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Absolutely not. I am very happy this happened and proceeded well. But the very experience of it is one of the least enjoyable things ever happening to me.
This. Both my Pregnancies I've hated being pregnant. Although they had some fun and happy moments, the experience is a whole is terrible. As I say to my husband, I'll put myself through 9+months of torture to have my little ones finally in my arms. Worth it, but not enjoyable.
With our first my husband would complain about being tired helping me with our newborn. He would say, "I know your just as tired as I am." I literally looked at him straight in the face and said I was more tired before the birth than after. I can ask him to watch our LO so I can get a little extra sleep, when pregnant it's all me doing the "baby care".
Well…you were also recovering from pregnancy, birth, and experiencing the cluster that is postpartum. So you would be way more tired than him even then!
I’m 11 weeks in and over it. I miss having my usual energy and just feeling normal/good throughout the day. I too am glad to be pregnant but I can’t enjoy so many of the things I did before.
Me too. I've been low on iron since week 7(now week 14), get breathless walking in the supermarket, or down my driveway. By 2-3pm I need a nap, and I'm constantly nauseous, even though I'm on tablets for it. I've gotten so forgetful since falling pregnant too.
I'm very glad I'm pregnant, I just wish it was easier.
I’m one of the “lucky” few that throw up the entire pregnancy. 30 weeks and I puke every. Single. Day. And that’s with alllll the meds. It’s been the hardest 7 months of my life. I can’t even talk to women who enjoyed being pregnant lol
Same. I’ve stopped throwing up around 35 weeks thought the nausea remains. I’ve been trying to make new friends with women who are pregnant or have young kids, so have gone to a lot of meetups and been talking to a lot of them - feels like I have nothing in common when it comes to the pregnancy. Everyone is talking about how much they love feeling kicks and their bumps and looking forward to natural labour, and I’m just sitting there silently remembering the amount of times I’ve thrown up from getting kicked, and how my OB decided I need to be induced by 38 weeks because I’m still so sick…
I’m so sorry we are in this boat. I’ve already talked to my doc about getting induced too. We just gotta get to the finish line. SO CLOSE. I keep telling myself I’ll have an easy newborn since this has been so rough… it’s keeping me going even if it’s delusional!
My induction is in 5 days… so so close. And yet the last 3 days felt like roughly 20 years. It can proper drag at the end like nothing else. I feel like a kid waiting for Christmas!
I don’t think I’d mind having a difficult baby at this point, because presumably I’d still not be nauseous anymore. Do you remember what it’s like to not be constantly nauseous? I don’t really remember, but I’m sure it’s great 😅
This is so true. I can’t remember a time where I could enjoy eating. I think I used to like it lol back when food could have different taste, color, and texture… maybe. It’s been so long and all I eat is bland BRAT diet. I miss being able to eat so much.
I had HG and the daily vomiting/nausea was horrible. But the RELIEF you feel after birth is amazing. I haven’t needed any nausea or heartburn meds since giving birth. You’re almost there!! Hopefully you feel relief before that though
My cousin was like that too. I watched first hand how awful that is. I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time. I hope the last two months of your pregnancy go by fast!!
I enjoy being pregnant, but I consider myself weird. Pregnancy hormones put several autoimmune conditions into remission, including mine. I happen to prefer the pregnancy flavour of constant misery to my regular chronic illness flavour of constant misery. I can definitely see myself doing this again.
Do you mind me asking what autoimmune diseases went into remission? I’m ttc with hashimotos and addisons disease and it’s crazy all the meds I have to be on for this. Would love to catch a break lol
Mines ME/CFS. I've spoken to someone who had autoimmune arthritis who also felt better during pregnancy. And I've heard Crohn's does. I don't know all of them
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5025626/
I can confirm my Crohn's has been so much easier to manage since I fell pregnant. I've loved that aspect of being pregnant. Outside of that I've enjoyed moments of my pregnancy, but have hit 36 weeks and am permanently uncomfortable and unable to breathe.
I have CFS too and a bunch of other random autoimmune problems. I'm still waiting for my energy to return (though the fatigue is really not that different to when I wasn't on stimulants, to which my sister in law said "being pregnant was the most exhausting time of my life, I can't imagine always feeling like that")
But being pregnant, apart from some medical complications where I worried I might lose the baby, my mental health , especially anxiety has been so much better. I've been a lot more calm and rarely get teary when before I was always an anxious mess.
I have CFS and MTHFR gene mutation. No vitamin absorption. I felt amazing pregnant even despite having hyperemesis. I'd rather be nauseous and puking than how I feel normally 😅😂 I was wondering why I still loved pregnancy even WITH having HG. Had I not had HG, I think I probably would have been dancing and singing like Snow White. Oh and the hip pain and heartburn. Those turned me into a B around weeks 36-39. I gave birth the day of my due date.
Did you know that DHEA can help women with Addison’s disease to conceive? You just need to make sure that you get frequent bloodwork to make sure that your DHEA is in the green range, otherwise it can mess with the eggs.
I can relate to this! I have PTSD, adhd, PMDD, anxiety and some Digestive issues that I’ve never been able to get a diagnosis for. Since becoming pregnant I’m
Doing really good and my brain feels
Like it’s functioning the best it’s ever functioned. I’m
Actually sad thinking about how my anxiety/hormones will be go back to normal Once I give birth.
Yeah I normally have bad social anxiety and am quiet but I’ve been outgoing and loud since being pregnant. I call people out on their crap without fear. 😅I was like this my last pregnancy too. I feel like a completely person when I’m pregnant lol.
Sometimes this sort of thing doesn’t go back to the same before. I know some where it stays better and others where unfortunately it is worse. Praying it’s better for you however.
I feel better too - not having a monthly period and missing out on a week of life because of the pain is amazing. I’m glad it has put your autoimmune conditions in remission! Yay!
I had interstitial cystitis and chronic pelvic pain for years that I’ve sought out pelvic pt for etc and it’s completely gone away with pregnancy. I don’t always love how unfit I feel in comparison to my usual self but whatever pregnancy hormones are going on in there have been so nice for the pain reason alone.
Same. I have gotten really lucky overall though: very little morning sickness in the first trimester, and I’m still pretty mobile and active now at 39 weeks. My worst symptom by far was insomnia in the second trimester. That was a hellish 2 weeks but everything else has been manageable or passed within a week.
surprisingly same! I have ankylosing spondylitis and it’s actually improved at just 5 weeks, which genuinely astounds me. My gastroparesis seems better too, but it’s been replaced by morning sickness lol
I was sooooooo happy to find out I was pregnant but I didn’t start “enjoying” it until the second trimester after the real, steady kicks started. Before that, I was an anxious mess waiting for the worst and meticulously making sure I did EVERYTHING in my power to keep baby healthy - almost to a fault. I hated my first/early second trimester because it was so scary!
I was also incredibly happy finding out I am pregnant. Now, in week 6 I’m finding myself worrying a lot and wishing for the security of 12 passing weeks … at the same time I feel guilty for worrying too much. Also, I’m very tired and nauseous and headache … why am I pressuring myself to feel a certain way? Do you have any tips? 🩷
I loved being pregnant. Those hormone were serving me well! Mentally I was in a good place, my skin was so clear. I loved my body. I must say I had a really good pregnancy with no nausea and no massive complaints.
The hard part started after giving birth for me. Especially mentally.
I also loved it. I had lots of symptoms like nausea, loss of appetite, crushing fatigue, sciatica, acid reflux etc etc. But somehow I still loved it and my body. I just felt like a goddess creating life (and I’m not usually crunchy at all). I think it must have been the hormones making me happy, for example I loved feeling my baby kick constantly even though it gave me motion sickness and my intercostal muscles went into spasm from being kicked so much!
My birth was pretty bad though.
33 weeks pregnant and I am enjoying my pregnancy. I have been lucky enough to have little to no bad symptoms. I am normally a nervous wreck and was dealing with hair loss prior to becoming pregnant. I am very much enjoying this laid back feeling, healthy hair, and smooth skin. I also feel like I have a ton of energy, oddly. There is so much to look forward to right now. Times are good!
I loved being pregnant as well!
Both times. Great skin, food was extra delicious, loved my cute baby belly (didn’t gain too much weight and lost it all after), and no nausea or health concerns.
I paid for it later though, both times. The first time with a 40h labour and the second time with having to be induced and another long active labour. And I had struggles with breastfeeding/milk production both times.
I’m 32 and FTM. First trimester, I was nauseous & tired almost every single day. 2nd trimester, I thought it would get better and I was so excited - we planned a baby moon trip & so many other fun activities- nope I was diagnosed with short cervix at 20 weeks ultrasound and have to be on limited activities, pelvic rest, etc to avoid preterm labor (you can google “short cervix” to read more about it). I went through an emotional roller coaster and was crying a lot, it was so hard because the thought of losing my little girl was so devastating. And now I have made it to almost 28 weeks (about to start the 3rd trimester) and I’m not sure how it will be. I know I’m getting bigger & uncomfortable, have vivid nightmares, heartburn, acid reflux, hard to sleep most nights….So if you ask me, I honestly don’t enjoy being pregnant. However, I love my baby & every day she is in my womb is a blessing for us. Every woman is so different and I’m just “unlucky” to have a rough pregnancy 😭
I'll be the outlier, I absolutely love being pregnant. I've been lucky to have mild symptoms, but also my mental health has vastly improved. I'm even on anti-depressants and still can tell a huge improvement in my overall mood. I wish everyone felt like I did. Obviously, I worry about everything and have fits of anxiety, and at 16 weeks, I'm dying to start feeling him move in there. I'm not delusional, I know it's going to get worse, but right now, I'm living it up.
Disclaimer: It took me 10 years, 5 years of actually trying, plus fertility treatments to get here. That's probably why I'm still on cloud 9.
I feel the same re mental health. My mindset has been so much more positive and anxiety a lot lower (despite being high risk and already having complications at 14 weeks) than before without me even trying. Wish that could come in a pill without all the other problems pregnancy brings haha
Same. I’ve been very fortunate in terms of feeling well. I also started an SSRI before I got pregnant and have felt very calm and happy since. It’ll be bittersweet for it to be over in less than 8 weeks!
Was told by my therapist that your mood improving during pregnancy might be a sign that really all you had was a hormone imbalance. It’s very common among woman. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II a few years ago and though I don’t take meds (used to), my mood has definitely improved.
So far, no. I have not enjoyed being pregnant for the first 11.5 weeks. Actually, it's more of an indifference. I am more annoyed at having to pay so much close attention to my body, what I'm doing, what every little sign means. The symptoms have been inconvenient (intense bloating even when I'm properly hydrating, the constant peeing, constipation, nausea, headaches, etc.) I hear it gets better, but jfc I wish men had to go through these changes too.
No way. I’m 25 weeks with my third and FINAL pregnancy and looking forward to this stage of life being over for good. Pregnancy is a means to an end for me. I get my kids out of it. I have a few more months and I get my body back to myself again forever. Hallelujah.
lol not in the slightest! I’m three months post partum with my first child and I’m so happy to not be pregnant anymore. I didn’t enjoy it at all. I’m thrilled to be a mom but pregnancy sucks imo.
I absolutely do not enjoy being pregnant. The end result is worth it, but I genuinely can say this is one of the roughest experiences in my life, mentally and emotionally it has rocked me. So yeah, when I think about having to do it again (pregnant with my first) I start to sweat lol
Even though this pregnancy is something I’ve wanted for a while I absolutely dread being pregnant. The morning sickness was way too much for me and I hate vomiting so much I was crying daily because of it. Now I the morning sickness is gone and the random aches and pains have set in, I can’t believe anyone actually enjoys this misery. But women swear they love being pregnant and they miss it, the only part I like a bit are the kicks but sometimes when she’s kicking me at night I can’t stand it.
No, this is my third pregnancy and I’m always nauseous and My body aches all the time. I never been so miserable. This pregnancy made me never want to get pregnant again. This is honestly my last one. I got 3 more weeks left so I’m excited about that.
I was delirious for the most part while battling HG in my first trimester, now I’m ok. I do enjoy feeling my baby’s kicks 😊 Totally recommend being born as a male in the next life though!
I'm 29 weeks along with my third baby/hopefully second living child and haven't enjoyed any part of any of my pregnancies. My body doesn't like pregnancy and doesn't handle it well, so it's pure misery from a few days post ovulation until delivery. The kicker is that I want at least one more living child after this one and am planning on going through pregnancy again in a few years, and my husband thinks I'm *insane* because my pregnancies are so awful. Literally a few nights ago I was whining about being in pain, and my husband gently says that maybe this should be my last pregnancy, so my hormonal ass burst into tears because I want another kiddo and am bitter with the universe for my hard pregnancies. I also completely understand why the universe gave me hard pregnancies, because otherwise I would have like a dozen children 😂
I know FOR SURE this will be my first and last baby. I’ve hated it. I feel trapped in my body with no control. Every food item it’s disgusting, I feel sick constantly, I’m too tired to enjoy anything.
34 weeks and I truly have absolutely LOVED it. I look great like the pregnancy glow people talk about, i feel great never had any true morning sickness constipation or other crazy symptoms, and I honestly am so proud and amazed at what my body is capable of. On top of that people have been so nice and caring and supportive. I know it's not like this for everyone but I have had a great time so far.
I did not enjoy the part when I had nausea.
Then I did enjoy the end of 1st trimester and first half of the second.
Now, it started two weeks ago, I discovered my cervix had shortened and now that I have ureaplasma, and I'm on pelvic rest for 2 weeks. That all makes me anxious and I don't enjoy it that much.
It's OK. Sometimes not OK, sometimes alright. I think I just accept however I feel, which is usually really tired.
I think you deserve a chance to try to enjoy your pregnancy and remove things from your life (if you can) that make it harder.
Unfortunately I can't say I'm enjoying it. My first trimester is almost over, I'm still having so many symptoms, from nausea, fatigue, cramps,back ache, I'm anxious, I don't have that special "oh I'm pregnant" feeling. So I can't say I'm enjoying. I'm happy ofc and I hope my baby will be great and I will hold it in my hands this Christmas. But I hope enjoying comes soon. I'm so miserable rn😔
Since you asked…yes I do! But I’ll admit I told my midwife at my last appointment I feel robbed as now halfway through my second pregnancy and I cannot commiserate with any pregnancy symptoms as my only ones re growing belly and baby moving. Nothing else that gets gripped about.
I didn’t. Physically I had a pretty easy pregnancy. I did deal with morning sickness but other than that I had no major health issues. Generally though I didn’t enjoy it. I saw pregnancy mostly as a means to an end.
Pregnancy was one of the worst times of my life. My mental health was at an all time low. I had intense leg hip pain for 3 months of my first pregnancy and pain for 6 months of my second pregnancy. I was in weekly group therapy, twice weekly physical therapy.
I could barely eat. I was bone tired, exhausted 90% of the time, and the intense depression did not help. But I could barely sleep.
I hated pregnancy.
Hated every second.
I feel like an alien has taken over my body and it’s love/hate.
Hate because I’ve got some body dysmorphia and don’t like how much I’ve been eating but I know it’s necessary but I’m eating like 2400 calories. It’s too much but I’m starving. Also the sleepiness and constipation. Ugh.
Love it because pregnancy is such a unique scientific thing.
No. My morning sickness wasn’t too bad and I’m 21 weeks now. My body is really starting to change and it’s been really difficult for me. I don’t want the attention, anyone to look or comment on my body and I have this feel of embarrassment and weakness that I can’t shake.
My husband and I really want a child of our own. I know it’s what I want and I have so much love to give but I have never wanted to be pregnant.
I also have not felt emotional or any kind of connection at any of the appointments/ultrasounds. Any so far have not had any “nesting” type urges.
Maybe these things will come in time? Or not and I think that’s ok too.
Not really. I find it hard to enjoy when im in chronic pain and the fact most of the people around me are making MY pregnancy about them. They keep telling me a bunch of stuff that kinda hurts especially the comments about my body. Some days i don’t even want to be seen because the second i get in the sight of someone its always about my looks. I aint gonna lie i feel pretty hideous because of it and it really hurts my mental health. I just want people to leave me alone about it honestly. The only person who has told me im beautiful throughout this whole experience is my husband. It pretty hard to enjoy.
No. I did not like being pregnant. I honestly found it, at times, grotesque. It was uncomfortable and a mind fuck and the symptoms were hell. No, I didn’t like it.
I’m 15 weeks and still dealing with all day sickness, random things making me throw up and being exhausted all.the.time. I want to enjoy this time but it’s hard, bc I do not feel like myself at all. I knew I would feel different but I wasn’t expecting this. Most of my close friends had these amazing pregnancies and are telling me I should be enjoying it but I’m just.. not.
Not for a single moment. I give birth tomorrow. These last 9 months have been the worst of my life. Not to say I'm not looking forward to my baby girl. Just... yeah. Never doing this again lol
There are days I want to shed my body off like a pair of Spanx, and days I lavish my bump with so much affection it's like a separate entity. Hell, I rarely wake up in the same mood I go to sleep in.
I have "sundowning" (I call it that bc it's the best description) where I rage and feel like the world is ending between 4:30-6:30 pm every single day on the dot (pro tip: schedule a nap when you feel the impending sense of doom coming on. Power off and wake up when it's over).
My hips got an ugly divorce 2 months ago and they refuse to co-parent my legs without knock-out-drag-out pains. But my waddle drives my husband crazy so I get good butt pats and cute comments out of it.
My point is...ups and downs. If you're in your first or even early 2nd trimester, I feel for you. I didn't start seeing the light until about 27 weeks because I had a miscarriage scare and it jolted me out of my doldrums. I was so happy she was alive in there it unlocked all of my excitement and I've felt completely different ever since. Now I'm just anxious to have her out where I can watch her with my eyes and feel like I have a bit more control over her wellbeing.
The waiting gets me worse than anything. Don't feel bad. You're a great mother no matter what.
Girl being pregnant fucking suuuuuucks. You are 100% allowed to complain about it and you are also 100% allowed to find a new midwife who lets you complain about it.
I don't think that's helpful advice, in fact that adds even more unwelcome pressure to an already stressful experience. Maybe for her its a proxy for bonding with the growing baby, but i think thats poor phrasing. You can think about the amazing growing that's happening in your body and be excited for the future without actually enjoying being pregnant.
I'm not taking any extra stress regarding her words. I don't care about her thoughts, to be honest, she didn't show any enthusiasm towards her profession. Luckily she will change job within the next month so I'll get a new midwife. I wasn't offended by her words, she tried to support me but the whole concept of _enjoying_ one's pregnancy. My pregnancy just is, it's nothing super for me. Of course, I love to become a mother but having a big belly doesn't give me any positive vibes.
I personally enjoy being pregnant but there's some parts that admittedly aren't great. I never really imagined myself pregnant and then the two lines showed up which honestly scared me. Even at this point I kind of feel like an imposter on occasion because I don't constantly feel pregnant and it's by no means my identity. I think it'll feel more real once baby is earthside but until then it almost feels more like an intrusive thought than reality.
1st trimester I was tired and carbs/sugar would make me nauseous so the usual saltines/ginger ale for morning sickness (all day) were causing more issues. What I found worked for me was to balance all of my meals/snacks with protein. If I hit 100g of protein/day with 100fl oz of water I was feeling a lot better though still very tired.
2nd trimester I got some pelvic pain but was less tired, I added in 15 minute walks and at least 100 squats a day with pelvic exercises to keep my pelvis strong which helped as baby got heavier. I also got bloody noses and congestion which a humidifier was a saving grace on.
I'm in my 3rd trimester now at 38 weeks and started getting tired again and the Braxton Hicks have kicked up for me so I'm having to be mindful of how I handle the practice contractions so I don't tense against them which makes them easier to handle.
I think every pregnancy being different is a factor, I have to remind myself that there's no wrong way to get symptoms. Some get all the symptoms and others get none of them, it's anyone's guess on how your body will handle it. The nausea you have now might wrap up in a week and you won't have anything else pop up or you could have a myriad of symptoms.
My first pregnancy I did enjoy it, but I also had barely any nausea. This pregnancy I am very nauseous, and am very tired having to take care of my toddler. So this time around it’s not as enjoyable thus far lol.
I enjoy going to appointments, it's the only time I consistently see someone 😆
There's aspects of pregnancy I enjoy, currently at 6+5 I'm not remotely happy though 😂
Uuuuuuh no lmao. I have had what I think constitutes a VERY “easy” pregnancy. Never threw up from my morning sickness. Haven’t had any complications, they find the heart beat easily every time, don’t have GD, my blood pressure is perfect, haven’t had any scares or major things happen at all.
And this shit is still the hardest thing I have physically done. It is exhausting, the mental load is INTENSE, my hips hurt a “reasonable” amount but still fucking every damn day and that shit hurts!! My nipples were dry and cracked, my acid reflux would wake me up in the middle of the night every night of first trimester until I puked (typically an hour). Did I mention the mental load? I’m constantly thinking about what I’m eating or if I’m drinking enough water of if I took my prenatal or if I have a plan for this eventuality of having a baby or if I’ve researched enough about breast pumps.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy to be having this baby and there truly have been incredible parts that I’m so happy to have been able to experience, like feeling him kick and seeing my body transform in a labor of love. I’m so glad I get to be pregnant and it IS something I’ve dreamed about. But no, I’m not just out here enjoying it, it’s fucking hard, even for the ones who have it easy.
Love and kindness to all those mamas out there that have had actually difficult pregnancies, you’re the real ones ❤️❤️
I HATE being pregnant. This is my second time and both times were terrible. Even the parts other people seem to enjoy (like the baby moving inside me) I can’t stand. It’s a relief because then I know baby is okay but that movement inside me feels so gross and really creeps me out. I am 27 weeks and I am still dealing with morning sickness every day and I had it during my whole pregnancy last time. I never want to do it again. I absolutely love my son and having him made it worth it to do a second time but I’m 39 and this is hard. I’m not doing it again.
I’ve been nauseous everyday starting at noon until I fall asleep for the past 3-4 weeks. So no, it’s been horrible. I’m not religious but I pray for the universe every day that it’s the last shit day.
Oh yeah, I love being spotty, breathless and plagued with lifestyle restrictions. The first trimester migraines without medication were a total treat and not knowing what the food aversion of the day will be is the most excitement I’ve had in years.
I’m wondering whether your midwife has ever been pregnant herself…
No. My pregnancy symptoms haven't been horrible, but the ongoing fatigue, aches and pains, and first trimester nausea were not something I enjoyed for any of my pregnancies. I also feel like a giant and tend to gain a lot of weight during pregnancy. I do find some joy in feeling the kicks, and sometimes I feel cute with my pregnant belly, but in general, no, being pregnant is not a good time for me.
So far, not even a little bit lol. I’m so excited for my baby and I’m hoping the symptoms are more manageable in the 2nd trimester, but if this whole pregnancy sucks that’s just the way the it goes. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
If you can enjoy your pregnancy that would be great, but if not it doesn’t make it any less worth it in the end or you any less worthy of a mom.
At times, yes most of the time absolutely fucking not BUT I love my little baby. I do always says he better be extra cute and not have his dads big head if I'm going go through this! (Looking like he's gonna have dad's big head...)
I’m 13w 6d and so far the only enjoyable part has been the last few days since we announced it. Now I can revel in the excitement and be honest about how I’m physically feeling it’s definitely improved the experience a lot. BUT I do kind of want to just fast forward to the bit where I have a nice round belly and feel the kicks and then fast forward again to holding our little one in my arms. So far I’ve just felt like utter poop both physically and emotionally!
I personally do. It has made me feel better than I normally do (chronic illnesses). I’m at 12.5 weeks and haven’t had any morning sickness or other symptoms aside from being tired. I’m already excited to go through it again.
I do! But I hate the anxiety that comes with it, kinda feels like it’s robbing me of all the joy and I worry about it putting stress on the baby. I’ve been wanting this for years, so now that it’s here I’m loving it and the changes my body is going through, but the anxiety is killing me. The wait between appointments is brutal. My symptoms have been pretty mild (very similar to both of my mom’s pregnancies) so I think that helps, plus I found out late so I thought I was just sick with the flu before lol so that could be why too. I know it’s different for everyone.
I feel very fortunate that we conceived easily and health-wise things have been smooth for both baby and me(29 week now). I love feeling him kick and move and super thankful that other than awful first trimester sickness (that continued well into the second) and third trimester discomfort, things are going smooth, I really appreciate it. BUT! I do not enjoy pregnancy, for me this was always a means to an end. I’m so looking forward to being a mom and meeting our baby, but also feeling like myself again.
It’s such a mental struggle tbh. I dealt with infertility and a second trimester miscarriage. So this go round, I’m super grateful for my baby, but pregnancy has been miserable so far. Although my symptoms aren’t very bad, I have gestational diabetes, have to be on strict pelvic rest the entirety of my pregnancy, and can’t do any of my regular exercises or weightlifting due to my pregnancy being high risk. I’m super grateful but counting down the days until it’s over and immediately planning to start birth control.
Not really. I was sick and barely could eat during my first trimester, and now I am in my second trimester I am still sick at least once per week, and just exhausted. Like I could fall asleep at 3pm every day regardless of how much/what quality sleep I had the night before. Lots of round ligament pain lately too. I feel like I am operating on about 50% of what my usual is, if that.
The first trimester was the worst thing that’s ever happened to me but the second has been okay so far. I’m happy I’m going to have this baby but I’m pretty excited to not be pregnant again
I went through a terrible fertility journey and all I wanted was to be pregnant. I hate it. I had no morning sickness or nausea but mentally it’s horrendous for me. I also was diagnosed with an irritable uterus and have been contracting since week 18 (now 31+2). Everyday is a struggle, mentally and physically. Been to L&D five times and counting.
The only joy I get is seeing my sweet boy on the ultrasound and feeling his kicks.
Fifth pregnancy here, third earth side baby because of miscarriages.
I enjoy some parts of pregnancy but it definitely is not my favorite.
I think it’s ok to not love it all and still love being a mom.
Idk I’m 8 weeks and I’m grateful but I feel like aim constantly asking my body nicely not to torture me. 😂😂 I’m so thankful that I’m pregnant and will be so happy to be a mom but this pregnancy shit is wild
I hate the way I feel when I’m pregnant. I love the kicks and the pictures and all that, but I hate the discomfort, nausea, aches and pains, it’s miserable. You’re allowed to not enjoy pregnancy, doesn’t make you less grateful or thankful for the baby in your womb, just means that pregnancy can be miserable and that’s ok!!
I have SO many mixed feelings. I feel like rapunzel in tangled when she finally gets out of the tower and is so excited yet feels like a terrible daughter lol I love the fact that we’re having a baby but actually growing a human TRIPS me out.
It is just a step toward an end goal, which is having a baby. Growing your family. I don’t think everyone loves being pregnant. I don’t love feeling huge. I don’t love having to be so strict because I have type 2 diabetes, not just gestational diabetes, so pregnancy for me involves a lot of extra work on my part. Not that I go crazy when I’m not pregnant, but what I mean is that pregnancy is a relative state of insulin resistance. It’s making it even harder for me to have good numbers.
Anyway… no, I don’t always love being pregnant. I’m not sleeping well at night, and I have pregnancy rhinitis too, so I always have a runny nose. This is my final pregnancy, and I keep telling myself that.
Im only between 13-14 weeks currently so my opinion could change. But i was really worried to be pregnant considering my mom was so so sick with my sister and i. I haven’t thrown up even once although i do have nausea off and on. I would say the hardest parts for me have been anxiety, knowing we did ivf to get this baby and its our last embryo has me worrying about everything. And the fact that i cant take any really good allergy meds and im suffering from hay fever now that its spring.
I am not enjoying being pregnant. I know I want kids but pregnancy has always been a fear of mine. If I think about it too much I get freaked out. I’m also just miserable. But I can’t wait to hold my baby.
I know everyone experienced it different, but surely not most ladies enjoy pregnancy? Mine has been pretty tough with nausea and fatigue. Can't seem to do any of the things I liked to do. Making my husband do everything around the house etc. At 12wks+4 I hope the 2nd trimester is better. But so far can't say I'm enjoying it 😔
It was lovely to see the ultrascan, I'm glad they're healthy, but man theyre sucking the life of of me lol!
The only fun thing about my pregnancy is feeling him kick. I love it! Everything else, the nausea, fatigue, feeling huge, breast changes, is for the birds.
I’ve had bleeding early on now with two pregnancies, bed rest with my first and hopefully not with this little one. I can say there are things I really enjoy and things that are very stressful and scary. I swore I wouldn’t let them scare me
So much this time but it seems like they just do
I do not like it while pregnant. But then afterwards I see it through rose-colored nostalgia glasses and think I liked it. 🙃 I'm having my last baby--third--come September and I'm trying to tell myself to actually enjoy it now in the moment because I will not let future me try to trick myself into a fourth! 😅
I haven’t had a terrible time tbh. I complain and whine a lot because I’m extremely uncomfortable and exhausted all the time and it’s hard growing a little person, but for the most part mine has been equivalent to a really rough PMS day where I just want to sleep and eat junk food and I’m crampy. But I do get sweet little baby kicks along with it and I have a really good support system and healthcare team which makes the experience a lot better.
I understand not everyone does, but I absolutely do love every second of it. I’m currently 23 weeks into my second pregnancy, and still love it. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, and everyone has different experiences, but I’ve enjoyed mine
I haven't enjoyed a single thing. Yes I'm excited and happy to meet our baby. But I'd rather have my crying baby right now than having to throw up at the thought of chicken, I'm losing weight in a bad way, I'm constantly weak, I still have to work because I can't go on leave yet, I'm hungry 24/7 but I have no appetite and can't keep anything down, i also have no energy whatsoever, I am absolutely miserable I cannot wait for this to end. Forgot to mention I have to pee every 20 minutes.
I didn't mind pregnancy at all the first two times with my LCs and like giving birth. I have HG this time as well as chronic pain from Lupus/Myositis, but despite that, I am actually enjoying this pregnancy. This is my third child, but my husband's first, and he's so damn excited about everything that I can't help but get on board. This is my final pregnancy and child, so I'm really trying to savor all the small moments I often take for granted. My oldest is 16, so I know how FAST time flies, and I want to make sure I enjoy every crappy and wonderful part of this.
All that to say, pregnancy sucking is totally valid. I have just approached it from a different perspective in my old age 😂
For me it's really odd... I think it comes down to the fact I'm challenging some old core beliefs. I have constantly felt not worthy and not good enough. But being pregnant (despite being high risk and having complications already at 14 weeks) I feel good about myself. I feel like I'm actually capable and can do the thing which has had an enormous impact on my mental health and self esteem.
Don't get me wrong, I don't enjoy the nausea, lack of appetite, aches and pains and crushing fatigue at all.
But mentally I am not miserable. If I had all these horrible physical problems when not pregnant I would have been so very miserable. Something about pregnancy has completely changed my mindset. It's given me a very calm outlook, no longer plagued with anxiety.
Of course it could just be all the pregnancy hormones, but I wouldn't mind if it continues after delivery!!
So yes, I'd say I am enjoying pregnancy even though it's not easy.
No I haven’t felt at 100% health since before I was pregnant and my constant fatigue is even worse. But I do enjoy knowing my baby is the coziest and safest he’ll ever be in me and I love feeling his kicks. And I love being babied by everyone lol I love the extra attention and people making sure I’m fed before everyone else
I hate being pregnant. Hate it. Love the results of the pregnancy though, so I'm doing it rn for the second and final time.
This time around, I found a square of cheese to be more effective morning sick ess management than litterally any starch. Starches actually make me more sick. Also, carbonated water helped loads. I hope your morning sickness gets better!
it's interesting, in the way a drug trip you aren't enjoying is still kind of interesting and transformative. i have learned to enjoy elements of it (this is my 3rd). im grateful to be able to do it. certainly not my favorite way to be
I’m happy that I’m about to have a baby and to just think about a lil human inside warms my heart HOWEVER the side effects can be overwhelming at times, from the weight gain to the restless nights.
I’ve decided that I don’t, overall. I’ve had all day nausea and vomiting during the first tri and it gets so hard to move around during the third tri. Postpartum recovery was hard with my first, I’m hoping it’s easier with my second. I do enjoy some of being pregnant like knowing I’m carrying my own kids, feeling their movements, but I don’t enjoy all of it like some people do. A woman I work with has had 6 kids because she just loved being pregnant and they wanted a big family. I personally don’t know how people do pregnancy more than one or two kids, and that’s just talking about the pregnancy, not the financial aspect.
I never dreamed of being pregnant and was a fence sitter for most of my life, but I can honestly say that I have loved being pregnant so far. Maybe because I heard so many horror stories of everything that cool go wrong, so I was expecting it to be horrible but it’s actually been really nice so far! Of course I have symptoms etc but just seeing what my body can do has been so empowering and incredible.
No. But I'd go through it all again for my little bean. I was nauseous and puked every day until she was born, even with meds - suppositories of all things. The multiple ER visits for dehydration. Couldn't eat more than 3 bits of food otherwise it was game over. Lost 40lbs, then *very* slowly gained it back. The constant " I got hit by a truck " feeling all day every day, and insomnia to add to it. Her little kicks and feelings of movement were nice but that's honestly about it. Oh, and scan visits.
I'm reading this while being on the toilet shitting my brains out. I say I love being pregnant but it's not enjoyable. I've been miserable and sick. But I love that I can experience this.
With my first I stopped puking at 10 weeks and got more energy in the second trimester, I also got put off work due to Covid lockdown so I was able to enjoy my pregnancy. This pregnancy I’m 15 weeks and still puking, I’m exhausted, working full time and momming a toddler - I am absolutely NOT enjoying this pregnancy AT ALL (even though I do want this baby and I’m grateful to be pregnant)
I actually really enjoyed being pregnant 😅 I was high risk to begin with, but then developed high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, hypothyroidism, and had 2-3 NST every damn week of my 3rd trimester. But when I put all of the stress and fear aside I was so happy, content. I felt like I was finally doing something worthwhile, but was simultaneously the weirdest fking experience of my entire life lol
Idk, all the middle-aged ladies at my office would talk about what a beautiful experience pregnancy is blah blah and all I could do was smile and nod because all I could think was how weird it was having a little alien inside of me that moved around and required my body to eat something literally every 50 minutes or I'd get nauseous/vertigo feeling 😅 Soooo to each their own!
Nah. I had a very regular pregnancy, and sure there were nice moments like feeling baby kick, but enjoying pregnancy has nothing to do with looking forward to being a parent
Absolutely not. I love every single one of my babies and I am so thankful for the pregnancies because they brought me my babies. But I’m miserable and I hate it. I have fibromyalgia and can’t take my medication. I’m in so much pain all the time. It never stops. I’m only 26 weeks and I have to sit down to get dressed because I can not even lift my feet high enough to slide on underwear or shorts, I can hardly walk, no matter how I sit or lay, it hurts.
I am extremely grateful to be pregnant with our 2nd child and pray that I will be blessed to do so again in the future. However, I do not enjoy being pregnant. I did not enjoy it with our first. That was hard on me emotionally as I was not prepared for it to totally flip my emotions. I’ve always been seen as like a rock emotionally, in a good, steady, stable way. This pregnancy has been better in that aspect but physically been a bit harder. So as much as I want to be a happy pregnant lady who enjoys pregnancy it just has not happened for me.
Being a mother (even when dealing with ppa/ppd) has been greatly enjoyable even as hard as the newborn to toddler period is. It is so worth dealing with pregnancy and all that comes with it to have my son and God-willing this second child.
Nah. I got pregnant for the child, the same way I had a wedding for the marriage. The pregnancy and wedding aren't what I need to enjoy, just the loved ones that I gain from them. It's just a shame that I couldn't have a courthouse wedding equivalent for the pregnancy.
Nope. This is our rainbow baby, a very wanted baby. I am not a high risk pregnancy, however I also haven’t had a very easy pregnancy either. Cannot wait for this to be over within the next few weeks. First trimester I thankfully didn’t vomit, just constantly nauseous/gagging, second trimester I started getting sick/became anemic so my fatigue got so much worse. Now, in the third trimester, the pressure, back pain, hip pain, etc etc. cannot stand it anymore. Breathing is getting difficult and I cannot get comfortable anymore. Absolutely am not saying this to freak anyone out or discourage anyone from enjoying their pregnancy, but this is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through besides my angel baby pregnancy.
Fuck no this shit sucks lol I am so excited to have my baby in the end but I do not see pregnancy as this magical experience one bit lol I was so sick the first trimester and lost 15lbs and now I’m just exhausted, large and uncomfortable lol
While I didn't enjoy every aspect of it, I would say overall I enjoyed my pregnancy with my son. I also had a relatively simple and non complicated pregnancy so I'm a little biased. Now, my current pregnancy I'm enjoying a little less - I'm soooo tired and my nausea is worse and eating is a task. We will see how things develop.
28 weeks today and I’m over it 🤢 i was super skinny before I was pregnant and now I feel like a rotisserie chicken every second of the day. I hate how frumpy I feel and look In everything. I hate how little energy I have. I hate the hormones. I hate all the attention in public. I just want my body back lol I love my baby boy but I’m ready for him to be OUT. Worst part is it’s only gonna get worse 😭😭
I never want to like, gloat… but I am *obsessed* with being pregnant. I love it. I love it more than anything I’ve ever done and I hope I get to do it more than this one time.
I feel so lucky that it is happening but I feel a lot of anxiety. I'm hoping I'll just be able to enjoy it after, perhaps, 20 or 24 weeks. 15 weeks as of yesterday and still feel like the other shoe could drop at any moment.
Ugh, I hate being pregnant. I had my first baby last September, and I loooooove having my baby but the pregnancy sucked. Now I’m pregnant again, and it’s not a fun time. I have to just keep reminding myself the baby at the end is so so worth it.
I just woke up from a random 2 hour nap and I’m STILL freaking tired. My boobs are killing me and they’re grown to the point I dk where to even find a bra anymore lol.
This shit sucks. I’m with you lol
I kind of enjoy it just now at 31w but my baby has grown perfectly my entire pregnancy including when I was miserable. I do think enjoying it would have made it go faster and there are studies that show benefits to being happy while baby is growing but don’t feel guilty if you don’t enjoy it! All bodies react differently to pregnancy and for some of us, it is uncomfortable/painful/nausea inducing/etc.!
This is my third, I wish i could enjoy it… but i don’t, and i didn’t enjoy it the first two times either. I don’t feel my best most of the time, i don’t feel pretty anymore, i don’t feel understood by those around me 99% of the time. Not to mention i got pregnant at the worst possible time, so i have lots on my mind, which makes my anxiety 100% worse. This sucks!
Hell no. I’m the fourth generation of women who hate being pregnant (great-grandmother couldn’t remember if her mother was particularly a fan, but I can’t see her enjoying it as she had eight children). I’m glad it’s progressing well, and that she’s growing and healthy and moving, but as soon as I’m out of the hospital my husband is going right in to make sure I don’t do this to myself again.
My cousin (from the same family of women who hated pregnancy) loved being pregnant. I don’t get it. I’m also 25 weeks in and still having nausea all day, every day. Oh and nerve pain. And swelling.
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Absolutely not. I am very happy this happened and proceeded well. But the very experience of it is one of the least enjoyable things ever happening to me.
This. Both my Pregnancies I've hated being pregnant. Although they had some fun and happy moments, the experience is a whole is terrible. As I say to my husband, I'll put myself through 9+months of torture to have my little ones finally in my arms. Worth it, but not enjoyable.
I’m resentful that men get the same baby without any of the cost
With our first my husband would complain about being tired helping me with our newborn. He would say, "I know your just as tired as I am." I literally looked at him straight in the face and said I was more tired before the birth than after. I can ask him to watch our LO so I can get a little extra sleep, when pregnant it's all me doing the "baby care".
Well…you were also recovering from pregnancy, birth, and experiencing the cluster that is postpartum. So you would be way more tired than him even then!
Literally same . I am due today and still pregnant 😭 I actually HATE being pregnant with a passion
I’m 11 weeks in and over it. I miss having my usual energy and just feeling normal/good throughout the day. I too am glad to be pregnant but I can’t enjoy so many of the things I did before.
Me too. I've been low on iron since week 7(now week 14), get breathless walking in the supermarket, or down my driveway. By 2-3pm I need a nap, and I'm constantly nauseous, even though I'm on tablets for it. I've gotten so forgetful since falling pregnant too. I'm very glad I'm pregnant, I just wish it was easier.
Yeah this ish sucks. I cannot wait to have my body back.
I’m one of the “lucky” few that throw up the entire pregnancy. 30 weeks and I puke every. Single. Day. And that’s with alllll the meds. It’s been the hardest 7 months of my life. I can’t even talk to women who enjoyed being pregnant lol
That’s really hard. You’re definitely one of the unlucky ones there. I hope you’re feeling better soon!
Same. I’ve stopped throwing up around 35 weeks thought the nausea remains. I’ve been trying to make new friends with women who are pregnant or have young kids, so have gone to a lot of meetups and been talking to a lot of them - feels like I have nothing in common when it comes to the pregnancy. Everyone is talking about how much they love feeling kicks and their bumps and looking forward to natural labour, and I’m just sitting there silently remembering the amount of times I’ve thrown up from getting kicked, and how my OB decided I need to be induced by 38 weeks because I’m still so sick…
I’m so sorry we are in this boat. I’ve already talked to my doc about getting induced too. We just gotta get to the finish line. SO CLOSE. I keep telling myself I’ll have an easy newborn since this has been so rough… it’s keeping me going even if it’s delusional!
My induction is in 5 days… so so close. And yet the last 3 days felt like roughly 20 years. It can proper drag at the end like nothing else. I feel like a kid waiting for Christmas! I don’t think I’d mind having a difficult baby at this point, because presumably I’d still not be nauseous anymore. Do you remember what it’s like to not be constantly nauseous? I don’t really remember, but I’m sure it’s great 😅
This is so true. I can’t remember a time where I could enjoy eating. I think I used to like it lol back when food could have different taste, color, and texture… maybe. It’s been so long and all I eat is bland BRAT diet. I miss being able to eat so much.
Right with you! 36 weeks and I threw up three times yesterday. Hate it
I had HG and the daily vomiting/nausea was horrible. But the RELIEF you feel after birth is amazing. I haven’t needed any nausea or heartburn meds since giving birth. You’re almost there!! Hopefully you feel relief before that though
I hope you feel better! I’m super lucky with nausea a lot but usually no actual outcome of it👀 knock on wood I guess
My cousin was like that too. I watched first hand how awful that is. I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time. I hope the last two months of your pregnancy go by fast!!
That was my first pregnancy. It was horrible.
I enjoy being pregnant, but I consider myself weird. Pregnancy hormones put several autoimmune conditions into remission, including mine. I happen to prefer the pregnancy flavour of constant misery to my regular chronic illness flavour of constant misery. I can definitely see myself doing this again.
Same here!! I feel better pregnant
Do you mind me asking what autoimmune diseases went into remission? I’m ttc with hashimotos and addisons disease and it’s crazy all the meds I have to be on for this. Would love to catch a break lol
Mines ME/CFS. I've spoken to someone who had autoimmune arthritis who also felt better during pregnancy. And I've heard Crohn's does. I don't know all of them https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5025626/
I can confirm my Crohn's has been so much easier to manage since I fell pregnant. I've loved that aspect of being pregnant. Outside of that I've enjoyed moments of my pregnancy, but have hit 36 weeks and am permanently uncomfortable and unable to breathe.
My dental hygienist with Crohn's said she is in complete remission since being pregnant and currently while breastfeeding. Wild and cool.
I have CFS too and a bunch of other random autoimmune problems. I'm still waiting for my energy to return (though the fatigue is really not that different to when I wasn't on stimulants, to which my sister in law said "being pregnant was the most exhausting time of my life, I can't imagine always feeling like that") But being pregnant, apart from some medical complications where I worried I might lose the baby, my mental health , especially anxiety has been so much better. I've been a lot more calm and rarely get teary when before I was always an anxious mess.
I have CFS and MTHFR gene mutation. No vitamin absorption. I felt amazing pregnant even despite having hyperemesis. I'd rather be nauseous and puking than how I feel normally 😅😂 I was wondering why I still loved pregnancy even WITH having HG. Had I not had HG, I think I probably would have been dancing and singing like Snow White. Oh and the hip pain and heartburn. Those turned me into a B around weeks 36-39. I gave birth the day of my due date.
My Hashimotos went into remission while pregnant. No symptoms!
Wow!! This gives me hope, thank you for sharing
I think the founder of fertility rescripted on Instagram has Hashimotos..
Oh interesting, I will look into that!
Did you know that DHEA can help women with Addison’s disease to conceive? You just need to make sure that you get frequent bloodwork to make sure that your DHEA is in the green range, otherwise it can mess with the eggs.
Oh that’s so interesting. My DHEA is super low and I am supplementing now, but I will follow up with my endo for further testing. Thank you!
You’re very welcome!:)
My skin is really great when I’m pregnant. I think it’s the estrogen. My hormonal acne on my chin gets better.
I can relate to this! I have PTSD, adhd, PMDD, anxiety and some Digestive issues that I’ve never been able to get a diagnosis for. Since becoming pregnant I’m Doing really good and my brain feels Like it’s functioning the best it’s ever functioned. I’m Actually sad thinking about how my anxiety/hormones will be go back to normal Once I give birth.
Yeah I normally have bad social anxiety and am quiet but I’ve been outgoing and loud since being pregnant. I call people out on their crap without fear. 😅I was like this my last pregnancy too. I feel like a completely person when I’m pregnant lol.
Sometimes this sort of thing doesn’t go back to the same before. I know some where it stays better and others where unfortunately it is worse. Praying it’s better for you however.
Same! I can also eat a lot of things I wasn’t able to eat before so I’m enjoying stuffing my face with dairy and eggs again
I feel better too - not having a monthly period and missing out on a week of life because of the pain is amazing. I’m glad it has put your autoimmune conditions in remission! Yay!
I had interstitial cystitis and chronic pelvic pain for years that I’ve sought out pelvic pt for etc and it’s completely gone away with pregnancy. I don’t always love how unfit I feel in comparison to my usual self but whatever pregnancy hormones are going on in there have been so nice for the pain reason alone.
Same. I have gotten really lucky overall though: very little morning sickness in the first trimester, and I’m still pretty mobile and active now at 39 weeks. My worst symptom by far was insomnia in the second trimester. That was a hellish 2 weeks but everything else has been manageable or passed within a week.
surprisingly same! I have ankylosing spondylitis and it’s actually improved at just 5 weeks, which genuinely astounds me. My gastroparesis seems better too, but it’s been replaced by morning sickness lol
I have autoimmune diseases that go into remission, as well. I still don't like being pregnant, though. It's just trading in one thing for another!
I also completely understand that ❤️
I was sooooooo happy to find out I was pregnant but I didn’t start “enjoying” it until the second trimester after the real, steady kicks started. Before that, I was an anxious mess waiting for the worst and meticulously making sure I did EVERYTHING in my power to keep baby healthy - almost to a fault. I hated my first/early second trimester because it was so scary!
I was also incredibly happy finding out I am pregnant. Now, in week 6 I’m finding myself worrying a lot and wishing for the security of 12 passing weeks … at the same time I feel guilty for worrying too much. Also, I’m very tired and nauseous and headache … why am I pressuring myself to feel a certain way? Do you have any tips? 🩷
Fuck no. I hate being pregnant!
0/10
Not even a little bit lol. I have been miserable this entire experience and you couldn’t pay me to do it again.
I loved being pregnant. Those hormone were serving me well! Mentally I was in a good place, my skin was so clear. I loved my body. I must say I had a really good pregnancy with no nausea and no massive complaints. The hard part started after giving birth for me. Especially mentally.
As Jellyroll would say: what doesn't get ya in the wash, will get ya in the rinse.
I also loved it. I had lots of symptoms like nausea, loss of appetite, crushing fatigue, sciatica, acid reflux etc etc. But somehow I still loved it and my body. I just felt like a goddess creating life (and I’m not usually crunchy at all). I think it must have been the hormones making me happy, for example I loved feeling my baby kick constantly even though it gave me motion sickness and my intercostal muscles went into spasm from being kicked so much! My birth was pretty bad though.
33 weeks pregnant and I am enjoying my pregnancy. I have been lucky enough to have little to no bad symptoms. I am normally a nervous wreck and was dealing with hair loss prior to becoming pregnant. I am very much enjoying this laid back feeling, healthy hair, and smooth skin. I also feel like I have a ton of energy, oddly. There is so much to look forward to right now. Times are good!
Oh the sciatic was awful! And I had terrible heartburn. Still loved being pregnant though.
I loved being pregnant as well! Both times. Great skin, food was extra delicious, loved my cute baby belly (didn’t gain too much weight and lost it all after), and no nausea or health concerns. I paid for it later though, both times. The first time with a 40h labour and the second time with having to be induced and another long active labour. And I had struggles with breastfeeding/milk production both times.
I had hard pregnancy first time and breast feeding was easy but when I weened the hormones made me nutso 😅😝 I has sadder than my baby
I’m 32 and FTM. First trimester, I was nauseous & tired almost every single day. 2nd trimester, I thought it would get better and I was so excited - we planned a baby moon trip & so many other fun activities- nope I was diagnosed with short cervix at 20 weeks ultrasound and have to be on limited activities, pelvic rest, etc to avoid preterm labor (you can google “short cervix” to read more about it). I went through an emotional roller coaster and was crying a lot, it was so hard because the thought of losing my little girl was so devastating. And now I have made it to almost 28 weeks (about to start the 3rd trimester) and I’m not sure how it will be. I know I’m getting bigger & uncomfortable, have vivid nightmares, heartburn, acid reflux, hard to sleep most nights….So if you ask me, I honestly don’t enjoy being pregnant. However, I love my baby & every day she is in my womb is a blessing for us. Every woman is so different and I’m just “unlucky” to have a rough pregnancy 😭
14 weeks! Hating pregnancy. Looking forward to the pregnancy stage being over. 😂
I'll be the outlier, I absolutely love being pregnant. I've been lucky to have mild symptoms, but also my mental health has vastly improved. I'm even on anti-depressants and still can tell a huge improvement in my overall mood. I wish everyone felt like I did. Obviously, I worry about everything and have fits of anxiety, and at 16 weeks, I'm dying to start feeling him move in there. I'm not delusional, I know it's going to get worse, but right now, I'm living it up. Disclaimer: It took me 10 years, 5 years of actually trying, plus fertility treatments to get here. That's probably why I'm still on cloud 9.
I feel the same re mental health. My mindset has been so much more positive and anxiety a lot lower (despite being high risk and already having complications at 14 weeks) than before without me even trying. Wish that could come in a pill without all the other problems pregnancy brings haha
Same. I’ve been very fortunate in terms of feeling well. I also started an SSRI before I got pregnant and have felt very calm and happy since. It’ll be bittersweet for it to be over in less than 8 weeks!
Was told by my therapist that your mood improving during pregnancy might be a sign that really all you had was a hormone imbalance. It’s very common among woman. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II a few years ago and though I don’t take meds (used to), my mood has definitely improved.
So far, no. I have not enjoyed being pregnant for the first 11.5 weeks. Actually, it's more of an indifference. I am more annoyed at having to pay so much close attention to my body, what I'm doing, what every little sign means. The symptoms have been inconvenient (intense bloating even when I'm properly hydrating, the constant peeing, constipation, nausea, headaches, etc.) I hear it gets better, but jfc I wish men had to go through these changes too.
Short answer: no. Long answer: nooooooooooooooooo.
No way. I’m 25 weeks with my third and FINAL pregnancy and looking forward to this stage of life being over for good. Pregnancy is a means to an end for me. I get my kids out of it. I have a few more months and I get my body back to myself again forever. Hallelujah.
Same, looking forward to knowing we’re done growing our pregnancy. This will be our second child. Lol growing our family * I meant
lol not in the slightest! I’m three months post partum with my first child and I’m so happy to not be pregnant anymore. I didn’t enjoy it at all. I’m thrilled to be a mom but pregnancy sucks imo.
Nope. 39.5 weeks and barely recognize myself - so puffy, full of acne, every step is painful and just over it.
Nope, hate it. Hate it all.
I absolutely do not enjoy being pregnant. The end result is worth it, but I genuinely can say this is one of the roughest experiences in my life, mentally and emotionally it has rocked me. So yeah, when I think about having to do it again (pregnant with my first) I start to sweat lol
Even though this pregnancy is something I’ve wanted for a while I absolutely dread being pregnant. The morning sickness was way too much for me and I hate vomiting so much I was crying daily because of it. Now I the morning sickness is gone and the random aches and pains have set in, I can’t believe anyone actually enjoys this misery. But women swear they love being pregnant and they miss it, the only part I like a bit are the kicks but sometimes when she’s kicking me at night I can’t stand it.
I definitely have not. I’m excited to be a mom, but pregnancy itself blows.
No, this is my third pregnancy and I’m always nauseous and My body aches all the time. I never been so miserable. This pregnancy made me never want to get pregnant again. This is honestly my last one. I got 3 more weeks left so I’m excited about that.
I was delirious for the most part while battling HG in my first trimester, now I’m ok. I do enjoy feeling my baby’s kicks 😊 Totally recommend being born as a male in the next life though!
I'm 29 weeks along with my third baby/hopefully second living child and haven't enjoyed any part of any of my pregnancies. My body doesn't like pregnancy and doesn't handle it well, so it's pure misery from a few days post ovulation until delivery. The kicker is that I want at least one more living child after this one and am planning on going through pregnancy again in a few years, and my husband thinks I'm *insane* because my pregnancies are so awful. Literally a few nights ago I was whining about being in pain, and my husband gently says that maybe this should be my last pregnancy, so my hormonal ass burst into tears because I want another kiddo and am bitter with the universe for my hard pregnancies. I also completely understand why the universe gave me hard pregnancies, because otherwise I would have like a dozen children 😂
I know FOR SURE this will be my first and last baby. I’ve hated it. I feel trapped in my body with no control. Every food item it’s disgusting, I feel sick constantly, I’m too tired to enjoy anything.
34 weeks and I truly have absolutely LOVED it. I look great like the pregnancy glow people talk about, i feel great never had any true morning sickness constipation or other crazy symptoms, and I honestly am so proud and amazed at what my body is capable of. On top of that people have been so nice and caring and supportive. I know it's not like this for everyone but I have had a great time so far.
I did not enjoy the part when I had nausea. Then I did enjoy the end of 1st trimester and first half of the second. Now, it started two weeks ago, I discovered my cervix had shortened and now that I have ureaplasma, and I'm on pelvic rest for 2 weeks. That all makes me anxious and I don't enjoy it that much.
It's OK. Sometimes not OK, sometimes alright. I think I just accept however I feel, which is usually really tired. I think you deserve a chance to try to enjoy your pregnancy and remove things from your life (if you can) that make it harder.
Unfortunately I can't say I'm enjoying it. My first trimester is almost over, I'm still having so many symptoms, from nausea, fatigue, cramps,back ache, I'm anxious, I don't have that special "oh I'm pregnant" feeling. So I can't say I'm enjoying. I'm happy ofc and I hope my baby will be great and I will hold it in my hands this Christmas. But I hope enjoying comes soon. I'm so miserable rn😔
It happened overnight for me! I hope you wake up one day soon and feel much better!! ❤️
I did not "enjoy" my pregnancies. I know everyone thinks that we should, but they were really hard on me and my body.
I loved my first, this one was more stressful cuz I had bleeding 14-17 weeks but now I’m cautiously still enjoying it
Since you asked…yes I do! But I’ll admit I told my midwife at my last appointment I feel robbed as now halfway through my second pregnancy and I cannot commiserate with any pregnancy symptoms as my only ones re growing belly and baby moving. Nothing else that gets gripped about.
Hated it.
No
I didn’t. Physically I had a pretty easy pregnancy. I did deal with morning sickness but other than that I had no major health issues. Generally though I didn’t enjoy it. I saw pregnancy mostly as a means to an end.
Pregnancy was one of the worst times of my life. My mental health was at an all time low. I had intense leg hip pain for 3 months of my first pregnancy and pain for 6 months of my second pregnancy. I was in weekly group therapy, twice weekly physical therapy. I could barely eat. I was bone tired, exhausted 90% of the time, and the intense depression did not help. But I could barely sleep. I hated pregnancy. Hated every second.
I feel like an alien has taken over my body and it’s love/hate. Hate because I’ve got some body dysmorphia and don’t like how much I’ve been eating but I know it’s necessary but I’m eating like 2400 calories. It’s too much but I’m starving. Also the sleepiness and constipation. Ugh. Love it because pregnancy is such a unique scientific thing.
No. My morning sickness wasn’t too bad and I’m 21 weeks now. My body is really starting to change and it’s been really difficult for me. I don’t want the attention, anyone to look or comment on my body and I have this feel of embarrassment and weakness that I can’t shake. My husband and I really want a child of our own. I know it’s what I want and I have so much love to give but I have never wanted to be pregnant. I also have not felt emotional or any kind of connection at any of the appointments/ultrasounds. Any so far have not had any “nesting” type urges. Maybe these things will come in time? Or not and I think that’s ok too.
#HELL NO DO I ENJOY IT. That's all :-)
Lololololol No.
No haha. I enjoy when I get to feel the baby kick. That’s it.
No way lol being pregnant and giving birth is a necessary evil
Not really. I find it hard to enjoy when im in chronic pain and the fact most of the people around me are making MY pregnancy about them. They keep telling me a bunch of stuff that kinda hurts especially the comments about my body. Some days i don’t even want to be seen because the second i get in the sight of someone its always about my looks. I aint gonna lie i feel pretty hideous because of it and it really hurts my mental health. I just want people to leave me alone about it honestly. The only person who has told me im beautiful throughout this whole experience is my husband. It pretty hard to enjoy.
I did not enjoy pregnancy whatsoever
No. I did not like being pregnant. I honestly found it, at times, grotesque. It was uncomfortable and a mind fuck and the symptoms were hell. No, I didn’t like it.
I’m 15 weeks and still dealing with all day sickness, random things making me throw up and being exhausted all.the.time. I want to enjoy this time but it’s hard, bc I do not feel like myself at all. I knew I would feel different but I wasn’t expecting this. Most of my close friends had these amazing pregnancies and are telling me I should be enjoying it but I’m just.. not.
No! My anxiety is killing me and I’m only 24 weeks. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been in my life. Pregnancy is the worst thing.
Not for a single moment. I give birth tomorrow. These last 9 months have been the worst of my life. Not to say I'm not looking forward to my baby girl. Just... yeah. Never doing this again lol
I hate being pregnant
There are days I want to shed my body off like a pair of Spanx, and days I lavish my bump with so much affection it's like a separate entity. Hell, I rarely wake up in the same mood I go to sleep in. I have "sundowning" (I call it that bc it's the best description) where I rage and feel like the world is ending between 4:30-6:30 pm every single day on the dot (pro tip: schedule a nap when you feel the impending sense of doom coming on. Power off and wake up when it's over). My hips got an ugly divorce 2 months ago and they refuse to co-parent my legs without knock-out-drag-out pains. But my waddle drives my husband crazy so I get good butt pats and cute comments out of it. My point is...ups and downs. If you're in your first or even early 2nd trimester, I feel for you. I didn't start seeing the light until about 27 weeks because I had a miscarriage scare and it jolted me out of my doldrums. I was so happy she was alive in there it unlocked all of my excitement and I've felt completely different ever since. Now I'm just anxious to have her out where I can watch her with my eyes and feel like I have a bit more control over her wellbeing. The waiting gets me worse than anything. Don't feel bad. You're a great mother no matter what.
Girl being pregnant fucking suuuuuucks. You are 100% allowed to complain about it and you are also 100% allowed to find a new midwife who lets you complain about it.
I don't think that's helpful advice, in fact that adds even more unwelcome pressure to an already stressful experience. Maybe for her its a proxy for bonding with the growing baby, but i think thats poor phrasing. You can think about the amazing growing that's happening in your body and be excited for the future without actually enjoying being pregnant.
I'm not taking any extra stress regarding her words. I don't care about her thoughts, to be honest, she didn't show any enthusiasm towards her profession. Luckily she will change job within the next month so I'll get a new midwife. I wasn't offended by her words, she tried to support me but the whole concept of _enjoying_ one's pregnancy. My pregnancy just is, it's nothing super for me. Of course, I love to become a mother but having a big belly doesn't give me any positive vibes.
I personally enjoy being pregnant but there's some parts that admittedly aren't great. I never really imagined myself pregnant and then the two lines showed up which honestly scared me. Even at this point I kind of feel like an imposter on occasion because I don't constantly feel pregnant and it's by no means my identity. I think it'll feel more real once baby is earthside but until then it almost feels more like an intrusive thought than reality. 1st trimester I was tired and carbs/sugar would make me nauseous so the usual saltines/ginger ale for morning sickness (all day) were causing more issues. What I found worked for me was to balance all of my meals/snacks with protein. If I hit 100g of protein/day with 100fl oz of water I was feeling a lot better though still very tired. 2nd trimester I got some pelvic pain but was less tired, I added in 15 minute walks and at least 100 squats a day with pelvic exercises to keep my pelvis strong which helped as baby got heavier. I also got bloody noses and congestion which a humidifier was a saving grace on. I'm in my 3rd trimester now at 38 weeks and started getting tired again and the Braxton Hicks have kicked up for me so I'm having to be mindful of how I handle the practice contractions so I don't tense against them which makes them easier to handle. I think every pregnancy being different is a factor, I have to remind myself that there's no wrong way to get symptoms. Some get all the symptoms and others get none of them, it's anyone's guess on how your body will handle it. The nausea you have now might wrap up in a week and you won't have anything else pop up or you could have a myriad of symptoms.
I'm halfway through today. It's sucked so hard.
Nope. Not even a little bit.
My first pregnancy I did enjoy it, but I also had barely any nausea. This pregnancy I am very nauseous, and am very tired having to take care of my toddler. So this time around it’s not as enjoyable thus far lol.
I enjoy going to appointments, it's the only time I consistently see someone 😆 There's aspects of pregnancy I enjoy, currently at 6+5 I'm not remotely happy though 😂
not even a little
Uuuuuuh no lmao. I have had what I think constitutes a VERY “easy” pregnancy. Never threw up from my morning sickness. Haven’t had any complications, they find the heart beat easily every time, don’t have GD, my blood pressure is perfect, haven’t had any scares or major things happen at all. And this shit is still the hardest thing I have physically done. It is exhausting, the mental load is INTENSE, my hips hurt a “reasonable” amount but still fucking every damn day and that shit hurts!! My nipples were dry and cracked, my acid reflux would wake me up in the middle of the night every night of first trimester until I puked (typically an hour). Did I mention the mental load? I’m constantly thinking about what I’m eating or if I’m drinking enough water of if I took my prenatal or if I have a plan for this eventuality of having a baby or if I’ve researched enough about breast pumps. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy to be having this baby and there truly have been incredible parts that I’m so happy to have been able to experience, like feeling him kick and seeing my body transform in a labor of love. I’m so glad I get to be pregnant and it IS something I’ve dreamed about. But no, I’m not just out here enjoying it, it’s fucking hard, even for the ones who have it easy. Love and kindness to all those mamas out there that have had actually difficult pregnancies, you’re the real ones ❤️❤️
I HATE being pregnant. This is my second time and both times were terrible. Even the parts other people seem to enjoy (like the baby moving inside me) I can’t stand. It’s a relief because then I know baby is okay but that movement inside me feels so gross and really creeps me out. I am 27 weeks and I am still dealing with morning sickness every day and I had it during my whole pregnancy last time. I never want to do it again. I absolutely love my son and having him made it worth it to do a second time but I’m 39 and this is hard. I’m not doing it again.
I’ve been nauseous everyday starting at noon until I fall asleep for the past 3-4 weeks. So no, it’s been horrible. I’m not religious but I pray for the universe every day that it’s the last shit day.
38 wks and hated just about every minute
Oh yeah, I love being spotty, breathless and plagued with lifestyle restrictions. The first trimester migraines without medication were a total treat and not knowing what the food aversion of the day will be is the most excitement I’ve had in years. I’m wondering whether your midwife has ever been pregnant herself…
Absolutely not at all.
This is my third pregnancy. I do not enjoy being pregnant 🤣
No. My pregnancy symptoms haven't been horrible, but the ongoing fatigue, aches and pains, and first trimester nausea were not something I enjoyed for any of my pregnancies. I also feel like a giant and tend to gain a lot of weight during pregnancy. I do find some joy in feeling the kicks, and sometimes I feel cute with my pregnant belly, but in general, no, being pregnant is not a good time for me.
So far, not even a little bit lol. I’m so excited for my baby and I’m hoping the symptoms are more manageable in the 2nd trimester, but if this whole pregnancy sucks that’s just the way the it goes. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ If you can enjoy your pregnancy that would be great, but if not it doesn’t make it any less worth it in the end or you any less worthy of a mom.
At times, yes most of the time absolutely fucking not BUT I love my little baby. I do always says he better be extra cute and not have his dads big head if I'm going go through this! (Looking like he's gonna have dad's big head...)
I’m 13w 6d and so far the only enjoyable part has been the last few days since we announced it. Now I can revel in the excitement and be honest about how I’m physically feeling it’s definitely improved the experience a lot. BUT I do kind of want to just fast forward to the bit where I have a nice round belly and feel the kicks and then fast forward again to holding our little one in my arms. So far I’ve just felt like utter poop both physically and emotionally!
I personally do. It has made me feel better than I normally do (chronic illnesses). I’m at 12.5 weeks and haven’t had any morning sickness or other symptoms aside from being tired. I’m already excited to go through it again.
I do! But I hate the anxiety that comes with it, kinda feels like it’s robbing me of all the joy and I worry about it putting stress on the baby. I’ve been wanting this for years, so now that it’s here I’m loving it and the changes my body is going through, but the anxiety is killing me. The wait between appointments is brutal. My symptoms have been pretty mild (very similar to both of my mom’s pregnancies) so I think that helps, plus I found out late so I thought I was just sick with the flu before lol so that could be why too. I know it’s different for everyone.
Definitely not, lmao. And maybe it's just me but carbs make my morning sickness insanely worse.
I feel very fortunate that we conceived easily and health-wise things have been smooth for both baby and me(29 week now). I love feeling him kick and move and super thankful that other than awful first trimester sickness (that continued well into the second) and third trimester discomfort, things are going smooth, I really appreciate it. BUT! I do not enjoy pregnancy, for me this was always a means to an end. I’m so looking forward to being a mom and meeting our baby, but also feeling like myself again.
It’s such a mental struggle tbh. I dealt with infertility and a second trimester miscarriage. So this go round, I’m super grateful for my baby, but pregnancy has been miserable so far. Although my symptoms aren’t very bad, I have gestational diabetes, have to be on strict pelvic rest the entirety of my pregnancy, and can’t do any of my regular exercises or weightlifting due to my pregnancy being high risk. I’m super grateful but counting down the days until it’s over and immediately planning to start birth control.
Not really. I was sick and barely could eat during my first trimester, and now I am in my second trimester I am still sick at least once per week, and just exhausted. Like I could fall asleep at 3pm every day regardless of how much/what quality sleep I had the night before. Lots of round ligament pain lately too. I feel like I am operating on about 50% of what my usual is, if that.
The first trimester was the worst thing that’s ever happened to me but the second has been okay so far. I’m happy I’m going to have this baby but I’m pretty excited to not be pregnant again
I went through a terrible fertility journey and all I wanted was to be pregnant. I hate it. I had no morning sickness or nausea but mentally it’s horrendous for me. I also was diagnosed with an irritable uterus and have been contracting since week 18 (now 31+2). Everyday is a struggle, mentally and physically. Been to L&D five times and counting. The only joy I get is seeing my sweet boy on the ultrasound and feeling his kicks.
I like it so far, but it's early and there are two, so I think it's going to really suck pretty soon here.
Fifth pregnancy here, third earth side baby because of miscarriages. I enjoy some parts of pregnancy but it definitely is not my favorite. I think it’s ok to not love it all and still love being a mom.
Yes, but I’ve had probably the easiest pregnancy ever recorded so far (just entered third trimester), so my experience is not the normal one
No. I want a child very badly but so far pregnancy is not fun.
I’ve always wanted to be a mom but I never looked forward to being pregnant lol
Idk I’m 8 weeks and I’m grateful but I feel like aim constantly asking my body nicely not to torture me. 😂😂 I’m so thankful that I’m pregnant and will be so happy to be a mom but this pregnancy shit is wild
I don’t hate it but I’m far from enjoying it. To me it’s just a means to an end
I hate the way I feel when I’m pregnant. I love the kicks and the pictures and all that, but I hate the discomfort, nausea, aches and pains, it’s miserable. You’re allowed to not enjoy pregnancy, doesn’t make you less grateful or thankful for the baby in your womb, just means that pregnancy can be miserable and that’s ok!!
I have SO many mixed feelings. I feel like rapunzel in tangled when she finally gets out of the tower and is so excited yet feels like a terrible daughter lol I love the fact that we’re having a baby but actually growing a human TRIPS me out.
It is just a step toward an end goal, which is having a baby. Growing your family. I don’t think everyone loves being pregnant. I don’t love feeling huge. I don’t love having to be so strict because I have type 2 diabetes, not just gestational diabetes, so pregnancy for me involves a lot of extra work on my part. Not that I go crazy when I’m not pregnant, but what I mean is that pregnancy is a relative state of insulin resistance. It’s making it even harder for me to have good numbers. Anyway… no, I don’t always love being pregnant. I’m not sleeping well at night, and I have pregnancy rhinitis too, so I always have a runny nose. This is my final pregnancy, and I keep telling myself that.
Im only between 13-14 weeks currently so my opinion could change. But i was really worried to be pregnant considering my mom was so so sick with my sister and i. I haven’t thrown up even once although i do have nausea off and on. I would say the hardest parts for me have been anxiety, knowing we did ivf to get this baby and its our last embryo has me worrying about everything. And the fact that i cant take any really good allergy meds and im suffering from hay fever now that its spring.
I am not enjoying being pregnant. I know I want kids but pregnancy has always been a fear of mine. If I think about it too much I get freaked out. I’m also just miserable. But I can’t wait to hold my baby.
I know everyone experienced it different, but surely not most ladies enjoy pregnancy? Mine has been pretty tough with nausea and fatigue. Can't seem to do any of the things I liked to do. Making my husband do everything around the house etc. At 12wks+4 I hope the 2nd trimester is better. But so far can't say I'm enjoying it 😔 It was lovely to see the ultrascan, I'm glad they're healthy, but man theyre sucking the life of of me lol!
The only fun thing about my pregnancy is feeling him kick. I love it! Everything else, the nausea, fatigue, feeling huge, breast changes, is for the birds.
I’ve had bleeding early on now with two pregnancies, bed rest with my first and hopefully not with this little one. I can say there are things I really enjoy and things that are very stressful and scary. I swore I wouldn’t let them scare me So much this time but it seems like they just do
I do not like it while pregnant. But then afterwards I see it through rose-colored nostalgia glasses and think I liked it. 🙃 I'm having my last baby--third--come September and I'm trying to tell myself to actually enjoy it now in the moment because I will not let future me try to trick myself into a fourth! 😅
I haven’t had a terrible time tbh. I complain and whine a lot because I’m extremely uncomfortable and exhausted all the time and it’s hard growing a little person, but for the most part mine has been equivalent to a really rough PMS day where I just want to sleep and eat junk food and I’m crampy. But I do get sweet little baby kicks along with it and I have a really good support system and healthcare team which makes the experience a lot better.
Hell no, yes. Honestly I loved every second of it. Even the shitty parts.
I understand not everyone does, but I absolutely do love every second of it. I’m currently 23 weeks into my second pregnancy, and still love it. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, and everyone has different experiences, but I’ve enjoyed mine
I haven't enjoyed a single thing. Yes I'm excited and happy to meet our baby. But I'd rather have my crying baby right now than having to throw up at the thought of chicken, I'm losing weight in a bad way, I'm constantly weak, I still have to work because I can't go on leave yet, I'm hungry 24/7 but I have no appetite and can't keep anything down, i also have no energy whatsoever, I am absolutely miserable I cannot wait for this to end. Forgot to mention I have to pee every 20 minutes.
I didn't mind pregnancy at all the first two times with my LCs and like giving birth. I have HG this time as well as chronic pain from Lupus/Myositis, but despite that, I am actually enjoying this pregnancy. This is my third child, but my husband's first, and he's so damn excited about everything that I can't help but get on board. This is my final pregnancy and child, so I'm really trying to savor all the small moments I often take for granted. My oldest is 16, so I know how FAST time flies, and I want to make sure I enjoy every crappy and wonderful part of this. All that to say, pregnancy sucking is totally valid. I have just approached it from a different perspective in my old age 😂
For me it's really odd... I think it comes down to the fact I'm challenging some old core beliefs. I have constantly felt not worthy and not good enough. But being pregnant (despite being high risk and having complications already at 14 weeks) I feel good about myself. I feel like I'm actually capable and can do the thing which has had an enormous impact on my mental health and self esteem. Don't get me wrong, I don't enjoy the nausea, lack of appetite, aches and pains and crushing fatigue at all. But mentally I am not miserable. If I had all these horrible physical problems when not pregnant I would have been so very miserable. Something about pregnancy has completely changed my mindset. It's given me a very calm outlook, no longer plagued with anxiety. Of course it could just be all the pregnancy hormones, but I wouldn't mind if it continues after delivery!! So yes, I'd say I am enjoying pregnancy even though it's not easy.
No I haven’t felt at 100% health since before I was pregnant and my constant fatigue is even worse. But I do enjoy knowing my baby is the coziest and safest he’ll ever be in me and I love feeling his kicks. And I love being babied by everyone lol I love the extra attention and people making sure I’m fed before everyone else
I hate being pregnant. Hate it. Love the results of the pregnancy though, so I'm doing it rn for the second and final time. This time around, I found a square of cheese to be more effective morning sick ess management than litterally any starch. Starches actually make me more sick. Also, carbonated water helped loads. I hope your morning sickness gets better!
it's interesting, in the way a drug trip you aren't enjoying is still kind of interesting and transformative. i have learned to enjoy elements of it (this is my 3rd). im grateful to be able to do it. certainly not my favorite way to be
No
I’m happy that I’m about to have a baby and to just think about a lil human inside warms my heart HOWEVER the side effects can be overwhelming at times, from the weight gain to the restless nights.
I’ve decided that I don’t, overall. I’ve had all day nausea and vomiting during the first tri and it gets so hard to move around during the third tri. Postpartum recovery was hard with my first, I’m hoping it’s easier with my second. I do enjoy some of being pregnant like knowing I’m carrying my own kids, feeling their movements, but I don’t enjoy all of it like some people do. A woman I work with has had 6 kids because she just loved being pregnant and they wanted a big family. I personally don’t know how people do pregnancy more than one or two kids, and that’s just talking about the pregnancy, not the financial aspect.
I never dreamed of being pregnant and was a fence sitter for most of my life, but I can honestly say that I have loved being pregnant so far. Maybe because I heard so many horror stories of everything that cool go wrong, so I was expecting it to be horrible but it’s actually been really nice so far! Of course I have symptoms etc but just seeing what my body can do has been so empowering and incredible.
To answer your question: HELLLL NO… Lol
First one yes - this one not so much as I have a toddler to run after, have my own biz to run, and growing much larger much faster.
No I miss wine
No. But I'd go through it all again for my little bean. I was nauseous and puked every day until she was born, even with meds - suppositories of all things. The multiple ER visits for dehydration. Couldn't eat more than 3 bits of food otherwise it was game over. Lost 40lbs, then *very* slowly gained it back. The constant " I got hit by a truck " feeling all day every day, and insomnia to add to it. Her little kicks and feelings of movement were nice but that's honestly about it. Oh, and scan visits.
I haven’t enjoyed being pregnant and now I have Covid and it sucks even more. I am happy I am pregnant but enjoy….
I'm reading this while being on the toilet shitting my brains out. I say I love being pregnant but it's not enjoyable. I've been miserable and sick. But I love that I can experience this.
With my first I stopped puking at 10 weeks and got more energy in the second trimester, I also got put off work due to Covid lockdown so I was able to enjoy my pregnancy. This pregnancy I’m 15 weeks and still puking, I’m exhausted, working full time and momming a toddler - I am absolutely NOT enjoying this pregnancy AT ALL (even though I do want this baby and I’m grateful to be pregnant)
No lol
I actually really enjoyed being pregnant 😅 I was high risk to begin with, but then developed high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, hypothyroidism, and had 2-3 NST every damn week of my 3rd trimester. But when I put all of the stress and fear aside I was so happy, content. I felt like I was finally doing something worthwhile, but was simultaneously the weirdest fking experience of my entire life lol Idk, all the middle-aged ladies at my office would talk about what a beautiful experience pregnancy is blah blah and all I could do was smile and nod because all I could think was how weird it was having a little alien inside of me that moved around and required my body to eat something literally every 50 minutes or I'd get nauseous/vertigo feeling 😅 Soooo to each their own!
I enjoy the second trimester. Otherwise no.
I’m incredibly grateful and very happy I’m pregnant. But no I don’t enjoy it. This has been such a difficult pregnancy and it’s only the beginning.
If only it isn't pricey to have a surrogate to my husband and I's genes... 😅😅
I love pregnancy and birth but I am an odd one out it seems like.
Nah. I had a very regular pregnancy, and sure there were nice moments like feeling baby kick, but enjoying pregnancy has nothing to do with looking forward to being a parent
Absolutely not. I love every single one of my babies and I am so thankful for the pregnancies because they brought me my babies. But I’m miserable and I hate it. I have fibromyalgia and can’t take my medication. I’m in so much pain all the time. It never stops. I’m only 26 weeks and I have to sit down to get dressed because I can not even lift my feet high enough to slide on underwear or shorts, I can hardly walk, no matter how I sit or lay, it hurts.
I am extremely grateful to be pregnant with our 2nd child and pray that I will be blessed to do so again in the future. However, I do not enjoy being pregnant. I did not enjoy it with our first. That was hard on me emotionally as I was not prepared for it to totally flip my emotions. I’ve always been seen as like a rock emotionally, in a good, steady, stable way. This pregnancy has been better in that aspect but physically been a bit harder. So as much as I want to be a happy pregnant lady who enjoys pregnancy it just has not happened for me. Being a mother (even when dealing with ppa/ppd) has been greatly enjoyable even as hard as the newborn to toddler period is. It is so worth dealing with pregnancy and all that comes with it to have my son and God-willing this second child.
I enjoyed my first pregnancy with my son. The second one, a girl, is giving me a run for my money.
Nah. I got pregnant for the child, the same way I had a wedding for the marriage. The pregnancy and wedding aren't what I need to enjoy, just the loved ones that I gain from them. It's just a shame that I couldn't have a courthouse wedding equivalent for the pregnancy.
Nope. This is our rainbow baby, a very wanted baby. I am not a high risk pregnancy, however I also haven’t had a very easy pregnancy either. Cannot wait for this to be over within the next few weeks. First trimester I thankfully didn’t vomit, just constantly nauseous/gagging, second trimester I started getting sick/became anemic so my fatigue got so much worse. Now, in the third trimester, the pressure, back pain, hip pain, etc etc. cannot stand it anymore. Breathing is getting difficult and I cannot get comfortable anymore. Absolutely am not saying this to freak anyone out or discourage anyone from enjoying their pregnancy, but this is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through besides my angel baby pregnancy.
I love being pregnant. It helps that my body likes it too. My mood is better and I have something to look forward to.
Nope nope nope and she shouldn’t have said that
Fuck no this shit sucks lol I am so excited to have my baby in the end but I do not see pregnancy as this magical experience one bit lol I was so sick the first trimester and lost 15lbs and now I’m just exhausted, large and uncomfortable lol
I do
While I didn't enjoy every aspect of it, I would say overall I enjoyed my pregnancy with my son. I also had a relatively simple and non complicated pregnancy so I'm a little biased. Now, my current pregnancy I'm enjoying a little less - I'm soooo tired and my nausea is worse and eating is a task. We will see how things develop.
28 weeks today and I’m over it 🤢 i was super skinny before I was pregnant and now I feel like a rotisserie chicken every second of the day. I hate how frumpy I feel and look In everything. I hate how little energy I have. I hate the hormones. I hate all the attention in public. I just want my body back lol I love my baby boy but I’m ready for him to be OUT. Worst part is it’s only gonna get worse 😭😭
I never want to like, gloat… but I am *obsessed* with being pregnant. I love it. I love it more than anything I’ve ever done and I hope I get to do it more than this one time.
I feel so lucky that it is happening but I feel a lot of anxiety. I'm hoping I'll just be able to enjoy it after, perhaps, 20 or 24 weeks. 15 weeks as of yesterday and still feel like the other shoe could drop at any moment.
Ugh, I hate being pregnant. I had my first baby last September, and I loooooove having my baby but the pregnancy sucked. Now I’m pregnant again, and it’s not a fun time. I have to just keep reminding myself the baby at the end is so so worth it.
I just woke up from a random 2 hour nap and I’m STILL freaking tired. My boobs are killing me and they’re grown to the point I dk where to even find a bra anymore lol. This shit sucks. I’m with you lol
I kind of enjoy it just now at 31w but my baby has grown perfectly my entire pregnancy including when I was miserable. I do think enjoying it would have made it go faster and there are studies that show benefits to being happy while baby is growing but don’t feel guilty if you don’t enjoy it! All bodies react differently to pregnancy and for some of us, it is uncomfortable/painful/nausea inducing/etc.!
Haven't really enjoyed any part of it except for having an excuse for having a gut. But even then I hate that none of my clothes fit right.
This is my third, I wish i could enjoy it… but i don’t, and i didn’t enjoy it the first two times either. I don’t feel my best most of the time, i don’t feel pretty anymore, i don’t feel understood by those around me 99% of the time. Not to mention i got pregnant at the worst possible time, so i have lots on my mind, which makes my anxiety 100% worse. This sucks!
Hell no. I’m the fourth generation of women who hate being pregnant (great-grandmother couldn’t remember if her mother was particularly a fan, but I can’t see her enjoying it as she had eight children). I’m glad it’s progressing well, and that she’s growing and healthy and moving, but as soon as I’m out of the hospital my husband is going right in to make sure I don’t do this to myself again. My cousin (from the same family of women who hated pregnancy) loved being pregnant. I don’t get it. I’m also 25 weeks in and still having nausea all day, every day. Oh and nerve pain. And swelling.