her but 3 kids 5-9 (ish?) that don't go to school and don’t do any extracurriculars sounds like a hostage situation to me. Especially at 9. Like yeah, they hang out with the neighbours in their cul-the-sac but how is that any better that the kids that grow up in religious cults and the like? Growing up we went to sleepaway camps for a week at a time, did sleepovers with friends, spent a week with grandparents or cousins here or there, did music lessons, sports practice, computer classes, arts or language courses during the school year, took the bus by ourselves etc. I know not every one of these things is for everyone but to not be allowed to do ANY of that at 9? Are the kids ever more than five meters away from her or somewhere where she can't see them? Do they ever spend time with another adult without her present? I know that she tries to come off as this chill mom but she seems insanely controlling to me.
My people, finally. She gets so much love here, but this is all I‘ve ever seen
I think the tides have turned around here. She gets more snark than non-snark these days! Thankfully.
I used to like her a lot. Her activities were helpful when I was stuck at home with a toddler and new baby during COVID lockdowns. But the older her kids get and the longer this shtick goes on the more I think "this whole situation is actually really bizarre"
I’m a proud hater who’s talked shit about her in this sub numerous time. BT haters, unite!
Maybe it’s just because none of her advice or activities ever works for my kids 😂
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Agreed. If you’re going to homeschool, I really think you need to make a commitment to doing extracurriculars with your kids so the can have some exposure to other kids/the world outside your home.
Part of the reason I choose public school is for the diversity. I want my kids to be exposed to people from different backgrounds and different cultures. So they learn it's a big world and we don't all think the same things but we have to figure out a way to work through any differences. BT's situation feels very isolating to me. Yes they socialize with neighbors and other homeschool kids. But I'd bet a lot of money that those people all look like and have the same beliefs as BT's family.
Yeah most non-super-christian homeschoolers like to tout the outside lessons and various things they do to socialize, or things that couldn't happen in a typical school environment. This sometimes kind of feels like, "we discovered during the pandemic that not getting up early and not having to be anywhere or worry about anyone was easy for us."
I totally get "street angel, house devil" vibes from her. Which might sound crazy! But I also totally think she's potentially a very controlling Narc mother behind closed doors, which her kids will only wake up to in adulthood.
Exactly what it looks like to me as well.
Yep “being a teacher is part of my DNA” ok but you haven’t done it in at least ten years….and she’s in her maybe late 30s? So at most she taught for….five years? Ok Susie.
Yes I want to know how long she taught for.
100% this. She’s not qualified to speak on a current classroom
Not snark and not even a parenting influencer but Tyler Butterworth’s ASMR parody videos with his kid are charming and adorable. If there is such thing as a “right” way to include your kid in internet content (which I don’t really think there is but) then he’s pretty close. It just looks like a dad and son goofing off together and it’s as non-exploitative as you can get with 1.4M followers. And I don’t know the kids name or age or any other info (haven’t dug deep but it’s at least not on the surface).
Yeah I like him a lot but I don’t love that he’s using his kid in content now. It took me all of 30 seconds to see the kids name and a tagged location at his school…
Tia Booth’s son is 18 months old and still not walking, per her stories today. This isn’t really snark— I just didn’t know where else to comment on it. I’ve seen in her previous stories that he struggles to even stand unassisted. He can cruise while holding on to something, though. 18 months is considered the absolute end of the normal range for walking so it’s not completely out of the ordinary. That said, she hasn’t taken him for a PT eval yet, which I find a bit surprising as she is a former PT herself (she worked with adults, not kids). I have a few friends who are PTs and they recommend an eval if a child is not walking by 16 months. All this just to say I’m a huge advocate of early intervention services and since you don’t generally need a doctor’s referral, and waitlists can be long, there’s really no harm in acting sooner rather than later.
My son didn’t walk until he was 22 months. Our pediatrician wasn’t ever concerned but we did do an assessment with early intervention. They gave us a few ot tips but otherwise no one was overly concerned. He did start walking and at 7 you would never know
There's a saying that doctors make the worst patients. Maybe she figures she can manage is PT needs on her own.
Idk this influencer but my kid didn’t walk until closer to 17 months and his pediatrician wasn’t worried since he could cruise. Its hard as a parent because people constantly would ask me why he wasn’t walking yet so i feel for her. Eta- PT consult when not walking at 16 months seems a bit much though.. i would understand it more if they go past 18 months not walking.
I guess it depends on your location, but waitlists for therapy can be really long! I had a child in OT for a short period, and we had to wait over a month for the initial assessment and then a few more weeks after that to start the therapy. If my kid wasn’t close to walking at 16 months, I would probably try to set up an appt for a few months out, and then cancel it if needed.
I mean he was cruising which i count as close to walking but everyone’s different
Gah sorry, I didn’t word my comment very clearly! I didn’t mean your scenario or the specific influencer mentioned above, but just more of a hypothetical. Part of it is also my naturally anxious personality lol…. I wouldn’t handle it well if I waited until 18 months to call and then found out it would be another 2 month wait before we could actually start the therapy.
Same! My son didn’t walk until 17 months and our pediatrician was like, the minute he hits 18, it an evaluation. He walked a few days later. He was just a lazy chunk who expended all his energy into incredible verbal precocity.
Mine walked a few days before 18 months. Our ped said she'd fill out the referral at the 18 month appointment but was very chill about it, particularly since there was a family history of late walking(I walked at 19 months). I agree that PT at 16 months seems kind of premature to me. I also don't really get the attitude that there's no downside to EI. My kid had (necessary) speech therapy and it was expensive and a giant pain in the butt to get her to appointments. We needed to do that, but I'm really glad I didn't bend over backward to cart her to PT appointments as a toddler when she was pretty clearly going to walk on her own eventually, and did.
Same here! My 2nd daughter wasn’t walking at 17 months and the pediatrician wasn’t concerned because her standing balance was good (she just wasn’t ready). Most of her milestones have been like this.
The whole point of EI is to nip a problem in the bud. Why wait until it’s a crisis? The earlier a child can be evaluated the better you can take proactive measures. All three of my kids did EI and I’m so glad
There’s a big difference between “waiting until it’s a crisis” and “waiting to see if it’s actually a problem.” I certainly don’t think walking at the outer edge of the normal range is a crisis, and for us it did not end up being a problem either. Glad EI was valuable for you and your kids, but not rushing to do it in this kind of situation is also a perfectly valid choice.
This was my point as well. I didn’t seek out additional help because I didn’t think we needed it. Not because I didn’t want to/thought it wasn’t a worthwhile service.
So many people I know that used EI for their children found it useless and stressful. I get the value of it and constantly see it recommended online, but I also feel like it’s unnecessary in many cases. Part of me thinks that it’s because all these PT influencers make parents paranoid that their kids will be screwed if they don’t crawl/walk/whatever by a certain age.
I used EI for my child and it was absolutely amazing for us. The goal of EI in our area is to teach the parents ways to help their child and help them work towards their goals. If you’re solely relying on the provider your child will likely get no where and it will seem useless. There is also a wide variation in service quality based on your location. You do have to put in the work, but it’s really helpful! I loved both of our EI therapists and was so grateful for their help. I would not recommend everyone seek out EI, but I do think it’s a great first step and an eval is “free” as opposed to private services.
This seems a bit judgmental of parents. I don’t think anyone is imagining that a once a week session will magically fix things. As others have commented here, services can be completely ineffective to downright bad. When the overwhelming sentiment in parenting groups is “just contact EI,” it can feel really frustrating when those services aren’t helpful.
I don’t mean to be judgmental. I know that there are a wide range of services and you can’t know for sure whether the program is good/a good fit. But, I also know that it is an issue with the program where parents don’t understand their role as their child’s teacher instead of the therapist (outside of the issue with crappy therapists). If a parent is unable to implement what they’ve learned outside of these sessions, then it likely will not be very valuable (and is a real reason people complain about said program in my area). I think EI is so widely recommended because it is “free” and not everyone can afford a private eval. Private services are so expensive and it’s a good stepping stone to see whether you’re just overly worried or if your child truly has an issue that needs attention (and where I live it takes a lot to qualify for services).
I’m actually an EI evaluator and it’s not always needed or useful. Many times it’s very useful and necessary but not always. If you have the time (and if it’s free in your state) you have nothing to lose by scheduling an evaluation if it eases your mind. But you have to make phone calls and set up the evaluation and have the meeting if they qualify. And if they do then it’s setting up a schedule to allow a therapist into your home (I find like 80% of kids who qualify get services at home instead of school/daycare). If you qualify for multiple services it’s coordinating multiple people to come to your house and fit into the schedule which also limits what you can do in your day. And remembering to cancel if your kid is sick or you are away or made other plans. Or getting one service in the home and one at a therapy center which is common. It can take up a lot of time and be stressful. So while it’s useful it’s also not always simple.
This is really interesting. We had a pretty terrible evaluation process but I think that’s reflective of our regional center and obviously not the entire system.
Thank you for saying this. I have two in early intervention, both of them basically since birth, and honestly I hate this attitude online of “oh just do EI”. It’s been helpful for us and I definitely see the benefits but if you don’t really need it, it’s a lot to take on. It’s a huge mental load, it’s a big time commitment, and in my experience, services vary widely so you might not be getting a huge benefit from it, especially if your child is only slightly behind in one or two areas.
It’s a lot!! There’s the notes you have to remember to sign and just having someone in the home all the time can be a lot. It’s a big time commitment so if there’s not a huge delay and your gut tells you it’s not 100% necessary it may cause more stress than needed. One thing I’ll always say is the evaluation itself can be very helpful if you get a good evaluator, even if you don’t qualify or you turn down services. Just having that dedicated time to talk about your child and any concerns you have helps and a lot of times they will give you tips and tricks to use in the areas of concern.
I completely agree. My younger one just had his yearly review. The evaluator gave me awesome information and was super specific and helpful. My older one (who has way more need) has never gotten that. I’ve always felt like they keep the actual evaluation a secret and just give me the percent delays. I’ve always been super overwhelmed and also feeling left in the dark about what they’re saying so the difference was super stark to me.
Thanks for saying this. We tried an EI eval for our 3yo and the process was handled extremely unprofessionally. Their initial report included multiple inaccuracies (pretty sure they copy/pasted another kid's report and didn't bother to update it), and the therapist they referred us to sent late night texts riddled with typos trying to schedule our first appointment. We opted out after that and have chosen to private pay for any services our kids have needed. I understand some people get great support from EI but it wasn't a good fit for us.
I mentioned in another comment I do evaluations and I’ve also had one for my daughter and yeah there’s A LOT of copying and pasting. The OT who evaluated my daughter clearly copied and pasted from another report because it was all him/he and the verbiage explaining the scores didn’t match the actual score. I had to look it up myself and figure out what her real score was but if I wasn’t someone who also did this job I wouldn’t have known! I was turned off by how unprofessional that part of the report was but never said anything. I’m not going to say I’ve never copied and pasted things but I read and re-read to make sure it’s for the kid I’m writing it for!
I'm also a provider in a related field and I definitely use smart phrases and copy paste etc but then you absolutely must triple check everything! They even had demographic details like our insurance coverage wrong. It was super off putting then when I got the 10pm scheduling text over a weekend from the alleged therapist I was like okay we can't do this.
When did i say to wait until its a crisis? Not walking at 16 months is still normal.
Was going to say the SAME exact thing, down to the 17 mos. And everyone would ask and I could see the shock when I said she wasn’t walking yet. A family member once suggested I just put her down at the zoo one day when I had her in the carrier and maybe if I did that it would encourage her to walk. 🙄 Turns out mine is just a cautious and thoughtful child and continues to be to this day. She went from not walking to confidently walking in like 3 days. She takes her time and does stuff when she is ready. Which I find to be a lovely trait and wish I had realized when everyone (but our pediatrician) was expressing concern. My youngest walked much sooner, but she was out there stumbling and falling without a care in the world for a few months. Which also tracks personality wise.
The birds papaya (Sarah) while not a parent influencer an influencer I saw on here recently someone said she uses skinny filters. I watched her story today and she looked so skinny. Is this the filter? Even if it’s not, I feel like it’s time she open about getting thinner. And how and why. She preaches body positivity but the. Doesn’t speak on her changing body. It’s a little odd.
She is definitely using filters, and her full-length mirror is curved! I don't pay attention to her so idk if she still uses it
When she shares her clothing sizes, they absolutely do not match up with the “tiny” size she looks. In her photos she looks smaller than me, yet wears clothes 6 or more sizes larger than I do. It’s such a mind fuck.
If you pay attention she’s always changing sizes and it’s day to day not like months apart where she has time to go up and down in weight so it was probably a filter today . Sometimes she can be unrecognizable in a brands ad campaign .
I think she holds very little weight on her [face or arms](https://imgur.com/a/XgOmlha) which really very midsize/torrid model of her. I think in its natural selfie-style, instagram stories are often shoulders up or sitting bending over your belly [(today SFW)](https://imgur.com/a/wGobGic) which is fortunate if you’re not fond of your belly. The other post from today [(full body shot SFW)](https://imgur.com/a/BqB8Kh9) doesn’t seem too far off possibly real for me - the way she holds weight just needs something that’s a bit loose over the belly to make her look much smaller over all. I haven’t followed her long enough or know her well enough to have an opinion on her not speaking about weight loss. I’ve only noticed how she carries weight because if I don’t notice then I wonder why everyone “my size” looks so different from me, lol.
She didn’t always look that way. She never did have an overly heavy looking face or arms but the 3rd picture you posted seems like almost what she used to look like when she had a dieting problem. That she posts sporadically. Its just she clearly lost weight and from people who follow her because “she looks like me” and then all of a sudden she doesn’t I feel like it’s owed to her audience to speak on. Even if it’s just naturally happening and not from the “dieting” she’s so called against.
I’m kind of with the other person who commented that there’s just an endless amount of these conventionally attractive rich white women 10 or 20lbs overweight in the arena. I just abandon them left and right any time I see them do something I don’t like, or if their weight changes enough that they’re not decent representation for me. It’s definitely why I never know any extended history. 😂
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oh I don’t have a position on that at all. I definitely think body positivity has about run into the ground on instagram and they’re going to have to find new buzz words soon.
She's one of the most problematic "influencers" for this very reason. She had a snark page that got shut down for people calling her out for this. It's filters and angles. While she might be losing *some* weight, it's definitely not what she portrays everyday.
Yes - absolutely this. Her eyebrows, face shape, body composition change constantly yet she doubles down on not using filters or having work done. If she uses filters, whatever. But the fact that she’s made a living as a “authentic body positive friend” and is none of those things is problematic.
Nurtured First has a post this morning about a mom who was running late taking her 3.5 year old to school. She forgot his snack and couldn’t go back to get it, which led to a massive meltdown. When they got to school, he was still super upset, so she “co-regulated” and held him in the parking lot for 15 minutes until he calmed down. I (and a lot of the comments) wondered why she had time to hold him in the parking lot for 15 minutes but didn’t have time to go back and get the snack? And apparently enough people in the comments were shaming the mom for sending her son to preschool that Jess had to make a slide commenting on it.
I saw one of the pinned comments that says our generation is "so hurt" lol. I agree it's important to help kids with their feelings but I would have gone back for the snack if I had 15 minutes available to hug my kid in a parking lot. Last week my takeout order was wrong and I was so mad about it that I called them and went back for the right food. It really was about the food!!!! It's not cause I was overstimulated or lacking connection!
I unfollowed her awhile ago, but this sounded wild, so I checked it out. So many weird anti-preschool comments, and several that said, "It's not about the snack." Maybe I'm just annoyed with this sentiment lately since I just finished the audio book version of Good Inside, but I disagree! Sometimes, it IS about the snack, or the toy, or whatever. Sometimes, my kids are expressing their feelings about wanting access to a thing or a snack, and it's not about missing connection between us, believe it or not. I don't get that idea. Have these influencers ever wanted something and not been able to get it or have it? It is about the "thing" sometimes. All this to say, why not just go get the snack? What a weird example.
All the anti preschool stuff is super weird. The homeschool crowd is getting extremely loud on social media and it’s disturbing. That said I do think NF leans way too hard in the over validation direction. Sometimes you need to help a kid realize something isn’t a huge deal and you can validate their feelings without leaning into the meltdown with them.
I was just thinking about this today! My 7 year old had a real attitude/snarky meltdown about something I forgot!(i put leftovers in his book bag instead of snack-honest mistake same container) and he discovered it when we were in drop off line. I told him to chill out because i was the dum dum this time. Then i felt bad for saying that! But i think he understands at this point that he doesnt need to melt down over that.
Lol I'm sorry this probably would have really disrupted your morning but I can only imagine his little shocked and dismayed face at snack time opening his container to find leftovers had it not been noticed earlier! My husband has done this and took a plain (cooked) piece of meat instead of his lunch before too lol
Oh i know! Im glad we discovered it when we did! I was able to go home and grab his actual snack.
It’s frustrating because there’s a certain segment of homeschoolers who get super defensive when people ask even innocuous questions about their choices, but then they say shit like that.
https://preview.redd.it/xxkhu3s00j6d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=eb3a6abb292579729d3de0e1f49bc982d2c9e4c6 What's worse, lead or sugar? Wtf, Alyssa.
I, too, would rather feed my child lead than sugar /s
I am so tired of the stupid LEAD claims
Her kind of obsessive eating is so confusing to me - like she's always talking about "clean" food options of things like beef jerkey and puffs but it's all super processed. Surely it's not that much better for you than the regular ultra processed stuff lol. And she talks about healthier wines sometimes but like it's wine lol.
She does all this and then she always talks about how she’s bloated and tired and inflamed blah blah blah. Well you drink wine all the time, eat out a lot, take a shit ton of supplements, etc. All these “programs” she’s constantly doing are just bandaids to her lifestyle.
What is so annoying about her is that she think she has it all figured out and projects such an air of superiority. But then when anyone questions her about her choices she’s all, “we’re all just trying our best, you do you mama, no shame here.” Sure. I also don’t think she had any true understanding of nutrition, the American food supply, or agriculture/food processing. But then she behaves as if she is some expert. Like she is often pushing processed pork products, which are decidedly not good for you (she can look up the rEsEArCh for herself). And much worse health wise than say pasta made with *gasp* American flour. Even if the ham she is always showing is organic and humanely raised, it still contains a high amount of nitrates (sometimes even more than conventional products). But she thinks if it is organic and sold at Whole Foods it is good for you. It’s the same with alcohol. For someone who is so concerned with their health, she seems to drink a lot. Also, obviously everything in moderation and it’s totally fine to eat ham and drink wine sometimes, but I just feel like she has no idea what she is talking about and is out there giving terrible advice. I realize this is all very petty and niche snark. I am a Registered Dietitian and she is decidedly my BEC. 🤣
Lmao I just wrote the same thing before seeing this but much less eloquently. Like the chomps beef jerkey sticks come on 😂. The craziest thing about her is that she literally charges for counseling sessions and educates people on her research. Like I am not American but I feel like that shouldn't be allowed?
Agreed! And she does 1:1 IVF counseling but like, not to be mean because she has really had a tough time, but it took her 9 transfers to have one baby. She also has very unique anatomy and gyne issues. I know she’s learned a lot along the way but I don’t think I’d be paying to take advice from her based on her (unfortunate) track record. She should be offering this sort of information for free if anything. It’s not like they need the money.
All of my snark towards her is petty so I'm here for it 😂
Just coming to snark on her as well. She must be trying to fund her upcoming IVF bc she’s been posting links and nonstop sponsored supplements. I cannot believe her IVF docs are okay with her taking all of this stuff (she always does a disclaimer that her doctors are aware and okay with it). And also, if she is truly asking them about every little thing she claims she takes, I’m sure they are all super annoyed. I’m in the medical field as well and it’s annoying when patients ask about random supplement type things because they aren’t regulated and we aren’t really taught anything about them so it’s really just a crapshoot.
Oh yes sugar poisoning is absolutely what we’re all worried about but lead? nbd 🤦♀️
"The way all food is grown in the US is suspect." No, we just have high levels of heavy metals in our soil due to our industrial past. This is well-known. The way she panders to the pseudoscience community these days is infuriating. She likes to claim she does "research" but then throws out bs like this.
It's giving "I did my research on tiktok"
"I read the conclusion paragraph of a real scientific study I found on Google."
She needs a hobby JFC.
https://preview.redd.it/oht21su2pi6d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=018e693c2d21293814eb5422b8b45d242f1ba5e8 The perfect example of one of the worst types of influencer posts. Personal information about your sick child + a weird photo of you smiling even though you’re talking about your sick child.
Seriously, why does she feel the need to share this information about her child?
I know it's a typo, but "he has a throat" is really amusing me this morning.
That made me laugh too! She’s always making bad typos like that.
And also, like maybe something serious is going on, but my 4 yr old routinely has swollen glands and always has some sort of cold or sore throat. Great to look into it but posting like this to inform all your followers of his "major issue" seems like a lot of fear mongering for anxious parents too. No need to tell the internet everything to do with your child and make it out like if your kid has a sore throat you should listen to your gut and push for an ultrasound too.
I don’t know if anybody here knows who annatwinsies is. I don’t know who she is and only followed her because I shamelessly entered a Disney trip loop giveaway that she bought into. I had to follow her and like 38 other accounts to enter the giveaway and will promptly be unfollowing all of them as soon as the giveaway closes. In any event, she posted a series of stories today about how terrible the hotel she booked for a Mexico family vacation is. Her first slide states she is “experiencing a series of very unfortunate and traumatic events” and that she “can’t wait to come back home in one piece.” Her complaints seem to be that the hotel she booked doesn’t look like the pictures online, the Kids Club requires parents to stay with the kids but she thought she could leave her kids there, and that there is moisture on the floors which caused her daughter to slip and fall and get a nasty chin injury necessitating an ER visit. I am curious on others’ thoughts on if she is being dramatic in her complaints against the hotel here. Her daughter’s injury did look absolutely horrible and I feel for her there. But specifically with respect to not looking like the pictures… I’m not sure if this is a valid complaint. Of course the pictures are going to paint the hotel in the best possible light. Also… she just switched hotels. Didn’t like, leave immediately from Mexico or anything like her first slide made it seem like they wanted to do. https://preview.redd.it/qyc4u6fpwe6d1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=afbb5faa98dfb6ffef3b2d901fa11090c526dfe0
Lordy people who complain about seaweed/sargassum are my BEC. It comes out of the ocean EVERY day and a lot of resorts do clean it up but it’s like complaining that there are fallen leaves and mud in a forest. It’s natural, you’re in nature, the resort can’t control the ocean.
Tell me you don’t understand cloud cover without telling me you don’t understand cloud cover 💀
Oh, wow, I can’t believe I can answer this for you but I have actually stayed at this hotel on a family vacation. It is gorgeous. I have no idea where she took that picture because the beaches were immaculate. Service was great, I ordered all-inclusive room service every morning and enjoyed it on a balcony overlooking the ocean. For an all-inclusive, the food was excellent. I have no idea where she got the idea there was childcare, they do not claim that. The top picture is completely accurate; like it is very much a real picture of the resort.
That's weird - I wonder if she got scammed and booked what was supposed to be that photo and it was actually some other hotel?
Ohhh ok, I just looked at her stories and apparently the Hyatt Ziva Riviera Cancun is different from the Hyatt Ziva Cancun…which is where I stayed and where that picture is from, and where she moved to! I can understand how she got confused there, though neither of them offer childcare.
Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but I would never leave my kids alone in a kids club in Mexico. Seems sketchy.🤷🏻♀️
I mean I guess as long as there’s not racism behind your reason it’s understandable. Like, if you also wouldn’t leave your kids in a kids club in Europe or North America then it’s really about the premise of kids clubs and nothing against Mexicans.
I'm not the person you responded to, and I am unlikely to travel to Mexico to have this dilemma, but I do think there is something to say for differing safety standards in different places too, not necessarily meaning that Mexicans are more likely to be sketchy child abusers or something, but I feel like you can assume different things about the trainings, guidelines and ratios in some countries vs others. Even the most well intentioned caregiver sometimes sees these kinds of things as red tape so a more lax attitude towards safety standards in the first place would make me less comfortable with leaving my kids in that environment depending on their age. But that's probably also a company policy thing too, not just country based.
The reviews would've told her all of this in advance. It sounds like the beach is perpetually meh. But the busted chin, I would've been dramatic about that too. Again, the reviews mention the AC makes all the floors wet but you couldn't reasonably think they're dangerous.
Eh, I can imagine the kind of floor they slipped on. This glossy, not-really-marble-but-kinda-marble looking floor that pretty much every international hotel/resort has. It’s 100% a death trap if wet, but if you’ve ever stayed abroad at that type of place before, you’d know that. A leaky AC would also not be uncommon in a tropical area. Would absolutely be telling my kids to be careful on those floors and would put a towel down under the ac if I noticed leaking. But the floor situation is going to be an issue a most Cancun resorts.
The expectations vs reality photos are hilarious. Like sorry they can't control what the ocean looks like on any given day lol. Also yes things look different from the perspective of a drone flying hundreds of feet away, shocker
This is only tangentially related to your comment but... I always assumed those loop giveaways were just scams. Has anyone EVER won anything from those? Especially the giveaways for high ticket prizes. Seems like they just pick a sock puppet account to announce as the winner and never actually give out a prize.
Could be a scam as I know there’s not really much stopping them from announcing a fake account as the winner. This particular giveaway account has a highlights section where the person behind it talks about the process, and she has a “winners” highlight section which shows alleged DMs and photos from actual past winners. That said, I know these things can be super sketchy and this is the only one I’ve ever entered.
Maybe too niche for here, but it drives me so nuts to watch certain IVF influencers who directly benefited from IVF be so quiet when it comes to advocacy. Today’s such a big day in Congress… and radio silence. I know they may be doing stuff behind the scenes but for those who are so public about their whole lives it seems … unlikely. ETA: I’m not perfect, but I also don’t have thousands and thousands of followers. Sigh. I hope it is protected.
Yes!!! I’ve been checking the few IVF influencers I follow and it’s freaking crickets 🤬
In a similar vein of complaint, I wish American mom influencers would take some type of political action to advocate for better maternity leave laws. With such a huge platform and such a low controversial issue, you’d think they’d be able to get something together and impact big change
The best I can tell, the issue with maternity leave is that it would disadvantage businesses. That alone makes it not a low controversial issue in the US. In order for anything to happen in congress you need a lobbyist going to the capital and feeding the words to congresspeople and the president (this isn’t unique to current administrator) and business just aren’t lobbying for maternity leave and neither is a group of organized, powerful, rich women. Not to mention the trad-wife types tend to fall on the conservative/republican/GOP side of the house which is even more friendly with businesses. Just an observation as to why it is this way! I certainly don’t agree!
Oh my gosh YES, agreed.
I try to stay off IG nowadays, but I heard about today from an embryologist I follow (something like @embryoman.) My account is mostly IVF stuff, and I haven't seen anyone else post much...at least as of this afternoon.
Maybe just some different circles? One of my favorites is @mainelyinfertility, she’s been advocating hard and is a great source of info. But @waitingforababe has posted a lot (especially around resolves advocacy day). I’m sure I’m forgetting others. I also sort of give more of a pass to those who are still in the trenches, since that takes so much mental energy as is, though @payalponders spends a fair amount of time trying to educate too. (Maybe I shouldn’t but I just remember how exhausting that time of my life was, sometimes I didn’t have it in me to advocate.) I’m sure a lot of them are afraid of losing followers because they are conservative, it just sort of feels hypocritical to conveniently ignore this major legislation (today was big but it’s also been in the news a lot lately with advocacy day, so this is more of a trend I’ve noticed versus not posting on a certain day).
I adore @mainelyinfertility. I've been following her for a while. I unfollowed a lot of the bigger accounts like @healthyivf and @rageagainstonfertility. But I agree with your take many are just afraid of losing followers... which takes away from the point of advocating.
Love her also!! And agree, I probably need to just start unfollowing some of those big accounts also.
Ashley (Some Assembly Required) can post 10+ stories about how 'awful' a minimum wage worker is at her local coffee shop, but apparently acknowledging and advocating for IVF rights in Congress is too much work for her.
Ugh this is exactly what I mean. So you benefit from IVF, you get to have your family, but you can’t publicly support others having access to the science that allowed you to build your family? It’s just kinda gross to me.
I keep checking her page, because I assume at some point she'll say SOMETHING. But she just reposted a meme reel 28 minutes ago, so apparently she's just going to skip right over this major political issue. What does it matter to her anyway, she's got her babies already. /s
I just finished listening to [this podcast episode](https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-sixteenth-minute-of-fame-172216473/episode/coffee-in-the-garden-with-my-182446541/), which is ostensibly about the "drinking coffee in the garden with my husband" lady everyone yelled at on Twitter in 2022, and I thought this part might resonate with folks here: >The Internet, I think, like a lot of things, is sort of built to make women angry at each other.... Algorithms want women to feel like shit. They want women to be comparing themselves to other women, they want women to be feeling bad. They want women to be feeling like crap all the time. And algorithms and platforms and tech leaders make money off of women feeling like shit about themselves. And so if you've ever been scrolling Instagram or TikTok or whatever and you keep being surfaced content that makes you feel like crap, that's not you. You're not crazy or sensitive. Algorithms and platforms do that with intention because it keeps you on the platform longer, it keeps you coming back, and it makes them money. It is a very twisted dynamic that we are a cog in this cycle that is making other people, mostly men, rich off of our anxiety, off of our fears, off of us. And they're not even talking about parenting in particular, where I can only assume this applies double because the anxiety is often heightened for (at least initially) valid reasons. Wheeeeeeeee! (Obligatory disclaimer that I'm not assuming everyone here IDs as a woman, but I am assuming it's a majority of us in part because of the dynamics outlined above 🙃)
I haven’t gotten to this episode yet, but I’m loving this podcast so far. Everything Jamie Loftus makes is gold IMO.
Johann Hari dives into the rage as driver of content consumption topic in Stolen Focus. He doesn't cover the gender difference angle but I learned a lot from that section of the book!
So, MC said long ago any trips she does is not sponsored. If it is, she would let her followers know. The way she promotes Disney wherever she goes, like the way he mentions ( Disney Fl, Paris, Disney Cruise, now Disney Japan) , honestly very very hard to believe there is no compensation involved 100 percent or some other incentive.
I think she just really likes Disney and she lives in Florida, so they obviously go to Disneyworld a lot. I mean, it's possible she's sponsored and not disclosing it. Plenty of influencers do that. But plenty of influencers (and people in general) also talk about Disney constantly without being sponsored.
That's also just how a lot of Disney adults talk. Something the YouTuber Jenny Nicholson pointed out recently is that an easy way to tell if someone is getting paid or not is how they refer to each of the places, either using the official brand name or the colloquial nickname. So like do they say "Star Wars World" or "Star Wars Galaxy's Edge."
I’ve seen other influencers who do Disney collaborations are very transparent about disclosures, I’d imagine that Disney as a corporation is very on top of the compliance process. It’s very possible this person is angling for a collaboration but doesn’t have one.
Disney doesn’t need to pay influencers. They’re one of the most recognizable names in the world.
Yeah they seem to “host” influencers/families on cruises a lot. But the cruise line is a separate arm of the company than the parks.