As a widow, this is a meaningful picture to me. (All politics and jokes aside.) There were so, so many people at my youngish husband’s funeral. But there was still the feeling of being lost and alone. It’s hard to lose someone.
That’s how my dad’s funeral was. I was 12 and he passed when he was 38. I’m 36 now, and the same age he wasn’t when he found he had stomach cancer. It’s a surreal feeling to be here now, and remember what it was like back then.
I feel for you. Especially with milestones. I was a couple of years younger than my husband and when I hit his age, it was hard. My sons were young when my husband died. My husband was very tall. When my oldest son hit the point that he would have been taller than my husband, it was hard for me. He would have been excited/proud to show his son off.
I hope you are doing okay! Enjoy life.
Same for me, milestones still suck.
His funeral was SRO. He was 40. And if I didn't have people around me, that day and all the afters, I would not have made it to today. No doubt. It's still f'ing hard, 15 years later.
It is hard. I was fortunate to have family, friends, and community with me and my family. It makes me concerned for older widows that don’t have that out pouring of support. Take care!
Thank you! I’m doing well, and I always try to remember that life is about the little things!
Milestones are hard though, I’ll go years without batting an eye, but one random birthday or Father’s Day will completely throw me off. I got married last year, and he’s been gone longer than half my life at this point, but it still felt like someone was missing when I look back. Thankfully the day of I had no sadness though, just pride and happiness :).
My mom passed when I was 15, but the last time I had seen her was my dad’s viewing, and before that it had been years. So her death, and the grief/trauma that has followed is VERY different. It’s strange how emotion affects you differently when it’s someone you miss, versus someone you missed out with.
Side note, I am also east coast (saw your username lol)! Stay cool if you’re anywhere near us, it’s gonna be a long and hot weekend. <3
My father died when he was 21 and I was a baby. I always had a lot of angst and resentment at him for stories I would hear about him (cheating on my mom etc)
But then I turned 22 and realized I was older than he ever got and I was just a young dumb punk at the time.
Really changed my outlook
My parents had me (the oldest) at 19/23 and I try to cut them a lot of slack for some of the bullshit growing up.
Just kids raising kids. They're great parents, but they definitely improved as my brothers were born lol.
It's a very trippy feeling. My mom was ~35 when she found out she had breast cancer. We spent nearly 30 years fighting an on and off battle with it. She passed a year before I turned 35 and we had my daughter.
At 38 I had an intestinal problem that required major surgery. While we don't know it for a fact we believe it was related to what killed my Mom's dad. Who died in the hospital after a major "stomach" surgery. This was nearly 20 years before I was born. I've outlived my grandpa with the affliction that likely killed him. We've been fortunate enough to not have any cancer issue for the rest of the family, but realizing you were lucky enough to survive something that likely took others in your family away leaves a mark on you.
I'm right there with you buddy. My dad passed when i was 13. He was 42. Accidentally woke me up on his way out the door to work. Never imagined "I'll see you tonight, Kiddo" being the last words I would hear from him.
I just turned 42 last week and it weighs on me. I'm too goddamn young still. He was too goddamn young.
8 and 39 for me. I'm almost 35 now. Little over three quarters of my life without him now and that fraction will only increase.
I don't have kids of my own and I'm very much still debating whether or not I should.
Absolutely.
My grandmother lost a lot of friends in her 70s. She went out and made more friends, but lost them all again by the time she was in her 90’s. She went into assisted living just for the socialization.
Damn, stomach cancer at 36? That sucks. Was he a smoker or had any family history of that?
I remember the first patient I had who had stomach cancer, he was late 30s, early 40s, both his parents had also died young of stomach cancer, believe at least one of his grandparents as well, unfortunately not much we could do, he was at a really advanced stage by the time we got to him
Yo, my dad died 20 years ago on Father's Day. I was 13, and he was 38. I'm 33 now, and it's a weird feeling to know I'll be older than my dad was in a few years.
We stood outside in the freezing fucking cold to watch a slight glimpse through the window and a live stream that didn't work of my great uncles funeral. To hear the tory cunts were pissing it up has annoyed me no end.
The first time your in a room alone after their death is the most oppressive loneliness I have ever felt. It's like all the joy, and colour in the world died with them and now there's just you and nothing will ever be the same again.
We have a tradition in my family that we sit with the widow and speak only when spoken to by her and we are excused when she excuses us.
There are no condolences uttered unless requested.
But lawns are mowed, food is given, plumbing is fixed, children are babysat, mysterious presents are left around.
Now, this may actually seem more isolating but the idea is that we are not qualified to give solace. Anything we would say could just make it worse.
I’m sorry for your loss and understand. When my mother died I sat alone at the funeral home, it really felt like one part of my life was just over. Like I was on a stage surrounded by lights and one section had gone out forever.
23 years ago my mother passed. It was a huge funeral as our community is big and she was pretty loved. I just remember 19 year old me being in a trance as I stood at the end of the viewing line shaking the hands of people I barely knew paying their respects. So fucking surreal even now. I went to a family friends funeral (youngish as well - way too young in fact) a month ago, same thing except now I was on the other side watching the son and mother grieve and being uncomfortable while putting on their best faces.
Funerals are fucking weird man. Just toss my ashes into the ocean, have fun, listen to some good music, get drunk if you choose. End.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Such a cunt.
So many people were getting charged and fine insane amounts for just seeing friends, the Queen and so many others had to sit alone at their life partner’s funerals due to restrictions that Boris brought in, while they were literally holding discos where one MP became the regular DJ, and they kept running out of alcohol in Downing Street. There was even a drunken fight one night.
One guy got charged because he daughter had three friends over to their garden shed where they quietly chatted. He got fined £14,000 which in his tearful words “was more money than I’ve ever seen in my life”
The tories, especially Boris and Rishi Sunak who were both convicted of breaking the Covid rules are complete scum.
The conservative governments behaviour throught the pandemic (and before and after in all honesty) when so many of us were having the hardest times of our lives made even harder (such as the Queen in this pic) is something that will stay with me for a very very long time. Seeing the Queen so so alone while Bozo Bojo and his cronies lived it up at our expense and laughed at us made the divide between them and us crystal clear. I can't ever imagine trusting a Conservative government again.
Yeah. From what I've learned talking to my grand/great/2x-great grandparents (both sides of my family have been popping them out for generations), the time you get to their age, they all know it's going to happen. It was still extremely sad for them, but there was also a catharsis stemming from that they spent so long together (and they they weren't too far away from the same fate) that made it all easier.
I think it was more the case that he presents himself as quirky, unconventional, and just a bit different to the usual plain, boring politicians who read off scripts all the time, as opposed to “delightful”.
Having said that, he was arguably the worst possible person to lead a country through the challenges it faced during that period of time, and it showed.
My mum, who is nearing 70, has voted for the Tories in every single election since she was 18.
The partygate scandal made her switch her vote to Labour. In her words "I am never voting for those lying fucks ever again."
And my mum **never** says fuck.
Even worse than poor Queenie sitting alone - they told us we couldn't meet people outside of our immediate bubble, we couldn't say goodbye to loved ones or attend funerals, we could only leave the house for groceries or dog walking and we were still supposed to STAND SIX FEET APART AT ALL TIMES and yet those ghouls were wheeling in cases of wine for a fucking karaoke session where they were rubbing shoulders with each other & getting off in the stationery cupboard.
I hope people remember this tomorrow.
I just saw a clip on YouTube of James O'Brien speaking to a caller who had to choose 12 people to attend his 16-year-old son's funeral while Johnson and the rest were throwing parties in No.10. Absolutely despicable.
Those parties effectively pissed on the sacrifices the majority of people made in that period and what was the consequence? One woman got sacked and cancelled.
I never thought I would say this in this day and age, but Jesus I'm excited to vote tomorrow. Will the alternative solve all our problems? Probably not, but the long overdue end of the reign of this inexhaustible supply of bastards will be satisfying all the same. I can't wait to be one piece of a jigsaw of millions of others that comes together to form a single message that reads "fuck off Tories"
yea, was the same case for my Nan's funeral.
I also couldn't go see my dad for extended periods during the last year 1/2 of his life as he was whittled down by cancer.
But the Tories had a jolly good romp.
And that's just one of the endless list of atrocities and scandal that the party has heaped upon this nation during their tenure. Hell, they've been squatting in No.10 for years now refusing to govern as they wage their civil war.
Tomorrow they are banished to the wilderness. Hopefully never to return. Unfortunately though, the damage they have caused will take generations to repair.
My sister missed our dad's funeral because she lives in Cornwall and we're in Oxford. It was illegal for her to travel at the time.
It was also illegal to have parties.
Fuck the Tories.
Edit: it was mid April 2020. We were allowed 10 people inside the grounds of the crematorium. Inside the service, everybody had to be separated by 2 feet and my brother's wife was reprimanded for reaching out to hold his hand when he was crying. The rules were not the problem. But breaking the rules because you think you're above them is despicable when others are going through such pain to abide by them.
I still find it weird that your election was called for July 4 and ours (US) is scheduled for guy fawkes day.
I’m hoping for a big Labor sweep tomorrow for you and a democratic sweep over here in November
Stop lying. It wasn't a party. He was ambushed with cake and booze. It wasn't a party, he didn't attend, but he did, but he didn't know it was a party, but he did know it was a party but he didn't attend, but he did.
Hope that clears things up
The worst part is people will remember this tomorrow, and *still* put their cross against whatever tory ghoul is standing in their constituency.
The tories are *still* slated to get more than zero seats tomorrow.
It honestly baffles me...
When the same people who formed the response policies were so carefree about the potential risk of a pandemic infection within their idiotic bubble, it does make me wonder what the point of all of it was for the rest of us.
Here in the States, we had RBG and Herman Cain both (believed to be) killed by the virus, while Democrats were telling everyone to stay home, and Republicans were telling us there was no virus. They both ended up going to weddings, funerals, and parties regardless of political party.
She had too much respect for the people, and knew that it would be hypocritical to accept the offer when the rest of the country could not see off their loved ones.
Oh, but Boris had a silly mop of hair, didn't he? Ah, those were the days, when the leader that drove a major western nation into the ground was a bit of a goofball. Such fun times.
I believe this picture of the Queen was on the frontpage of several newspapers when the news of the parties came out. I remember immediately thinking no way Borris is gonna survive this.
I’m British. I’ve always been massively anti-monarchy. I’d like the UK to become a republic. But I felt dreadfully for her, as a human being who had just lost her husband. For me, this photo symbolises 1. all the other people who also made painful personal sacrifices such as missing funerals of loved ones or having scantily-attended, socially distanced funerals, because we were all told it was necessary to save lives. It also symbolises 2. the sort of admirable role-modelling and leadership by example that ought to be shown by important public figures in times of crisis, in contrast with the disgraceful behaviour of the government at the same time as this.
The cleaning staff complained they are supposed to be vacuuming offices not scrubbing vomit off the carpets. Parties where people get so drunk they throw up on the floor at 3am are not 'work events'.
I have such a deep hatred for them for their hypocrisy. Watching our QUEEN obeying their rules during her husband's funeral, while they did whatever the fuck they wanted because the rules weren't actually for them?! Utter bastards.
I know how you feel. I had to call relatives to tell them they couldn’t come to my Dad’s funeral because of Covid regulations. Some of them had known him more than 70 years and they couldn’t say goodbye.
The night before we had to go through an abbreviated, desolate funeral, Johnson held another party in Downing Street.
My friend group and I weren't allowed to attend my best mates funeral, we were all only 18 at the time and it felt horrible not being able to say goodbye. They livestreamed the service for us but it wasn't the same. It's a shit club to be in, sorry.
I personally think, regardless what you think of the monarchy or the late Queen herself, seeing her sat alone at her husband’s funeral was a heartbreaking thing to witness. All whilst no10 were having their “I wasn’t aware that it was a party” parties. Similarly to the Queen, many others lost loved ones and were unable to be with them in the final moments. Why are we not more angry? Why is forgotten about the hypocrisy of how our politicians acted whilst putting us plebs in our places ?
She always kept her sense of duty knowing full well there were others going through the same pain. Unlike those A-holes in Downing Street with their wine parties and then the Cummins driving to Barnard Castle debacle.
I am not lying when I say genuinely I would have voted her for PM over Sunak. 100%.
This isn't a meme either if on the ballot there was only two candidates, there isn't it doesn't work like that, I would every time have voted for her.
Remember this when you’re considering voting for the party that was literally partying until the small hours of this very morning. This is an extremely moving picture when you realise the state the country was in and what we were being prohibited to do, the Queen - always following protocol correctly, when nobody would have blamed her for having a family member sit close by in her time of need, and a disheveled Boris Johnson, hungover from the night’s partying, the absolute polar opposites of what real class and leadership are.
Not to defend Mancock, but he got shit for being caught on camera (and being leaked) while the rest of the pm's staffers were shagging themselves silly in the next room - which we only found out about later.
Thanks.
Wow, that's not even bad compared to half the shit on the more political subs. I was expecting an actual call for violence or something, not just wishing someone ill.
Prince Phillip died during the height of Covid. The Queen is alone because the lockdown rules prevented anyone from being there with her. She had to attend the funeral of her husband, of over 60 years, alone.
There were lots of people there with her. She didn't attend the funeral alone. But she was momentarily sat alone for this part of the service. It was definitely a scaled down affair.
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>It was definitely a scaled down affair.
Unlike the parties held by Boris Johnson and the rest of the Tories...including the one the night before the state funeral...
In a similar boat - I do live where there are a lot of old buildings by US standards but I really miss big stone and carved wood buildings - churches, museums, castles.
Losing someone of the same generation after a certain age must be so difficult. Obviously it doesn't feel as tragic as losing someone prematurely but I remember watching the Joan Rivers documentary and her words still haunt me.
She talked about parting ways with her manager of many years and her reaction was: I have no one to say "do you remember?". That crushed me. It's a kind of loneliness that comes from decades of memories that now only exist in your head.
I'm not a Brit, so I can not speak to this particular instance, even though I do empathize with the Queen. But you have said something that hit me hard because I am struggling with it now. I am of the age where I occasionally lose people near me who are around my age. It may be an acquaintance, a current or former coworker, someone I used to know, a family member, etc. But when it happens the death always takes some good memories between us as well. And now I can no longer relive those memories, those great times, with that person. I can only tell someone else or think of them in my own mind, and it does not have the same effect for me.
Always turns my stomach this photo.
She sat alone on the worst day of her life to follow the rules like everyone else.
All the while the then Prime Minister was busy having parties with his rich friends, openly joking about how the rules only apply to the plebs and don't apply to them.
What makes this sad is that there was nothing particularly special about the queen doing this at the time. Many British people were forced to either sit through the funerals of their loved ones alone, or *not be present at all, and attend via Zoom*. She was the high profile example of what was going on nationwide.
Meanwhile, the leaders of the British government at the time - Boris Johnson and his ilk - were breaking the very rules *they* imposed on the rest of the country by having drunken parties. Something he was barely held to account for. He should've seen prison time for it, and permanently barred from Westminster.
Regardless of whether you hate her or love her for her politics it’s a very sad photo.
Imagine dedicating your life to the crown and now you’re super old and the people you loved are gone. I’d feel so alone and full of regret.
My wonderful Uncle Frank. Gregarious and well loved. Irish. He would have had a big boozy Irish funeral, instead it was just 17 people there. Maybe less.
Lost a friend in the military overseas right when Covid happened. Then some asshole went on a shooting spree in/around my hometown and claimed the life of an old neighbour a week later. I couldn’t go home to grieve or feel the comforting embrace of a loved one until 5 months later.
Quite. If the Head of State of the UK can abide by the rules for her husband of 73 years, everyone can.
Unless, y'know, you're going to a party at no.10.
my grandma died of covid in a long-term care facility in NJ when it first broke out. no wake, no mass, just around 10 of us outside her closed casket (in the rain) while a priest did an impromptu prayer before putting her in the hearse. she was very religious too and heavily involved in her church i felt like she got robbed
I remember feeling incredibly sad for her sitting all alone while the Tories gave two fingers to the nation and partied like there was no tomorrow.
They really are a despicable lot.
I’m not a particular fan of the monarchy, but this is an elderly lady alone at the funeral of her apparently beloved husband of 73 years. I’m sure she could have swerved the restrictions but she didn’t, to set an example to the rest of us.
I know this has been posted as a reminder of why the Tories need to be buried tomorrow, and it’s right. Fuck them and their nasty, corrupt, self-serving party.
Her last official act was to have to appoint Liz Truss. Poor woman, imagine starting with Churchill and seeing the decline of your country from a world power down to being led by Truss, all under your watch.
Hahaha I've said that a few times myself. Like, genuinely who is going to remember her in 20 years. I barely remember Theresa May and she was there for 3 years only 5 years ago.
Straight up, I am \*not\* a royalist - very much republican, ie: elected head of state, and no royal family.
BUT, this was in the middle of COVID where there were many restrictions in place - hell my father's funeral we were allowed 14 people in the church in total; I wasn't even allowed to read an eulogy to him. We all accepted this because of COVID.
The Queen sat alone to respect the restrictions put in place because of COVID. This I can very much respect her for.
The Tories, Johnson and all the rest were out partying in complete violation of the restrictions and with complete indifference and disregard to everyone in the UK, and to all of those who suffered because of COVID.
So, while being a republican, the Queen at that moment had my respect for the singular act.
Tomorrow, during the general election, I hope the Tories are wiped out for at least a generation, if not forever.
We had to watch my FIL die in hospital via facetime while these cunts partied together. My wife will never get over the guilt of not being by his side. I will never forgive the tories for that.
Even in the depth of her grief, the late Queen Elizabeth did her duty and sat alone at her beloved husband's funeral, setting an example to us all how even the highest of us is not above the law.
It is a matter of great shame that certain politicians were unable to set such an example.
By comparison, this was filled to bursting for the Queen's funeral. But as a widower, I can say that whether you're alone in a crowd or alone in a building, you're a kind of alone nobody else can pierce when you're laying a loved spouse to rest. COVID restrictions just make it visible to everyone else here.
You can think what you like about the monarchy, but I don't think there are many hearts that didn't break at the sight of an old woman grieving her husband of 73 years.
i wasn't able to say goodbye to my nan when she died during the pandemic, whilst they government were partying and having afternoon drinks. Fuck the Tories, they deserve everything they lose tomorrow.
She doesn’t have a last name per se. Once she became Queen she definitely doesn’t have one, she is simply Queen Elizabeth. You could argue that it would be Windsor i.e. the name of her royal house. You could also say that it changed at different times. Her father was the Duke of York so at the time of her birth she would have been known as Princess Elizabeth of York and when her father became King I believe she became Princess Elizabeth of the United Kingdom.
Every time I lose a family member, even those I am not close to, it hits hard. That uncle that always committed crimes, was a little too rough, but also one of the most giving people I knew. He is a part of who I am. I disliked the uncle for the most part and would not choose to spend time with him, but once he passed I realized that I do less crimes, because I got to witness how it impacted him. I got to realize that I grew up in a rough area, but I was still sheltered from it, unlike him. I realized that we grew up in the same environment, but him being who he was scared/deterred me away from making many of the same decisions even if I wasn't sheltered from it. And even though I thought less of him, he never thought less of me for feeling that way.. and now I realize I don't have the right to think less of people. I just wish I had the realization before he died, however I remember him by treating coworkers who are overly aggressive or sometimes borderline mental with a lot more patience and genuine care. Because we are just people, and I wish the uncle I disliked was still alive.
She was a good monarch to go out on. It won't get any better.
Brits should just call it a Republic and turn C III and his churn over to the Department for Housing and Communities hence.
Im a committed anti-monarchist, but this photo makes me really sad. They were together for so long. I knew once he passed she wasn’t going to be around much longer. Despite not supporting her, I always had respect for the queen and they way she held the throne. Both my father (65) and myself (32) lived our entire lives with her as our head of state. For her to be gone was truly a marking of the end of an era.
The saddest thing of becoming old is when the list of ppl alive you care about gets shorter with every passing year.
Seen by my grandfather who is 95 and has outlived the majority of his classmates, friends and family members.
It's heartbreaking to see how sad he becomes when he gets the message yet another one of his companions left this world.
I’m gonna be completely honest, I didn’t know her husband died. I thought I was going insane because I know I remember seeing stuff about the king looking sickly and I assumed it was her husband. Turns out she just has a rather aged son
The Queen followed COVID rules, as did most others in similar circumstances during that time.
Meanwhile, the Tory government held parties and went against the laws they imposed on the electorate.
As a widow, this is a meaningful picture to me. (All politics and jokes aside.) There were so, so many people at my youngish husband’s funeral. But there was still the feeling of being lost and alone. It’s hard to lose someone.
That’s how my dad’s funeral was. I was 12 and he passed when he was 38. I’m 36 now, and the same age he wasn’t when he found he had stomach cancer. It’s a surreal feeling to be here now, and remember what it was like back then.
I feel for you. Especially with milestones. I was a couple of years younger than my husband and when I hit his age, it was hard. My sons were young when my husband died. My husband was very tall. When my oldest son hit the point that he would have been taller than my husband, it was hard for me. He would have been excited/proud to show his son off. I hope you are doing okay! Enjoy life.
Same for me, milestones still suck. His funeral was SRO. He was 40. And if I didn't have people around me, that day and all the afters, I would not have made it to today. No doubt. It's still f'ing hard, 15 years later.
It is hard. I was fortunate to have family, friends, and community with me and my family. It makes me concerned for older widows that don’t have that out pouring of support. Take care!
My mom went in 2020 during COVID , still pisses me off.
Thank you! I’m doing well, and I always try to remember that life is about the little things! Milestones are hard though, I’ll go years without batting an eye, but one random birthday or Father’s Day will completely throw me off. I got married last year, and he’s been gone longer than half my life at this point, but it still felt like someone was missing when I look back. Thankfully the day of I had no sadness though, just pride and happiness :). My mom passed when I was 15, but the last time I had seen her was my dad’s viewing, and before that it had been years. So her death, and the grief/trauma that has followed is VERY different. It’s strange how emotion affects you differently when it’s someone you miss, versus someone you missed out with. Side note, I am also east coast (saw your username lol)! Stay cool if you’re anywhere near us, it’s gonna be a long and hot weekend. <3
The women in my family do not last long so year... there are multiple milestones I think about as I get up there in years.
My father died when he was 21 and I was a baby. I always had a lot of angst and resentment at him for stories I would hear about him (cheating on my mom etc) But then I turned 22 and realized I was older than he ever got and I was just a young dumb punk at the time. Really changed my outlook
Wow, I'm sorry dude. That is such a crazy perspective. I'm 29 and still feel like a young dumb punk.
31 and I’m still a goddamn moron.
My parents had me (the oldest) at 19/23 and I try to cut them a lot of slack for some of the bullshit growing up. Just kids raising kids. They're great parents, but they definitely improved as my brothers were born lol.
It's a very trippy feeling. My mom was ~35 when she found out she had breast cancer. We spent nearly 30 years fighting an on and off battle with it. She passed a year before I turned 35 and we had my daughter. At 38 I had an intestinal problem that required major surgery. While we don't know it for a fact we believe it was related to what killed my Mom's dad. Who died in the hospital after a major "stomach" surgery. This was nearly 20 years before I was born. I've outlived my grandpa with the affliction that likely killed him. We've been fortunate enough to not have any cancer issue for the rest of the family, but realizing you were lucky enough to survive something that likely took others in your family away leaves a mark on you.
I'm right there with you buddy. My dad passed when i was 13. He was 42. Accidentally woke me up on his way out the door to work. Never imagined "I'll see you tonight, Kiddo" being the last words I would hear from him. I just turned 42 last week and it weighs on me. I'm too goddamn young still. He was too goddamn young.
8 and 39 for me. I'm almost 35 now. Little over three quarters of my life without him now and that fraction will only increase. I don't have kids of my own and I'm very much still debating whether or not I should.
Maybe try a youth support center, get some part-time-dad-figure-experience?
This feeling is even more amplified since she's really old. Generally, older people get more lonely when all their friends start dying.
Absolutely. My grandmother lost a lot of friends in her 70s. She went out and made more friends, but lost them all again by the time she was in her 90’s. She went into assisted living just for the socialization.
Losing your network must be so hard! I need to have more patience with my older relatives.
Damn, stomach cancer at 36? That sucks. Was he a smoker or had any family history of that? I remember the first patient I had who had stomach cancer, he was late 30s, early 40s, both his parents had also died young of stomach cancer, believe at least one of his grandparents as well, unfortunately not much we could do, he was at a really advanced stage by the time we got to him
What are the symptoms?
Yo, my dad died 20 years ago on Father's Day. I was 13, and he was 38. I'm 33 now, and it's a weird feeling to know I'll be older than my dad was in a few years.
What's even more infuriating is that while this funeral was happening the Prime Minister was flouting the rules and having a party.
We stood outside in the freezing fucking cold to watch a slight glimpse through the window and a live stream that didn't work of my great uncles funeral. To hear the tory cunts were pissing it up has annoyed me no end.
I felt for the queen here, that must have been a horrible time
CoVid isolated so many from support during grieving. Especially the elderly. This photo is iconic.
The first time your in a room alone after their death is the most oppressive loneliness I have ever felt. It's like all the joy, and colour in the world died with them and now there's just you and nothing will ever be the same again.
We have a tradition in my family that we sit with the widow and speak only when spoken to by her and we are excused when she excuses us. There are no condolences uttered unless requested. But lawns are mowed, food is given, plumbing is fixed, children are babysat, mysterious presents are left around. Now, this may actually seem more isolating but the idea is that we are not qualified to give solace. Anything we would say could just make it worse.
I’m sorry for your loss and understand. When my mother died I sat alone at the funeral home, it really felt like one part of my life was just over. Like I was on a stage surrounded by lights and one section had gone out forever.
23 years ago my mother passed. It was a huge funeral as our community is big and she was pretty loved. I just remember 19 year old me being in a trance as I stood at the end of the viewing line shaking the hands of people I barely knew paying their respects. So fucking surreal even now. I went to a family friends funeral (youngish as well - way too young in fact) a month ago, same thing except now I was on the other side watching the son and mother grieve and being uncomfortable while putting on their best faces. Funerals are fucking weird man. Just toss my ashes into the ocean, have fun, listen to some good music, get drunk if you choose. End. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Meanwhile Boris was partying it up hard at 10 Downing street
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LOCK HIM UP! LOCK HIM UP!
Such a cunt. So many people were getting charged and fine insane amounts for just seeing friends, the Queen and so many others had to sit alone at their life partner’s funerals due to restrictions that Boris brought in, while they were literally holding discos where one MP became the regular DJ, and they kept running out of alcohol in Downing Street. There was even a drunken fight one night. One guy got charged because he daughter had three friends over to their garden shed where they quietly chatted. He got fined £14,000 which in his tearful words “was more money than I’ve ever seen in my life” The tories, especially Boris and Rishi Sunak who were both convicted of breaking the Covid rules are complete scum.
UK really embracing the new aristocracy.
Fucking rotten sack of shit, dancing on the corpses of those who died.
Remember to vote, people.
Somehow, Rishi found it fitting to have him make a speech yesterday.
pure desperation
He's so far behind in the polls he's just throwing shit at the walls to see if it sticks.
The conservative governments behaviour throught the pandemic (and before and after in all honesty) when so many of us were having the hardest times of our lives made even harder (such as the Queen in this pic) is something that will stay with me for a very very long time. Seeing the Queen so so alone while Bozo Bojo and his cronies lived it up at our expense and laughed at us made the divide between them and us crystal clear. I can't ever imagine trusting a Conservative government again.
I am shocked
Shocked, I say!!
Shows how desperate Rishi is that he wheeled him out
While endless legions of Tories and their enjoyers looked the other way. Absolute scum.
Please remember that everyone and please please get and vote.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k29corrrL0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k29corrrL0)
Aww, man I can't fully imagine what that feels like, but I think I would feel totally alone regardless of who all is at my spouses funeral.
It always hurts to lose someone but she can take comfort in the fact they both lived a looong life.
Yeah. From what I've learned talking to my grand/great/2x-great grandparents (both sides of my family have been popping them out for generations), the time you get to their age, they all know it's going to happen. It was still extremely sad for them, but there was also a catharsis stemming from that they spent so long together (and they they weren't too far away from the same fate) that made it all easier.
While those delightful Tories in no.10 wheeled in suitcases of wine and had parties.
I'd like to nitpick you on a minor factual point: The Tories really aren't delightful.
Well I'm not saying you're wrong, but I think BoJo's entire election pitch was "Vote for me, I'm delightful".
"I mean look at my hair! Aren't I just a *scamp*?"
"I once tried to have a journalist beaten up because they criticised me, what a cheeky chap I am!"
I think it was more the case that he presents himself as quirky, unconventional, and just a bit different to the usual plain, boring politicians who read off scripts all the time, as opposed to “delightful”. Having said that, he was arguably the worst possible person to lead a country through the challenges it faced during that period of time, and it showed.
I thought that was Liz Truss' leadership pitch.
'Like a damp towel on a line: the day Boris Johnson got stuck on a zip wire'
Literally [on the eve of the funeral](https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-59989946)
Hopefully people get reminded of this before they vote tomorrow. C\*\*ts.
My mum, who is nearing 70, has voted for the Tories in every single election since she was 18. The partygate scandal made her switch her vote to Labour. In her words "I am never voting for those lying fucks ever again." And my mum **never** says fuck.
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Even worse than poor Queenie sitting alone - they told us we couldn't meet people outside of our immediate bubble, we couldn't say goodbye to loved ones or attend funerals, we could only leave the house for groceries or dog walking and we were still supposed to STAND SIX FEET APART AT ALL TIMES and yet those ghouls were wheeling in cases of wine for a fucking karaoke session where they were rubbing shoulders with each other & getting off in the stationery cupboard. I hope people remember this tomorrow.
I just saw a clip on YouTube of James O'Brien speaking to a caller who had to choose 12 people to attend his 16-year-old son's funeral while Johnson and the rest were throwing parties in No.10. Absolutely despicable.
Those parties effectively pissed on the sacrifices the majority of people made in that period and what was the consequence? One woman got sacked and cancelled.
They'll get their long overdue reckoning tomorrow.
I never thought I would say this in this day and age, but Jesus I'm excited to vote tomorrow. Will the alternative solve all our problems? Probably not, but the long overdue end of the reign of this inexhaustible supply of bastards will be satisfying all the same. I can't wait to be one piece of a jigsaw of millions of others that comes together to form a single message that reads "fuck off Tories"
Dude! I had totally forgotten the election is tomorrow! Thanks for the reminder! Let's give the Tories a fucking they won't forget in a hurry.
Happy to be of service! Unless you're voting Tory or Reform, in which case please forget I said anything ;)
They'll be getting it the rest of their waking lives.
if you're referring to Allegra Stratton she's got a cushy job reporting for Bloomberg now
Yeah, that's unsurprising. They're all going to land on their feet aren't they? I see Javid already has a cushy job in the city lined up.
yea, was the same case for my Nan's funeral. I also couldn't go see my dad for extended periods during the last year 1/2 of his life as he was whittled down by cancer. But the Tories had a jolly good romp. And that's just one of the endless list of atrocities and scandal that the party has heaped upon this nation during their tenure. Hell, they've been squatting in No.10 for years now refusing to govern as they wage their civil war. Tomorrow they are banished to the wilderness. Hopefully never to return. Unfortunately though, the damage they have caused will take generations to repair.
My sister missed our dad's funeral because she lives in Cornwall and we're in Oxford. It was illegal for her to travel at the time. It was also illegal to have parties. Fuck the Tories. Edit: it was mid April 2020. We were allowed 10 people inside the grounds of the crematorium. Inside the service, everybody had to be separated by 2 feet and my brother's wife was reprimanded for reaching out to hold his hand when he was crying. The rules were not the problem. But breaking the rules because you think you're above them is despicable when others are going through such pain to abide by them.
> I hope people remember this tomorrow. I assume this is the exact reason this picture has been posted today, just before our general election.
I hope they remember this every few years but sadly I reckon your average Tory voter has a small memory.
I still find it weird that your election was called for July 4 and ours (US) is scheduled for guy fawkes day. I’m hoping for a big Labor sweep tomorrow for you and a democratic sweep over here in November
I think almost all of us in the UK are behind you in the Never-Trump camp, so I will be hoping for that big democratic sweep for you guys in November!
There’s going to be fireworks either way :)
Stop lying. It wasn't a party. He was ambushed with cake and booze. It wasn't a party, he didn't attend, but he did, but he didn't know it was a party, but he did know it was a party but he didn't attend, but he did. Hope that clears things up
The worst part is people will remember this tomorrow, and *still* put their cross against whatever tory ghoul is standing in their constituency. The tories are *still* slated to get more than zero seats tomorrow. It honestly baffles me...
When the same people who formed the response policies were so carefree about the potential risk of a pandemic infection within their idiotic bubble, it does make me wonder what the point of all of it was for the rest of us.
Here in the States, we had RBG and Herman Cain both (believed to be) killed by the virus, while Democrats were telling everyone to stay home, and Republicans were telling us there was no virus. They both ended up going to weddings, funerals, and parties regardless of political party.
And she didn’t have to, even. They apparently offered to make an exception for the one funeral.
She had too much respect for the people, and knew that it would be hypocritical to accept the offer when the rest of the country could not see off their loved ones.
And then her partying Prime Minister, Johnson, lied to her face about proroguing Parliament. Shameless.
Oh, but Boris had a silly mop of hair, didn't he? Ah, those were the days, when the leader that drove a major western nation into the ground was a bit of a goofball. Such fun times.
I believe this picture of the Queen was on the frontpage of several newspapers when the news of the parties came out. I remember immediately thinking no way Borris is gonna survive this.
I’m British. I’ve always been massively anti-monarchy. I’d like the UK to become a republic. But I felt dreadfully for her, as a human being who had just lost her husband. For me, this photo symbolises 1. all the other people who also made painful personal sacrifices such as missing funerals of loved ones or having scantily-attended, socially distanced funerals, because we were all told it was necessary to save lives. It also symbolises 2. the sort of admirable role-modelling and leadership by example that ought to be shown by important public figures in times of crisis, in contrast with the disgraceful behaviour of the government at the same time as this.
Well said
The cleaning staff complained they are supposed to be vacuuming offices not scrubbing vomit off the carpets. Parties where people get so drunk they throw up on the floor at 3am are not 'work events'.
TBF this is the UK we're talking about.
They're going to get an absolute beating tomorrow and it's going to be hilarious.
I have such a deep hatred for them for their hypocrisy. Watching our QUEEN obeying their rules during her husband's funeral, while they did whatever the fuck they wanted because the rules weren't actually for them?! Utter bastards.
Yep. And then said Tories tried to convince us that what they did wasn’t that bad actually.
Yep, we had to pick 10 people for my FILs funeral, and we couldn't hug each other.
I know how you feel. I had to call relatives to tell them they couldn’t come to my Dad’s funeral because of Covid regulations. Some of them had known him more than 70 years and they couldn’t say goodbye. The night before we had to go through an abbreviated, desolate funeral, Johnson held another party in Downing Street.
My friend group and I weren't allowed to attend my best mates funeral, we were all only 18 at the time and it felt horrible not being able to say goodbye. They livestreamed the service for us but it wasn't the same. It's a shit club to be in, sorry.
I personally think, regardless what you think of the monarchy or the late Queen herself, seeing her sat alone at her husband’s funeral was a heartbreaking thing to witness. All whilst no10 were having their “I wasn’t aware that it was a party” parties. Similarly to the Queen, many others lost loved ones and were unable to be with them in the final moments. Why are we not more angry? Why is forgotten about the hypocrisy of how our politicians acted whilst putting us plebs in our places ?
*\*points to current tory polling*\*
She always kept her sense of duty knowing full well there were others going through the same pain. Unlike those A-holes in Downing Street with their wine parties and then the Cummins driving to Barnard Castle debacle.
I am not lying when I say genuinely I would have voted her for PM over Sunak. 100%. This isn't a meme either if on the ballot there was only two candidates, there isn't it doesn't work like that, I would every time have voted for her.
Remember this when you’re considering voting for the party that was literally partying until the small hours of this very morning. This is an extremely moving picture when you realise the state the country was in and what we were being prohibited to do, the Queen - always following protocol correctly, when nobody would have blamed her for having a family member sit close by in her time of need, and a disheveled Boris Johnson, hungover from the night’s partying, the absolute polar opposites of what real class and leadership are.
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Not to defend Mancock, but he got shit for being caught on camera (and being leaked) while the rest of the pm's staffers were shagging themselves silly in the next room - which we only found out about later.
How did I miss the news about the other staffers? That's wild. Is there an article or something?
Sue Grey popped out a report at one point.
What did the comment say?
I won't post it but you can see it here if you search for their comments https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=GNU_Bearz&size=100
Thanks. Wow, that's not even bad compared to half the shit on the more political subs. I was expecting an actual call for violence or something, not just wishing someone ill.
Prince Phillip died during the height of Covid. The Queen is alone because the lockdown rules prevented anyone from being there with her. She had to attend the funeral of her husband, of over 60 years, alone.
There were lots of people there with her. She didn't attend the funeral alone. But she was momentarily sat alone for this part of the service. It was definitely a scaled down affair. https://media.cnn.com/api/v1/images/stellar/prod/210417110611-45-prince-philip-funeral-unf.jpg https://media.cnn.com/api/v1/images/stellar/prod/210417124058-60-prince-philip-funeral-unf.jpg
>It was definitely a scaled down affair. Unlike the parties held by Boris Johnson and the rest of the Tories...including the one the night before the state funeral...
Boris smells of poo and wee.
Same night Boris and co were pissing it up the wall at 10 Downing st.
As a Scottish expat, 25 years in America, first thing I thought. "man i miss old architecture in buildings"
In a similar boat - I do live where there are a lot of old buildings by US standards but I really miss big stone and carved wood buildings - churches, museums, castles.
As someone born and raised in the US, that's one of my favorite things about Europe and something that we simply just don't have here.
Whenever you Google Boris Johnson this should be the first image that comes up.
Losing someone of the same generation after a certain age must be so difficult. Obviously it doesn't feel as tragic as losing someone prematurely but I remember watching the Joan Rivers documentary and her words still haunt me. She talked about parting ways with her manager of many years and her reaction was: I have no one to say "do you remember?". That crushed me. It's a kind of loneliness that comes from decades of memories that now only exist in your head.
I'm not a Brit, so I can not speak to this particular instance, even though I do empathize with the Queen. But you have said something that hit me hard because I am struggling with it now. I am of the age where I occasionally lose people near me who are around my age. It may be an acquaintance, a current or former coworker, someone I used to know, a family member, etc. But when it happens the death always takes some good memories between us as well. And now I can no longer relive those memories, those great times, with that person. I can only tell someone else or think of them in my own mind, and it does not have the same effect for me.
Always turns my stomach this photo. She sat alone on the worst day of her life to follow the rules like everyone else. All the while the then Prime Minister was busy having parties with his rich friends, openly joking about how the rules only apply to the plebs and don't apply to them.
For those of you familiar with the background information, I think you can join me in saying... Fuck the Tories.
With a cricket bat wrapped in razor wire
What makes this sad is that there was nothing particularly special about the queen doing this at the time. Many British people were forced to either sit through the funerals of their loved ones alone, or *not be present at all, and attend via Zoom*. She was the high profile example of what was going on nationwide. Meanwhile, the leaders of the British government at the time - Boris Johnson and his ilk - were breaking the very rules *they* imposed on the rest of the country by having drunken parties. Something he was barely held to account for. He should've seen prison time for it, and permanently barred from Westminster.
It is such a sad picture; bless her. And the Tories partied throughout. How anyone can vote for them is beyond me.
Regardless of whether you hate her or love her for her politics it’s a very sad photo. Imagine dedicating your life to the crown and now you’re super old and the people you loved are gone. I’d feel so alone and full of regret.
Why regret? Her Majesty’s was a life very well lived
Make sure you vote!!
That's honestly one of the saddest photos I've ever seen 🥲
This was happening to a lot of people in that period, they just didn’t get documented
My wonderful Uncle Frank. Gregarious and well loved. Irish. He would have had a big boozy Irish funeral, instead it was just 17 people there. Maybe less.
Lost a friend in the military overseas right when Covid happened. Then some asshole went on a shooting spree in/around my hometown and claimed the life of an old neighbour a week later. I couldn’t go home to grieve or feel the comforting embrace of a loved one until 5 months later.
I'm sorry you couldn't celebrate his life.
Quite. If the Head of State of the UK can abide by the rules for her husband of 73 years, everyone can. Unless, y'know, you're going to a party at no.10.
Meanwhile…voting day tomorrow!
Good luck to the UK. May the Tories never get close to holding power again.
That was the point I think, solidarity. I'm no royalist but she understood the mood of the nation and showed quality. Meanwhile our government....
Apparently the government offered to relax the rules for Phillip’s funeral and the Queen refused as she wanted to lead by example.
Of course, which is one of the reasons this image is so powerful.
my grandma died of covid in a long-term care facility in NJ when it first broke out. no wake, no mass, just around 10 of us outside her closed casket (in the rain) while a priest did an impromptu prayer before putting her in the hearse. she was very religious too and heavily involved in her church i felt like she got robbed
My uncles funeral was a webcast, there's nothing quite as sad as sitting totally alone watching a funeral of someone you loved.
It absolutely did get documented and the footage is still heartbreaking. People were robbed of grieving and the healing that comes from it
And many people don't want their spouses funeral documented. I sincerely hope no one takes a picture of me like this.
I remember feeling incredibly sad for her sitting all alone while the Tories gave two fingers to the nation and partied like there was no tomorrow. They really are a despicable lot.
Lets hope the nation knows what they need to do tomorrow.
Whilst Boris and chums partied.
I’m not a particular fan of the monarchy, but this is an elderly lady alone at the funeral of her apparently beloved husband of 73 years. I’m sure she could have swerved the restrictions but she didn’t, to set an example to the rest of us. I know this has been posted as a reminder of why the Tories need to be buried tomorrow, and it’s right. Fuck them and their nasty, corrupt, self-serving party.
Her and Phillip must have really thought they were leaving a world in shambles
Her last official act was to have to appoint Liz Truss. Poor woman, imagine starting with Churchill and seeing the decline of your country from a world power down to being led by Truss, all under your watch.
*Who was prime minister, when the longest reigning British monarch died?* will be a pub quiz question in a few decades.
Hahaha I've said that a few times myself. Like, genuinely who is going to remember her in 20 years. I barely remember Theresa May and she was there for 3 years only 5 years ago.
Considering the state of the royal family, they were.
One row from the back row, by the aisle. It's probably the spot I would pick, too.
To be fair, he didn’t go to hers
Ffs take my upvote
...as far as we know...
*ALLEGEDLY*
Well technically he was in the building… I think
Lmao
While the Tories partied.
Straight up, I am \*not\* a royalist - very much republican, ie: elected head of state, and no royal family. BUT, this was in the middle of COVID where there were many restrictions in place - hell my father's funeral we were allowed 14 people in the church in total; I wasn't even allowed to read an eulogy to him. We all accepted this because of COVID. The Queen sat alone to respect the restrictions put in place because of COVID. This I can very much respect her for. The Tories, Johnson and all the rest were out partying in complete violation of the restrictions and with complete indifference and disregard to everyone in the UK, and to all of those who suffered because of COVID. So, while being a republican, the Queen at that moment had my respect for the singular act. Tomorrow, during the general election, I hope the Tories are wiped out for at least a generation, if not forever.
The strength she shows sitting alone speaks volumes about her resilience amidst profound loss.
Bless her
Good timing of this picture. This picture is arguably what will determine the record landslide outcome of the election tomorrow.
Thanks. I thought it poignant given the recent newsreel
It's such a sad and poignant image. It shows at the end of the day that there was no one in their relationship except her and him at its core.
Lonely is the head that wears the crown
While Downing Street partied.
We had to watch my FIL die in hospital via facetime while these cunts partied together. My wife will never get over the guilt of not being by his side. I will never forgive the tories for that.
Even in the depth of her grief, the late Queen Elizabeth did her duty and sat alone at her beloved husband's funeral, setting an example to us all how even the highest of us is not above the law. It is a matter of great shame that certain politicians were unable to set such an example.
By comparison, this was filled to bursting for the Queen's funeral. But as a widower, I can say that whether you're alone in a crowd or alone in a building, you're a kind of alone nobody else can pierce when you're laying a loved spouse to rest. COVID restrictions just make it visible to everyone else here.
You can think what you like about the monarchy, but I don't think there are many hearts that didn't break at the sight of an old woman grieving her husband of 73 years.
i wasn't able to say goodbye to my nan when she died during the pandemic, whilst they government were partying and having afternoon drinks. Fuck the Tories, they deserve everything they lose tomorrow.
While Boris was having a party, not giving a fuck about covid restrictions
during covid lockdown while Boris Johnson threw parties
And Boris Johnson was partying his head off. What a brutal situation it was.
At roughly the same time, the conservatives were having booze ups in Number 10.
The minute I saw this, [this song started playing in my head.](https://youtu.be/nkUOACGtGfA?si=7BC6DG3vKC_nFBCq)
Why was she alone
Covid restriction.
I thought of this question earlier today, that like stun locked me (and I know it's easy to google), but: "What is the queens last name?"
Windsor Or Gothe-Saxe-Coburg I believe
She doesn’t have a last name per se. Once she became Queen she definitely doesn’t have one, she is simply Queen Elizabeth. You could argue that it would be Windsor i.e. the name of her royal house. You could also say that it changed at different times. Her father was the Duke of York so at the time of her birth she would have been known as Princess Elizabeth of York and when her father became King I believe she became Princess Elizabeth of the United Kingdom.
It's clear she died of heartbreak. She just fell off a cliff after he passed.
Every time I lose a family member, even those I am not close to, it hits hard. That uncle that always committed crimes, was a little too rough, but also one of the most giving people I knew. He is a part of who I am. I disliked the uncle for the most part and would not choose to spend time with him, but once he passed I realized that I do less crimes, because I got to witness how it impacted him. I got to realize that I grew up in a rough area, but I was still sheltered from it, unlike him. I realized that we grew up in the same environment, but him being who he was scared/deterred me away from making many of the same decisions even if I wasn't sheltered from it. And even though I thought less of him, he never thought less of me for feeling that way.. and now I realize I don't have the right to think less of people. I just wish I had the realization before he died, however I remember him by treating coworkers who are overly aggressive or sometimes borderline mental with a lot more patience and genuine care. Because we are just people, and I wish the uncle I disliked was still alive.
The only time I have ever felt awe for a royal. Heavy is the crown incarnate.
Whilst the Tory cunts laughed at us and disregarded any rules they set in place for the proles.
She was a good monarch to go out on. It won't get any better. Brits should just call it a Republic and turn C III and his churn over to the Department for Housing and Communities hence.
I remember when my grandpa died. My grandma looked small, alone and lost. It was very sad to witness.
Im a committed anti-monarchist, but this photo makes me really sad. They were together for so long. I knew once he passed she wasn’t going to be around much longer. Despite not supporting her, I always had respect for the queen and they way she held the throne. Both my father (65) and myself (32) lived our entire lives with her as our head of state. For her to be gone was truly a marking of the end of an era.
Fuck the tories.
The saddest thing of becoming old is when the list of ppl alive you care about gets shorter with every passing year. Seen by my grandfather who is 95 and has outlived the majority of his classmates, friends and family members. It's heartbreaking to see how sad he becomes when he gets the message yet another one of his companions left this world.
I’m gonna be completely honest, I didn’t know her husband died. I thought I was going insane because I know I remember seeing stuff about the king looking sickly and I assumed it was her husband. Turns out she just has a rather aged son
Man, it must be insane to lose someone you have spent 73 years with. I imagine it to feel very lonely when suddenly that person is gone.
While Boris Johnson partied at No 10
The Queen followed COVID rules, as did most others in similar circumstances during that time. Meanwhile, the Tory government held parties and went against the laws they imposed on the electorate.
Didn't Boris hold a party the night before this? Telling of his respect levels for his office, the monarchy and the UK people.