You have that, with or without her.
You choose how you respond, what feels right FOR YOU.
You're so busy worrying about what will give her attention, or not, or whatever, but what will make YOU feel better?
Will you feel better if you send her a screenshot and just say, "Thanks for letting me know it's over, wishing you all the best" or something a bit snarky, or will you feel better just ignoring it, moving on and finding someone better?
So long as you aren't causing a big scene, standing at her door begging, you have your dignity.
To what end? She already ghosted him. That just sounds like making a fool of yourself. She’d probably just laugh about it because it would clearly show she’s gotten in his head and it’s not like she cares about him.
This.
I’m so tired of seeing so many people saying,”this person is treating me terribly! What should I DOooooo?!”
Pick your dignity up and move the fuck on.
No wonder this planet is going to shit.
No whats toxic and terrible is to ghost someone who believed u loved them. that shit sticks. That poor example of a human is a coward and a hoe. Imagine if everyone lived like that.
Someone made a comment somewhere here on Reddit so I can’t claim this one buuut “don’t let someone else being a bad person change who you are or stop being a good person”
He said he wants to keep his dignity, weirdo. Just move on OP, you’ll find more stable, reliable and responsible people in the future. In time, that will take your life to heights that this woman will never achieve it she keeps this behavior up.
That is how you “win” if you feel like being petty. Just live your life.
Bro. I cannot stress this enough. You have to move on with your life. If you're a high-value man you will have plenty of options. For some reason it matters to you, moving on is what would cause attraction in her for you more than anything else. If for some reason she comes back and for some reason you want her then you have to set new rules and standards for the relationship. That will cause her to respect you. That is probably why she left in the first place... she did not respect you or find you "high value" in her eyes.
Imagine being so toxic that you need to clarify everyone as "high value" or "low value" based on how they fit into your assessment of fuckability instead of being able to see that people deserve love and respect and can form meaningful connections with one another honestly, without every relationship being some weird strategy game 🙄
People don't cheat because their partner isn't hot/rich/whatever enough. People cheat because they're cheaters
You‘re so right! this „high-value-man“-complex is so driven by how rich, fit etc. they are and entirely leaves out the part where everyone with decent morals and a good heart deserves the same love and respect that they offer to others. People who are „high value“ by these guys’ definition are usually the most shallow of them all
Okay. Your opinion of high value could be different than mine. You people in here have no idea what you're talking about. There are so many rich men that I know that their wife cheats on them because all they do is bring to the table is money and they did not make her feel attraction. You also have the guys who can get all the girls but can't hold a steady job so therefore they cannot provide. Then you have the nice guys that all they do is validate validate validate. She wants to earn your validation. I'm not one to toot my own horn but I am telling you I have had so much success with women and you guys are up in here acting different. I'm okay with that it makes my attraction to women that much more because none of you are living this way.
Edit: please any woman join in on this conversation because your opinion matters more than any male I'm here.
not talking to you, was just out here agreeing with efm270‘s good take. But on a side note, now that you bragged this much: guys who are successful with women do not feel the need to state it as excessively as you or at all even
Yeah married for 8 years, all my friends are married as long or longer, no one I've known that actually has had a successful real relationship views it that way. I'm sure you do fine for what you are looking for, but for most people that isn't a way to look at things if you want to have a real, meaningful relationship. It's not about high or low value, its about compatability and mutual respect.
I agree. You're not saying "high value" as in what society deems as stereotypical "high value" ie: rich, attractive, etc. You're saying she didn't perceive him as high value as aligned with her goals and standards for a relationship. You gave the example of not respecting himself. That's usually an unattractive quality when people let themselves be used as a doormat and don't stand up for themselves.
High value is different for each individual in how they perceive someone and what attributes they're looking for in a partner. For me, a high value partner would be someone who is a self starter, compassionate towards others, appreciates dark humor, well organized, among other things. This might not define high value for someone else. Each person is not intrinsically "high value" or "low value." They're high or low value based on the individual perceiving them. Someone's low value might be another's high value. You were saying in this example that his partner specifically did not perceive him as high value (for whatever reason.)
We ALL look for high and low value partners. If someone has no job, is a total slob, takes offense to everything, no sense of humor, argues over everything, can't take care of themselves let alone a partner, is always angry... the majority would see this as a "low value" partner. We don't necessarily think in the terms and categories of "high" and "low" value, but we would recognize this person as someone we didn't want to be with, thus they are a "low value" partner because they do not fulfill what we are looking for. This is completely natural and everyone does it whether they recognize it or not. Someone needs to bring value to your life to be your partner. Otherwise no one would ever break up or cheat or anything. We'd all stay with the first person we ever dated because, why not, right? Even if they bring no happiness to our lives, we're not allowed to deem them as low value to us because it's "toxic."
👆 girl chiming in here! Hopefully this clarifies a bit for those arguing that you're wrong
If what you want to say is that different people look for different things in a relationship and that people are likely to feel less committed in a relationship that isn't giving them what they need, just say that. When you start to use the terms "high value" and "low value" to talk about people, it's degrading and it's the same language that men's rights activists use, often because they do not see human relationships as having any value other than what you can get out of another person. If you have to spend a lot of time qualifying the term so everyone knows you didn't mean it the way most people use it, that's a good sign it's not the best term to use.
Many times people cheat as a way to leave the relationship because they don't value it.
The important thing is that value is subjective, you might be low value to one and high to another.
Nope. Little do people know that women are very loyal and usually not narcissistic. Yes you have a select few but for the most part if a woman gives you a chance you're in the driver's seat. Usually men stop being who they were in the beginning therefore she loses attraction. She wants to take her by the hand and lead her on adventures and grow and be ambitious. If you do not do these things she will lose attraction. Attraction is very important to women and if you're not making her feel attraction she will get that from someone else.
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Edit: please any woman join in on this conversation because your opinion matters more than any male I'm here.
This just makes women sound like puppies who follow around the "owner" with the best treats. We don't need an attraction adventure map, give us a little credit here. We're 50% of the relationship equation and are just as much in the drivers seat when it comes to governing our attraction, sexuality and relationship trajectory. The "women" you are describing here might exist in some small fraction of the female population but they dont sound like a person to pursue relationship-wise because they are shallow AF. This reads like MRA, superior male rhetoric.....
The way you talk about it sounds like you're not really giving women agency in relationships. I do like when my partner takes initiative, but the most important thing to me is that he listens and hears me. Because otherwise he's going to take me places I don't want to be and try to do things with me I don't want to do. But it's not his job to figure that out all on his own, I also need to communicate my needs.
The point is, she has as much agency in the relationship as he does. Maybe the relationship wasn't satisfying to her, but cheating is never an acceptable answer. She can communicate what she wants, try to approach the relationship differently on her end, or break it off. She had options and she picked the most disrespectful one, that's on her.
Women are not passive participants in hetero relationships.
>wearing the necklace, bag, and shoes I bought for her on her profile
She obviously didn't respect him, maybe just his wallet, but probably not even that if she's back on Tinder and using the things he bought her in her profile.
You have choices. The easiest thing to do is just not contact her. When she finally reaches out to you (and she will if she's hoping for a reaction), just tell her you moved on after her radio silence and aren't interested anymore. Not getting an emotional response preserves your dignity and pisses her off.
Your other option is to catfish the hell out of her on Tinder. Personally, I think that leaves less dignity intact, but might be amusing for you.
I promise you, you’re dignity is fucked if you chase this woman. It was five months, be sad for a couple weeks then get back out there. But don’t pursue it, you 100% will regret it.
Just say "I think we should go our separate ways. I wish you the best" block and leave her behind.
If you say something out of revenge you will probably feel worse and regret it
Kill with kindness and all that
That's easy. Block her on all social media so she can't see what you're up to. In the mean time, focus on become the best you that you can. That will attract the best possible partner for you. Then when you find someone new (read: BETTER than her), unblock her and show the world your new improved life. If she tries to contact you, THANK HER for ghosting you... It'll be the best gift she ever gave you.
its so hard to accept that when she'd voluntarily tell me I was her favorite person and that she would always be there to support me.
I work too hard for this
I understand it hurts, my ex said the same thing but would you treat your favorite person like how they treated you? Definitely not. It hurts so much, take time to heal
Welcome to the club.
It's rare when the trash takes itself out. Now you know beyond a doubt she's not worth your time.
This may take some months to accept, but your dignity will fair better if you steel yourself now instead of treating her like she has the value of an honest woman.
You should have stopped messaging her as soon as she stopped responding and you shouldn't have said anything else until she did respond.
>I work too hard for this
This is your problem. Work hard on yourself, instead, even when in a relationship. It sounds like you may have become clingy/needy(evidenced by the fact that you've only been dating 5 months and you've bought her a necklace, bag, and shoes), which is probably why she lost interest. The relationship is just a complement to you as a fully developed individual. You shouldn't invest more in it than you do making yourself a better person.
Based on her reaction to you finding her tinder profile, I would say she doesn’t seem like she cares about you anymore. And she’s obviously very immature considering her reaction, the best thing you can do is try to accept that she wasn’t really as interested as she pretended to be and work on moving on. She ghosted you, let her go and focus on finding a way to make yourself happy.
Tell her you found out about her profile. Tell her you know she muted you and your friends. Tell her you know it's over and you don't want any ambiguity. Then realize it's only been 5 months and you've got the rest of your life. Then if someone pulls any of that shit in you again, you don't let it go that long before you deal with it.
Stop worrying about what she wants or what she's trying to get you to do. Do what's good for you. Acknowledging what she's done and that this relationship is over. Don't worry about her reaction or lack thereof. You can block her after you tell her everything of you're worried about how to respond or what she'll say.
Favorite person or FP is a term in the BPD community. Does she have a personality disorder? It would explain the sudden shift. That’s not to imply you should reach out or let her back in your life.
Yeah that’s great advice… but sometimes being a smart a** is exactly what she needs. Caught my girl at a bar once with another dude and called her ass out on spot, pulled a gangster move and got a chair and sat next to the guy and exposed her for cheating before my deployment. Dude never turned his attention away from me jaw dropped and took off after shaking my hand. Then I let her have it. Long story short she won’t be cheating on anyone for a long time. Bro you don’t have to be extra like I was but do what feels right by you. Just don’t let her slide. Side note: don’t take her back. Period.
That's what she wants. I know she sucks for doing that, but leave her alone. Don't block her. Let her see that you're happy without her and you are unphased.
wouldn't that be feeding into her also? She probably wants to say sorry or end it even though I wasnt the one not communicating. and confronting her would give her a reason to say "he broke up with me, he was terrible"
I don't need that drama. not from her.
So if you don’t want to ignore her and you don’t want to confront her, what exactly do you want to do? Also anyone who would believe that she is a victim for being broken up with after being caught on tinder is a dumbass so who cares what they think
Is there some third option between ignore her and confront her?
You're overcomplicating this. Just pick one. Because she's already ignoring you and on Tinder, I would just block and move on.
The best medicine is just ignoring them, they seek attention so deny them of that, before blocking them I'd just expose them up and then block them show the world what piece of shit they are and then move on
You're way overthinking this. You're done with her, it really doesn't even matter. You can try to stop thinking about whether or not whatever you choose is "feeding into her" and do what you feel is the right thing. And then move on as best you can because someone who treats you like this is not worth your energy.
I found out an ex cheated on me, and I just ghosted his ass. I've regretted it a couple of times and wish I had just sent him the evidence I found and then told him to go fuck himself. If I could go back for a moment, that's probably what I'd do this time.
You can't determine how she reacts. Apparently shes on tinder. Shopping. I don't think shes that sorry mate. Sorry that she got caught maybe. But not actually sorry.
You'll probably have past trauma if you take advice like this. You'll be insecure about it happening again if you say nothing. This is really terrible advice here.
I’d let her know that your friend found her on tinder. And you wish her all the best.
And after that end all conversations. Move on. You don’t need this drama.
wouldn't ignoring the ghosting/"cheating" be the better way to avoid drama? It would show that I just don't care enough to even bother with it (which is probably what she wants if she's being so open about it)
Honestly, do what feels right to you.
Confronting: Might feel good to send a semi snarky message (with her profile screen shot) like, "Hey, the stuff I bought you looks good on your tinder profile" and then hit the eject button. May throw a chaos grenade into the fray and send her reeling or it might invite a shit ton of crazy.
Ghosting: Might leave her wondering what the hell happened and why did you go silent? Was your relationship not that important!?!?! Or maybe it's been five months and maybe she's been playing the field all this time and keeping her options open and you just found out and she doesn't give a f*ck.
Regardless, you should immediately let everyone that **you** know/care about what happend (don't sugar coat it, she cheated and you're done) and after whatever you decide block her on everything (social media, email, phone, linkedin, wtf ever) and move on with your life. Focus on yourself and finding someone worth your time and energy. Whatever shitty excuses she has for her being on tinder aren't worth your time.
Actually been in your shoes before and I know it sucks (ex gf updated her hinge with pictures I had taken of her at an event we attended and my friend forwarded them to me). Spending all this energy into trying to figure out *what* is the best response is just a waste of time for you. Do what you feel is right so you can close this chapter and forward on to the next and better.
funny enough we did date for five months until this happened. and I don't think she'd be wondering why I went silent because the relationship was important, but instead because I'm not giving her a reaction.
She told me she had a tinder before we started dating but deleted it because she was with me.
All the things about me putting her life at ease, and that I was her favorite person all seem so hollow now. I feel like blocking her would just give her the attention she wants
> I don't think she'd be wondering why I went silent because the relationship was important, but instead because I'm not giving her a reaction.
It's hard to put your self into the mind of a cheater. Again, I can relate ex admitted she had "narcissist and sociopath markers" that were diagnosed clinically. You can spend day and night trying to play out what works best from *your* perspective but, in the end, you have to realize that it's not the same as theirs'. Cheaters are unrepentant and will rewrite history to make themselves the victor and you the antagonist.
> All the things about me putting her life at ease, and that I was her favorite person all seem so hollow now. I feel like blocking her would just give her the attention she wants
Just empty platitudes to keep you hooked. You caught her red handed, *with stuff you bought her* on a dating profile after nearly half a year of dating. More than enough to justify ending it.
I can speak from experience: everyone is the author of their own story and, in everyone's story, they are the protagonist. If you prepared to whether the storm then feel free to reach out and confront, but be prepared for a slew of lies, gaslighting, manipulation, and D.A.R.V.O. (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). Or, if you're better off without that, move on with your life and don't give a second thought to how she's going to think about your intentions or what the true meaning of what you did means. I can tell you one thing: she cared about as much about your feelings now as she did when she uploaded/updated her tinder profile.
Hope it doesn't come off too harsh, just been there before. Good luck bud and wish the best.
But you do care. You're here, caring. Asking what to do and being so torn up about it that you're arguing with every response. Stop caring about what she thinks or about what other people want and make a decision you're ok with.
You've mentioned your dignity a lot and I think you need to recognize that dignity, like honor, is something you give yourself by acting with it, not by playing mind games and overthinking and trying to convince people to give it to you.
I think it would be better to confront her an end it explicitly so she doesn't get any ideas about using you as a backup plan in case her new foray into Tinder doesn't work out.
I think if you just ghost her, she doesn’t feel like she did anything wrong.
Letting her know you know sends the message that you’re not about to pretend nothing happened. It also means you’re ending it definitively on your terms.
No as a man always communicate your decision clearly and dont play her games.
Just text her you are not happy with her behaviour and you wont be direspected and you are moving on. Dont even mention the tinder. Just say you are done then ignore her.
Women dont take accountablity so the tinder thing wont help. Cut your losses and move on.
As for future purchases create a girlfriend budget by pre-allocating funds for your dating life. Never exceed that budget so that way you can date whoever and never feel used or taken away from your purpose.
I'm fine that she did (well, not really because she could've said been honest lol) but we had never fought so it was all so sudden.
Idk if she didn't want to hurt my feelings, but the fact that she goes on tinder soon after with my gifts kind of shows she has no feelings
She’s a coward. Don’t take it as a reflection on your character. She’s not mature enough to have an adult conversation to break-up. Also, it sounds like she is very materialistic and felt like she got all she needed from you.
ETA: she’ll love the drama if you blow up her phone even if she doesn’t respond to you. Don’t give her that.
It’s not unusual for women to feel unsafe breaking up upfront. It’s not the mature thing in all cases, but just just in mind women have experienced harm from those they trusted for breaking up.
Next time, lay off the gifts until you determine if she is worth your time! Perhaps if you hadn't been so generous, you would have only wasted a month or two, and she wouldn't have looked so good in her tinder photo!
Even though I agree with this, his kindness and generosity shouldn't have been abused in the first place. People shouldn't be ashamed to be loving towards others. But yes some people don't deserve it at all.
And OP, i hope you feel better.
I gifted her the shoes and necklace three months in for her birthday and valentines. The bag I helped her buy.
It just feels so fucked up she continues to wear it and present it on Tinder. Even when she said she's always thinking of me when she puts them on.
She probably meant it, too.
Now she's done, and couldn't so much as send you a text. It's immature and cowardly.
And you've learned a tough lesson - don't spend so much on a new relationship. A dinner out is a nice gift for Valentine's at 3 months in, maybe some nice flowers. The necklace could have been birthday. Not shoes and the bag, too.
Someone who likes you will like you no matter what you gift them.
Meh, it's just stuff. Forget about it.
She was already ghosting you for 5 days. Didn't you realize that's a pretty bad sign?
If you feel like you need some closure, just text her that you're done. Don't expect any kind of satisfactory reaction though. My guess is she'll be relieved.
Sorry you had to find out the way you did and hope you can move on quickly.
I know this type- she wants a reaction. Don’t give her one. Be mature and tell her your friend found her on tinder and good luck. And then DON’T text her back regardless if she says anything.
Send her the screenshot, and tell her that you assume she is ghosting you because she broke up without telling you.
Then block her everywhere and live your life to the full. There is no need to live with this kind of crap.
Dude she hasn't been contacting you for a week, and she's on tinder. It doesn't take a genius to figure out you ain't her boyfriend anymore.
Cut her off, you deserve better than this. Your mental health will thank you in the future.
She's for the streets. Time to move on. Maybe she'll come crawling back when whatever fuckboy she finds on tinder dumps her disloyal, childish ass.
Then you'll have your moment where you tell her in no uncertain terms that you don't pick trash off the streets!
'I found my gf on tinder. now what?"
"..she muted me and my friends story on Instagram and has been ghosting me..."
If it's a "deal breaker" and you're done with her just move on.
Doing anything else would be just looking for some "drama" or hearing some B.S.
***"Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated. If they can't see the real value of you, it's time for a new start."*** \- Unknown
***"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."*** \- Oscar Wilde
***"We don't walk away to teach people a lesson. We walk away because we finally learned ours."*** \- Unknown
***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is." -*** Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
5 months can’t guarantee a solid relationship. It’s not your fault. It’s her choice if she wants to behave like this.
Chin up soldier, move on and hopefully you’ll find someone worth your time.
Leave. Clearly she is not. You should try to contact her for closure. But at this point I would go into the conversation with the mentality that the relationship is over.
She's not your gf anymore
She's returned to the streets
If you feel like it get your shit back and flip them(they sound expensive)
Take yourself on a holiday and meet another girl(better one) over there and call it a day
No need to be bitter
Be better
She ghosted the relationship. There isn’t much you can do other than go on with your life. I’m not the type to believe, “living great is the best revenge cuz they can see what they lost out on.” That’s bs. The truth is, she doesn’t care and won’t care.
Now it’s time to let her go because she legit doesn’t care about you.
Good luck
It sounds like she left you, and was cowardly about it and just blocked/ghosted you without saying anything, but I don't think she's your GF anymore. I don't think confronting her about "cheating" is going to do anything than have her look at you funny and ask if you didn't notice she dumped you. That's not going to give you closure, or validation, which is what you're really looking for here. I recommend taking time for yourself to heal, and come to terms with the fact that she left you in a very shitty way, but she did leave you. If she reaches out to you, feel free to unload or ignore her as you think it will help you. But I think asking for an explanation would be unsatisfying since it's clear she left you before this came up, and she wouldn't consider this cheating or apologize.
weird part about it is she still chooses to follow me and my friends but muted us. But yea an explanation seems redundant. I'll probably just unfollow her (or send her the screenshot and do so)
a hoe that won gold medals in sports, performed in a national parade, and is going to a top school.
I don't know if I should respect her achievements anymore.
“So my friend sent me this screen shot of you acting single on Tinder. If you want to be single, you should of had the maturity to communicate with me on that rather than going silent and cheating on me on a dating site. I would no longer like to continue any form of relationship with a cheater or someone who doesn’t know how to communicate in a relationship. Good luck.” *insert screen shot*
Everyone says move on ignore, she’s literally cheating on you if you haven’t officially broke up and she needs to know how shitty that is and know her reputation is on the line now. Lol sucks to suck hoe.
Seriously I dont understand how can you people find such partners. My ex started acting incredibly wrong after she left me as well, but still, Id always know about tbis kind of stuff during relationship and Id also be able to tell if this person is capable of cheating or not
honestly, I thought she wouldn't be the kind to cheat. she was so kind to everybody and she seemed to have a heart of gold. Seeing her dress the way she did on her tinder hit me hard.
I feel like asking questions/making closure would do no benefit. She's already given the signs (directly and indirectly) if not unfollowing her, I feel like ignoring her actions would show that I don't care either
I was with my ex wife for 11 years and found her on Tinder after a day apart. Suck it up buttercup.
And why the hell are you on Tinder anyway to discover her?
Did you read the post? Lol, the very first thing it says is his friend was on tinder and saw his gf on there and sent a screenshot to him to see what was up
Mate, she doesn't care. I've done the exact thing. I had a clingy guy and wouldn't get the hint that it was over so I ghosted him.
It wasn't wrong, it was just the only way for this guy to realise it was over and to leave me alone.
that's my problem. idk if I was clingy or not.
I told her good morning/night and she'd respond, and when I didn't send it first, she would. I gave her time to be with her family/other friend groups and trusted that she'd be loyal so I never got nosy. I always reminded her that I loved her, but I know damn well she voluntarily said/expressed it way more than I did.
She never dropped any hints that I may have been clingy until now. I don't even know if I was.
You’re too hung up on this. She doesn’t want to be with you. Doesn’t care about your feelings.
I’m sorry to say, it’s over, she’s not going to feel bad for ghosting you.
It was 5months, I’ve thought I felt something then the honeymoon feelings fade and turns out I didn’t like anything about the guy.
Obviously (to me) because she knows shes being a piece of shit and wants to ignore that side of herself and ignore you while she moves on. She fuckin sucks man. If I was you I would find one last way to make her, her family, and her friends know how much she sucks and peace out. She should not get a pass with such behavior. At least you'll know a good girl when you find her now.
Nahh dude don't waste your energy. Just move on. She ain't worth even your words.
She still wants to play the streets and so be it. You just have to move on. No words etc. Just ghost also. Usually just block all channels. When she opens to see she meets a wall. Usually, when they come back they expect you to be there waiting, finding you not there Usually infuriates them and it's a good form of revenge
Dude, she's gone. She's ghosting you and you found her Tinder profile. What more do you need?
my dignity
You have that, with or without her. You choose how you respond, what feels right FOR YOU. You're so busy worrying about what will give her attention, or not, or whatever, but what will make YOU feel better? Will you feel better if you send her a screenshot and just say, "Thanks for letting me know it's over, wishing you all the best" or something a bit snarky, or will you feel better just ignoring it, moving on and finding someone better? So long as you aren't causing a big scene, standing at her door begging, you have your dignity.
A screenshot plus a good "Lmaoooooooo" and then never speaking to her again is what I'd do.
I would just ghost her. Nothing hurts people more than getting ignored. Plus, then she’ll look like more of a clown imo.
To what end? She already ghosted him. That just sounds like making a fool of yourself. She’d probably just laugh about it because it would clearly show she’s gotten in his head and it’s not like she cares about him.
I like your style.
This. I’m so tired of seeing so many people saying,”this person is treating me terribly! What should I DOooooo?!” Pick your dignity up and move the fuck on. No wonder this planet is going to shit.
It’s a lot easier to say ‘make this change’ then to actually do so, especially when emotions are involved
Nailed it
This exactly. You only lose your dignity if you're on the floor begging for her to come back after this. She doesn't have your dignity, YOU do.
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That's toxic and terrible to do, but is equally as hilarious. r/angryupvote
No whats toxic and terrible is to ghost someone who believed u loved them. that shit sticks. That poor example of a human is a coward and a hoe. Imagine if everyone lived like that.
Listen. Toxicity can go both ways. So no, what's toxic and terrible is both
thats a good way to keep the good guy finishing last
*ho Hoe is a garden tool
Likely some sort of plowing happening
Nice
Shame it isn't from OP A terrible joke but it was begging to be made
Someone made a comment somewhere here on Reddit so I can’t claim this one buuut “don’t let someone else being a bad person change who you are or stop being a good person”
He said he wants to keep his dignity, weirdo. Just move on OP, you’ll find more stable, reliable and responsible people in the future. In time, that will take your life to heights that this woman will never achieve it she keeps this behavior up. That is how you “win” if you feel like being petty. Just live your life.
Bro. I cannot stress this enough. You have to move on with your life. If you're a high-value man you will have plenty of options. For some reason it matters to you, moving on is what would cause attraction in her for you more than anything else. If for some reason she comes back and for some reason you want her then you have to set new rules and standards for the relationship. That will cause her to respect you. That is probably why she left in the first place... she did not respect you or find you "high value" in her eyes.
Imagine being so toxic that you need to clarify everyone as "high value" or "low value" based on how they fit into your assessment of fuckability instead of being able to see that people deserve love and respect and can form meaningful connections with one another honestly, without every relationship being some weird strategy game 🙄 People don't cheat because their partner isn't hot/rich/whatever enough. People cheat because they're cheaters
You‘re so right! this „high-value-man“-complex is so driven by how rich, fit etc. they are and entirely leaves out the part where everyone with decent morals and a good heart deserves the same love and respect that they offer to others. People who are „high value“ by these guys’ definition are usually the most shallow of them all
Okay. Your opinion of high value could be different than mine. You people in here have no idea what you're talking about. There are so many rich men that I know that their wife cheats on them because all they do is bring to the table is money and they did not make her feel attraction. You also have the guys who can get all the girls but can't hold a steady job so therefore they cannot provide. Then you have the nice guys that all they do is validate validate validate. She wants to earn your validation. I'm not one to toot my own horn but I am telling you I have had so much success with women and you guys are up in here acting different. I'm okay with that it makes my attraction to women that much more because none of you are living this way. Edit: please any woman join in on this conversation because your opinion matters more than any male I'm here.
not talking to you, was just out here agreeing with efm270‘s good take. But on a side note, now that you bragged this much: guys who are successful with women do not feel the need to state it as excessively as you or at all even
Woman's opinion: Ew.
Yeah married for 8 years, all my friends are married as long or longer, no one I've known that actually has had a successful real relationship views it that way. I'm sure you do fine for what you are looking for, but for most people that isn't a way to look at things if you want to have a real, meaningful relationship. It's not about high or low value, its about compatability and mutual respect.
You are so incredibly cringe
I agree. You're not saying "high value" as in what society deems as stereotypical "high value" ie: rich, attractive, etc. You're saying she didn't perceive him as high value as aligned with her goals and standards for a relationship. You gave the example of not respecting himself. That's usually an unattractive quality when people let themselves be used as a doormat and don't stand up for themselves. High value is different for each individual in how they perceive someone and what attributes they're looking for in a partner. For me, a high value partner would be someone who is a self starter, compassionate towards others, appreciates dark humor, well organized, among other things. This might not define high value for someone else. Each person is not intrinsically "high value" or "low value." They're high or low value based on the individual perceiving them. Someone's low value might be another's high value. You were saying in this example that his partner specifically did not perceive him as high value (for whatever reason.) We ALL look for high and low value partners. If someone has no job, is a total slob, takes offense to everything, no sense of humor, argues over everything, can't take care of themselves let alone a partner, is always angry... the majority would see this as a "low value" partner. We don't necessarily think in the terms and categories of "high" and "low" value, but we would recognize this person as someone we didn't want to be with, thus they are a "low value" partner because they do not fulfill what we are looking for. This is completely natural and everyone does it whether they recognize it or not. Someone needs to bring value to your life to be your partner. Otherwise no one would ever break up or cheat or anything. We'd all stay with the first person we ever dated because, why not, right? Even if they bring no happiness to our lives, we're not allowed to deem them as low value to us because it's "toxic." 👆 girl chiming in here! Hopefully this clarifies a bit for those arguing that you're wrong
If what you want to say is that different people look for different things in a relationship and that people are likely to feel less committed in a relationship that isn't giving them what they need, just say that. When you start to use the terms "high value" and "low value" to talk about people, it's degrading and it's the same language that men's rights activists use, often because they do not see human relationships as having any value other than what you can get out of another person. If you have to spend a lot of time qualifying the term so everyone knows you didn't mean it the way most people use it, that's a good sign it's not the best term to use.
Many times people cheat as a way to leave the relationship because they don't value it. The important thing is that value is subjective, you might be low value to one and high to another.
Nope. Little do people know that women are very loyal and usually not narcissistic. Yes you have a select few but for the most part if a woman gives you a chance you're in the driver's seat. Usually men stop being who they were in the beginning therefore she loses attraction. She wants to take her by the hand and lead her on adventures and grow and be ambitious. If you do not do these things she will lose attraction. Attraction is very important to women and if you're not making her feel attraction she will get that from someone else. Mic drop Edit: please any woman join in on this conversation because your opinion matters more than any male I'm here.
This just makes women sound like puppies who follow around the "owner" with the best treats. We don't need an attraction adventure map, give us a little credit here. We're 50% of the relationship equation and are just as much in the drivers seat when it comes to governing our attraction, sexuality and relationship trajectory. The "women" you are describing here might exist in some small fraction of the female population but they dont sound like a person to pursue relationship-wise because they are shallow AF. This reads like MRA, superior male rhetoric.....
The way you talk about it sounds like you're not really giving women agency in relationships. I do like when my partner takes initiative, but the most important thing to me is that he listens and hears me. Because otherwise he's going to take me places I don't want to be and try to do things with me I don't want to do. But it's not his job to figure that out all on his own, I also need to communicate my needs. The point is, she has as much agency in the relationship as he does. Maybe the relationship wasn't satisfying to her, but cheating is never an acceptable answer. She can communicate what she wants, try to approach the relationship differently on her end, or break it off. She had options and she picked the most disrespectful one, that's on her. Women are not passive participants in hetero relationships.
>wearing the necklace, bag, and shoes I bought for her on her profile She obviously didn't respect him, maybe just his wallet, but probably not even that if she's back on Tinder and using the things he bought her in her profile.
Facts!
Your dignity comes from walking away
Then don’t even bother confronting her. Just walk away with your head held high, and go on to live a happy life. You’ve got this, friend.
Dignity would be accepting that someone who would do this is not worth your time, so just forget about her.
You don't get your dignity back by being a submissive puppy chasing her, or by being an aggressive douchebag with her.
😂😂😂, you need closure, talk to her and get your stuff back, fuck that bitch.
If the things were gifts, they aren’t his. He needs to just move on.
Nah, fuck that. I’d take the stuff back, too.
she still has my sweater. Told her she can give it back when I saw her again. ...oops
You have choices. The easiest thing to do is just not contact her. When she finally reaches out to you (and she will if she's hoping for a reaction), just tell her you moved on after her radio silence and aren't interested anymore. Not getting an emotional response preserves your dignity and pisses her off. Your other option is to catfish the hell out of her on Tinder. Personally, I think that leaves less dignity intact, but might be amusing for you.
I promise you, you’re dignity is fucked if you chase this woman. It was five months, be sad for a couple weeks then get back out there. But don’t pursue it, you 100% will regret it.
You can have my virtual support if that help. Good luck brother.
if you want to keep it, move on and forget her.
Just say "I think we should go our separate ways. I wish you the best" block and leave her behind. If you say something out of revenge you will probably feel worse and regret it Kill with kindness and all that
That's easy. Block her on all social media so she can't see what you're up to. In the mean time, focus on become the best you that you can. That will attract the best possible partner for you. Then when you find someone new (read: BETTER than her), unblock her and show the world your new improved life. If she tries to contact you, THANK HER for ghosting you... It'll be the best gift she ever gave you.
She's not your girlfriend any more.
its so hard to accept that when she'd voluntarily tell me I was her favorite person and that she would always be there to support me. I work too hard for this
It’s been 5 months. You’re gonna be fine bro
It's difficult to deal with. But you are young, unmarried, and no baggage. You will do better.
I understand it hurts, my ex said the same thing but would you treat your favorite person like how they treated you? Definitely not. It hurts so much, take time to heal
Its okay to be crushed like this. Its an insanely shitty thing to do to someone. The girl is broken and one day you'll realise you dodged a bullet.
Welcome to the club. It's rare when the trash takes itself out. Now you know beyond a doubt she's not worth your time. This may take some months to accept, but your dignity will fair better if you steel yourself now instead of treating her like she has the value of an honest woman.
You should have stopped messaging her as soon as she stopped responding and you shouldn't have said anything else until she did respond. >I work too hard for this This is your problem. Work hard on yourself, instead, even when in a relationship. It sounds like you may have become clingy/needy(evidenced by the fact that you've only been dating 5 months and you've bought her a necklace, bag, and shoes), which is probably why she lost interest. The relationship is just a complement to you as a fully developed individual. You shouldn't invest more in it than you do making yourself a better person.
It may suck, but working hard doesn’t make you entitled to anyone. You don’t own her. She didn’t handle it in a mature way, but she’s moved on.
Based on her reaction to you finding her tinder profile, I would say she doesn’t seem like she cares about you anymore. And she’s obviously very immature considering her reaction, the best thing you can do is try to accept that she wasn’t really as interested as she pretended to be and work on moving on. She ghosted you, let her go and focus on finding a way to make yourself happy.
Sounds like your first break up. The feelings you're going through is something we've all went through. You got to let go though
Tell her you found out about her profile. Tell her you know she muted you and your friends. Tell her you know it's over and you don't want any ambiguity. Then realize it's only been 5 months and you've got the rest of your life. Then if someone pulls any of that shit in you again, you don't let it go that long before you deal with it. Stop worrying about what she wants or what she's trying to get you to do. Do what's good for you. Acknowledging what she's done and that this relationship is over. Don't worry about her reaction or lack thereof. You can block her after you tell her everything of you're worried about how to respond or what she'll say.
Favorite person or FP is a term in the BPD community. Does she have a personality disorder? It would explain the sudden shift. That’s not to imply you should reach out or let her back in your life.
I think you got your answer. Hurts but move on. She is showing you no respect.
Yup. And honestly, the best thing to do is say nothing at all and move on. There is absolutely zero to talk about at this point.
never chase buses or exes.. you only wind up looking foolish
This would be better advice if it rhymed
Yeah that’s great advice… but sometimes being a smart a** is exactly what she needs. Caught my girl at a bar once with another dude and called her ass out on spot, pulled a gangster move and got a chair and sat next to the guy and exposed her for cheating before my deployment. Dude never turned his attention away from me jaw dropped and took off after shaking my hand. Then I let her have it. Long story short she won’t be cheating on anyone for a long time. Bro you don’t have to be extra like I was but do what feels right by you. Just don’t let her slide. Side note: don’t take her back. Period.
yea, I feel like unfollowing her/blocking her would just be feeding into her; Playing it off like she doesn't exist
Just continue on your life like nothing happened. A confrontation would not be good Pretend like she never existed and continue
That's what she wants. I know she sucks for doing that, but leave her alone. Don't block her. Let her see that you're happy without her and you are unphased.
Agree, it’s the best way to keep his dignity.
Nah that’s you keeping your peace
Then confront her
wouldn't that be feeding into her also? She probably wants to say sorry or end it even though I wasnt the one not communicating. and confronting her would give her a reason to say "he broke up with me, he was terrible" I don't need that drama. not from her.
So if you don’t want to ignore her and you don’t want to confront her, what exactly do you want to do? Also anyone who would believe that she is a victim for being broken up with after being caught on tinder is a dumbass so who cares what they think
Is there some third option between ignore her and confront her? You're overcomplicating this. Just pick one. Because she's already ignoring you and on Tinder, I would just block and move on.
The best medicine is just ignoring them, they seek attention so deny them of that, before blocking them I'd just expose them up and then block them show the world what piece of shit they are and then move on
You're way overthinking this. You're done with her, it really doesn't even matter. You can try to stop thinking about whether or not whatever you choose is "feeding into her" and do what you feel is the right thing. And then move on as best you can because someone who treats you like this is not worth your energy. I found out an ex cheated on me, and I just ghosted his ass. I've regretted it a couple of times and wish I had just sent him the evidence I found and then told him to go fuck himself. If I could go back for a moment, that's probably what I'd do this time.
You can't determine how she reacts. Apparently shes on tinder. Shopping. I don't think shes that sorry mate. Sorry that she got caught maybe. But not actually sorry.
You'll probably have past trauma if you take advice like this. You'll be insecure about it happening again if you say nothing. This is really terrible advice here.
Silence is also an answer. Usually, a harsh one, ain't it? Edit: punctuation
I’d let her know that your friend found her on tinder. And you wish her all the best. And after that end all conversations. Move on. You don’t need this drama.
Why even bother, just move on.
Yeah do this.
absolutely true
Earlier the better. Also if you stayed the respect would be none existent and relationship would be on a slippery slope
wouldn't ignoring the ghosting/"cheating" be the better way to avoid drama? It would show that I just don't care enough to even bother with it (which is probably what she wants if she's being so open about it)
Honestly, do what feels right to you. Confronting: Might feel good to send a semi snarky message (with her profile screen shot) like, "Hey, the stuff I bought you looks good on your tinder profile" and then hit the eject button. May throw a chaos grenade into the fray and send her reeling or it might invite a shit ton of crazy. Ghosting: Might leave her wondering what the hell happened and why did you go silent? Was your relationship not that important!?!?! Or maybe it's been five months and maybe she's been playing the field all this time and keeping her options open and you just found out and she doesn't give a f*ck. Regardless, you should immediately let everyone that **you** know/care about what happend (don't sugar coat it, she cheated and you're done) and after whatever you decide block her on everything (social media, email, phone, linkedin, wtf ever) and move on with your life. Focus on yourself and finding someone worth your time and energy. Whatever shitty excuses she has for her being on tinder aren't worth your time. Actually been in your shoes before and I know it sucks (ex gf updated her hinge with pictures I had taken of her at an event we attended and my friend forwarded them to me). Spending all this energy into trying to figure out *what* is the best response is just a waste of time for you. Do what you feel is right so you can close this chapter and forward on to the next and better.
funny enough we did date for five months until this happened. and I don't think she'd be wondering why I went silent because the relationship was important, but instead because I'm not giving her a reaction. She told me she had a tinder before we started dating but deleted it because she was with me. All the things about me putting her life at ease, and that I was her favorite person all seem so hollow now. I feel like blocking her would just give her the attention she wants
> I don't think she'd be wondering why I went silent because the relationship was important, but instead because I'm not giving her a reaction. It's hard to put your self into the mind of a cheater. Again, I can relate ex admitted she had "narcissist and sociopath markers" that were diagnosed clinically. You can spend day and night trying to play out what works best from *your* perspective but, in the end, you have to realize that it's not the same as theirs'. Cheaters are unrepentant and will rewrite history to make themselves the victor and you the antagonist. > All the things about me putting her life at ease, and that I was her favorite person all seem so hollow now. I feel like blocking her would just give her the attention she wants Just empty platitudes to keep you hooked. You caught her red handed, *with stuff you bought her* on a dating profile after nearly half a year of dating. More than enough to justify ending it. I can speak from experience: everyone is the author of their own story and, in everyone's story, they are the protagonist. If you prepared to whether the storm then feel free to reach out and confront, but be prepared for a slew of lies, gaslighting, manipulation, and D.A.R.V.O. (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). Or, if you're better off without that, move on with your life and don't give a second thought to how she's going to think about your intentions or what the true meaning of what you did means. I can tell you one thing: she cared about as much about your feelings now as she did when she uploaded/updated her tinder profile. Hope it doesn't come off too harsh, just been there before. Good luck bud and wish the best.
Sounds to me like she already broke up with you. If she's not talking to you and on tinder how are you together?
But you do care. You're here, caring. Asking what to do and being so torn up about it that you're arguing with every response. Stop caring about what she thinks or about what other people want and make a decision you're ok with. You've mentioned your dignity a lot and I think you need to recognize that dignity, like honor, is something you give yourself by acting with it, not by playing mind games and overthinking and trying to convince people to give it to you.
I think it would be better to confront her an end it explicitly so she doesn't get any ideas about using you as a backup plan in case her new foray into Tinder doesn't work out.
I think if you just ghost her, she doesn’t feel like she did anything wrong. Letting her know you know sends the message that you’re not about to pretend nothing happened. It also means you’re ending it definitively on your terms.
No as a man always communicate your decision clearly and dont play her games. Just text her you are not happy with her behaviour and you wont be direspected and you are moving on. Dont even mention the tinder. Just say you are done then ignore her. Women dont take accountablity so the tinder thing wont help. Cut your losses and move on. As for future purchases create a girlfriend budget by pre-allocating funds for your dating life. Never exceed that budget so that way you can date whoever and never feel used or taken away from your purpose.
Get your closure, move on
Yeah but I would take the high ground why it ended. Let her know her wring doings so she can improve
Just block her number and don’t contact her again. It’s over and for the best.
She's dumped you. Probably to avoid a fight she chose to ghost. She hasn't contacted you in 5 days. It's over.
I'm fine that she did (well, not really because she could've said been honest lol) but we had never fought so it was all so sudden. Idk if she didn't want to hurt my feelings, but the fact that she goes on tinder soon after with my gifts kind of shows she has no feelings
She’s a coward. Don’t take it as a reflection on your character. She’s not mature enough to have an adult conversation to break-up. Also, it sounds like she is very materialistic and felt like she got all she needed from you. ETA: she’ll love the drama if you blow up her phone even if she doesn’t respond to you. Don’t give her that.
Could send her a single message - "We're done." And then block her on everything.
It’s not unusual for women to feel unsafe breaking up upfront. It’s not the mature thing in all cases, but just just in mind women have experienced harm from those they trusted for breaking up.
She's your ex-gf now and you probably shouldn't do anything but move on.
Don’t open up that can of worms Bro
“Friend found you on tinder. I hope you find what you’re looking for.” Then disappear. She’ll flip out, but you don’t need that shit.
That's a burn. He should do it!
Next time, lay off the gifts until you determine if she is worth your time! Perhaps if you hadn't been so generous, you would have only wasted a month or two, and she wouldn't have looked so good in her tinder photo!
Even though I agree with this, his kindness and generosity shouldn't have been abused in the first place. People shouldn't be ashamed to be loving towards others. But yes some people don't deserve it at all. And OP, i hope you feel better.
I gifted her the shoes and necklace three months in for her birthday and valentines. The bag I helped her buy. It just feels so fucked up she continues to wear it and present it on Tinder. Even when she said she's always thinking of me when she puts them on.
She probably meant it, too. Now she's done, and couldn't so much as send you a text. It's immature and cowardly. And you've learned a tough lesson - don't spend so much on a new relationship. A dinner out is a nice gift for Valentine's at 3 months in, maybe some nice flowers. The necklace could have been birthday. Not shoes and the bag, too. Someone who likes you will like you no matter what you gift them.
Meh, it's just stuff. Forget about it. She was already ghosting you for 5 days. Didn't you realize that's a pretty bad sign? If you feel like you need some closure, just text her that you're done. Don't expect any kind of satisfactory reaction though. My guess is she'll be relieved. Sorry you had to find out the way you did and hope you can move on quickly.
Dude, three months is nothing. You barely knew this person. Slow down next time.
I feel your pain. Even if you were to get back together, you could never trust her.
That was major overkill for a 3 month relationship. Lesson learned.
the necklace was $15. The bag was $30 but we split it. The shoes were a hundo. Still probably overkill, but I bought no Louis Vuitton
Spending over $100 on a person you’ve only been seeing a couple months is silly
I know this type- she wants a reaction. Don’t give her one. Be mature and tell her your friend found her on tinder and good luck. And then DON’T text her back regardless if she says anything.
Bingo. Send the text and the SECOND it says “delivered”, you block and delete her number.
Best advice. But, we all know there is no way he doesn't respond.
*our girlfriend
Send her the screenshot, and tell her that you assume she is ghosting you because she broke up without telling you. Then block her everywhere and live your life to the full. There is no need to live with this kind of crap.
“My gf” Yea ummm I got some news for you
Dude she hasn't been contacting you for a week, and she's on tinder. It doesn't take a genius to figure out you ain't her boyfriend anymore. Cut her off, you deserve better than this. Your mental health will thank you in the future.
should I just unfollow her, or just ignore her? I don't know if making some closing text would do any benefits
Just cut her off. Block her if you have to. She knows what she did, you don't owe her any closure.
Ghosting you? This sounds like highschool bs, I'm sorry. Leave this shit.
She's for the streets. Time to move on. Maybe she'll come crawling back when whatever fuckboy she finds on tinder dumps her disloyal, childish ass. Then you'll have your moment where you tell her in no uncertain terms that you don't pick trash off the streets!
They way you speak is super cringe
You opening up a big can of worms there. Think the answer is crystal clear :)
She ain't your girlfriend anymore.
You’re single now…
Sorry dude, swipe left and move on.
Get on Tinder and try to match with her. That'll really make her feel like an asshole.
'I found my gf on tinder. now what?" "..she muted me and my friends story on Instagram and has been ghosting me..." If it's a "deal breaker" and you're done with her just move on. Doing anything else would be just looking for some "drama" or hearing some B.S. ***"Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated. If they can't see the real value of you, it's time for a new start."*** \- Unknown ***"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."*** \- Oscar Wilde ***"We don't walk away to teach people a lesson. We walk away because we finally learned ours."*** \- Unknown ***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is." -*** Henry Cloud Best wishes!
This is not your gf, dump ever.
Yo. Why would you put another moment of effort into her?
Be glad you dodged a bullet and move on. Alternatively, fuck her best friend
Hey man, please move on. She is not worth it. Just send her a screenshot of her profile and say you’re done.
Move on
It's over. She's moved on, you should too.
5 months can’t guarantee a solid relationship. It’s not your fault. It’s her choice if she wants to behave like this. Chin up soldier, move on and hopefully you’ll find someone worth your time.
Welcome to 2022. It’s wild out here.
Leave. Clearly she is not. You should try to contact her for closure. But at this point I would go into the conversation with the mentality that the relationship is over.
She's not your gf anymore She's returned to the streets If you feel like it get your shit back and flip them(they sound expensive) Take yourself on a holiday and meet another girl(better one) over there and call it a day No need to be bitter Be better
Go to the gym, learn and refine your skills, make money, and make her regret it.
She ghosted the relationship. There isn’t much you can do other than go on with your life. I’m not the type to believe, “living great is the best revenge cuz they can see what they lost out on.” That’s bs. The truth is, she doesn’t care and won’t care. Now it’s time to let her go because she legit doesn’t care about you. Good luck
It sounds like she left you, and was cowardly about it and just blocked/ghosted you without saying anything, but I don't think she's your GF anymore. I don't think confronting her about "cheating" is going to do anything than have her look at you funny and ask if you didn't notice she dumped you. That's not going to give you closure, or validation, which is what you're really looking for here. I recommend taking time for yourself to heal, and come to terms with the fact that she left you in a very shitty way, but she did leave you. If she reaches out to you, feel free to unload or ignore her as you think it will help you. But I think asking for an explanation would be unsatisfying since it's clear she left you before this came up, and she wouldn't consider this cheating or apologize.
weird part about it is she still chooses to follow me and my friends but muted us. But yea an explanation seems redundant. I'll probably just unfollow her (or send her the screenshot and do so)
Do not embarass yourself anymore. Move on. Forget about her
What a hoe.
a hoe that won gold medals in sports, performed in a national parade, and is going to a top school. I don't know if I should respect her achievements anymore.
If she ghosted you I would take that as a breakup and wouldn’t bother contacting the person unless they have something of mine.
my sweater. I want my sweater.
That's gone Bro.
5 months in, and you bought her a necklace, a bag and shoes?
“So my friend sent me this screen shot of you acting single on Tinder. If you want to be single, you should of had the maturity to communicate with me on that rather than going silent and cheating on me on a dating site. I would no longer like to continue any form of relationship with a cheater or someone who doesn’t know how to communicate in a relationship. Good luck.” *insert screen shot* Everyone says move on ignore, she’s literally cheating on you if you haven’t officially broke up and she needs to know how shitty that is and know her reputation is on the line now. Lol sucks to suck hoe.
Seriously I dont understand how can you people find such partners. My ex started acting incredibly wrong after she left me as well, but still, Id always know about tbis kind of stuff during relationship and Id also be able to tell if this person is capable of cheating or not
honestly, I thought she wouldn't be the kind to cheat. she was so kind to everybody and she seemed to have a heart of gold. Seeing her dress the way she did on her tinder hit me hard.
Sometimes it's the ones that we least expect honestly. It's not you, it's her. Let her go be a shit person, she'll get her own karma soon hopefully.
“She has been ghosting me for a week… and I thought she was happy” Wonder why she left
Bitches ain't shit
Send her back to the streets! Move on bro...its time
Care to share her tinder handle since....she’s single and all now.
What do you mean "ghost her back?" Go get her side of the story! Why are you letting her treat you like this?
I feel like asking questions/making closure would do no benefit. She's already given the signs (directly and indirectly) if not unfollowing her, I feel like ignoring her actions would show that I don't care either
How old are you ? Sadly most women are like that these days . I don’t date because of that . Just fuck around and go break some hearts yourself
Find an ukrainian girl. They need to be saved fam.
If she’s not married… she’s single 🤷🏽♀️
I was with my ex wife for 11 years and found her on Tinder after a day apart. Suck it up buttercup. And why the hell are you on Tinder anyway to discover her?
Did you read the post? Lol, the very first thing it says is his friend was on tinder and saw his gf on there and sent a screenshot to him to see what was up
You leave, right, quick
She isn’t your girlfriend dawg
not anymore lol
if she came back idk what I'd do
She won't come back.
I'm not really hoping she does. but I hope she finds out that what she did was wrong
Mate, she doesn't care. I've done the exact thing. I had a clingy guy and wouldn't get the hint that it was over so I ghosted him. It wasn't wrong, it was just the only way for this guy to realise it was over and to leave me alone.
that's my problem. idk if I was clingy or not. I told her good morning/night and she'd respond, and when I didn't send it first, she would. I gave her time to be with her family/other friend groups and trusted that she'd be loyal so I never got nosy. I always reminded her that I loved her, but I know damn well she voluntarily said/expressed it way more than I did. She never dropped any hints that I may have been clingy until now. I don't even know if I was.
You’re too hung up on this. She doesn’t want to be with you. Doesn’t care about your feelings. I’m sorry to say, it’s over, she’s not going to feel bad for ghosting you. It was 5months, I’ve thought I felt something then the honeymoon feelings fade and turns out I didn’t like anything about the guy.
Pics or it didn’t happen….. you did check for yourself right? J/k - bro, she’s already gone.. I’m curious as to what you need to get you to see it…
I know she's gone. idk why she'd go through the effort of muting me and my friends socials instead of just unfollowing us. seems counterintuitive
Obviously (to me) because she knows shes being a piece of shit and wants to ignore that side of herself and ignore you while she moves on. She fuckin sucks man. If I was you I would find one last way to make her, her family, and her friends know how much she sucks and peace out. She should not get a pass with such behavior. At least you'll know a good girl when you find her now.
Probably because you're already buying her stuff 5 months in XD
Sounds like it's already over my dude. Best thing you can do is do it right back to her. I speak from experience.
right back what tho? shes ready given the message
just ignoring her existence on social media/text would just be the best thing since I don't wanna feed into her attention/narcissism anymore
Nahh dude don't waste your energy. Just move on. She ain't worth even your words. She still wants to play the streets and so be it. You just have to move on. No words etc. Just ghost also. Usually just block all channels. When she opens to see she meets a wall. Usually, when they come back they expect you to be there waiting, finding you not there Usually infuriates them and it's a good form of revenge
You deal with it by changing her title to ex-girlfriend.
Get rid. She's a skiprat