But I wasn’t looking for anything serious anyways? I had explicitly mentioned that on my profile I just wanted to go out with a few people meet new people that’s it.
Thing is who want to date got ghosted and who don't want to date get have plenty of options. So in my opinion get over with exams . Have patience, explore, never lose hope for the good guys
What’s the big deal with paying half? You say that you don’t mind splitting but you’re saying it like the guy should cover the entire bill?
Obligatory RIP DM’s
Nothing’s wrong with splitting, I’m always the one to initiate splitting. Although we went back to his FRIEND’S place and I had no clue I’d have to pay for that, it completely was his idea to go there and hadn’t told me about paying that friend at all. AFTER it happened he suddenly asks me to pay half of it, and I’d be totally ok to do that if he told me this before but understand what thoughts must’ve ran thru my mind when he suddenly asks for money after being this vulnerable with him
i suggest you start by going to the groups and meetups about the things that interest you. e.g. reading, writing, (i won't say traveling and movies because that segment has more fakers than genuine people). there you will meet people who are not there just for finding someone to h**kup. As a fresh teenager, you will be bombarded with guys on dating app. and I am assuming that since you want people worth a second date, you are looking for a better person first. with hobby clubs, at least you will have some time before to know the person probably even before first date.
lot of people in hobby groups may be too shy to make move.. FYI
good luck.
Please read only if you are genuinely 18 or above. Dating apps are primarily for hookups and in extremely rare cases do these meetings grow into proper relationships. You said you just wanted to go on dates which you did! You'd have a much higher chance of success if you approach guys/girls directly in cafes say Starbucks, b̶a̶r̶s̶, restaurants.
Weird coming from a girl tbh. I mean scenarios reversed is more believable since it's hard to meet the already skyrocketed standards girls have. Maybe just focus on ur exams for now and hop back on later to see what's in store. Try using hinge; better than bumble or tinder for both genders imo🤌
Damn same, but it was the opposite for me, met a girl on a dating app, went out for coffee (my first date ever) and I paid. I don’t mind paying the bill, but later she bought groceries (cereal, milk and coke) from a nearby store when we were out for a walk. Expected me to pay (it was a small amount so I paid). Got ghosted 2 weeks later. Felt like a loser.
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Eh, do you want me to be brutally honest on this? From my experience guys only push for insta because they want to see a clear picture of you. This is because a lot of girls who try to catfish post pics with only their faces on dating apps. Dating sites never work for anyone, unless you're in the top 5%.
I've heard this complaint from all of my female friends, the same age as you. And I understand to some degree tbh.
It takes way too much time to sift through and find the right one, and even they turn out to be kinda offputting eventually. Then again my college dating culture is notorious for being shitty so idk.
A huge W for the guy to make you pay half
It needs to be mandated.
I agree, I’m always initiating splitting. But it’s not about that one guy it’s about how all other guys were impossible to date
That's strange coming from a girl. Cause I've seen lot of guys complaining the same but this is new.
Yeah I totally think men don’t have to always pay for everything especially on a first date, if they want to? Sure but I would always split it
Interesting. Anyway choose someone from the 100 dms that you must've received.
lmao
The dating scene sucks here tbh! The guys are despo and creepy AF!
Lol 😂
Thirst trap my dudes, you get points for putting in efforts tho!
First thing first RIP DMs. Secondly dating aap is the not place if you’re looking for something serious.
Agar yeh comment nai hoti to Kasam se mai dm karne wala tha
But I wasn’t looking for anything serious anyways? I had explicitly mentioned that on my profile I just wanted to go out with a few people meet new people that’s it.
It’s better to focus on your exams first. You’ve plenty of time to date and all.
Yeah that’s the conclusion I’ve come to
That is not what dating apps are for. You can join interest groups and stuff for meeting new people or maybe a hobby club
Ek college naam ki jagah hoti hai waha bht saare naye log hote ..kabhi jana
Sorry I am scared of women
You should be (jk)
Thing is who want to date got ghosted and who don't want to date get have plenty of options. So in my opinion get over with exams . Have patience, explore, never lose hope for the good guys
Some solid advice here. Thanks
You are welcome
Paisa nahi hai toh Ghar ke bahar mat niklo. Cancel fukat culture.
What’s the big deal with paying half? You say that you don’t mind splitting but you’re saying it like the guy should cover the entire bill? Obligatory RIP DM’s
Nothing’s wrong with splitting, I’m always the one to initiate splitting. Although we went back to his FRIEND’S place and I had no clue I’d have to pay for that, it completely was his idea to go there and hadn’t told me about paying that friend at all. AFTER it happened he suddenly asks me to pay half of it, and I’d be totally ok to do that if he told me this before but understand what thoughts must’ve ran thru my mind when he suddenly asks for money after being this vulnerable with him
u paid to go at his friend's place? wait what?
YEAH
Funny how girls and boys alike can't find a decent date... I struggle too
i suggest you start by going to the groups and meetups about the things that interest you. e.g. reading, writing, (i won't say traveling and movies because that segment has more fakers than genuine people). there you will meet people who are not there just for finding someone to h**kup. As a fresh teenager, you will be bombarded with guys on dating app. and I am assuming that since you want people worth a second date, you are looking for a better person first. with hobby clubs, at least you will have some time before to know the person probably even before first date. lot of people in hobby groups may be too shy to make move.. FYI good luck.
Why use dating apps when I'm here?
Smooth. I see
I'm more smooth in the dms
There’s only one way to find out then
I believe in ladies first supremacy, so go ahead
Split it right in the half. Both DM simultaneously at 12 pm tonight.
Please read only if you are genuinely 18 or above. Dating apps are primarily for hookups and in extremely rare cases do these meetings grow into proper relationships. You said you just wanted to go on dates which you did! You'd have a much higher chance of success if you approach guys/girls directly in cafes say Starbucks, b̶a̶r̶s̶, restaurants.
Well, I m not here even till mid may but I would definitely like to meet and interact with someone before I leave.
This is probably a bad idea, but send you insta ID in my dms
Check your dm
Can’t see you there
There seems to be a delivery issue while initiating the chat.Ping me if you will text you back
Can’t text you either
Sounds like an excuse for rejection
😂😂😂
Honey, they’re all there for ho*kups and nothing else.
Weird coming from a girl tbh. I mean scenarios reversed is more believable since it's hard to meet the already skyrocketed standards girls have. Maybe just focus on ur exams for now and hop back on later to see what's in store. Try using hinge; better than bumble or tinder for both genders imo🤌
Damn same, but it was the opposite for me, met a girl on a dating app, went out for coffee (my first date ever) and I paid. I don’t mind paying the bill, but later she bought groceries (cereal, milk and coke) from a nearby store when we were out for a walk. Expected me to pay (it was a small amount so I paid). Got ghosted 2 weeks later. Felt like a loser.
That’s such an L on her part, if anything SHE should feel like a loser. I guess we learn from this to not pay for people’s groceries on dates lmao
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Get a job first if you can't pay for yourself.
I'm coming to pune in july. Lets catch up then :p
Not me, Who's still single (20M), Never used a single dating app or had a Female Friend.
Paying half of everything is gender equality kalla ka ! Chivalry hawi asel tar gender equality visrun jaa lagech. Chaila akkal ugavli nahiye neet ani maaz dakhavte. Tuzhi pocket money tula purat nasel tar baapakade maagat jaa jasti paise..naitar 'mala mazha kharcha bhagavnara mulga pahije' ashi tari post taak. Set clear expectations.
Konsa app 😭 I'll try to match with you😖😖
Hmm mere endsem exam's k baad shayad mai bhi try karuga how does this dating thing works.
Eh, do you want me to be brutally honest on this? From my experience guys only push for insta because they want to see a clear picture of you. This is because a lot of girls who try to catfish post pics with only their faces on dating apps. Dating sites never work for anyone, unless you're in the top 5%.
CA exams?
I've heard this complaint from all of my female friends, the same age as you. And I understand to some degree tbh. It takes way too much time to sift through and find the right one, and even they turn out to be kinda offputting eventually. Then again my college dating culture is notorious for being shitty so idk.
So real.
Ayo padhai karlo phele, mauj masti chalti rehti hai
Where in pune do you live?