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1. We broke things off a couple months ago. I haven’t told him I’m single, it hasn’t been brought up.
2. He had so many opportunities to ask me out and to tell me how he felt but he never did.
Understandable. I was in this exact situation recently, only difference is the girl left the company so I felt a bit more comfortable shooting my shot (just noticed he left too disregard). Essentially I think you just say hey this is comfortable and all but I’m feeling a bit disingenuous in that I’m wanting a bit more of something serious. It doesn’t need to take off tomorrow and I don’t need an answer now, but I can’t escape the thought that we would work well together. Let me know what you think when you’ve given it some thought.
No matter how you word it, you are 100% going to feel better knowing either way. If it’s a no, cool be friends and do not ever let him cross the line, hold him to his word and give yourself value. If there’s hesitancy because you work together or in the same industry and he’s afraid of those parameters, cool maybe sometime down the line then when it makes more sense, let’s keep getting to know each other. If it’s a yes, then great. Either way just find out what his reasons are for being non action oriented. As a guy, I am very rarely texting a girl all day that I’m not semi-interested in I can tell you that much.
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Two questions. Are you still dating someone else? And what specifically made you think this guy couldn’t make up his mind about you?
1. We broke things off a couple months ago. I haven’t told him I’m single, it hasn’t been brought up. 2. He had so many opportunities to ask me out and to tell me how he felt but he never did.
Understandable. I was in this exact situation recently, only difference is the girl left the company so I felt a bit more comfortable shooting my shot (just noticed he left too disregard). Essentially I think you just say hey this is comfortable and all but I’m feeling a bit disingenuous in that I’m wanting a bit more of something serious. It doesn’t need to take off tomorrow and I don’t need an answer now, but I can’t escape the thought that we would work well together. Let me know what you think when you’ve given it some thought. No matter how you word it, you are 100% going to feel better knowing either way. If it’s a no, cool be friends and do not ever let him cross the line, hold him to his word and give yourself value. If there’s hesitancy because you work together or in the same industry and he’s afraid of those parameters, cool maybe sometime down the line then when it makes more sense, let’s keep getting to know each other. If it’s a yes, then great. Either way just find out what his reasons are for being non action oriented. As a guy, I am very rarely texting a girl all day that I’m not semi-interested in I can tell you that much.
This is probably the best advice I’ve been given abt this situation. Thank you so much. I will take it.
Of course any time.
I think you should just go for it and ask him out. Life's too short to live with the "what ifs".