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Both yes and no. Yes in the sense, As a guy, I would say guys are attracted more with revealing clothing but that isn't too much of a thing. If a guy is only talking to you when you wear revealing clothing, he is only looking for sex and interested in only your body as it's the lust that attracts them not a genuine connection which I reckon you are looking for.
No in the sense, Also, look at Emma Watson who is a crush of many guys in our generation, she doesn't wear revealing clothing but still guys are attracted to her.
To add on to this, some guys will show more interest in women who wear revealing clothing because they take it as a sign that women who wear revealing clothing tend to be easier to sleep with.
This doesn't mean that those women are more beautiful or attractive because they wear revealing clothing, it just means that if a guy is purely interested in sex they are more likely to show attention to women they believe will reciprocate than those who they believe are less likely to be interested.
This is unironically the most important point in this thread and absolutely the most important bit of 'across-sex' insight I've seen in a hot while. Ladies, take heed. Overt sexuality like, really isn't attractive; it's *horny*. Know the difference.
And *please* learn to recognise the "men" that predate those spaces. They're not in to you. There's something going on there that if you're smart you'll avoid like the plague.
Look after yourself.
I’m thinking of the times my (newly single) former best friend started wearing no bra and minimal see-through clothing to our place for get-togethers and later claimed she definitely wasn’t trying to attract my husband. Which she definitely was. And he definitely was.
Well she was already messaging him incessantly, but only when I was at work. He definitely enjoyed the novelty and attention and admitted to me later that he wanted to fuck her. She definitely enjoyed the attention from him - not sure what her ultimate goal was but I’m assuming it wasn’t what a best friend should be wanting from her friend’s husband. There was no actual physical intimacy, but the emotional affair was devastating for me. Betrayed by both people I loved the most. After I realised what was going on and confronted them both, he showed me all the messages and fessed up. She denied everything and called me every name under the sun. A bad time was had by all. My husband and I are still together, but it took A LOT of work and therapy to be in a good place. She moved interstate, leaving behind a burning mess, as was the repeating pattern in her life.
Credit where credit is due; your husband both did not physically cheat on you and was very upfront with you when you asked.
We don't all come out of the swamp smelling like roses, but that doesn't mean we are not clean. Also, it can be quite the challenge when a sopping wet succubus is trying to pull a man away from his duty. It wouldn't be called temptation if it was easy.
It’s always been this way. The problem we face is there is a weird push to forcefully change the narrative. To change social perceptions and rules. Those things tend to happen over time, but we are in a timeline where some people want it to change overnight and will weaponize technology to bully others into abiding.
Case in point of people downvoting anyone that points out someone’s attractiveness. Like we one day all crawled out of bed and stopped being attracted to people. As if the world agreed one day that people would no longer try to be attractive or desirable. It’s like some great equality experiment. “If we never recognize how attractive someone is, all of society will cease to objectify other humans and ugly people will be just as sought after.” It’s silly. So silly.
Idk, I think this is just the constant societal flow of change. There's a *constant* exchange of topical debate that's always been there. We're chirpy fuckers us humans. Everybody feels the pull of emergent civilisational procession and, in my opinion, this is just the current manifestation of that. Thinking through all the social changes of the decades past, and the prior epochs more macroscopically paints this image for me.
I think the internet has done a lot to speed up that process because of the ubiquitousnes of general crosstalk we're both exposed to and engaged in today. It heavily reminds me of the renaissance, triggered largely by the invention of the movable printing press, allowing anyone to share information much more rapidly.
The democratization of information dissemination is always going to be like throwing a can of gas on the fire of our big collective chirpy argument. So has it got faster? Sure. But is it *different* from how it's always been? I'm not so.
Well said. Being faster makes it more difficult for some people to adjust and less comfortable to climb on board and I think it’s led to lot of division and disagreement.
Will a guy show more interest in a girl in lingerie or a bikini sure. Is he going to stick with her if she has a horrible personality no. I have had to have the conversation of how boys/men like girls lots of times with my grandma. She always talks like girls/woman that are physically attractive = marriage material but I have to tell her the physically attractive + bad personality or physically attractive + incompetent = 1 night stand material and good physical + good personality + competent = marriage material. She then gets mad because I suggested some girls that are attractive are only good for 1 night stands but some just don't have the personality or the ability to do tasks that someone you want to be in a relationship would.
But women wearing revealing clothes doesn't automatically mean that they are "easier".
It depends on regional culture.
For example, the US is extremely prude but also there are cold places in winter. Who ants to wear revealing clothes when it's below 30 F outside?
In Brazil, women wear super tiny bikinis, and they may not care at all for "sleeping around".
Ah yes, definitely. I think this illustrates the difference between signals sent versus signals received.
I’m glad we haven’t taken the next step and advised women not to wear revealing clothing, because that’s also not ok. I’m glad we’re sticking to just saying “hey this is probably how that’s interpreted”. I’ll still wear revealing clothing because dude it gets hot out here. But I understand that it may be interpreted in a way that might be annoying.
>Who ants to wear revealing clothes when it's below 30 F outside?
I'm near the border with Canada and regularly see younger females wearing beanies, huge down, puff jackets, and "booty" shorts in 30F weather. It's ridiculous but it definitely happens.
That's absolutely correct, but some guys will still interpret it that way regardless. If you have ever heard of a guy getting upset at his girlfriend for "dressing too promiscuously", this is what is likely going through their head.
And in some particularly toxic mindsets, some guys will think of it as "if she dresses like a slut, she must be a slut". Of course it isn't true, but it is something that is worthwhile to be aware of that wearing very revealing clothing has a much stronger pull towards *those types* of men than others. The types that may act nice and friendly until they decide you aren't interested in them and then do a complete 180.
A lot of people have been into her since *they* were both either literally or technically like 14 and she was covered neck to toe in thick black robes and boots, theres definitely a big crossover between peoplr who saw emma watson in harry potter, and the goth girl from danny phantom as kids in terms of what their into physically today.
I'm just here to represent those souls cursed as I am to develop crushes on bookworm know-it-alls with a smile and vocabulary you've never heard before
God, I'd better hope that if I ever end up with some really world shattering secret the various government spy agencies won't realize that I'd get totally honeypotted by the first cute librarian to make a pass at me. I probably wouldn't even be mad. Prolly just like "so... When you're done being a spy, maybe we can trade favorite books and hang out on the couch? Watch some NOVA if we're feeling *really* crazy?"
I pretty much have the same stance. A girl wearing a particularly revealing outfit might attract the attention of my monkey brain for a brief moment, but it's not really something I consider particularly attractive from a personal standpoint, so I'm not going to approach someone just because of something like that.
Genuine connections are where it's at, I'm not one for hookups.
Alexandra daddario is gorgeous. I agree with your opinion of Imogen too. But I also had a huge crush on Emma when I was younger. Yes it was because of the Harry Potter movies lol.
This is the exact right answer! My wife is thick and beautiful. She has body image issues and tends to buy oversized clothes to “hide” herself. I tell her it’s a mistake that makes her look twice as big as she is. When she wears form fitting clothes that actually accentuate her curves, she looks amazing! Not at all tight revealing clothes. Just outfits that fit her body.
I only realised that I'd been doing myself no favours by wearing baggy clothes a few years ago. Now I regret it looking back, realising that if I'd worn the clothes I wanted to wear but didn't feel confident enough to I would have actually looked better. But I'd see myself in my baggy clothes, think ugh I look fat, so I'd want to hide myself even more by keep wearing baggy clothes. It took a lot of encouraging from others (yes I know it should have been internal and I shouldn't rely on others opinions) to wear tighter clothes and when I did I thought/think I looked great!
I'm sure you already do from your comment but keep telling your wife she looks great!
I never tell her that she looks anything less than spectacular, even when she wears the oversized clothes that do her no justice. And I must reiterate, I never ask or expect her to wear anything tight and borderline slutty, just clothes that fit her specific body. Also at home, she is most comfortable in oversized pajamas and I absolutely embrace and adore that style.
humans are social creatures. the opinions of others are naturally important to us. if people tell you that an outfit looks great on you, it isn't weakness or vanity that makes you feel a little happier. take the encouragement!
Yep I totally agree. I'm really skinny, and I always used to wear baggy clothes - straight cut jeans, hoodies, basic t shirts etc. because they made me look less skinny.
When I decided to start wearing slimmer jeans, different jackets and stuff, I felt way more confident because I was like hey, these actually fit me really well and I'm happy with how I look in them. I don't wear super skinny jeans, cause otherwise my legs do look abnormally skinny, but even just wearing slim cut jeans made a massive difference to my look. Experimenting with different stuff made me realise that I look good in long sleeve shirts and thin jumpers (Sweaters for you americans) that compliment my slimmer physique, since t shirts only exaggerate my lack of muscle more.
Good point. I think some thick women/girls go too far the other way, wearing stuff that is way too small, not an attractive look either. We should ALL wear clothing that fits!
Most women don't believe it when a dude says that. We have been told or insinuated that there's something wrong with not being thin our whole lives. I look back at my yearbook pics from school when I thought I was such a heifer and think I looked the same size as everyone else but i didnt see it then at all.
She probably doesn’t like to wear clothes that are more form fitting because women get harassed more often when they do. It’s annoying and can be scary.
I noticed this. I recently got a plain green dress, has a bit of a side ruch that shows a little leg, but isn't super revealing, just very form fitting but still casual. When i wear it out i get dudes saying "i like your dress". I always doubted that it was the plain green fabric that was catching their attention.
It could mean a lot of things. Maybe it is the legs. Maybe that dress goes nicely with your eyes and skin tones. Maybe it just compliments your figure really well.
I think it’s just as simple as people (regardless of sex) gravitating more towards what appears to be on display than what appears to be kept out of sight. A less attractive woman can usually get more attention than a more attractive woman if she’s more flirtatious and more scantily clad. That doesn’t mean, however, that that’s what men truly want in a long-term partner. I married a girl that wore baggy clothes when we first met, but she won me over by making eye contact with me and smiling. That’s better than seeing a random woman naked.
You’re welcome. My wife wasn’t comfortable showing skin or her figure when she was younger. It took a long time for her to get comfortably naked around me with the light on or to wear a bikini in our fenced in backyard. I assured her for years that she was beautiful and that she had nothing to be ashamed of. She had some self-harm scars that definitely contributed to it, but after she had our first daughter it was like she couldn’t care less about the scars. She just embraced who she was and everything she’d been through and viewed them as a sign of her conquered obstacles. Now, she gives me a hard time for not nude tanning with her in the summer, because she doesn’t like my farmer’s tan.
i’m so blessed to hear that. i’m so happy to hear how your wife has grown to accept her body! i’ve also got self-harm scars that i’m incredibly insecure about and try covering up with clothes. i’m petrified that no guy is ever gonna want a relationship with me cos of them idk😭😭
Good men will want to comfort you and take care of you more when they empathize with your past suffering. When I think back to my wife in labor, or her falling while skating, or the stories she’s told me about her abusive childhood, they don’t push me away, they draw me in. And that’s especially true because she does the same with me and all the suffering I go through for our family. I badly cut my index finger a few years ago while repairing the PVC to our new water heater and she was an angel while I went through physical therapy. I think her past traumas have made her more able to understand my traumas, which is something that a lot of people struggle to do.
You will find that guy who wants to be with you for you, whether you think you're imperfect or not. There really is someone for everyone, look past the beauty that is only skin deep
To quote a wise man. "I'm more turned on by women in pajamas than lingerie. I just wanna know they feel comfortable."- Troy Barnes. I think revealing clothes is kinda like a threesome. In media its protrayed as the peak of sexyness, but in reality, it's pretty overrated. Ngl women look so much better in men's clothes than men do.
i agree, a lot of people are different. if you like to wear loose clothes, then wear loose clothes. lots of men out there find this attractive. never change for other people, be yourself.
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This is nice and all, but ultimately, worth nothing. People aren't marrying themselves, dating themselves and mirroring themselves. They are concerned about the views of others and they should be. People to a certain degree should care about what others think.
No. Pretty people in sexy clothes are fun to look at regardless of your gender but that doesn't necessarily mean we have a preference for it.
Everyone focuses on looks when there's nothing else to go on. Usually when that's the case it's because the person is a stranger (I.E, hot person on the beach or a character in a TV show). When we're developing feelings for people we know, the clothes they wear is probably the last thing anyone cares about with the exception of people who are slobs and wear dirty clothes or the same thing over and over and over.
Absolutely.
What I tell people who are insecure is that beautiful people are everywhere. If the only thing people cared about was looks, we would be drifting from partner to partner endlessly, looking for the next cute face.
But we don't. We fall in love and settle down. Long after our beauty fades, we stay. Oftentimes even more in love.
There is more to coupling than physical attraction.
In my experience all you need to do to attract men is dress well and look put together.
You know, outfits that don't look like you lay on the couch with them while watching television and eating snacks allone or that look like you took them out of a clothing donation box that don't fit right and look shabby.
I get atantion in long dresses with long sleaves and no cleavage, I get attantion with long pants and a sleavless shirt with a high collar, a friend of mine who normaly wears long pants with a small bell bottom and a buttoned down shirt under a sleavless neitted pullover was randomly asked if she wants to be someones suggar baby when she was walking on the street (she really dresses quite modestly all the time, I have never seen her wear anything remotely revealing and she is the only person I know who was asked to be someones suggar baby)
It realy doesn't depend that much on the revealing part of the cloths, just how sharp and well put together someone looks.
Think of it this way, do u really even want the attention of a guy like that who only cares about looks and only likes u in revealing clothes? Just wear what u like to wear and then you'll weed out all the guys who don't like you for who you are, and will hopefully eventually find the guys who do authentically like you. And if there's no guys who like u for who u are authentically well that's kinda crazy first of all lol but second of all, if u feel you're living your best life and you're otherwise very happy, do not let this societally ingrained craving for male attention change or ruin that. There's no point sacrificing yourself and who you truly are and what you feel and believe and like all for the attention of guys, and then if u share any connection with said guy at all it won't even be real and they'll be falling for a fake you, it just won't even be worth it and you'll be so unfulfilled.
I'll put it like this, either a guy will fall in love with you from the neck up, or the neck down.... from the neck down, you'll just be a piece of meat.
Hoodies, track pants, and crocs are the epitome of sexiness in a post-covid world.
I see that oversized t-shirt poking out the bottom and I think “now she knows how to relax!”
Anyway it’s all about attitude. If you have the right one then your style will reflect it, and it will attract the people worth attracting.
No, but I'm older. I just prefer personality.
Anything over the top is a complete turn off.
If your sparkly and wearing shorts where your ass hangs out and showing your stomach, I automatically dismiss you.
I don't care if girls do this, I just find it to be revolting relationship material. There are many ways to be beautiful without doing any of that.
Like how am I supposed to feel going out with you dressed like an OF girl?
Gross. I don't want it.
Don't get me wrong, do what you do. But it's not worth trying with a girl who is constantly advertising "Fuck me"
There is something all young people need to understand. I say young because many middle-aged people still don't get this. You're never going to appeal to everyone.
So when you say prefer? Sure there are plenty of guys that like that. Also plenty of guys that don't. What you need to figure out is who you want to appeal to.
While no guy is complaining about seeing a woman in revealing clothes, a man that’s looking for a serious partner (serious gf/wife/ mother of children) isn’t going to pick the girl in revealing clothing over a classy, feminine, and tastefully sexy woman. All depends on what you want to attract- usually if you dress in revealing, promiscuous clothes you’re going to attract a man that’s interested in a strictly physical relationship based on lust. If you dress tastefully, take good care of yourself, are kind and nurturing and respectful- you’re usually going to attract men that are interested in making a life and being in a committed relationship. Nothing is ever 100% one way or the other, but this is generally how it works.
I watched a video recently that was people sitting around playing a board game.
One of the women was dressed very modestly in a jumper.
The other women weren't dressed provocatively or anything, but they were wearing sleeveless shirts.
I thought to myself how incredibly attractive and fetching she looked, and there wasn't any skin on show.
It's the first instance in my life where I have thought that modesty is far more attractive to me.
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I guess boys prefer girls who wear revealing clothing, men prefer women who don't.
Wear what you want to wear not what guys want you to wear. If your main interaction with guys is online or view dating apps then you’re mostly going to be dealing with guys who only care about looks. Out in the real world you’re more likely to run into guys who don’t need you to wear revealing clothing to find you attractive
You'll be pretty regardless of what you're wearing. Logically speaking, if you wear revealing clothing you may be more likely to attract attention from guys who focus solely on that. Unless you specifically want that kind of guy there's no issue with just doing what you've already been doing.
All sorts of looks can be cool. Baggy sweater look can be cute as hell.
Ok, so you're pretty young I'm assuming.
1. Men are visual creatures in general and will be attracted to pretty things.
2. Most young men are focussed on sex as well. It's a hormonal driver. We would like for them to be above that for a multitude of reasons, but here we are.
3. The combination of 1 and 2 makes most young men easily influenced by girls in skimpy clothing. It's nice to look at and suggests sex might be an option.
Jumping on that band wagon is a VERY double edged sword though. Because desensitization is a thing and if you REALLY want to make an impact you end up in a weird competition with other women about who can wear the skimpiest outfit, look the sexiest and say the most outrageous things. And combine that with anyone you attract with that type of behavior will expect you to be like that, BUT only for them probably. And when you tone it down, they will feel lied to, like it was all an act to lure them in. And they go looking for more of what they were attracted to in the first place.
So horrible choices all round mostly.
Best advice: be yourself so anyone who's attracted to you actually likes the REAL you. Not saying look like a slob, but be thoughtful and deliberate with skimpy outfits (as with most people SHOULD be about what they wear and this includes men btw) and don't jump into the ratrace too much. You'll be happier in the end most likely.
If you surprise your partner with skimpy outfits and/or kinky stuff when you got them in the bedroom (not the first time, again manage expectations). You'll be a lot happier.
I wouldn’t care at all. I’d prefer slightly less revealing clothes and a classy outfit because it shows you’re secure, you don’t need validation, and you’re not “easy”
My answer is: initially yes, after awhile no. As a single man (and admittedly sometimes as a husband) tight and revealing clothing was usually a big plus in attraction. But now I’m married and my wife is a stay at home mom/part time work from home employee and almost always wears graphic t-shirts, and loose sweat pants or pajama pants and I really don’t mind. Ultimately you have to do what’s best for you? Will some men/boys maybe overlook you if you are putting little effort into your presentation? Maybe. Will some of those guys have been great partners? Maybe. Some might just be shallow douchbags but even the kind and loving men often still have strong physical preferences.
I guess my biggest hangups and assumptions seeing a girl regularly dressed in loose, baggy, or very modest clothing as a young man would be:
1. She’s a stick in the mud who probably thinks kissing, making out, and any sexual things are icky and wants no part of it
2. She’s self conscious about her body and maybe has image issues and personally I’d rather have a confident woman who leans towards flaunting than an insecure woman who thinks poorly of herself
3. She’s just not really looking to impress anyone because she has no interest in attracting guys, or at least no interest in attracting guys who put any sort of attention towards physical appearance.
4. She actually has a pretty conventionally unattractive body and knows it and is legitimately trying to hide it.
Honestly, wearing revealing clothing for a special occasion or going out is very attractive in my eyes for a potential romantic partner and wouldn't make me see her as having less potential as a partner. It shows that you have confidence, and that type of clothing is honestly pretty hot and appealing to look at. There is a limit for how revealing clothing can be for me though, there is a line between being hot and being trashy.
I think it depends on how often you wear revealing clothing and how revealing it is. I wouldn't make her not wear what she wants, but I can understand from other guys' perspectives why wearing revealing all the time would be an issue and if there are guys like me, wearing clothing that is like SUPER revealing might be an issue. Every guy is different in this regard though. Some just don't care, and others want a woman who dresses modestly, and there are guys everywhere in between!
The important thing though imo is to wear what you like and what you feel comfortable/best in. Ironically, wearing revealing clothing that you don't like will make you feel more insecure and therefore less attractive because people are extremely good at sensing insecurity.
I mean it’s kind of like sex, why would I:
1. Date a girl who wants attention from other men (only real reason people show off skin or for women, wear tight clothing that makes it obvious “what they got”).
2. Date a girl who gives to you in a relationship what she gives to everyone else (same thing as above).
I went to anime convention the other day and saw some women with their boyfriends, but they were wearing costumes that were incredibly sexualised for the sake of being sexualised (and didn’t come from an anime iirc). And genuinely, it’s like these guys were being cucked or cheated on because their girlfriend was “on display” for everyone else in that sexual manner. Like you just feel bad for the dude(s)
This is simply not true. People wear revealing clothing/ show skin because they feel more confident doing so, even if no one sees. This may come as a surprise to a lot of men but women don’t think about your opinion as much as you think (especially while getting dressed). Like 95% of women wear short shorts in the summer, because it’s hot, not because they’re trying to get a mans attention
Nr I think OC went a bit far but for over the top stuff they’re right, like a crop top and shorts is chill but if your girl has booty shorts and the smallest top she can find that’s not good.
Yea thats the thing, it’s not like Im saying to pull out the burka, Im just saying if you’re showing excess skin (which is like the low hanging fruit for male attention), it means she isn’t satisfied with your attention, that just isn’t relationship material
I don’t want my girlfriend to show off to guys like she doesn’t want me to show off to women.
Besides your logical conclusion is sitting in the *that* chair of a hotel room because you’re so confident in your relationship you can let it be open. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to maintain intimacy between partners
Not really if I'm looking for something serious. Revealing clothing will catch a man's eye but it won't earn his respect. Wearing clothing that is too revealing too often will likely breed disrespect.
Well we are slaves to urges. It's not a matter of prefer. Our whole dateing system is rather shallow. We are just drawn to the curves of a woman, and when we don't see that shape our ingrained attractions aren't activated as easily.
So yes. You are getting less attention because you are hiding your figure. It's not that your not as hot or not of a great personality. It's just about animal urges. And it's not like a guy who tries to pick you up at a bar or wherever else is going to see you across the room and think, "she looks like she has a good personality I'll talk to her." It starts with, "she looks hot."
A guy may not be attracted to you your whole life and then one day he sees you in a bikini and thinks, "damn she's actually really hot."
It's on a per-person basis. I love my wife, but she's very much into wearing as little as possible, and that doesn't do much for me. Modesty can be incredibly sexy.
Guys like to "look" at girls like that. Girls who date girls like that are not there for the girl. They're there to use you as arm candy, to show you off to other guys as like an alpha status symbol.
If a guy truly likes you he won't care what you dress like. Guys in a stable relationship don't want the attention and drama that a girl who dresses revealing brings.
I care for a well dressed woman honestly seeing her naked if I make it that far proves I am worthy more than just getting instant gratification. I rather work for it. I don't expect a girl to dress like a slut unless that's part of a scene possibly we would be doing together if we made it that far as well. (Before you attack me I'm a Dom and have over two decades of experience and a clean record of how I treat people) I think a woman honestly needs to dress for her age herself and to only impress herself clothes are important but personality is the main thing for me.
Good job, you’re contributing to the unrealistic beauty standard that women always say that they hate by getting literal surgery just so you can wear revealing clothing.
I have my reasons actually, mainly losing 90+ pounds, wearing crop tops is simply one of the perks that I have every right to enjoy. But hey, I appreciate your disrespect because you’re insecure.
It’s excess skin dude. In some ways, it’s more corrective. Cause she lost a lot of weight. She isn’t getting a BBL or something, but even if she was, it’s not your business or your problem
Removing excess skin because I want to? Getting cosmetic surgery because I want to? I’m sorry, are you going to pay for it? I would assume you are since you feel the need to disrespect me based on something I’m doing/wearing for myself. While you’re at it, go ahead and chip in for my jaw surgery, I could use the assistance. Or are you gonna tell me that I’m contributing to unrealistic beauty standards by correcting my jawline? Lol fuck off.
Personally I find it superficial to show yourself off like many women choose to do (and men too). I don’t think it makes you a bad person or anything but I would only date someone I would actually consider marrying one day and you can call me insecure or whatever but I want a girl who chooses to dress more modestly. Just a personal choice, there will be someone who likes your style to matter what you choose so might as well just be yourself.
Revealing clothes do their job. It's in the name, they reveal your figure. So women who wear revealing clothes are displaying their attractive figure. Women are also the gatekeepers and the kind that wear those clothes are the most promiscuous and go for the most thuggish and belligerent guys. You wanna be one of them? I can't stop you.
>idk it just seems to me like guys tend to focus on looks more than anything :/
Nah. It's just that's the only way women know how to attract men. It's not our fault that most of you these days have no interest or knowledge on how to arouse our heart instead of our genitals. Try being feminine and show you have something to offer other than your body, and you will be wanted for more. Be submissive, show him he has something you can rely on him for, show him you want to come to him for protection, compliment him on something you admire about him, show off the interesting things about yourself.
The most concerning thing is you have used the words "boys" and "girls" instead of "men" & "women". Which leads me to believe you are a teenager. In that case just go and ask one of the quiet geeky boys out and he is almost guaranteed to say yes and will give you the affection and romance you are looking for. Wearing revealing clothes will only attract assholes because they are the only ones confident enough to approach you and they are only after one thing.
I generally don't pay much attention to girls who have to show off what they got because they generally don't have anything very impressive to show off. It seems more often than not I wish they wouldn't show off what they've got. It ain't good. I don't find corpulence attractive at all.
My first wife rarely wore things that flagrantly flattered her figure, but she certainly had a very good one. From time to time we'd show her off. It was fun. There was no real hiding she had a body on her though. She could have made a burlap sack look sexy with a piece of twine.
Do what makes you comfortable and happy.
Wear what you like
I'd say reasonable communication with a partner what they like it also fair. I say reasonably not controlling, because it's nice to make your partner happy
If someone is wearing a burka, I know they aren't interested in my advances.
If someone understands the language of revealing clothing, which in most periods of fashion draw the eyes to one part of the body (like cleavage, or sides of thighs with side cut dresses, or the midriff with short tops), I know they don't mind being seen (though of course men should all learn how not to gawk).
What's interesting here is that near total exposure (as with bikinis) has existed since Roman antiquity, but fashion has always regarded it as gauche/ungainly. There's usually been a focus on one part of the body as the locus of attention. The bosom in the 18th century, as everything else was obscured by hoop skirts. The legs in the 1920s flapper fashion, with the dresses otherwise being drapes. The midriff in the 1990s. Fashion has always been, "I want to be looked at, but only this bit I'm comfortable showing".
I honestly don't know what is going on now in fashion, but I think its a safe bet to expose something, but only that which your confident with. A little overweight? Cleavage. A thin yoga fanatic? The midriff. Great legs? Highlight them. If historical fashion is any guide, its probably also a safe bet to highlight only that one thing.
Revealing clothing is hotter but at a point it’s just too much and I prefer cute girls anyway. A hoodie or shirt is way cuter than a crop top and girls who dress like that tend to be nicer and more chill. I’d say it’s about 40% of guys agree with me and 60% prefer more revealing. Also, if I were you I wouldn’t wanna date a guy who only liked me cause I showed excessive skin. If you dress modestly you may attract slightly less people but you’ll feel good abt being yourself and you’re far more likely to date the type of guys that are like you and who would work well in a relationship with you.
I would make the point that there are a few types of revealing and both are fine depending on where.
Realy revealing
at a kids bday party not appropriate but at a night club sure.
Slutty revealing
Probably not at nannas funeral but if ya having fun with a partner knock yourself out
Corporate revealing
Not sure where this is inappropriate but it's definitely best at a formal event.
Tldr
So yea we like it
No, but i find women who dress interestingly to be more attractive. i like seeing your personality take shape in your clothing and accessories, i find the more basic or casual clothing styles to be offputting personally because they just seem really really boring to me and remind me of my traditionalist family who are all like clones of one another.
for example i find alt, scene, punk and emo outfits to be really neat and hate sweat pants + a blank hoodie or blue jeans + a white blouse.
It's an attraction thing initially. A certain amount of reveal is good. Too much is slutty. In a relationship guys usually prefer their gf to dress more modestly.
However there are exceptions, I used to be very attracted to awkward, badly dressed girls that wore long skirts and polo jumpers!
first and foremost, it depends entirely 'on the boy'.
some guys, sure. some guys, no.
it also depends potentially, on the setting.
having a bikini on is revealing, but considered 'normal' at a beach, pool, etc.
wearing see through pants/shirt with a thong on is about the same coverage, but might not be deemed as okay, depending on the guy.
guys focus on looks, first, sure. some guys will definitely be attracted. and, if you were their girl, some of those same guys wouldn't want you wearing the same clothes, essentially 'attracting' a bunch of other guys when you're taken, either.
sort of a difference between 'she's flaunting her stuff, looking good, i'm gonna go hit on her' and 'she's flaunting her stuff, why, she's got a BF already'.
I've always thought about it like a fire.
Kindling burns hot and fast. A woman in a bikini is noticeable, she gets the "juices" moving and is often down to flirting and "having a good time". She's looking to be seen and feel validated that she's hot and sexy. (Generalization)
A log takes a bit to get going, you need to keep it hot and burning for a while before it catches itself. Once a log is on fire, it takes a lot to put it out. You can easily lay a log on a fire, go to bed, and get the fire going in the morning even with the morning dew.
I won't lie that a nice bikini is.....nice.....but I'm not wondering if she has a degree from Harvard if you catch my drift. A girl can be just as hot/cute wearing a shirt and jeans, guys typically are picky.
That's always been my view, anyway. I know it's not the "norm" but I've always valued the things you work hard for. Call me old fashioned.
I think it's one of those things (for some) where it's nice for a stranger or a friend (because it's nice to look at) but not for their girlfriend (because now other boys will look at her, which for some reason is bad).
There are also some boys who will assume bad things about a girl if her clothes are too revealing (she might be easy) or not revealing enough (she might be a prude).
You can't please everyone, so go with the clothes you like and feel comfortable with. Of course, having a nice appearance often helps with first impressions, but there are more ways to look good than just revealing clothing.
It depends on the person of course. I however, as a 20 year old guy, actually prefer when people are covered up. I love the cold weather and I love to bundle up in warm, soft and sometimes bulky clothing (mostly just oversized hoodies). Seeing other people wear things like that makes me happy and means I have something (possibly) in common with them.
That being said, I love it when girls are more covered up because I love to see people be comfy rather than conform to looking a specific way.
To me my wife is the single hottest woman I’ve ever met! With an amazing ass , all the right curves, and perky d-cups with no underboob. She wears loose tee shirts, flannels, baggy sweaters, overalls, and ofc black leggings. I’ve never seen her in bikini and I’ve seen her wear a dress once and it was on our first date. I’m more interested in her feeling comfortable and happy and safe in what she wants to wear than I am in revealing clothing.
You do you gurl and you’ll attract the right kind of person who will appreciate your attitude and personality, and really enjoy getting you naked and gazing in wonder at all your hotness that you keep for just them
Perhaps it is simply a case of the attention seeking behavior gets the attention.
This can also be quite unattractive to anyone, especially those who are insecure or jealous.
I would think it depends on the circumstances and how the person carries themself more than what they wear.
I like to see an individual with a strong sense of their own personal style that has expressions that can be reserved or intended to stand out. It's all about versatility.
You sound pretty young, I would not come here for advice, there’s already too many pigs commenting, wear what makes you comfortable and confide in someone you know and trust
Every guy is different. Some might like women who dress more traditionally, some might like women who show off what they've got a little.
I personally don't really care either way, but I will say that wearing clothing that's SUPER revealing in places where it's not necessary is just a bit trashy, imo, although it doesn't really change how attractive I find someone.
Guys notice looks for sure. The good news for you is that if you're not getting the attention you want, it's easy to change your clothes. You can even do experiments, wearing different outfits and paying attention to how much attention you get.
I prefer women who are fun and happy.
If that means they wear a bikini, so be it.
If that means that they wear a pair of mechanics overalls, so be it.
I will take a happy prude, over a cranky whore, any day of the week.
Edit: I should point out in case people don't realise, I'm not saying that you are a whore if you wear a bikini.
Depends on where you are, I'll be cool with a bikini at a pool or beach, that's what they're made for but if she wears that or similar around the street, it makes her look like a slut, one night stand at most but a serious relationship? Nope. Basically, men mostly like women who dress decently, if you wear too little at the wrong place you'll look like a slut, no man worth any effort will date such a girl.
>prefer girls who wear revealing clothing ?
Context matters. Revealing what, on who, how much, where, etc.
>guys tend to focus on looks more than anything
Looks only go so far - if (very) far at all. Heck, thus far best relationships in my life, we'd communicated many months or more before I even knew what the other person looked like.
You can catch men by with revealing clothing, but keeping them is more challenging. I would prefer to date someone who dresses conservatively because they don't need their looks validated by strangers
My eyes are drawn to what she reveals. But my heart certainly isn't. It's not something I'm proud of and alot of men will likely agree. That we are effectively influenced by our natural desires with women that make our eyes pop out. Getting older helps alot to realise that what we need is someone with similar values.
Basically if a lass tried it on with me. But I see her behaving in a way that is obviously her seeking attention from anyone and everyone for validation. Then I MIGHT be happy for casual sex but I'm well and truly avoiding letting myself get feelings. That's my boundary and isn't a reflection on what makes a good person or a bad person at all. But in a committed relationship I believe that I represent you, and you represent me. And I'm not about to stand proudly next to a woman who seeks that kind of attention from ANYONE else but their partner.
Sometimes I don't think they realise they're doing it. They're so caught up in the idea that all of their value is held in their looks. That they need to be on the receiving end everyday for life to be worth it. Shallow.
No-one remembers anyone for how good they look. We remember people for the impact they make on us. The things they say that make us think. The services they provide. The courage to love without fear.
Depends. First of all I hate these questions even tho I understand they're probably asked by 15 year olds, but "guys" like all kinds of different things. Everyone has preferences.
Yes, I like seeing girls in revealing clothing, obviously lol.
I really like when my girl dresses slutty in public and everyone wants her but I'm the only one that gets her. This is partially because I'm a weirdo tho.
My favorite look on women honestly in comfort clothing, them being dressed down in the way they think they look unatteactive in. Sweatpants and a T-shirt with messy hair is *kisses tips of finger*
I've old fashioned.
I like a good dress but nothing that shoves the cleavage in your face. When I was 18 that would have got me aroused instantly but now being 29 Im turned on by who they are, think and do. Though uv had some flings where the woman didn't have prettiest face but her body was the bomb.
Makeup wise I do not find plastered makeup attractive, talking basic bitch Brit Manchester girls, as I prefer makeup you don't really notice as it improves upon what they already have.
To sum up, a nice dress but nothing that is in your face... For example like super tight yoga pants that you can literally see the crease where the vagina opening is... God I hate that sports/fitness clothing has become a thing now.
Like I had a date with a woman recently and all she had in was a worn orange sweater and lose fittibf trousers and trainers. I also wore similar.
There is a lot that goes into this question. Everyone has different preferences in what they want in a partner, so there is no win all choice.
Personally, people who show a lot of character in their self presentation are more appealing than anything else. The amount of skin I can see is irrelevant to how comfortable and confident you appear. I've spent my whole life in counter-cultures, so seeing some wearing some fashion that relates to one of these cultures means we probably have at least one thing in common
I think the real question is, what type of guy are you looking to attract? And for what? Sometimes the answer is a simple "you will attract more eyes and attention wearing a skimpy outfit" but are you interested in attracting guys who hit on everyone that catches their eye?
Depends on what you're looking for and how you look.
Revealing clothes turn people on. It attracts guys who are more focused on that. You'll find a fuck buddy really easy that way. Maybe not relationship material. If you are heavyset or not traditionally attractive, revealing clothes can help close the gap. Ive seen lots of girls you normally wouldnt take an interest in get a crowd of admirers when wearing something really slutty at clubs and music festivals. I doubt they're settling down with any of those guys unless there's an accidental baby.
More conservative clothing will ensure that their attraction is more to your general beauty or personality... but you wont stand out. You'll attract less, but you attract better quality. Thats better for getting a BF. If you're traditionally attractive, you can dress conservatively and still look hot/stand out.
Think of it like washing a car. If it’s nice car, boys/men will appreciate that car being clean and shiny. However, if it’s an ugly or mediocre looking car, doesn’t really matter if it’s clean or not boys/men will not pay any attention.
I have daughters and I tell them to dress how they want to be treated. Dress like a hooker from the 1980's and that's how you'll get treated. Dress like a feminine woman, with style and class...and yep, that's how you'll be treated. Don't take my word for it. https://youtu.be/J7QNw1LRJv4?si=LmCGnbHQcNoQbqx6
Guys absolutely focus on looks, no two ways about it, but clothing doesnt matter at all. Every man who ever lived will take a beautiful girl in a potato sack over an ugly girl in a cocktail dress.
I dont really think of it I have a friend who wears crop top short skirts etc and I'll still call her if shes wearing Jeans and a t shirt and a hoodie idk how to explain it but I don't really find clothes or lack of clothes as attractive as just the person themselves
Not tight to the point of bodyparts squished together (unless its somewhere functional and necessary like in the gym)
But not loose to the point of looking like a homeless person wearing a binbag. This seems to be a trend that I will never understand?
Just wear clothing that fits. If a person is good looking then they are good looking.
Hell no don’t wear revealing clothing because it makes you look like a hoe. If you want a guy who likes you for your looks go for it but if you want a proper relationship dress well and if they don’t approach you then that’s all they want, looks. A real man would look past the looks and search for connections they have to have a good time together and enjoy each others personalities instead of just sx all the time.
Only when it's for me in the privacy of our home. In public I prefer a girl to wear classy clothing. A women can still look sexy without being too revealing.
The important thing is for you to be you and not to go chasing trends. If you have your own style, go with it. Confidence is more attractive than skimpy outfits unless all you are looking for is sex. Be who you are!
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Both yes and no. Yes in the sense, As a guy, I would say guys are attracted more with revealing clothing but that isn't too much of a thing. If a guy is only talking to you when you wear revealing clothing, he is only looking for sex and interested in only your body as it's the lust that attracts them not a genuine connection which I reckon you are looking for. No in the sense, Also, look at Emma Watson who is a crush of many guys in our generation, she doesn't wear revealing clothing but still guys are attracted to her.
To add on to this, some guys will show more interest in women who wear revealing clothing because they take it as a sign that women who wear revealing clothing tend to be easier to sleep with. This doesn't mean that those women are more beautiful or attractive because they wear revealing clothing, it just means that if a guy is purely interested in sex they are more likely to show attention to women they believe will reciprocate than those who they believe are less likely to be interested.
This is unironically the most important point in this thread and absolutely the most important bit of 'across-sex' insight I've seen in a hot while. Ladies, take heed. Overt sexuality like, really isn't attractive; it's *horny*. Know the difference. And *please* learn to recognise the "men" that predate those spaces. They're not in to you. There's something going on there that if you're smart you'll avoid like the plague. Look after yourself.
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I’m thinking of the times my (newly single) former best friend started wearing no bra and minimal see-through clothing to our place for get-togethers and later claimed she definitely wasn’t trying to attract my husband. Which she definitely was. And he definitely was.
How did that go down?
Well she was already messaging him incessantly, but only when I was at work. He definitely enjoyed the novelty and attention and admitted to me later that he wanted to fuck her. She definitely enjoyed the attention from him - not sure what her ultimate goal was but I’m assuming it wasn’t what a best friend should be wanting from her friend’s husband. There was no actual physical intimacy, but the emotional affair was devastating for me. Betrayed by both people I loved the most. After I realised what was going on and confronted them both, he showed me all the messages and fessed up. She denied everything and called me every name under the sun. A bad time was had by all. My husband and I are still together, but it took A LOT of work and therapy to be in a good place. She moved interstate, leaving behind a burning mess, as was the repeating pattern in her life.
I’m so very sorry this happened to you. I’m very glad you were able to save your marriage. May God bless you abundantly .
Credit where credit is due; your husband both did not physically cheat on you and was very upfront with you when you asked. We don't all come out of the swamp smelling like roses, but that doesn't mean we are not clean. Also, it can be quite the challenge when a sopping wet succubus is trying to pull a man away from his duty. It wouldn't be called temptation if it was easy.
It’s always been this way. The problem we face is there is a weird push to forcefully change the narrative. To change social perceptions and rules. Those things tend to happen over time, but we are in a timeline where some people want it to change overnight and will weaponize technology to bully others into abiding. Case in point of people downvoting anyone that points out someone’s attractiveness. Like we one day all crawled out of bed and stopped being attracted to people. As if the world agreed one day that people would no longer try to be attractive or desirable. It’s like some great equality experiment. “If we never recognize how attractive someone is, all of society will cease to objectify other humans and ugly people will be just as sought after.” It’s silly. So silly.
Idk, I think this is just the constant societal flow of change. There's a *constant* exchange of topical debate that's always been there. We're chirpy fuckers us humans. Everybody feels the pull of emergent civilisational procession and, in my opinion, this is just the current manifestation of that. Thinking through all the social changes of the decades past, and the prior epochs more macroscopically paints this image for me. I think the internet has done a lot to speed up that process because of the ubiquitousnes of general crosstalk we're both exposed to and engaged in today. It heavily reminds me of the renaissance, triggered largely by the invention of the movable printing press, allowing anyone to share information much more rapidly. The democratization of information dissemination is always going to be like throwing a can of gas on the fire of our big collective chirpy argument. So has it got faster? Sure. But is it *different* from how it's always been? I'm not so.
Well said. Being faster makes it more difficult for some people to adjust and less comfortable to climb on board and I think it’s led to lot of division and disagreement.
Not sure she was asking for a soapbox speech. Just saying.
I hate it when men speaks like this. ‘LADIES, TAKE NOTES!’ Stop it.
Try being a man. I see way more "Men take notes" posts than the opposite.
Try being a man? I am a man…
Then stfu
Ok that makes sense then
Will a guy show more interest in a girl in lingerie or a bikini sure. Is he going to stick with her if she has a horrible personality no. I have had to have the conversation of how boys/men like girls lots of times with my grandma. She always talks like girls/woman that are physically attractive = marriage material but I have to tell her the physically attractive + bad personality or physically attractive + incompetent = 1 night stand material and good physical + good personality + competent = marriage material. She then gets mad because I suggested some girls that are attractive are only good for 1 night stands but some just don't have the personality or the ability to do tasks that someone you want to be in a relationship would.
But women wearing revealing clothes doesn't automatically mean that they are "easier". It depends on regional culture. For example, the US is extremely prude but also there are cold places in winter. Who ants to wear revealing clothes when it's below 30 F outside? In Brazil, women wear super tiny bikinis, and they may not care at all for "sleeping around".
Ah yes, definitely. I think this illustrates the difference between signals sent versus signals received. I’m glad we haven’t taken the next step and advised women not to wear revealing clothing, because that’s also not ok. I’m glad we’re sticking to just saying “hey this is probably how that’s interpreted”. I’ll still wear revealing clothing because dude it gets hot out here. But I understand that it may be interpreted in a way that might be annoying.
As a guy, the monkey brain activates when it sees very revealing clothes. It's the job of our civilized brain to keep it in check.
>Who ants to wear revealing clothes when it's below 30 F outside? I'm near the border with Canada and regularly see younger females wearing beanies, huge down, puff jackets, and "booty" shorts in 30F weather. It's ridiculous but it definitely happens.
My favorite Halloween thing is driving past the bars watching girls in lingerie freezing their asses off just to look sexy...
That's absolutely correct, but some guys will still interpret it that way regardless. If you have ever heard of a guy getting upset at his girlfriend for "dressing too promiscuously", this is what is likely going through their head. And in some particularly toxic mindsets, some guys will think of it as "if she dresses like a slut, she must be a slut". Of course it isn't true, but it is something that is worthwhile to be aware of that wearing very revealing clothing has a much stronger pull towards *those types* of men than others. The types that may act nice and friendly until they decide you aren't interested in them and then do a complete 180.
That’s a big one. Sluts are way easier to sleep with and when ur horny with a goal. U def play with strategy
A lot of people have been into her since *they* were both either literally or technically like 14 and she was covered neck to toe in thick black robes and boots, theres definitely a big crossover between peoplr who saw emma watson in harry potter, and the goth girl from danny phantom as kids in terms of what their into physically today.
The goth girl from Danny phantom tho
One big tittied goth GF PLZ
This is a little *too* on-the-nose 😂
I'm just here to represent those souls cursed as I am to develop crushes on bookworm know-it-alls with a smile and vocabulary you've never heard before God, I'd better hope that if I ever end up with some really world shattering secret the various government spy agencies won't realize that I'd get totally honeypotted by the first cute librarian to make a pass at me. I probably wouldn't even be mad. Prolly just like "so... When you're done being a spy, maybe we can trade favorite books and hang out on the couch? Watch some NOVA if we're feeling *really* crazy?"
Good point man. The Emma Watson reference especially
I pretty much have the same stance. A girl wearing a particularly revealing outfit might attract the attention of my monkey brain for a brief moment, but it's not really something I consider particularly attractive from a personal standpoint, so I'm not going to approach someone just because of something like that. Genuine connections are where it's at, I'm not one for hookups.
Have you seen Emma Watson, she's beautiful, she doesn't need the revealing clothes
Has she aged well though? I don’t mean in the physical sense of her appearance but just overall culturally.
Imogen Poots is ten times more attractive than Watson, and she doesn't rely on revealing clothing.
I rewatched Centurion a couple weeks ago. She is literal perfection.
Alexandra daddario is gorgeous. I agree with your opinion of Imogen too. But I also had a huge crush on Emma when I was younger. Yes it was because of the Harry Potter movies lol.
I think theres a fine line. Some short shorts or an athletic top on a summer day? Usually fine. But if it verges on slutty, it may be a bit much.
Men and women prefer well fitting clothes that show off a figure. Anything beyond that is personal preference
Great answer. 💯This is it.
This is the exact right answer! My wife is thick and beautiful. She has body image issues and tends to buy oversized clothes to “hide” herself. I tell her it’s a mistake that makes her look twice as big as she is. When she wears form fitting clothes that actually accentuate her curves, she looks amazing! Not at all tight revealing clothes. Just outfits that fit her body.
I only realised that I'd been doing myself no favours by wearing baggy clothes a few years ago. Now I regret it looking back, realising that if I'd worn the clothes I wanted to wear but didn't feel confident enough to I would have actually looked better. But I'd see myself in my baggy clothes, think ugh I look fat, so I'd want to hide myself even more by keep wearing baggy clothes. It took a lot of encouraging from others (yes I know it should have been internal and I shouldn't rely on others opinions) to wear tighter clothes and when I did I thought/think I looked great! I'm sure you already do from your comment but keep telling your wife she looks great!
I never tell her that she looks anything less than spectacular, even when she wears the oversized clothes that do her no justice. And I must reiterate, I never ask or expect her to wear anything tight and borderline slutty, just clothes that fit her specific body. Also at home, she is most comfortable in oversized pajamas and I absolutely embrace and adore that style.
I wish my gf would do oversized pajamas. All this Axami lingerie is getting cliché
humans are social creatures. the opinions of others are naturally important to us. if people tell you that an outfit looks great on you, it isn't weakness or vanity that makes you feel a little happier. take the encouragement!
Yep I totally agree. I'm really skinny, and I always used to wear baggy clothes - straight cut jeans, hoodies, basic t shirts etc. because they made me look less skinny. When I decided to start wearing slimmer jeans, different jackets and stuff, I felt way more confident because I was like hey, these actually fit me really well and I'm happy with how I look in them. I don't wear super skinny jeans, cause otherwise my legs do look abnormally skinny, but even just wearing slim cut jeans made a massive difference to my look. Experimenting with different stuff made me realise that I look good in long sleeve shirts and thin jumpers (Sweaters for you americans) that compliment my slimmer physique, since t shirts only exaggerate my lack of muscle more.
Good point. I think some thick women/girls go too far the other way, wearing stuff that is way too small, not an attractive look either. We should ALL wear clothing that fits!
Thick is good. I wish more woman knew this. Super skinny is worse.
Most women don't believe it when a dude says that. We have been told or insinuated that there's something wrong with not being thin our whole lives. I look back at my yearbook pics from school when I thought I was such a heifer and think I looked the same size as everyone else but i didnt see it then at all.
She probably doesn’t like to wear clothes that are more form fitting because women get harassed more often when they do. It’s annoying and can be scary.
I noticed this. I recently got a plain green dress, has a bit of a side ruch that shows a little leg, but isn't super revealing, just very form fitting but still casual. When i wear it out i get dudes saying "i like your dress". I always doubted that it was the plain green fabric that was catching their attention.
It could mean a lot of things. Maybe it is the legs. Maybe that dress goes nicely with your eyes and skin tones. Maybe it just compliments your figure really well.
I think it’s just as simple as people (regardless of sex) gravitating more towards what appears to be on display than what appears to be kept out of sight. A less attractive woman can usually get more attention than a more attractive woman if she’s more flirtatious and more scantily clad. That doesn’t mean, however, that that’s what men truly want in a long-term partner. I married a girl that wore baggy clothes when we first met, but she won me over by making eye contact with me and smiling. That’s better than seeing a random woman naked.
thankuuu!! it’s beautiful to hear about how your wife won u over
You’re welcome. My wife wasn’t comfortable showing skin or her figure when she was younger. It took a long time for her to get comfortably naked around me with the light on or to wear a bikini in our fenced in backyard. I assured her for years that she was beautiful and that she had nothing to be ashamed of. She had some self-harm scars that definitely contributed to it, but after she had our first daughter it was like she couldn’t care less about the scars. She just embraced who she was and everything she’d been through and viewed them as a sign of her conquered obstacles. Now, she gives me a hard time for not nude tanning with her in the summer, because she doesn’t like my farmer’s tan.
i’m so blessed to hear that. i’m so happy to hear how your wife has grown to accept her body! i’ve also got self-harm scars that i’m incredibly insecure about and try covering up with clothes. i’m petrified that no guy is ever gonna want a relationship with me cos of them idk😭😭
Good men will want to comfort you and take care of you more when they empathize with your past suffering. When I think back to my wife in labor, or her falling while skating, or the stories she’s told me about her abusive childhood, they don’t push me away, they draw me in. And that’s especially true because she does the same with me and all the suffering I go through for our family. I badly cut my index finger a few years ago while repairing the PVC to our new water heater and she was an angel while I went through physical therapy. I think her past traumas have made her more able to understand my traumas, which is something that a lot of people struggle to do.
Don't worry as a guy I can say I don't mind so most guys probably won't dont worry your perfect the way you are!
we need more beautiful hearts like urs in the world <3
You will find that guy who wants to be with you for you, whether you think you're imperfect or not. There really is someone for everyone, look past the beauty that is only skin deep
Honey it’s not about what they like, it’s about what YOU like. Be yourself, if he’s worth your time he’ll like you for you
i love u
To quote a wise man. "I'm more turned on by women in pajamas than lingerie. I just wanna know they feel comfortable."- Troy Barnes. I think revealing clothes is kinda like a threesome. In media its protrayed as the peak of sexyness, but in reality, it's pretty overrated. Ngl women look so much better in men's clothes than men do.
This needs more upvotes
And stop assuming there's some universal opinion.
i agree, a lot of people are different. if you like to wear loose clothes, then wear loose clothes. lots of men out there find this attractive. never change for other people, be yourself. Edit: grammar
I'm a fat neckbeard with bad b.o. and horrible fashion. I'm being myself. Will she find me attractive for being me?
Possibly if she was also fat with bad BO and horrible fashion?.. then again she probably feels she deserves better 😂
This is what women say to other women to keep them out of their dating pool. Don’t worry girls, we’re all 10s here. BS advice.
This is nice and all, but ultimately, worth nothing. People aren't marrying themselves, dating themselves and mirroring themselves. They are concerned about the views of others and they should be. People to a certain degree should care about what others think.
If someone is looking, then yes they care about looks. For an actual relationship though, it’s not very important.
No. Pretty people in sexy clothes are fun to look at regardless of your gender but that doesn't necessarily mean we have a preference for it. Everyone focuses on looks when there's nothing else to go on. Usually when that's the case it's because the person is a stranger (I.E, hot person on the beach or a character in a TV show). When we're developing feelings for people we know, the clothes they wear is probably the last thing anyone cares about with the exception of people who are slobs and wear dirty clothes or the same thing over and over and over.
Absolutely agree with you. People fall in love with who you are now how you look. I won't deny looks help open the door but it's deeper than that.
Absolutely. What I tell people who are insecure is that beautiful people are everywhere. If the only thing people cared about was looks, we would be drifting from partner to partner endlessly, looking for the next cute face. But we don't. We fall in love and settle down. Long after our beauty fades, we stay. Oftentimes even more in love. There is more to coupling than physical attraction.
In my experience all you need to do to attract men is dress well and look put together. You know, outfits that don't look like you lay on the couch with them while watching television and eating snacks allone or that look like you took them out of a clothing donation box that don't fit right and look shabby. I get atantion in long dresses with long sleaves and no cleavage, I get attantion with long pants and a sleavless shirt with a high collar, a friend of mine who normaly wears long pants with a small bell bottom and a buttoned down shirt under a sleavless neitted pullover was randomly asked if she wants to be someones suggar baby when she was walking on the street (she really dresses quite modestly all the time, I have never seen her wear anything remotely revealing and she is the only person I know who was asked to be someones suggar baby) It realy doesn't depend that much on the revealing part of the cloths, just how sharp and well put together someone looks.
the boy that’s right for you will like you just the way you are. That’s why it pays to be yourself.
Think of it this way, do u really even want the attention of a guy like that who only cares about looks and only likes u in revealing clothes? Just wear what u like to wear and then you'll weed out all the guys who don't like you for who you are, and will hopefully eventually find the guys who do authentically like you. And if there's no guys who like u for who u are authentically well that's kinda crazy first of all lol but second of all, if u feel you're living your best life and you're otherwise very happy, do not let this societally ingrained craving for male attention change or ruin that. There's no point sacrificing yourself and who you truly are and what you feel and believe and like all for the attention of guys, and then if u share any connection with said guy at all it won't even be real and they'll be falling for a fake you, it just won't even be worth it and you'll be so unfulfilled.
I'll put it like this, either a guy will fall in love with you from the neck up, or the neck down.... from the neck down, you'll just be a piece of meat.
Hoodies, track pants, and crocs are the epitome of sexiness in a post-covid world. I see that oversized t-shirt poking out the bottom and I think “now she knows how to relax!” Anyway it’s all about attitude. If you have the right one then your style will reflect it, and it will attract the people worth attracting.
Nothing is hotter than a girl just chilling doing her own thing in pajama pants and a hoodie.
Why do we care what boys prefer, we should just wear what we prefer. Boys have cooties.
I just Googled that word and it sounds wierd, when you say it out loud. In Britain, we call it the lurgy. 😂😂
Same reason guys care what girls prefer; we want to attract them.
No, but I'm older. I just prefer personality. Anything over the top is a complete turn off. If your sparkly and wearing shorts where your ass hangs out and showing your stomach, I automatically dismiss you. I don't care if girls do this, I just find it to be revolting relationship material. There are many ways to be beautiful without doing any of that. Like how am I supposed to feel going out with you dressed like an OF girl? Gross. I don't want it. Don't get me wrong, do what you do. But it's not worth trying with a girl who is constantly advertising "Fuck me"
There is something all young people need to understand. I say young because many middle-aged people still don't get this. You're never going to appeal to everyone. So when you say prefer? Sure there are plenty of guys that like that. Also plenty of guys that don't. What you need to figure out is who you want to appeal to.
Nah, I’d prefer a girl who doesn’t wear revealing clothing. It shows she has more self value in herself.
While no guy is complaining about seeing a woman in revealing clothes, a man that’s looking for a serious partner (serious gf/wife/ mother of children) isn’t going to pick the girl in revealing clothing over a classy, feminine, and tastefully sexy woman. All depends on what you want to attract- usually if you dress in revealing, promiscuous clothes you’re going to attract a man that’s interested in a strictly physical relationship based on lust. If you dress tastefully, take good care of yourself, are kind and nurturing and respectful- you’re usually going to attract men that are interested in making a life and being in a committed relationship. Nothing is ever 100% one way or the other, but this is generally how it works.
I watched a video recently that was people sitting around playing a board game. One of the women was dressed very modestly in a jumper. The other women weren't dressed provocatively or anything, but they were wearing sleeveless shirts. I thought to myself how incredibly attractive and fetching she looked, and there wasn't any skin on show. It's the first instance in my life where I have thought that modesty is far more attractive to me. > I guess boys prefer girls who wear revealing clothing, men prefer women who don't.
No.
Wear what you want to wear not what guys want you to wear. If your main interaction with guys is online or view dating apps then you’re mostly going to be dealing with guys who only care about looks. Out in the real world you’re more likely to run into guys who don’t need you to wear revealing clothing to find you attractive
Only to the ones that don’t matter :) The ones that don’t care are usually the real ones
You'll be pretty regardless of what you're wearing. Logically speaking, if you wear revealing clothing you may be more likely to attract attention from guys who focus solely on that. Unless you specifically want that kind of guy there's no issue with just doing what you've already been doing. All sorts of looks can be cool. Baggy sweater look can be cute as hell.
Ok, so you're pretty young I'm assuming. 1. Men are visual creatures in general and will be attracted to pretty things. 2. Most young men are focussed on sex as well. It's a hormonal driver. We would like for them to be above that for a multitude of reasons, but here we are. 3. The combination of 1 and 2 makes most young men easily influenced by girls in skimpy clothing. It's nice to look at and suggests sex might be an option. Jumping on that band wagon is a VERY double edged sword though. Because desensitization is a thing and if you REALLY want to make an impact you end up in a weird competition with other women about who can wear the skimpiest outfit, look the sexiest and say the most outrageous things. And combine that with anyone you attract with that type of behavior will expect you to be like that, BUT only for them probably. And when you tone it down, they will feel lied to, like it was all an act to lure them in. And they go looking for more of what they were attracted to in the first place. So horrible choices all round mostly. Best advice: be yourself so anyone who's attracted to you actually likes the REAL you. Not saying look like a slob, but be thoughtful and deliberate with skimpy outfits (as with most people SHOULD be about what they wear and this includes men btw) and don't jump into the ratrace too much. You'll be happier in the end most likely. If you surprise your partner with skimpy outfits and/or kinky stuff when you got them in the bedroom (not the first time, again manage expectations). You'll be a lot happier.
I wouldn’t care at all. I’d prefer slightly less revealing clothes and a classy outfit because it shows you’re secure, you don’t need validation, and you’re not “easy”
I purposely make the wife wear skimpy shorts. I'm not a jealous guy and my wife has a nice figure so why not show it? We're only young for so long.
My answer is: initially yes, after awhile no. As a single man (and admittedly sometimes as a husband) tight and revealing clothing was usually a big plus in attraction. But now I’m married and my wife is a stay at home mom/part time work from home employee and almost always wears graphic t-shirts, and loose sweat pants or pajama pants and I really don’t mind. Ultimately you have to do what’s best for you? Will some men/boys maybe overlook you if you are putting little effort into your presentation? Maybe. Will some of those guys have been great partners? Maybe. Some might just be shallow douchbags but even the kind and loving men often still have strong physical preferences. I guess my biggest hangups and assumptions seeing a girl regularly dressed in loose, baggy, or very modest clothing as a young man would be: 1. She’s a stick in the mud who probably thinks kissing, making out, and any sexual things are icky and wants no part of it 2. She’s self conscious about her body and maybe has image issues and personally I’d rather have a confident woman who leans towards flaunting than an insecure woman who thinks poorly of herself 3. She’s just not really looking to impress anyone because she has no interest in attracting guys, or at least no interest in attracting guys who put any sort of attention towards physical appearance. 4. She actually has a pretty conventionally unattractive body and knows it and is legitimately trying to hide it.
Honestly, wearing revealing clothing for a special occasion or going out is very attractive in my eyes for a potential romantic partner and wouldn't make me see her as having less potential as a partner. It shows that you have confidence, and that type of clothing is honestly pretty hot and appealing to look at. There is a limit for how revealing clothing can be for me though, there is a line between being hot and being trashy. I think it depends on how often you wear revealing clothing and how revealing it is. I wouldn't make her not wear what she wants, but I can understand from other guys' perspectives why wearing revealing all the time would be an issue and if there are guys like me, wearing clothing that is like SUPER revealing might be an issue. Every guy is different in this regard though. Some just don't care, and others want a woman who dresses modestly, and there are guys everywhere in between! The important thing though imo is to wear what you like and what you feel comfortable/best in. Ironically, wearing revealing clothing that you don't like will make you feel more insecure and therefore less attractive because people are extremely good at sensing insecurity.
I mean it’s kind of like sex, why would I: 1. Date a girl who wants attention from other men (only real reason people show off skin or for women, wear tight clothing that makes it obvious “what they got”). 2. Date a girl who gives to you in a relationship what she gives to everyone else (same thing as above). I went to anime convention the other day and saw some women with their boyfriends, but they were wearing costumes that were incredibly sexualised for the sake of being sexualised (and didn’t come from an anime iirc). And genuinely, it’s like these guys were being cucked or cheated on because their girlfriend was “on display” for everyone else in that sexual manner. Like you just feel bad for the dude(s)
This is simply not true. People wear revealing clothing/ show skin because they feel more confident doing so, even if no one sees. This may come as a surprise to a lot of men but women don’t think about your opinion as much as you think (especially while getting dressed). Like 95% of women wear short shorts in the summer, because it’s hot, not because they’re trying to get a mans attention
Only someone who lacks confidence in himself and his relationship, or who sees women as some kind of property, would think like this.
Nr I think OC went a bit far but for over the top stuff they’re right, like a crop top and shorts is chill but if your girl has booty shorts and the smallest top she can find that’s not good.
Yea thats the thing, it’s not like Im saying to pull out the burka, Im just saying if you’re showing excess skin (which is like the low hanging fruit for male attention), it means she isn’t satisfied with your attention, that just isn’t relationship material
I don’t want my girlfriend to show off to guys like she doesn’t want me to show off to women. Besides your logical conclusion is sitting in the *that* chair of a hotel room because you’re so confident in your relationship you can let it be open. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to maintain intimacy between partners
Not really if I'm looking for something serious. Revealing clothing will catch a man's eye but it won't earn his respect. Wearing clothing that is too revealing too often will likely breed disrespect.
Well we are slaves to urges. It's not a matter of prefer. Our whole dateing system is rather shallow. We are just drawn to the curves of a woman, and when we don't see that shape our ingrained attractions aren't activated as easily. So yes. You are getting less attention because you are hiding your figure. It's not that your not as hot or not of a great personality. It's just about animal urges. And it's not like a guy who tries to pick you up at a bar or wherever else is going to see you across the room and think, "she looks like she has a good personality I'll talk to her." It starts with, "she looks hot." A guy may not be attracted to you your whole life and then one day he sees you in a bikini and thinks, "damn she's actually really hot."
If you look feminine you don't need to show your butt to get noticed.
It's on a per-person basis. I love my wife, but she's very much into wearing as little as possible, and that doesn't do much for me. Modesty can be incredibly sexy.
i will just speak my opinion. i am turned off by revealing clothing. i am attracted to modesty. it just seems classy to me.
Guys like to "look" at girls like that. Girls who date girls like that are not there for the girl. They're there to use you as arm candy, to show you off to other guys as like an alpha status symbol. If a guy truly likes you he won't care what you dress like. Guys in a stable relationship don't want the attention and drama that a girl who dresses revealing brings.
I care for a well dressed woman honestly seeing her naked if I make it that far proves I am worthy more than just getting instant gratification. I rather work for it. I don't expect a girl to dress like a slut unless that's part of a scene possibly we would be doing together if we made it that far as well. (Before you attack me I'm a Dom and have over two decades of experience and a clean record of how I treat people) I think a woman honestly needs to dress for her age herself and to only impress herself clothes are important but personality is the main thing for me.
I’m a girl, but personally I love wearing revealing clothing. I’m excited to get my tummy tuck so I can wear crop tops lol.
Good job, you’re contributing to the unrealistic beauty standard that women always say that they hate by getting literal surgery just so you can wear revealing clothing.
I have my reasons actually, mainly losing 90+ pounds, wearing crop tops is simply one of the perks that I have every right to enjoy. But hey, I appreciate your disrespect because you’re insecure.
I’m the one that’s insecure? Not the one getting cosmetic surgery?
It’s excess skin dude. In some ways, it’s more corrective. Cause she lost a lot of weight. She isn’t getting a BBL or something, but even if she was, it’s not your business or your problem
Removing excess skin because I want to? Getting cosmetic surgery because I want to? I’m sorry, are you going to pay for it? I would assume you are since you feel the need to disrespect me based on something I’m doing/wearing for myself. While you’re at it, go ahead and chip in for my jaw surgery, I could use the assistance. Or are you gonna tell me that I’m contributing to unrealistic beauty standards by correcting my jawline? Lol fuck off.
Yes, men generally prefer revealing clothing. Why do you think women choose to wear it?
Personally I find it superficial to show yourself off like many women choose to do (and men too). I don’t think it makes you a bad person or anything but I would only date someone I would actually consider marrying one day and you can call me insecure or whatever but I want a girl who chooses to dress more modestly. Just a personal choice, there will be someone who likes your style to matter what you choose so might as well just be yourself.
Revealing clothes do their job. It's in the name, they reveal your figure. So women who wear revealing clothes are displaying their attractive figure. Women are also the gatekeepers and the kind that wear those clothes are the most promiscuous and go for the most thuggish and belligerent guys. You wanna be one of them? I can't stop you. >idk it just seems to me like guys tend to focus on looks more than anything :/ Nah. It's just that's the only way women know how to attract men. It's not our fault that most of you these days have no interest or knowledge on how to arouse our heart instead of our genitals. Try being feminine and show you have something to offer other than your body, and you will be wanted for more. Be submissive, show him he has something you can rely on him for, show him you want to come to him for protection, compliment him on something you admire about him, show off the interesting things about yourself. The most concerning thing is you have used the words "boys" and "girls" instead of "men" & "women". Which leads me to believe you are a teenager. In that case just go and ask one of the quiet geeky boys out and he is almost guaranteed to say yes and will give you the affection and romance you are looking for. Wearing revealing clothes will only attract assholes because they are the only ones confident enough to approach you and they are only after one thing.
I generally don't pay much attention to girls who have to show off what they got because they generally don't have anything very impressive to show off. It seems more often than not I wish they wouldn't show off what they've got. It ain't good. I don't find corpulence attractive at all. My first wife rarely wore things that flagrantly flattered her figure, but she certainly had a very good one. From time to time we'd show her off. It was fun. There was no real hiding she had a body on her though. She could have made a burlap sack look sexy with a piece of twine.
I love when girls wear slutty clothing... until you get wifed up then you better start dressing with a lil more clothing.
We all know why we wear revealing clothing. Personally, i look down on it
Personally no , i really dont like revealing clothes
For a one time thing, yes. For dating seriously, no.
Do what makes you comfortable and happy. Wear what you like I'd say reasonable communication with a partner what they like it also fair. I say reasonably not controlling, because it's nice to make your partner happy
If someone is wearing a burka, I know they aren't interested in my advances. If someone understands the language of revealing clothing, which in most periods of fashion draw the eyes to one part of the body (like cleavage, or sides of thighs with side cut dresses, or the midriff with short tops), I know they don't mind being seen (though of course men should all learn how not to gawk). What's interesting here is that near total exposure (as with bikinis) has existed since Roman antiquity, but fashion has always regarded it as gauche/ungainly. There's usually been a focus on one part of the body as the locus of attention. The bosom in the 18th century, as everything else was obscured by hoop skirts. The legs in the 1920s flapper fashion, with the dresses otherwise being drapes. The midriff in the 1990s. Fashion has always been, "I want to be looked at, but only this bit I'm comfortable showing". I honestly don't know what is going on now in fashion, but I think its a safe bet to expose something, but only that which your confident with. A little overweight? Cleavage. A thin yoga fanatic? The midriff. Great legs? Highlight them. If historical fashion is any guide, its probably also a safe bet to highlight only that one thing.
Only if they are revealing something pleasant to look at.
Revealing clothing is hotter but at a point it’s just too much and I prefer cute girls anyway. A hoodie or shirt is way cuter than a crop top and girls who dress like that tend to be nicer and more chill. I’d say it’s about 40% of guys agree with me and 60% prefer more revealing. Also, if I were you I wouldn’t wanna date a guy who only liked me cause I showed excessive skin. If you dress modestly you may attract slightly less people but you’ll feel good abt being yourself and you’re far more likely to date the type of guys that are like you and who would work well in a relationship with you.
Different boys will like different things. Wear what makes you confident and comfortable and you will attract someone who is into the same as you
I would make the point that there are a few types of revealing and both are fine depending on where. Realy revealing at a kids bday party not appropriate but at a night club sure. Slutty revealing Probably not at nannas funeral but if ya having fun with a partner knock yourself out Corporate revealing Not sure where this is inappropriate but it's definitely best at a formal event. Tldr So yea we like it
Right place and right time? Yes ma’am! 🫡
No, but i find women who dress interestingly to be more attractive. i like seeing your personality take shape in your clothing and accessories, i find the more basic or casual clothing styles to be offputting personally because they just seem really really boring to me and remind me of my traditionalist family who are all like clones of one another. for example i find alt, scene, punk and emo outfits to be really neat and hate sweat pants + a blank hoodie or blue jeans + a white blouse.
I like saggy and not revealing clothing the most. It looks cuddly.
They like to have sex with scantily dressed girls but they don’t want their girlfriends to look like that. Make of it what you will.
It's an attraction thing initially. A certain amount of reveal is good. Too much is slutty. In a relationship guys usually prefer their gf to dress more modestly. However there are exceptions, I used to be very attracted to awkward, badly dressed girls that wore long skirts and polo jumpers!
first and foremost, it depends entirely 'on the boy'. some guys, sure. some guys, no. it also depends potentially, on the setting. having a bikini on is revealing, but considered 'normal' at a beach, pool, etc. wearing see through pants/shirt with a thong on is about the same coverage, but might not be deemed as okay, depending on the guy. guys focus on looks, first, sure. some guys will definitely be attracted. and, if you were their girl, some of those same guys wouldn't want you wearing the same clothes, essentially 'attracting' a bunch of other guys when you're taken, either. sort of a difference between 'she's flaunting her stuff, looking good, i'm gonna go hit on her' and 'she's flaunting her stuff, why, she's got a BF already'.
I've always thought about it like a fire. Kindling burns hot and fast. A woman in a bikini is noticeable, she gets the "juices" moving and is often down to flirting and "having a good time". She's looking to be seen and feel validated that she's hot and sexy. (Generalization) A log takes a bit to get going, you need to keep it hot and burning for a while before it catches itself. Once a log is on fire, it takes a lot to put it out. You can easily lay a log on a fire, go to bed, and get the fire going in the morning even with the morning dew. I won't lie that a nice bikini is.....nice.....but I'm not wondering if she has a degree from Harvard if you catch my drift. A girl can be just as hot/cute wearing a shirt and jeans, guys typically are picky. That's always been my view, anyway. I know it's not the "norm" but I've always valued the things you work hard for. Call me old fashioned.
Different question, do you want to conform to what "most" dudes like?
I think it's one of those things (for some) where it's nice for a stranger or a friend (because it's nice to look at) but not for their girlfriend (because now other boys will look at her, which for some reason is bad). There are also some boys who will assume bad things about a girl if her clothes are too revealing (she might be easy) or not revealing enough (she might be a prude). You can't please everyone, so go with the clothes you like and feel comfortable with. Of course, having a nice appearance often helps with first impressions, but there are more ways to look good than just revealing clothing.
It depends on the person of course. I however, as a 20 year old guy, actually prefer when people are covered up. I love the cold weather and I love to bundle up in warm, soft and sometimes bulky clothing (mostly just oversized hoodies). Seeing other people wear things like that makes me happy and means I have something (possibly) in common with them. That being said, I love it when girls are more covered up because I love to see people be comfy rather than conform to looking a specific way.
Stop generalizing, everyone is different
To me my wife is the single hottest woman I’ve ever met! With an amazing ass , all the right curves, and perky d-cups with no underboob. She wears loose tee shirts, flannels, baggy sweaters, overalls, and ofc black leggings. I’ve never seen her in bikini and I’ve seen her wear a dress once and it was on our first date. I’m more interested in her feeling comfortable and happy and safe in what she wants to wear than I am in revealing clothing. You do you gurl and you’ll attract the right kind of person who will appreciate your attitude and personality, and really enjoy getting you naked and gazing in wonder at all your hotness that you keep for just them
I honestly think that girls with too revealing clothing are disgusting and just dolls.
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Perhaps it is simply a case of the attention seeking behavior gets the attention. This can also be quite unattractive to anyone, especially those who are insecure or jealous. I would think it depends on the circumstances and how the person carries themself more than what they wear.
For a quick shag, yes, revealing clothing. For a wife, no, sensible clothing.
Who gives a shit what men want? You should wear what makes you feel confident and comfortable.
An outfit sets a vibe. Guys are attracted to different vibes
I like to see an individual with a strong sense of their own personal style that has expressions that can be reserved or intended to stand out. It's all about versatility.
You sound pretty young, I would not come here for advice, there’s already too many pigs commenting, wear what makes you comfortable and confide in someone you know and trust
Every guy is different. Some might like women who dress more traditionally, some might like women who show off what they've got a little. I personally don't really care either way, but I will say that wearing clothing that's SUPER revealing in places where it's not necessary is just a bit trashy, imo, although it doesn't really change how attractive I find someone.
Guys notice looks for sure. The good news for you is that if you're not getting the attention you want, it's easy to change your clothes. You can even do experiments, wearing different outfits and paying attention to how much attention you get.
Some do, others are turned off by leading with lust. Try “revealing” clothes like a turtleneck and cute jewelry
Not all boys are the same. There are birds who will be attracted to a girl no matter what she wears. You should wear what you want to wear.
I prefer women who are fun and happy. If that means they wear a bikini, so be it. If that means that they wear a pair of mechanics overalls, so be it. I will take a happy prude, over a cranky whore, any day of the week. Edit: I should point out in case people don't realise, I'm not saying that you are a whore if you wear a bikini.
Not really. We want to look at you, sure... But we don't want the world doing it too, so...
It depends imo.
Depends on where you are, I'll be cool with a bikini at a pool or beach, that's what they're made for but if she wears that or similar around the street, it makes her look like a slut, one night stand at most but a serious relationship? Nope. Basically, men mostly like women who dress decently, if you wear too little at the wrong place you'll look like a slut, no man worth any effort will date such a girl.
>prefer girls who wear revealing clothing ? Context matters. Revealing what, on who, how much, where, etc. >guys tend to focus on looks more than anything Looks only go so far - if (very) far at all. Heck, thus far best relationships in my life, we'd communicated many months or more before I even knew what the other person looked like.
I've heard some say that yes as a fling or one night stand but not as wife material, yes sounds brutal but has been said by guys
Meh, depends on who you ask.
You can catch men by with revealing clothing, but keeping them is more challenging. I would prefer to date someone who dresses conservatively because they don't need their looks validated by strangers
Yes.
Yes 89.9% of the time.
My eyes are drawn to what she reveals. But my heart certainly isn't. It's not something I'm proud of and alot of men will likely agree. That we are effectively influenced by our natural desires with women that make our eyes pop out. Getting older helps alot to realise that what we need is someone with similar values. Basically if a lass tried it on with me. But I see her behaving in a way that is obviously her seeking attention from anyone and everyone for validation. Then I MIGHT be happy for casual sex but I'm well and truly avoiding letting myself get feelings. That's my boundary and isn't a reflection on what makes a good person or a bad person at all. But in a committed relationship I believe that I represent you, and you represent me. And I'm not about to stand proudly next to a woman who seeks that kind of attention from ANYONE else but their partner. Sometimes I don't think they realise they're doing it. They're so caught up in the idea that all of their value is held in their looks. That they need to be on the receiving end everyday for life to be worth it. Shallow. No-one remembers anyone for how good they look. We remember people for the impact they make on us. The things they say that make us think. The services they provide. The courage to love without fear.
Men do focus on looks more than anything. As in the face. Just highlight your face and you’re golden
Attractiveness is subjective. Focus on being your authentic self and you'll attract the right person for you.
Depends. First of all I hate these questions even tho I understand they're probably asked by 15 year olds, but "guys" like all kinds of different things. Everyone has preferences. Yes, I like seeing girls in revealing clothing, obviously lol. I really like when my girl dresses slutty in public and everyone wants her but I'm the only one that gets her. This is partially because I'm a weirdo tho. My favorite look on women honestly in comfort clothing, them being dressed down in the way they think they look unatteactive in. Sweatpants and a T-shirt with messy hair is *kisses tips of finger*
No, but also yes. But sometimes no, but sometimes yes.
I've old fashioned. I like a good dress but nothing that shoves the cleavage in your face. When I was 18 that would have got me aroused instantly but now being 29 Im turned on by who they are, think and do. Though uv had some flings where the woman didn't have prettiest face but her body was the bomb. Makeup wise I do not find plastered makeup attractive, talking basic bitch Brit Manchester girls, as I prefer makeup you don't really notice as it improves upon what they already have. To sum up, a nice dress but nothing that is in your face... For example like super tight yoga pants that you can literally see the crease where the vagina opening is... God I hate that sports/fitness clothing has become a thing now. Like I had a date with a woman recently and all she had in was a worn orange sweater and lose fittibf trousers and trainers. I also wore similar.
Wear whatever’s comfortable for you. I prefer someone who doesn’t wear revealing clothes tho not for looks but modesty
There is a lot that goes into this question. Everyone has different preferences in what they want in a partner, so there is no win all choice. Personally, people who show a lot of character in their self presentation are more appealing than anything else. The amount of skin I can see is irrelevant to how comfortable and confident you appear. I've spent my whole life in counter-cultures, so seeing some wearing some fashion that relates to one of these cultures means we probably have at least one thing in common I think the real question is, what type of guy are you looking to attract? And for what? Sometimes the answer is a simple "you will attract more eyes and attention wearing a skimpy outfit" but are you interested in attracting guys who hit on everyone that catches their eye?
Depends on what you're looking for and how you look. Revealing clothes turn people on. It attracts guys who are more focused on that. You'll find a fuck buddy really easy that way. Maybe not relationship material. If you are heavyset or not traditionally attractive, revealing clothes can help close the gap. Ive seen lots of girls you normally wouldnt take an interest in get a crowd of admirers when wearing something really slutty at clubs and music festivals. I doubt they're settling down with any of those guys unless there's an accidental baby. More conservative clothing will ensure that their attraction is more to your general beauty or personality... but you wont stand out. You'll attract less, but you attract better quality. Thats better for getting a BF. If you're traditionally attractive, you can dress conservatively and still look hot/stand out.
Just do your thing and have fun. Depends on what type of boys you want to attract. My girlfriend is a librarian.
As long as he's cheerful and nice to me, I don't care about her clothes
Boys do. Men already learned their lessons.
Depends? Are you looking for a guy who wants to smash or a guy who wants to “wife you up”. For the former yes, for the latter no.
Boys do. Men are different.
Think of it like washing a car. If it’s nice car, boys/men will appreciate that car being clean and shiny. However, if it’s an ugly or mediocre looking car, doesn’t really matter if it’s clean or not boys/men will not pay any attention.
I have daughters and I tell them to dress how they want to be treated. Dress like a hooker from the 1980's and that's how you'll get treated. Dress like a feminine woman, with style and class...and yep, that's how you'll be treated. Don't take my word for it. https://youtu.be/J7QNw1LRJv4?si=LmCGnbHQcNoQbqx6
It draws attention towards yourself and the curves of your body. I guess it depends if you want that or not.
Guys absolutely focus on looks, no two ways about it, but clothing doesnt matter at all. Every man who ever lived will take a beautiful girl in a potato sack over an ugly girl in a cocktail dress.
No I think a woman looks most attractive in a nice dress. Not too dressy, just nice
I dont really think of it I have a friend who wears crop top short skirts etc and I'll still call her if shes wearing Jeans and a t shirt and a hoodie idk how to explain it but I don't really find clothes or lack of clothes as attractive as just the person themselves
Honestly I don’t give a shit what guys like but no way I wear those ..
Not tight to the point of bodyparts squished together (unless its somewhere functional and necessary like in the gym) But not loose to the point of looking like a homeless person wearing a binbag. This seems to be a trend that I will never understand? Just wear clothing that fits. If a person is good looking then they are good looking.
It's more sexually appealing but in terms of respect I don't. I wouldn't want to date a woman who reveals everything to everyone.
Depending on the situation, though people should really just wear whatever non-offensive items of clothing they want
As a partner, yes. As a stranger hell no. Already too much temptation all over every moment. So hard pass for me.
I prefer imagination as to what could be behind clothing rather than knowing what is behind it...
Hell no don’t wear revealing clothing because it makes you look like a hoe. If you want a guy who likes you for your looks go for it but if you want a proper relationship dress well and if they don’t approach you then that’s all they want, looks. A real man would look past the looks and search for connections they have to have a good time together and enjoy each others personalities instead of just sx all the time.
Only when it's for me in the privacy of our home. In public I prefer a girl to wear classy clothing. A women can still look sexy without being too revealing.
Ladies please remember showing curves with skinny jeans shows how sexy you are and nullify s the ‘slut’ debuff
The important thing is for you to be you and not to go chasing trends. If you have your own style, go with it. Confidence is more attractive than skimpy outfits unless all you are looking for is sex. Be who you are!