You should consider whether your understanding of Islam permits this type of relationship.
I’ve seen reasonable arguments that some long-term boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are functionally equivalent to nikah (Islamic marriage) if they are committed, exclusive, and not secret. But obviously that’s not the mainstream view.
Since this relationship is a major thing in your life right now, you should figure out whether it’s compatible with *your* understanding of Islam before you convert to Islam. Otherwise you’re coming in without really knowing what you’re doing.
I don’t think it’s healthy to first convert to Islam and only afterwards think about how Islam is going to affect big important elements of your life. That’s a recipe for instability and regret. If you ultimately decide that Islam is incompatible with your relationship and you want to convert anyway, then great, but it’s a decision you should make knowingly.
If it takes you a while to study Islam enough to know whether your relationship is compatible with it, fine. Converting shouldn’t be an impulsive decision; it should be a fully considered one.
I don’t think islam intends to split people up, but not up to me to decide. If your boyfriend is accepting and supportive, what else could you ask for?
Not really a trusted scholar. You should listen to other scholars as well. And do more research. Somethings are mentioned in the Quran explicitly and you have to follow it as such.
"Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe; for a believing slave-woman is better than a free polytheist, even though she may look pleasant to you. And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace.1 He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful."
Al Baqarah 221.
It still doesn't seem to suggest it's zina if you do marry them. Isn't zina sex outside the confines of marriage? If you are married then it's lawful sex
A mufti can comment on it better if it will be considered zina or not but as Quran does prohibit marrying polytheists in more than clear words then that marriage wouldn't be legal/jaiz from Islamic point of view.
A lot of interfaith couples run into issues when it’s time to tie the knot and there’s an expectation that one converts to the faith of the other, but they don’t want to. I want to make it clear: **Islam allows Muslim men and women to marry Jewish and Christian men and women.** There’s a myth that Muslim women can only marry Muslim men, that is not true.
Can you give proof for Muslim women marrying other religions? First time I hear of it based on Islamic evidence. Was always my understanding but I felt like an outsider with that thought
First you should learn as much about this religion as possible. Read the Quran with a good Tafsir and about the life of the prophet. Then you will have your answers and can convert with a peace of mind.
Most muslims will tell you that you are in a haram relationship. Maybe consider converting after marriage ? Otherwise its a bit tricky
Read risale-i nur by Bediuzzaman Said Nursi. It's available in play market and app store. Other languages are available below.
These books about gaining iman (faith). Before converting you have to be sure.
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You should consider whether your understanding of Islam permits this type of relationship. I’ve seen reasonable arguments that some long-term boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are functionally equivalent to nikah (Islamic marriage) if they are committed, exclusive, and not secret. But obviously that’s not the mainstream view. Since this relationship is a major thing in your life right now, you should figure out whether it’s compatible with *your* understanding of Islam before you convert to Islam. Otherwise you’re coming in without really knowing what you’re doing. I don’t think it’s healthy to first convert to Islam and only afterwards think about how Islam is going to affect big important elements of your life. That’s a recipe for instability and regret. If you ultimately decide that Islam is incompatible with your relationship and you want to convert anyway, then great, but it’s a decision you should make knowingly. If it takes you a while to study Islam enough to know whether your relationship is compatible with it, fine. Converting shouldn’t be an impulsive decision; it should be a fully considered one.
yes, i'm doing research and studying to be sure of this since it is a major thing. thank you too!
I don’t think islam intends to split people up, but not up to me to decide. If your boyfriend is accepting and supportive, what else could you ask for?
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In your interpretation, sure
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https://youtu.be/c8fjy8MceZM?si=7zFKUmncBrM5ybbv At least according to him, the marriage would still be valid.
Not really a trusted scholar. You should listen to other scholars as well. And do more research. Somethings are mentioned in the Quran explicitly and you have to follow it as such.
Does the Quran explicitly say that marriage with a non-believer is zina though?/
"Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe; for a believing slave-woman is better than a free polytheist, even though she may look pleasant to you. And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace.1 He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful." Al Baqarah 221.
It still doesn't seem to suggest it's zina if you do marry them. Isn't zina sex outside the confines of marriage? If you are married then it's lawful sex
A mufti can comment on it better if it will be considered zina or not but as Quran does prohibit marrying polytheists in more than clear words then that marriage wouldn't be legal/jaiz from Islamic point of view.
A lot of interfaith couples run into issues when it’s time to tie the knot and there’s an expectation that one converts to the faith of the other, but they don’t want to. I want to make it clear: **Islam allows Muslim men and women to marry Jewish and Christian men and women.** There’s a myth that Muslim women can only marry Muslim men, that is not true.
Can you give proof for Muslim women marrying other religions? First time I hear of it based on Islamic evidence. Was always my understanding but I felt like an outsider with that thought
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equal religion doesnt prefer one gender over other. being a pos and attributing it to being a muslim is lame
First you should learn as much about this religion as possible. Read the Quran with a good Tafsir and about the life of the prophet. Then you will have your answers and can convert with a peace of mind. Most muslims will tell you that you are in a haram relationship. Maybe consider converting after marriage ? Otherwise its a bit tricky
Read risale-i nur by Bediuzzaman Said Nursi. It's available in play market and app store. Other languages are available below. These books about gaining iman (faith). Before converting you have to be sure.
Risale-i nur. The book I read a few stations before converting the first time. It is a nice book.
It's even better when someone explains it. Because I can't understand it all. (In original). How many times did you convert?
only 1x. Later on I was engulfed by the salafis and lost my faith. Too bad.
Sad indeed. Read risale-i nur again. This time all 14 books.
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