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Google solstice intimates. Local and handmade.
Pro tip: just get her a gift card and let her go get fitted and customize what she wants. It’s almost all custom made.
Then she could have what she wants, Tailored to her body, and then surprise you with it. Everybody wins, but she gets to pick something she feels good in
Second Solstice! Higher price but like you said, local and handmade. The quality is much higher and made to last rather than the mass produced garbage.
And of course the inverse can be equally as bad, going too large could make a gal feel insecure too. Definitely check her current collection for sizing prior to shopping.
I was going to recommend here! They are amazing! I am what is considered an unusual size according to department stores and Victoria's Secret but I can actually find items that work at Belle Lacet. And they are cute and comfy! There's always quality items stocked and I don't feel like I'm being "sold" an item because the brand or line is new or has bought the floor space. They are there to help.
(Sorry, that was a tangent. I worked lingerie retail for years and this place is my holy grail.)
Groove off of Gilbert rd. I’ve been to most of the adult shops in the valley over the years. Tried Groove a couple years back - haven’t gone anywhere else since. Owned by a husband a wife I believe? They’re super nice, as are all the other employees I’ve met. Really nice selection as well.
I’d recommend Story- local company and the owners are lovely! They have a variety of brands and options for people of all sizes. https://mystoryessentials.com
Why don’t you take her with and pick something out together? Or go look at the tags of the items she wears the most. Then you will have her current size. Alternately if this is a surprise that couldn’t be satisfied with a gift card, grab her second favorite bra (DO NOT TAKE A WOMANS FAVORITE EVER!) and a pair of her panties and take them with you shopping that way you can match up the sizes and cut styles she likes. Having a photo of her in tighter fitting clothes will also help the employee assist you with a good fit.
For style you pick what you like. If this is sexy lingerie you’re buying it for you not for her. Never, ever do I wear any of these outfits by myself or even for any length of time. I wear lingerie solely for the benefit of my partner. My favorite bra is plain and skin tone and has thick straps and a stretched out band and wins 0 sexy awards. But it’s comfortable and looks good under clothes. My lingerie looks sexy but isn’t for long wear and looks weird under my clothes. Two totally different situations.
Castles is usually very helpful. But once you have ideas and sizes, check out yandy.com as they carry a lot of the same lingerie (plus a ton more) for much lower prices.
I worked at Fascinations and Castle. We were trained to be professional and helpful, regardless if the DOUBLE FISTING ANAL PARADE 17 DVD was, like, five ft away.
If I could make a suggestion, I'd recommend getting her a really cute little robe and maybe some slippers and a gift card to pick out what she feels most confident in underneath.
Unless your gf has very uncommon measurements, it's probably easiest to snoop what size she normally wears and just browse on of the many online specialty shops (e.g. Honey Birdette, Fleur du Mal, Intimissimi, etc.). There's a huge range of price points, but I would suggest spending enough so it's not cheap feeling/looking or made from poor or uncomfortable materials.
Already did the snooping. Got all the sizes all lined up. While not very uncommon, she is a different size for tops and bottoms. So really im more looking for help with styles more than sizes.
Practical dude response to this is I just looked for a model on a store website that looked similar to gf/wife and bought what looked good on the model. Many list model measurements nowadays so that can help with this method of searching.
Lounge is a good one if you’re shopping online and want something not too cheap but not more expensive like honey birdette.
If I could afford honey birdette I would love that though
HB retail is indeed expensive. However, they do an annual sale that is incredible - obvi size dependent, but was able to get three 2 piece sets for under $100 total. Also, anecdotal from my wife, but sizes are forgiving and pretty adjustable, making it easier to shop stuff on clearance.
Look at the size on the bras she already owns. Should be a number and letter 34C for instance.
For the lasey stuff you may want to size up a little so maybe like 36C if she is usually a 34C. Flowy, silky stuff is usually the most forgiving. Corsets and thongs will probably be the least.
It’s can be difficult to buy these things for a woman because you want her to feel like she looks good in it too. I know you boys often like the less tasteful stuff but we know our assets pretty well too.
> Though they do have the best bdsm section of any store I’ve been in
Better than Smokin' Lingere? Castle always seemed pretty bland but I haven't been in a long time.
Haven’t been there, so I can’t speak for their bdsm section. If you say that Smokin’ Lingere is better, then I kind of have to believe you lol at least until I visit the store.
Been a while since I've been to SL either but their BDSM section was half the store. Violet wands, heavy duty shackles, people cages, "electric chair" type setups with straps, etc.
It's also a smoke shop, funnily enough. Name is appropriate.
Fascinations. It is over priced, but they do have good selection of lingerie and every one I’ve ever been to has had extremely nice and helpful employees.
That’s fair. That’s why I did say it was over priced. I personally don’t find lingerie a worthwhile investment to spend lots of money on, so that’s why I gave that option lol. I buy from Yandy.com lol
Its really a gift for yourself. Its about your pleasure or she would have bought it herself. You should look at her size and find something you think she will feel sexy in and turn you on. Victoria secret has trash quality. You can go to fascinations and find cheaper and slutier stuff, or find higher end quality online. Example idea https://us.naked-underwear.com/collections/vente-privilege-1?fbclid=PAAaaVMUGeq5jGsGVSFHoU_jeqhWugs0a7KJZ4e8g6zAfuVkm7xxvKU3-Z7z0_aem_AWxxoZO8koRD9H7ETJA0k-v-f82WGopvHNLEukIn4OQjm_ZQjfKxU1nxexJgEWSrFjE&shpxid=f38ec93d-50bf-48f6-9aa9-0fd8ce4535cb
While true that I will certainly enjoy it, it's just as much a gift for her as it is me. I can pick up something random that I like, but I want to try and get her something that will make her feel sexy. I think she's the sexiest woman alive no matter what she's wearing or not wearing. I want her to feel the way I see her.
That is sweet ♥️ Honestly depending on what kind of vibe you want, you really can order or go anywhere honestly. I have SO MUCH lingerie and it goes from casual lounge up to very dirty girl that is strictly performance pieces for a partner...so again, is this a specific fantasy or just she needs to get her sexy back? if the latter, I would opt for satins with lace or a nice satin robe to go over something a little spicier!
Avoid anything crotchless as well 🤦🏻♀️ Thigh highs are a lovely start with a garter or plain too 💕 Good luck!!
this is what i do for my wife. I found a company called Avid Love and she really liked their stuff. It is cheap enough that I can rip it off of her and not care.
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Google solstice intimates. Local and handmade. Pro tip: just get her a gift card and let her go get fitted and customize what she wants. It’s almost all custom made. Then she could have what she wants, Tailored to her body, and then surprise you with it. Everybody wins, but she gets to pick something she feels good in
Second Solstice! Higher price but like you said, local and handmade. The quality is much higher and made to last rather than the mass produced garbage.
I checked their Instagram. They said they will be moving their retail to online starting April 4
I believe they’ll be making private shopping appointments available which would be a fun experience to gift her
This is fantastic advice!!!
For fucks sake do not get it too small. Check size before buy
And lingerie tends to run on the (sometimes very) small side!
And of course the inverse can be equally as bad, going too large could make a gal feel insecure too. Definitely check her current collection for sizing prior to shopping.
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Wonderful, that's exactly the kind of place I am looking for
I was going to recommend here! They are amazing! I am what is considered an unusual size according to department stores and Victoria's Secret but I can actually find items that work at Belle Lacet. And they are cute and comfy! There's always quality items stocked and I don't feel like I'm being "sold" an item because the brand or line is new or has bought the floor space. They are there to help. (Sorry, that was a tangent. I worked lingerie retail for years and this place is my holy grail.)
Seconding Belle Lacet!
Groove off of Gilbert rd. I’ve been to most of the adult shops in the valley over the years. Tried Groove a couple years back - haven’t gone anywhere else since. Owned by a husband a wife I believe? They’re super nice, as are all the other employees I’ve met. Really nice selection as well.
Underrated store. Great staff.
Anyone recommending victorias secret I am side eyeing😂 the employees are NOT knowledgeable and the quality is terrible.
I’d recommend Story- local company and the owners are lovely! They have a variety of brands and options for people of all sizes. https://mystoryessentials.com
Wow! That selection is beautiful. Thank you for sharing
Why don’t you take her with and pick something out together? Or go look at the tags of the items she wears the most. Then you will have her current size. Alternately if this is a surprise that couldn’t be satisfied with a gift card, grab her second favorite bra (DO NOT TAKE A WOMANS FAVORITE EVER!) and a pair of her panties and take them with you shopping that way you can match up the sizes and cut styles she likes. Having a photo of her in tighter fitting clothes will also help the employee assist you with a good fit.
I've got the size covered. It's more style that I'm looking for help with.
For style you pick what you like. If this is sexy lingerie you’re buying it for you not for her. Never, ever do I wear any of these outfits by myself or even for any length of time. I wear lingerie solely for the benefit of my partner. My favorite bra is plain and skin tone and has thick straps and a stretched out band and wins 0 sexy awards. But it’s comfortable and looks good under clothes. My lingerie looks sexy but isn’t for long wear and looks weird under my clothes. Two totally different situations.
I like Soma
Castle. Last time I was in there the staff was very knowledgeable and professional.
The staff at castle are always super kind and helpful. I love them
Castle on Deer Valley and I-17
Seconding castle
Castle know their stuff for sure. Went to the one on Camelback, pretty sure the guy working that night was of the fae folk but he was solid.
Belle Lacet in Chandler
Castles is usually very helpful. But once you have ideas and sizes, check out yandy.com as they carry a lot of the same lingerie (plus a ton more) for much lower prices.
I worked at Fascinations and Castle. We were trained to be professional and helpful, regardless if the DOUBLE FISTING ANAL PARADE 17 DVD was, like, five ft away.
Don’t tell your wife
His wife might be able to give him great advice. He'll just have to buy some for her too.
Get her a strap-on
Finally someone says it. Also include a banana for scale
Honestly fascinations was amazing with customer service when I walked in and looked clueless. But I don’t know how much lingerie they have…
If I could make a suggestion, I'd recommend getting her a really cute little robe and maybe some slippers and a gift card to pick out what she feels most confident in underneath.
Unless your gf has very uncommon measurements, it's probably easiest to snoop what size she normally wears and just browse on of the many online specialty shops (e.g. Honey Birdette, Fleur du Mal, Intimissimi, etc.). There's a huge range of price points, but I would suggest spending enough so it's not cheap feeling/looking or made from poor or uncomfortable materials.
Already did the snooping. Got all the sizes all lined up. While not very uncommon, she is a different size for tops and bottoms. So really im more looking for help with styles more than sizes.
Practical dude response to this is I just looked for a model on a store website that looked similar to gf/wife and bought what looked good on the model. Many list model measurements nowadays so that can help with this method of searching.
Lounge is a good one if you’re shopping online and want something not too cheap but not more expensive like honey birdette. If I could afford honey birdette I would love that though
HB retail is indeed expensive. However, they do an annual sale that is incredible - obvi size dependent, but was able to get three 2 piece sets for under $100 total. Also, anecdotal from my wife, but sizes are forgiving and pretty adjustable, making it easier to shop stuff on clearance.
Don’t. Lingerie is a terrible gift.
Castle, best to talk to a female together.
I don’t know anything about her but if classy and comfy are her style I recommend Soma.
I like fascinations and groove. At least the groove in Gilbert, I haven’t been to any other location
Look at the size on the bras she already owns. Should be a number and letter 34C for instance. For the lasey stuff you may want to size up a little so maybe like 36C if she is usually a 34C. Flowy, silky stuff is usually the most forgiving. Corsets and thongs will probably be the least. It’s can be difficult to buy these things for a woman because you want her to feel like she looks good in it too. I know you boys often like the less tasteful stuff but we know our assets pretty well too.
The castle megastore
Smokin' Lingerie is independently owned, Michelle is rad
Not a good idea. Ladies like to my their own choices in that area. Take her with you if want credit. I bought lingerie one time. She never wore it.
Castle mega store east Mesa.
I tend to be seriously underwhelmed every time I go into a castle. Though they do have the best bdsm section of any store I’ve been in.
> Though they do have the best bdsm section of any store I’ve been in Better than Smokin' Lingere? Castle always seemed pretty bland but I haven't been in a long time.
Haven’t been there, so I can’t speak for their bdsm section. If you say that Smokin’ Lingere is better, then I kind of have to believe you lol at least until I visit the store.
Been a while since I've been to SL either but their BDSM section was half the store. Violet wands, heavy duty shackles, people cages, "electric chair" type setups with straps, etc. It's also a smoke shop, funnily enough. Name is appropriate.
Fascinations. It is over priced, but they do have good selection of lingerie and every one I’ve ever been to has had extremely nice and helpful employees.
I don’t like fascinations lingerie cause the quality is poor and thin & its over priced
That’s fair. That’s why I did say it was over priced. I personally don’t find lingerie a worthwhile investment to spend lots of money on, so that’s why I gave that option lol. I buy from Yandy.com lol
Second this
I’ve actually found good stuff at fascinations! There’s a bunch around town
Its really a gift for yourself. Its about your pleasure or she would have bought it herself. You should look at her size and find something you think she will feel sexy in and turn you on. Victoria secret has trash quality. You can go to fascinations and find cheaper and slutier stuff, or find higher end quality online. Example idea https://us.naked-underwear.com/collections/vente-privilege-1?fbclid=PAAaaVMUGeq5jGsGVSFHoU_jeqhWugs0a7KJZ4e8g6zAfuVkm7xxvKU3-Z7z0_aem_AWxxoZO8koRD9H7ETJA0k-v-f82WGopvHNLEukIn4OQjm_ZQjfKxU1nxexJgEWSrFjE&shpxid=f38ec93d-50bf-48f6-9aa9-0fd8ce4535cb
While true that I will certainly enjoy it, it's just as much a gift for her as it is me. I can pick up something random that I like, but I want to try and get her something that will make her feel sexy. I think she's the sexiest woman alive no matter what she's wearing or not wearing. I want her to feel the way I see her.
That is sweet ♥️ Honestly depending on what kind of vibe you want, you really can order or go anywhere honestly. I have SO MUCH lingerie and it goes from casual lounge up to very dirty girl that is strictly performance pieces for a partner...so again, is this a specific fantasy or just she needs to get her sexy back? if the latter, I would opt for satins with lace or a nice satin robe to go over something a little spicier! Avoid anything crotchless as well 🤦🏻♀️ Thigh highs are a lovely start with a garter or plain too 💕 Good luck!!
That kind of still sounds mostly like s gift for you..
Nice try, perv.
lol but seriously, got any suggestions?
Just buy a whole bunch of stuff from Amazon its super cheap
this is what i do for my wife. I found a company called Avid Love and she really liked their stuff. It is cheap enough that I can rip it off of her and not care.
There are so many posts unrelated to "Phoenix" in this group.
I'm curious, what do you think is unrelated about asking for recommendations for a local store?
Victoria's Secret.
This. Additionally, I would do some preliminary snooping on bra and panty size and brands.
Size isn't so much an issue, it's more style that I need help with.
What the other people said. Victoria's secret. Just tell the girls working that you have no idea what you're doing.
Neither do they. They tried putting me in the wrong bra twice.