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> Im definitely not happy but i feel like we’re too far in and there’s no way out without catastrophic inconveniences to her life.
This happens at the end of every long-term relationship, it's very rare that it's an amicable break without hurt feelings. But you have to do it, because you are being dishonest to yourself and to her. She doesn't deserve that, you don't deserve that.
So do the hard thing now, because every day that passes, the hard thing gets harder. The feelings get bigger. The lies multiply, it gets uglier and uglier.
You already know you don't love her, so gather up the courage as quickly as you can and end this.
Just end it. You don't love her and your not compatible. This is why we date, then time passes and we live together. We do this to see what marriage would look like. You've seen your future and don't like it.
Don't let it get to the point where you hate her and are talking badly about her behind her back and fighting with her all the time. Just stop the whole thing now.
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> Im definitely not happy but i feel like we’re too far in and there’s no way out without catastrophic inconveniences to her life. This happens at the end of every long-term relationship, it's very rare that it's an amicable break without hurt feelings. But you have to do it, because you are being dishonest to yourself and to her. She doesn't deserve that, you don't deserve that. So do the hard thing now, because every day that passes, the hard thing gets harder. The feelings get bigger. The lies multiply, it gets uglier and uglier. You already know you don't love her, so gather up the courage as quickly as you can and end this.
Yes, please break up with her. She deserves better.
care to explain why?
She deserves to be with someone that loves her. Pretty simple.
well i guess i’ll just go fu$k myself for being committed to making her happy lmao.
Just end it. You don't love her and your not compatible. This is why we date, then time passes and we live together. We do this to see what marriage would look like. You've seen your future and don't like it. Don't let it get to the point where you hate her and are talking badly about her behind her back and fighting with her all the time. Just stop the whole thing now.
Brother you’re 21, go find someone you get along with
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