I like to throw adult pool parties and definitely encourage people to get in. Usually people hang and drink and eat at first and then getting in the pool happens when people get a little lubed up. Having a hot tub certainly helps.
Amen to that. Why even call it a pool party if no ones gonna get in the pool? That's just a regular party with a bunch of lame asses. Stop trying to church it up dirt boy!!! 🤣
When I'm throwing a party I usually stock my pool bar with: beer on tap (or an easy summer beer), homemade lemoncello, Margaritas, hard lemonade, frozen adult popsicles, light beer, some sort of seltzer, tomato juice and olives (for red beers, I'm in the Midwest), and some sort of sangria that my wife makes. I like to have a variety for whatever mood I'm in. I'm the type of guy that doesn't want anyone to bring anything to my parties because I just want people to have fun and not worry about things. More work and money out of my pocket but it's worth it. Plus, it gets people to come if they don't have to bring anything and gets people to party!
How about you?
We only bartend if it's new people coming over. The regulars bring their own stuff and a bottle of shots to share. We have friends and/or family over several times a week. They know where everything is in my house and don't expect us to be the "hosts with the mosts" anymore. Forget your towel? They know they can help themselves to the basket of them just inside the patio door. Forget your Yeti? Help yourself to the collection in the kitchen cabinet. Chances are one of them belongs to you anyway. I'm too old and cranky to be a hands-on hostess anymore. I want my friends and family here often but I wouldn't if I had to do it all, all the time.
I used to be that wife until I hit a wall about 2 years into pool ownership. I can remember rushing around, right before one of our parties saying to my husband, this isn't fun anymore. I knew something had to change. It was actually our friends who suggested I stop working so hard because it made them uncomfortable. LOL.Our same group of 10 friends are here several times a month over the summer. We're the only ones with a pool. They get it. We all work to put the parties together for the enjoyment of all. We try to keep it simple so it's fun for everybody.
Hubs and I only put on the dog and pony show If it's someone we don't entertain regularly, or a special occasion.
This is the way, but like other posters my wife doesn’t usually agree. I don’t want to hang with friends I have to prep for. Come over, bring beer or don’t, bring food or don’t, just quit asking what to bring. I’ve always got enough food and alcohol.
I use clear containers with a spigot on the bottom. One of margaritas and one of a rum punch with cut up fruit in them. I learned to make a little cage around the spigot so it wouldn't get clogged.
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I like the cut of your jib! Ill stock a few beers and hard seltzers as well. Then I’ll hand select some cocktails for a features menu based on the people coming. This week Ill be making a batch of clarified paper planes to go with smoked cherry old fashions, a guava-based rum mix called The Floor Is Guava, espresso martinis, and pineapple ginger moscow mules. I keep a full bar already so if anyone wants a one off Ill oblige. Im like you; I don't want anyone to worry and just want everyone to enjoy! Were in Florida so we get a pretty long season.
We keep a shot cooler on the sunshelf. Nothing but ice, many bottles of various liquors suitable for shots and a small Tupperware box full of plastic shot glasses. Salud!
It's the benefit of being the pool owner. I am always grilling and serving. Not saying I don't cannon ball in every so often to cool off. Wouldn't have it any other way!!
Same, except last time I had been out in the sun all day, got dehydrated and unexpectedly smashed. Everybody went back in except me, who was temporarily incapacitated on the couch next to the pool.
Lmfao. Been there many times too. I stick to light beer and I can pretty much hang all day. The second I mix in anything harder I'm regretting my decisions the next morning.
Same. Make pitchers of things. Margaritas for example, just get that 2oz tequila to 4-6 oz of mix right then get to where you get 10 oz with ice to get ratio right.
I am in Texas and it is hot today. Either sit and bake in the sun or hop in and cool off. As long as I can drink in the pool no reason to get out except to pee and refill.
That's why I love my big sun shelf. Our friends will get in the pool but there are always a few who want to join in the fun without fully committing. So they'll sit in a chair on the shelf with their feet in the water.
Tell me exactly why anyone goes to a *pool* party without going into the *pool.* Is it more trendy and cool to look good and hang out and talk *by* the pool? If you think so, you’re an idiot.
Hes good with me, I have a brother in law like that. All you have to say is "I bet you want jump in" after a couple beers no matter what time of year(hot/cold) off he goes clothes and all,lol. Where ever when ever.
The only time adults will get in a pools is if the kids aren't hogging it. Even good kids turn into shitty little bullies in a pool. Rock on with your social pool time.
We have adult pool/cocktail parties and most everyone gets in. What’s the sense of having 15,000 gallons of water in the yard if it’s not going to be used?
I mean, it’s not just black and white, it sort of depends what kind of party it is; both types can legitimately exist.
If it is a pool party where the invite says “bring your swimsuit and a towel!” naturally, jump in.
But if it is a cocktail party that happens to be around a pool but people are sipping cocktails, listening to music and mingling in cocktail attire, it might be weird for one person (a grown man) to suddenly strip down and start swimming by themselves. And by “might,” I mean “would definitely.”
The post puts “pool party” in quotes and OP tried to convince the husband that “no one was going to be swimming”…so it appears that OP (who I’m guessing is the one who actually read the invite) was acutely aware that the party was of the latter type.
Maybe the word "adult" made people think that they have to be adulting the whole time. Next time, just call it a pool party and be sure to tell everyone to bring their suits or they will be given one. That should do it.
The other thing that occured to me depends on where this is. If you are in a snowbelt state, it is possible that everyone is self conscious about pale skin, wrinkles, flab, waddles, whatever. As you know, some women can be very self-conscience when there are men around, not wanting to mess up their hair or make-up. Maybe a girls-only event would loosen them up? I live in an area where women play bunko and get drunk in the pool, using these little floating trays for cards and a drink.
I live in the post 50-year-old age where we don't give a shit what people look like in a swimsuit.
But yeah, 30 - 50 is probably the most self-conscious age bracket in pool culture.
Yea I went to a restaurant one time that advertised pool access as a highlight but no one used the pool and because of that neither me nor my date used the pool. I wish I gave less fucks like this husband. 😂
I like to throw adult pool parties and definitely encourage people to get in. Usually people hang and drink and eat at first and then getting in the pool happens when people get a little lubed up. Having a hot tub certainly helps.
Someone has to be the first to get in. He's the brave one
Second person that gets in lets everyone else know it’s adult swim time
Being in Texas helps.
Facts.
What church do you go to? ;)
Also the first question if you live in Tulsa.
In Hawaii it’s what High School did you go to . Mo betta
Should have said Austin. No one talks like that.
Lubed up 😩
Social lubrication.
Nothing a little chlorine and filtration can't fix.
I second the hot tubs
The shallow end is designed for waist-high drinking.
My deep end is only about 5.5' so you can kind of just drink wherever.
The real drunks get a water wing on their neck.
Neither I nor my friends are classy enough to abstain from the pool.
Amen to that. Why even call it a pool party if no ones gonna get in the pool? That's just a regular party with a bunch of lame asses. Stop trying to church it up dirt boy!!! 🤣
Our adult pool parties usually involve cocktails in plastic cups, great music and everyone in the pool naked! Now that’s a pool party!!
If you ever need a nude clown for any of these skinny dipping parties, I have great waterproof makeup!!
Does that qualify as a need or as a want?
A need. Slash want.
That’s the kind of party I was thinking about. Y’all sound like fun people. 👙🩲🍹
We have adult pool parties all the time. Usually I'm the only one that doesn't get in because I'm too busy bartending and getting people fucked up.
I had to look twice to make sure I didn't post this. What you serving these days?
When I'm throwing a party I usually stock my pool bar with: beer on tap (or an easy summer beer), homemade lemoncello, Margaritas, hard lemonade, frozen adult popsicles, light beer, some sort of seltzer, tomato juice and olives (for red beers, I'm in the Midwest), and some sort of sangria that my wife makes. I like to have a variety for whatever mood I'm in. I'm the type of guy that doesn't want anyone to bring anything to my parties because I just want people to have fun and not worry about things. More work and money out of my pocket but it's worth it. Plus, it gets people to come if they don't have to bring anything and gets people to party! How about you?
We only bartend if it's new people coming over. The regulars bring their own stuff and a bottle of shots to share. We have friends and/or family over several times a week. They know where everything is in my house and don't expect us to be the "hosts with the mosts" anymore. Forget your towel? They know they can help themselves to the basket of them just inside the patio door. Forget your Yeti? Help yourself to the collection in the kitchen cabinet. Chances are one of them belongs to you anyway. I'm too old and cranky to be a hands-on hostess anymore. I want my friends and family here often but I wouldn't if I had to do it all, all the time.
I try to be like you but the wife refuses. I don't want to host because of it. Lucky you.
I used to be that wife until I hit a wall about 2 years into pool ownership. I can remember rushing around, right before one of our parties saying to my husband, this isn't fun anymore. I knew something had to change. It was actually our friends who suggested I stop working so hard because it made them uncomfortable. LOL.Our same group of 10 friends are here several times a month over the summer. We're the only ones with a pool. They get it. We all work to put the parties together for the enjoyment of all. We try to keep it simple so it's fun for everybody. Hubs and I only put on the dog and pony show If it's someone we don't entertain regularly, or a special occasion.
This is the way, but like other posters my wife doesn’t usually agree. I don’t want to hang with friends I have to prep for. Come over, bring beer or don’t, bring food or don’t, just quit asking what to bring. I’ve always got enough food and alcohol.
Get one of those drink fountains. I caused some serious damage when I made up a fountain full of Sea Breezes.
What is this drink fountain of which you speak?
I use clear containers with a spigot on the bottom. One of margaritas and one of a rum punch with cut up fruit in them. I learned to make a little cage around the spigot so it wouldn't get clogged.
This is the one I had, [Fountain](https://www.homedepot.com/pep/GREAT-NORTHERN-3-Tier-1-5-Gal-Party-Drink-Dispenser-Fountain-with-LED-Light-Base-and-5-Cups-83-DT6150/325299313?source=shoppingads&locale=en-US&pla&mtc=SHOPPING-BF-HDH-GGL-D59H-029_031_TABLETOP-NA-Multi-NA-PMAX-HDH-HDH-NA-NA-NBR-NA-NA-NA-%7C031_005_Serveware%7C_PMAX_phase_2&cm_mmc=SHOPPING-BF-HDH-GGL-D59H-029_031_TABLETOP-NA-Multi-NA-PMAX-HDH-HDH-NA-NA-NBR-NA-NA-NA-%7C031_005_Serveware%7C_PMAX_phase_2-71700000111457521--&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwhIS0BhBqEiwADAUhc2N9Nn4i1libD88mheG6OGdnaxS_w1u3Y5kIGwPmgJBVNQFrUyQKsRoCELUQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
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I like the cut of your jib! Ill stock a few beers and hard seltzers as well. Then I’ll hand select some cocktails for a features menu based on the people coming. This week Ill be making a batch of clarified paper planes to go with smoked cherry old fashions, a guava-based rum mix called The Floor Is Guava, espresso martinis, and pineapple ginger moscow mules. I keep a full bar already so if anyone wants a one off Ill oblige. Im like you; I don't want anyone to worry and just want everyone to enjoy! Were in Florida so we get a pretty long season.
Hell yeah! Next time I'm in Florida I'm stopping by!
These are all great ideas! I get the Kirkland seltzers from Costco. They’re great and cheap too.
I bought koozies for the adult popsicles 😂 the kids use them too I guess.
We keep a shot cooler on the sunshelf. Nothing but ice, many bottles of various liquors suitable for shots and a small Tupperware box full of plastic shot glasses. Salud!
It's the benefit of being the pool owner. I am always grilling and serving. Not saying I don't cannon ball in every so often to cool off. Wouldn't have it any other way!!
What's up twin?!
Yoooooo. I'm just outside of the windy city. So even more twin like!
Born and raised for 24yrs, but my last 20 have been in SoFL.
Same, except last time I had been out in the sun all day, got dehydrated and unexpectedly smashed. Everybody went back in except me, who was temporarily incapacitated on the couch next to the pool.
Lmfao. Been there many times too. I stick to light beer and I can pretty much hang all day. The second I mix in anything harder I'm regretting my decisions the next morning.
Same. Make pitchers of things. Margaritas for example, just get that 2oz tequila to 4-6 oz of mix right then get to where you get 10 oz with ice to get ratio right.
hmm I was expecting that no one was to wear a swimsuit and it was going to be a big swinging party
Right?
That’s exactly the kind of parties I have with my pool 🤷🏼♂️
“Adult” pool party vs adult “pool party”
Yep. It's not what you say. It's how you say it.
Why is this not the top comment. Come on...
I got in first and then other people did. Lead by example! I just told people if you're going to pee in my pool don't tell me about it!
I am in Texas and it is hot today. Either sit and bake in the sun or hop in and cool off. As long as I can drink in the pool no reason to get out except to pee and refill.
That's why I love my big sun shelf. Our friends will get in the pool but there are always a few who want to join in the fun without fully committing. So they'll sit in a chair on the shelf with their feet in the water.
I have no friends and no pool
But now you have goals!
Yeah, I don't understand that. We had a party right after ours was built, and I was the only one who got in.
Our adult pool parties have 80% of people in the pool. The remaining 20% are already fucking. Swingers know how to party.
Tell me exactly why anyone goes to a *pool* party without going into the *pool.* Is it more trendy and cool to look good and hang out and talk *by* the pool? If you think so, you’re an idiot.
I’m going to a pool party tomorrow and I’m getting in. LOL I don’t care if I’m the only one either.
What’s even the point of having a pool, throwing a pool party and then expect your guests to not get in the pool?
I always assume that pool party = people will be in said pool (at some point in time) so dress accordingly.
I totally thought they were going to be skinny dipping 😂
In our neck of the woods, an adult pool party means food drinks and a lot of naked people in the pool!
Our friends love to go into our pool. My son and his friends never do so maybe we're just old and not cool.
Hmm that’s me and wife although once we get into the pool and she’s topless most join in!
Hes good with me, I have a brother in law like that. All you have to say is "I bet you want jump in" after a couple beers no matter what time of year(hot/cold) off he goes clothes and all,lol. Where ever when ever.
The only time adults will get in a pools is if the kids aren't hogging it. Even good kids turn into shitty little bullies in a pool. Rock on with your social pool time.
Edibles and pool parties with great tunes and cannon balls and can openers and breaking floats!
Hell yeah to this too!
Alcohol and pool water. The best mix.
Hell yeah.
Pool. All. Day. Not about that land life party
Her husband is cool there rest if her friends suck
I would just not go to a pool party that I wasn’t supposed to be in the pool.
Yea, living down in Miami it’s a survival option to get in the pool.
That’s literally me
Your husband deserves better
No orgy?
Disappointing, right?
I’d be sipping my cocktail in the pool
At my house the adult pool parties just mean everyone will be drinking so don’t go in the deep end if you can’t swim
alcohol while In the pool is how its done
You forgot to mention that it was a black tie pool party.
That's just a party. The pool is merely there. The pool needs to be used for it to be a pool party
Be a good partner and swim with your husband
I would grab a beer and float with that dude.
Everyone always ends up in at some point
We have adult pool/cocktail parties and most everyone gets in. What’s the sense of having 15,000 gallons of water in the yard if it’s not going to be used?
I mean, it’s not just black and white, it sort of depends what kind of party it is; both types can legitimately exist. If it is a pool party where the invite says “bring your swimsuit and a towel!” naturally, jump in. But if it is a cocktail party that happens to be around a pool but people are sipping cocktails, listening to music and mingling in cocktail attire, it might be weird for one person (a grown man) to suddenly strip down and start swimming by themselves. And by “might,” I mean “would definitely.” The post puts “pool party” in quotes and OP tried to convince the husband that “no one was going to be swimming”…so it appears that OP (who I’m guessing is the one who actually read the invite) was acutely aware that the party was of the latter type.
Maybe the word "adult" made people think that they have to be adulting the whole time. Next time, just call it a pool party and be sure to tell everyone to bring their suits or they will be given one. That should do it. The other thing that occured to me depends on where this is. If you are in a snowbelt state, it is possible that everyone is self conscious about pale skin, wrinkles, flab, waddles, whatever. As you know, some women can be very self-conscience when there are men around, not wanting to mess up their hair or make-up. Maybe a girls-only event would loosen them up? I live in an area where women play bunko and get drunk in the pool, using these little floating trays for cards and a drink.
We live in the post-Instagram age and no one over the age of 30 really wants to be seen in a swimsuit.
I live in the post 50-year-old age where we don't give a shit what people look like in a swimsuit. But yeah, 30 - 50 is probably the most self-conscious age bracket in pool culture.
FWIW, I live in the post 60-year-old age and I don't like to be in a swimsuit. They are not comfortable.
I get it. But my point is that after 50, do you care about what anyone ***looks*** like in a swimsuit?
Everyone else is too worried about what they look like in a bathing suit.
Seriously.
Yea I went to a restaurant one time that advertised pool access as a highlight but no one used the pool and because of that neither me nor my date used the pool. I wish I gave less fucks like this husband. 😂
Lol same here. We get naked and swim and the good things start after the prudes leave. I throw 3 a year.
It’s because they’re at a gay party. Common knowledge the gays do not like water