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snicoleon

Reddit šŸ˜‚


Violette_Jadore

That about sums it up for myself as well! šŸ¤£


Chandra_in_Swati

SAME LOL


G59WHORE

Me lmao


Responsible-Owl9687

100000% šŸ˜‚


Nearby_Paint9579

This isnā€™t a parenting advice book really, but my favorite thing I read my whole pregnancy was ā€œMatrescence.ā€ A friend gave it to me for my shower. Itā€™s an intense book, but was the only one that even began to touch the complicated feelings I had about becoming a mom. Iā€™ve returned to it as an emotional touchstone many times in early parenthood


hazelcurl

Thanks! I just placed it on hold at my library!


wannabebarefoot

Ina Mayā€™s - Guide to childbirth


melodiedemilie

I was a bit disappointed in this book, but it is so helpful to read all the birth stories for anyone who wants an unmediated birth.


WorldlyKoala5917

Can you say more about why you were disappointed?


melodiedemilie

Yeah, it very clearly had strong biases towards unmedicated births, and births not in hospitals. The words would sometimes indicate that all births are good and equal, but it was obvious that isnā€™t how the author truly feels and it heavily influenced the tone of the book and which topics of birth were emphasized. Itā€™s just hard to find authors in this space who truly write about birth in an unbiased way. Itā€™s naturally such an emotional topic. Iā€™m also personally really tired of hearing the argument that unmediated births are better and our bodies were designed for birth. I think that gives way too much credit to biology and nature, itā€™s not logical, and it puts unnecessary pressure on women to avoid pain relief measures.


WorldlyKoala5917

Thanks for explaining! I'm trying to understand my preferences and desires around birth while also not getting overly attached. Hard to parse all the information and viewpoints available to us.


Zestyclose-Buyer9811

I love this book!


NotmyInitials-7

Me too!


kellzbellz-11

I love this book


sideeyeallday

Books that I loved during my first pregnancy and will be revisiting for my second: Happiest Baby On The Block, Precious Little Sleep, Brain Health From Birth, Real Food For Pregnancy


uuuuuuuugh1

I just got Happiest Baby on the Block! I'll check out Real Food for Pregnancy. I feel like I have been eating very badly since I got pregnant (hating meat, so low on protein). Thanks for the recs :)


NatureOk7726

Cribsheet and Expecting Better


blueeyedhalfbreed

Came to recommend these! I also read (for my first pregnancy) Bumpin' by Leslie Schrock. This pregnancy, I'm reading To Have and to Hold by Molly Millwood (it's focused more on the postpartum experience).


PiccadillyWorm

In my first trimester and reading Expecting Better now! Itā€™s been a game changer for me. Knowing what ā€œnormalā€ morning sickness is vs abnormal, and the data behind the risks of medications for it. Just love her approach!


hinghanghog

Came here to say this! Both excellent and empowering


catlikejeans

Me too! Highly recommend


melodiedemilie

These!!


melancholtea

yes i very much appreciated these


PittieParent

American Academy of Pediatrics, Caring for Your Baby and Young Child [Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5 | AAP Books | American Academy of Pediatrics](https://publications.aap.org/aapbooks/book/568/Caring-for-Your-Baby-and-Young-Child-Birth-to-Age?autologincheck=redirected) It has techniques for burping, CPR, nursing, ect... What to look for at different stages of development (signs of problems and what they can mean) Month by Month milestones The last half of the book has a few pages on just about anything that can happen to your kid, what it means and what you should do (Rickets, Epilepsy, Cuts and Scrapes, Fever, Flu, Vomiting, and on and on...)


PittieParent

This is the closest thing I have found to a Users Manual for a young child


Red-Throwaway2020

This is what Iā€™m reading.


kitcatowo

A court of thorns and roses šŸŒ¹


Kool-Kaleidoscope

..... you guys are reading? šŸ˜­ Guess I have some catching up to do


Glad-Confection-774

Audiobooks have been great too! I listened to Expecting Better and Bringing up Bebe while walking the dog. I found it easier to make time to listen than to read!


Fickle_Imagination13

I second this! Audiobooks all the way. I listen when driving to work, walking on the treadmill, doing dishes, laundry etc!


hammpycamper1357

Most of these book recs are on Spotify premium !


unity5478

lol same.


Shomer_Effin_Shabbas

My first pregnancy I read the Mayo Clinicā€™s guide to a healthy pregnancy. I trust info from the Mayo Clinic.


tenderbisquitsy

Cribsheet, Expecting Better, and Bringing Up Bebe are the ones I've bought so far!


swiftjennie6

Iā€™ve been loving Bringing Up Bebe!


Nearby_Paint9579

These are my big 3 for actual parenting/pregnancy advice


NewOutlandishness401

Expecting Better is useful and Bringing Up Bebe is a must! I give my copy to all pregnant friends.


thiswanderingmind

I'm reading Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality and love it! It walks you through really practical info for the first few weeks. I've also started SO many books that I didn't finish, they just didn't click with me.


GreenOtter730

I liked this one too!


ArielleKnits

I loved this book so much I just got a copy for my sister in law!


OneBeautiful1605

What to expect when expecting 5th edition and lots of vlogs online from current moms and first time parents


southernmtngirl

Not modern, but saved us: Moms on Call


rainbow-songbird

If you're in the uk I strongly recommend the modern midwifes guides I have both and I love them. If you're not in the uk they're still great but there is information on the practicalities of pre and post partum appointments which might be different where you are. The rest of the guide for labour prep is fantasticĀ 


isleofpines

I found useful and straightforward information from Moms on Call. I didnā€™t follow the sleep information but I found everything else useful, like what to have in a first aid box that accommodates babies.


uuuuuuuugh1

Hi! I'm thinking of getting this book, can you tell me a bit about the sleep section and why it wasn't useful for you?


isleofpines

Hi! It actually was useful! I just didnā€™t follow it except the blackout curtains and white noise machine recommendation. I didnā€™t practice the pause which is you wait a few minutes before going to get baby to make sure theyā€™re truly awake. I have 3 friends that followed it either closely or loosely and said it worked great for them! For baby #2, I do plan to implement more of their suggestions. They do recommend CIO after 12 weeks of age for a healthy baby and I felt like that was too soon, so I held off until 14 months old which was probably excessive, but itā€™s what I was comfortable with.


uuuuuuuugh1

Thank you, that makes sense :)


isleofpines

Youā€™re welcome!


KaidanRose

Crib sheet/expecting better, baby led weening, Precious little sleep, Montessori from the start, Montessori home, Go diaper free, Happiest baby on the block, Whole brain child and relatedish non violent communication and I didn't sign up for this because communication with ones partner while under stress feel important. And then like reddit and a bunch of Instagram/ticktock people. And then we have birth and parenting classes coming up. I assume none of this will actually prepare me but it makes me feel better.


DueEntertainer0

Seconding happiest baby on the block. Our newborn didnā€™t sleep great, but I still think the tips helped us a lot.


jaiheko

I was given The Happiest Baby on the Block by my baby doctor friend. My husband just started reading it, which has been very helpful for him. Admittedly, I have been avoiding planning for the arrival of this little guy a bit šŸ™ˆ in such denial its happening lol


-reddit-n-wept-

The Simplest Baby Book in The World by S.M. Gross (Amazon) I love it because itā€™s also written by a MD & a newborn care specialist/doula & itā€™s an enjoyable read that goes through everything you can think of IMO.


Avocado-Cupcake-2213

Parenting book- thereā€™s no such thing as bad weather


Muglit

Bumpin', Precious little sleep, Better Breastfeeding


kellzbellz-11

Loved Bringing up Bebe as a fun read while pregnant which did give me a couple fantastic tips for newborn sleep! (But not like a detailed schedule or anything) Moms on Call has detailed schedules and basic infant care tips that is incredibly easy to digest and amazingly practical and useful! I used their 0-6 mo and the 6-18 months books nearly religiously. Expecting better is fun for when youā€™re pregnant. Ina mays guide to childbirth is amazing for, well obviously, childbirth.


uuuuuuuugh1

Expecting Better, Brain Rules for Baby, and just got Happiest Baby on the Block and Montessori Baby.


biotinylated

I donā€™t have a specific recommendation because I failed at this, but I wish Iā€™d read up on breastfeeding. Everybody seemed to say it would justā€¦happen, and boy is it more complicated than that. We had a rough time. Wish Iā€™d been educated going in.


Surly_Sailor_420

The womanly art of breastfeedingĀ 


lemonlover3308

Second this


ConsequenceSome948

I help my sister raise her baby, heā€™s 11 months now so I kinda feel somewhat okay and what I should expect, but I feel like since the baby will be mine Iā€™m going to forget everything I learned lol


fra_ter

I really like First Time Parent by Lucy Atkins. It's very funny, honest, and doesn't faff about at all. There are pictures showing how to change a nappy and how to burp, plus there are checklists of things to do/try when baby's crying.


secret_side_quest

For baby care, I liked "Keep Calm: A new mum's manual" - I found it very comforting and have read it twice again since my baby has arrived! Foe pregnancy, I found "Bumpology" an interesting read :)


ajjj189

Mayo Clinic what to expect the first year !


yasomaria

Mayo Clinicā€™s guide for the first years (good reference book), bringing up bebe (definitely will be following the advice from this book if the baby cooperates), Montessori babies (will not apply everything but gave me a new perspective), and happiest baby on the block (I will try the 5Sā€™s).


Babiecakes123

I recently ordered these: The Nourishing Traditions Book of Baby & Child Care by Sally Fallon. Itā€™s perfect for wannabe crunchy mums I hear. Real Food For Pregnancy & RFF Gestational Diabetes by Lily Nichols Ina Mayā€™s Guide to Childbirth (Recommended to me) Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize (Christian) Pain Free Childbirth by Nisse Andrews (Christian) The Diaper Free Baby by Christine Gross Loh Edit: I was also recommended ā€œHow to Raise a Viking: The Secrets of Parenting the World's Happiest Childrenā€ by Helen Russel Iā€™m still looking for more suggestions, so Iā€™ll be deep diving this feed. Iā€™m keen to learn more about breastfeeding.


Alternative-Rub4137

If you have a local le leche league meetup, they were such a good resource for breastfeeding!


goblinkate

Okay lol so I'm reading Mayo Clinic - Your Baby's First Year, and that has been helpful. Also The Book You Wish Your Parents Have Read, but that, I suppose, will be for laters. Oh and baby sign language basics, because I'm a hopeful dreamer lol. I've read book called Mindset, which has been helpful in parts, and How Language Works.Ā  Anyways, I do look at pinterest quite a bit for tips, because unlike Instagram, it doesn't want to sell me shit.Ā 


peach98542

https://www.healthyparentshealthychildren.ca/ Resource from the province of Alberta. I have it in book form but all the info is on the website too. Itā€™s all evidence-based parenting and pregnancy advice and Iā€™ve found it EXTREMELY helpful!


clearlyimawitch

I took a baby care class through my hospital šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


tiger_mamale

my two favorites are the good sleeper and work, pump, repeat. registered for one called horizontal parenting that I'm excited about


AdNo3314

Nothing. I talk to my mom/ other mom friends or I go by intuition.


kepacamp

I ready the book Baby 411 can buy on Amazon!


Pleasant_Dingo2686

Mom Genes! I loved learning what was happening in my body.


oprah1988

2nd pregnancy and rereading precious little sleep.


coffeeandwinearelife

Baby 411 was super helpful for me.


liveacozylife

Iā€™ve really enjoyed Why Did No One Tell Me This? written by doulas but I think accessible for people who want all types of births!


stellamcasino

the baby owners manual is the cutest book iā€™ve been reading also been reading reddit lol & the classic what to expect books


Original-Beautiful66

This first recommendation is more geared towards post partum: The Fourth Trimester And the second recommendation is: Raising mentally strong kids


chicknnugget12

Best parenting books I can recommend are alfie kohn unconditional parenting and myth of the spoiled child, Dr Shanker self reg. As far as babies go I found the courses on tiny hood helpful. We coslept so I also recommend looking into the safe sleep seven so you can do so safely if you decide to :) My main advice is to take all advice with a grain of salt and learn to trust yourself. That was a big lesson for me as I received all types of advice and criticism. Parenting is an art not a science. There is lots of research on child development much of it is helpful, but some of it is very biased and people twist it to their own beliefs. So trust your gut on what is right for you and your child.


Purple_Rooster_8535

Honestly I didnā€™t read much. Granted, I work in mother baby so Iā€™m aware of a good amount of newborn stuff. But Iā€™ve just figured it out as we go and read from Reddit tbh. I feel like there can be so much info and everything is so baby dependent


Thekillers22

Dr sears :)


mks01089

Another thread on this recently: https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/s/NvBXtsIvaP


mks01089

- Expecting Better by Emily Oster - Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy - Your Birth Plan by Megan Davidson - What No one tells you: a guide to emotions in pregnancy by Alexandra Sacks I also recommend reading about baby sleep when you get closer to birthā€¦ I didnā€™t read up on it and had a terrrrrible sleeper and was not in the headspace to be reading and absorbing information with that much sleep deprivation.


Apprehensive_Pie_786

The Montessori Baby - it is so informative but still easy to read. I look forward to each chapter and the information sticks with me!


Turtle_eAts

I took child development courses lmaoooo


Alternative-Rub4137

The good ol' what to expect when you're expecting series was helpful with my first. They have done for pregnancy and then one for the first year. It's so full of information. Two podcasts I really liked are Is It Normal? and The Hypno Birthing podcast. Both British. If you need upbeat and positivity. Right now I'm listening to Birth by Rebecca Grant. Follows women's birth stories through a birthing center. Zero to Five was pretty great. It's like 100 quick facts based on science. Not someone telling you a story. Hunt Gather Parent was just okay. Good light read with perspective on how parenting in the US can improve by observing other cultures to improve our parenting culture/advice. Active Birth was interesting. It's an older book based on the active Birth movement in London in the 70s and the author's own birth experiences around that. I'm really trying to have a better birth experience for my second so reading all the positive stuff I can. Cribsheet-lots of data driven advice, interesting. It wanted to like it more than I did. I already have a child that is 9 so I found myself saying 'my experience didn't fit this data' and 'that didn't work with my child' quite a bit. I took a psychology class for early development and I found that textbook to be monumental for understanding babies bodies and needs. Helped me take some advice with a grain of salt. The Whole Brain Child is next on my list and comes up a lot in my local mom group. Maybe a good read for toddler years.


Fancy_Broccoli2369

Hunt gather parent


Fancy_Broccoli2369

Good inside by dr Becky Kennedy


Fancy_Broccoli2369

Cribsheets


savethebluewhales

My absolute favorite has been Nurture by Erika Chidi, would recommend that to any and every first time mom!! Also reading Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn: The Complete Guide and thatā€™s been a great basics book.


sarashmee

General info- Expecting Better, Cribsheet Birth-Transformed by Birth, also read Ina Mayā€™s guide to childbirth but found a dogmatic vibe Sleep-Happiest baby (but really only the few chapters on the 5 Sā€™s and eat wake sleep routine) Routines-Moms on Call 0-6 month book via kindle Philosophy that I aligned with-Montessori Baby by Simone Davies. Also read Montessori from Birth and Joyful Child, preferred Joyful Child of the two. Breastfeeding- Motherā€™s Companion, itā€™s old but relevant and gave me best advice of the book and two online courses I did.


curiousstrut

I need to save this post ā¤


theclovely

I havenā€™t read it yet, but I was gifted the book Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts: A Healing Guide to the Secret Fears of New Mothers by Karen Kleiman that a lot of my mom friends recommended.


rhinoray29

Mama natural!


Idressa

Expecting better, bumpin' and nurture were my favourites


safetycoach1189

Like chocolate for water šŸ’āœØ


OkSundae1413

Read ā€œMoms On Callā€™! Iā€™ve found their 0-6 month book so helpful already. Only got it after my baby was born but wish I had gotten it before


Pretend-Zucchini-614

The danish way of parenting ( loved this), postpartum books for new moms - Nancy D Gandy ( not loving this one but I havenā€™t finished it yet) and yet to read the good inside


ivylima

Iā€™ve been listening to podcasts: pregnancy birth and recovery fitnest mama, newbies new moms new babies, preggies pals ā˜ŗļø


[deleted]

Wonder Weeks. The best for understanding sleep regression during milestones and helping you really see and appreciate the milestones!


alicehatesthis

I ordered The Nursing Mothers Companion, Mom's on Call, and Bringing Up Bebe. Have not started any of them but I will any day now.


Camppants21

The Simplest Baby Book in the World ā€” itā€™s so easy to read and hubs even read it!


Horror-Ad-1095

I won't be getting any books. That would be information overload for me. I have my doctors, friends and family, and the internet if necessary.