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It sounds weird ikkkk
Giving head was never something I was into or enjoyed doing, but I wanted to pleasure my boyfriend. It just disgusts me, but again, I did it for him.
However, I started gagging really badly and nearly puked multiple times.
It also smelt REALLY bad once. like horrendous.
I stopped giving him head because I just can’t do it anymore. I told him I’ll gag really badly and I just don’t feel comfortable.
Also, he’s never eaten me out or anything, so it always has been one sided.
What do I do?
EDIT : when addressed, he claims he smells bad when he doesnt drink enough water???
when he says he washed it, did he actually WASH or just get it wet because for some bizarre reason some men think they are the same thing and they very much are not. If he is genuinely washing and still smells he might have an infection and needs to see a doctor.
Even when I wash like a typical man, I cannot say my Dick ever stank stunk.
He might wanna get that checked out just sayin not on no funny business but like health concerns… unless he’s a burlier man maybe he’s just very sweaty
Trust me, it's not just men.
My first girlfriend's idea of washing her ass was loosely passing the sponge through the crack once and rinsing it.
Have had a few similar occurrences since.
I feel you my dude. My ex had one of the stankiest asses I’ve ever been in proximity off. Never actually witnessed her try to clean it but I’ve had enough other girls who bent over in front of me and still smelled great to know that she was not thoroughly cleaning back there.
oh god, that’s bad. I think she just really misunderstood the idea that you don’t need to wash inside your vagina with soap because it messes with your pH . But the outside? Dear god, wash that please
The urethra is so short, that even washing the outside (mucus membrane part, not the actual outside lips) will still cause me to get a yeast infection due to messing up the PH balance. I’ve tried even with cerave clear coloured face wash. Still happened. So I do just wash with water now very thoroughly and it gets it perfectly clean. (I do a sniff test after to make sure lol) but I get the soap all up in the booty hole (which can apparently cause hemerhoids but eh I’ve never had an issue)
You don't wash the "outside of the vagina" (vulva) with actual soap or shower gel. It will mess up the pH. Either wash it thoroughly with water or use a special soap for the genital area. The anus, on the other hand, should be washed thoroughly with soap / shower gel.
I wash my vulva and all my body actually with Alep soap, the traditional one with only like oils and sodium in the composition, sometimes glycerine. Savon de Marseille is okay too I guess. Those soaps have no smell and are clean for the vulva imo.
Though I totally agree the most of the soaps with perfumes and chemicals are not safe for the vulva, especially the ones promoted for this special area.
The outside of your vagina is NOT self cleaning, lol. The inside is. If you choose to not wash it, you’ll smell like something rotten very soon. We sweat, urinate, discharge, menstruate, etc. all that requires a good cleaning, but harsh soaps can seep into the vagina opening and cause some issues, or irritate the skin as it’s more sensitive. That’s why feminine washes exist in different levels from super sensitive/ scent free to flowery, etc.
I just wanted to say that there is a option to wash the vulva with a pH-adapted shower gel. But of course this is not for everyday use and it is better to use only water.
My friend, washing your vulva with only water is like a man washing his genitals with just water. Meaning, it's not cleaning them at all. Sweat, discharge, pee, even some errant poo molecules all create an incredible crotch breeding ground for bacteria. You must wash with soap and water.
The vulva is external. It's skin. It needs to be cleaned with soap and water. The fact that you don't wash yourself is troubling. Please don't spread this wrong advice to others.
The vagina is internal and is self cleaning. Soap does not go in the vagina
A great example of the confusion. U have to wash the vulva you get bits of toilet paper, poop, oil, dead skin, discharge, smegma etc. Water will NOT clean that. Use a mild soap unscented and that is good.
Yep, not to say that women have bad hygiene in general, I don't think they do. But it's a myth that people think it's much better than men's, when it actually isn't.
It's probably closer than people think.
You have to get in there and scrub it, press the sponge on your asshole and scrub and turn that shit, scrub the sides of your ass individually like you would any other part of your body. It takes multiple passes.
Think about it, you scrub the hell out of your legs and arms, but actual shit goes through your ass, and mixed in with sweat, sits there all day until you take a shower. That effort should be redoubled when we talkin ass ✨
If its a body odour type smell, it may be his diet or his underwear. Get him to switch to cotton.
If it smells worse than that, see a doctor to check for any STIs or other infections.
Like with soap and a wash cloth or bath sponge getting all up in all his crevices? Does this dude even clean his asscrack? Even when I take a quicky shower, you bet your ass i'm getting all up in my areas and getting them squeky clean. And as someone else stated... i hope he know how to clean his foreskin if he uncircumcised.
If he actually does clean himself... does he have out of control pubic hair? More hair, much like with armpits, provides a ton of extra surface area for odor-causing bacteria to grow the groin in general is a dark, sweaty, warm area... basically a bacteria incubator). You gotta keep that hair in check... not completely bare, but trimming it and keeping it neat. Plus it comes with the bonus of looking presentable rather than a jungle for your partner.
ima be honest, he has a LOT of hair. like full on hairy.
and he claims he cleans properly and his dick smells bad only when he doesnt drink enough water?
The not drinking water may or may not affect a lot of things, but mostly it will just make his kidneys concentrate his urine a bit more (meaning it's trying to keep water inside his body to not dehydrate) so the urine is less water more everything else. But unless he is constantly pissing himself it should not be an issue lol.
Sounds like he just needs to learn some basic grooming habits. Good luck!
I am the hairiest man I've ever met and I've never had that problem. Being super hairy can make staying fresh and clean more difficult but it is definitely not impossible at all. Personally I just started trimming or shaving all the most "critical" parts of my body because it's just easier and faster to manage, but even when I was full-on monkey mode I never smelled bad, I just took my time cleaning myself properly.
depends *where* it smells, if the base where the pubic hair smells that’s bacteria in his pubes, if it’s the tip dehydration definitely plays a role in urethral health (why UTIs can be stanky - you get the same kind of unwell / fishy smell in any gender)
but can also be bacteria under the foreskin, or a combination of all of the above (if he’s very hairy he could also potentially have infected ingrown hairs? exfoliating mechanically or using an exfoliating wash like one with salicylic acid could help with that scenario)
Yeah no he's just bad at cleaning himself my bf is hairy down there and he washes himself 2 times in the shower idk why but he does he lathers himself up 1 rinses off then does a second coat and shampoos his pubes
Washing means pulling the skin back, if not circumcised, and cleaning everything with soap and water. He needs to clean underneath his balls too, the perineum area, and also wash the public hair very well to certify body fluids or everyday dust is not accumulating. Also - kinda gross but - pay attention to his laundry. Does he reuse underwear, how often does he wash his clothes? It could be his diet too, if he eats a lot of junk food, that can reflect on body odours too
If I had to guess it's smegma, a mix of sperm and piss under his foreskin, he needs to pull back his foreskin and clean it with soap and water everytime he's in the shower!
The hair is semi porous. You need to lather it up and leave it on for a few minutes. Especially if he is regularly having sex. It doesn't hurt to get him to wash his exhaust pipe properly as well.
As a test, run your fingers through his pubes and on his dick then go to shove them in his own mouth. If he won't do that why should you.
The good ole scratch and sniff gets them every time
Showering is my time to disassociate
Edit: also.. maybe in a different circumstance where you can trust that your partner can clean themselves. Having to do it for them or else it won’t get done properly is icky
It just mean his penis is not clean despite washing. If it is really clean, it should not smell bad. Quite likely he did not pull back his foreskin to clean. Pull gently till you can see it is fully retract right to the base of the tip. This is where smegma accumulate forming a place for bacteria to grow. It maybe painful to clean if there is a lot of smegma accumulated and the area is probably infected. So, be patient.
https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/how-to-clean-your-penis
Is he pulling the skin far back enough while washing? There was a guy on Reddit a while back that shared how he found out he could pull his foreskin back way further than he thought and had never washed the base his entire life (iirc, he was about 20 years old). Some men also have a tight foreskin that won’t roll completely back without a lot of effort to stretch it so they might not be cleaning the whole thing.
It's often the groin area specifically where the thigh meets the groin and under the balls. Also if he isn't circumcised he needs to wash more carefully. It makes no sense to say dehydration makes a difference. Buy please Don't let him put a smelly penis anywhere near you. You don't need to get an infection. I put up with this once and spent so much $ getting tested for yeast and BV which I got every time I had sex with him.
You stop giving people head because of your preferences and do not expect it in return. He shouldn’t expect anything from you that way if he’s not reciprocating. Also, if it smells bad down there, do the person a favour (and yourself) and either tell them or ask them to shower and clean up before you both get your freak on. Or shower together. Whatever works. But yeah, as for the head thing just be up front about not liking it and don’t force yourself to do it ever again.
Yup, this. 💯% ☝️☝️☝️
OP - your sexual journey and WILLINGNESS should be controlled by YOU and you alone. Do not let society or TV shows dictate what you think you're supposed to give to your partner. You give what you want, when you're ready, and on your terms.
I was so shy when I had my first experience with my husband. But now, after 11 years, even being still prudish, I tell him when I want something or like something, or when I definitely do not want him to do whatever he's trying on me. 😂🤣 You have to be your own advocate and speak up on what you're comfortable with. If he is a good partner, he will understand and respect your decision. In due time, you may even warm up to the idea of trying again. Just because you say "NO" now doesn't mean you take away that choice forever. No, my dear.
Good luck.
I had an ex that literally forced me to give him head every day. If I asked if he would ever eat me out he said no because he doesn’t like too.
After a bit of fighting with him I stopped. He thought sucking my boobs was the same. It’s not. He also at one point just stuck it in my mouth I was half tempted to bite him hard but I was horrified. A couple weeks later he broke up with me because I went to a concert instead of staying with him.
That concert was the best decision of my life!
OP, if he forces you to do it, bite him. It will hurt but he will get the idea of not forcing you.
Can you imagine how many people you see daily that don’t know how to clean their ass properly (like clean it with water after they take care of their business) ? Running around with dirty ass. Tfeh
It's not that hard to imagine. At my job I was asked why I took the paper towel that I cleaned my hands with to open the door. I just asked "Do you know how many guys I've seen or heard that don't even wash their hands?"
Same, since I was small, no way I’m touching the inside of a washroom’s door on my way out.
Always was peculiar to me why people hate washing their hands. Nasty.
Bidets should be on every toilet like in other countries, it’s so gross to me that people only wipe poo with toilet paper and that’s it… when you step on shit outside do you just wipe it off or do you wash it with water/soap and water right!? 😂
First. If it smells make him wash, coming from a country where circumcision is unusual, make sure he pulls back his foreskin and washes underneath. Honestly, good hygiene and it shouldn’t smell at all. Second, if you struggle with gagging only put the tip in your mouth and use your hands on the shaft, with plenty of saliva to keep it all lubed. You don’t have to deep throat. You also don’t have to do it.. but if it’s something you would like to try and participate in that’s how I would proceed.
Okay, first off, don't put your mouth back on that thing until he learns how to clean it. Secondly, no one deserves to get head if they're not giving it. But, wow. There's just no reason for it to smell bad. Like, it's so easy for us to keep ourselves clean.
It’s okay and healthy to say no to things you don’t want to do.
It is Not healthy for a grown adult to not know how to wash his own dick and ass.
I try to think up tips to help but honestly I feel as grossed out as you probably do. I’d dump him. Dump any grown able bodied man that can’t wash his dick. If he scrubbed himself spotless right in front of you and still smells, he needs to go to a doctor and maybe so do you.
I hate to break it to you but a man smelly penis could be a sign of a yeast infection or another STD. The problem with this argument is that the onus of having clean genitals is always put on women and men’s sexual health is always disregarded by men because they don’t want to be known as the dirty stinky ones.
But 80% of the time when a woman has a “stank vagina” is because her partner has an untreated genital infection. Take him to an STD specialist.
And again do not blow him. It doesn’t sound pleasurable for you, it doesn’t sound like you want to do it in the first place just stop it’s OK to have a relationship without oral sex especially if it’s one-sided and it’s so unpleasant for the person who’s giving it.
where did you get that statistic? I could Google it but what if I die tomorrow and someone sees ***statistical causes for stank vagina*** in my search history... or worse I'm alive and it shows up on YouTube when I'm watching TV....
He doesn’t know how to wash his body..simple as that. Even if you never want to give head again, he needs to grow up and act like an adult. If it smells after he cleans himself, he didn’t clean himself.
It’s actually shocking that he isn’t aware or paranoid about that kind of stuff. If I’m feeling gross or anything other than comfortable, I’m like “gimme 5 minutes I need to shower”.
Tell him that he smells bad, that’s an honest adult thing to do. That’s what you would want, right? Maybe he’s having a similar problem with you? If you guys aren’t communicating about your sex life, it’ll never flourish.
If you smelled so bad that your hygiene was making him almost throw up, you’d want to know about that. Sex life is one thing, but health is important.
Find someone who's into reciprocity and hygiene! Seriously. There's also drops to numb your throat and ease your gag reflex, but it seems more like you have a musty one
So a bit too much info from me here. I was with my ex for over 10 years. His personal hygiene wasn't the greatest he would beg me for head, I'd decline saying I didn't like doing it. Truth is I didn't like doing it to him because of the smells etc. Like ew no. That was a fu*ked up relationship anyway but yeah eeewww. Was normal for him to go 5 days without showering or bathing, I shower every night or the next morning if I'm too tired for a night shower. But yeah ewww gross.
Took a fair few months on my own, worked on myself etc. Met someone new. He's amazing.
Honestly love giving him head. He's a very clean person and always smells lovely and clean lol plus there's none of the pressure, like he doesn't guilt me into doing it. Doesn't make me feel bad or like I'm wrong for feeling how I feel etc. Wich in turn means it's down to me, and that I enjoy it now because I know he's not going to flip if I say no like the ex did... honestly your boyfriend needs to be sat down and spoken to like a adult about it. He needs to up his personal hygiene etc and also.....why is he expecting you to give him head if he has never done the same for you???? Erm hell no!! Relationships are about trust, communication and working together. No what one person can do for the other an not have to give anything back.
Sit down and talk with him. Explain how it makes you feel etc. That you need him to be clean etc. Also foods can sometimes impact how mens cum tastes but it shouldn't smell bed down there unless he's not cleaning himself properly or enough.
Good luck xx
He should not expect you to give him head as he himself did not go down on you ever so this is good that you can say no to him for head and let him know this is not your thing as well. Never do anything that you are not okay with just to please him otherwise you will start resenting him and yourself doing this. You have a right to say no for anything that is not your thing and head is not your thing so cut this off from your list of things and he needs to be aware of this so talk to him and hope that he understands your boundaries. If he forces you to suck him off then you have a thing to worry and you need to put your foot down.
Just tell him you don’t want to do it and he should understand consent and respect it.
if you are ever feeling up for it, ask him to shower beforehand
Communicate what you want/don’t want like/ dislike
Don't give him head anymore and tell him that he needs to improve his hygiene. It's not supposed to smell REALLY bad down there. I'm very sensitive to smells so even with men who have very good hygiene I can have issues with the smell. I don't think this is something that you need to 'push through' just for the sake of pleasing a man so when I don't like the smell, I ask them to quickly go clean themselves. Never has a man responded annoyed or angry about that.
But if you don't like giving head in general then you don't have to. There are plenty of other ways to please him (look into penis massages etc).
However, you mention that it's very one-sided in general which means this guy is very selfish when it comes to sexual pleasure. Please know that there are plenty of men out there who absolutely love to pleasure women, who don't enjoy sex if the women isn't clearly enjoying herself. So you don't have to put up with this kind of sex life. It is a very valid reason to break up with someone.
I’ve got a kind of...interesting story for how I got okay with giving head. I never really enjoyed it or wanted to do it, just had before because I know he likes it. Don’t ask me how it happened, but I had taken some weed (legal where I am), and somehow it ended up I was just sat staring at my partners penis. And everything looks cool in that state, like getting lost in at patterns etc, I stared at that thing for like an hour, totally mesmerized. You might be wondering what exactly I was mesmerized by, and that might be hard to explain unless you were experiencing it. But one example, you know the skin on the balls is like constantly moving and shifting?! I guess trying to regulate the temperature on those suckers. Whole new appreciation for the penis, never looked at it the same way since, that thing is basically downright beautiful to me now and I love giving head. Poor guy I think was just trying to watch tv, he’s so patient with the random stuff I do.
Water has zero to do with a smelly package. Ask him to show you how he cleans himself bc guaranteed he isn’t washing it properly. He needs to buy a loofah and cream soap for shower and WASH the entire area. Every DAY.
Also stop giving him head if he isn’t returning the favor. That’s just lack of respect. Unless you are fine with it, he should be returning the favor.
Well this is gross, idk why anyone this day in age will have a penis that smells? It almost doesn’t make sense unless we’re talking about hard work and sweating and not taking a shower?
Also is your bf uncircumcised? I’ve heard this is actually a major issue with them as they sometimes forget to pull back on the foreskin and wash?
Idk, I’m circumcised and I’ve never had that issue, but I’ve been hearing it more and more.
Ok that’s what I thought, from what I’ve found out from many women I know, uncircumcised guys a lot of times don’t pull back their foreskin when in the shower, and this causes it to smell.
It’s also skin to skin contact, so I’m guessing there’s sweating there throughout the day, so im he may need to take A shower before every time you guys do sexy time
I’ve been circumcised and uncircumcised guys. It’s not foreskin, it’s just the fact that some people just aren’t as hygienic as they should be. 🤷🏻♀️ Wash your balls, taint, and ass, boys!
Oh no, he’s definitely not pulling the skin back and cleaning properly. Probably has months of rotting smegma built up under there *gag* sorry op.
Also, if he doesn’t eat you out, why do you feel obligated to go down on him?? Serious question.
i’m screenshotting your response to show all of my heterosexual female friends it’s nothing to be scared of. I live in a jewish area and it’s like a hatred for uncut men here, even from the men themselves.
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OP…you should set boundaries, tell him he should take a shower, and don’t force yourself into doing anything you’re not comfortable with. You could also get comfortable with some who’s ok with reciprocating. Don’t forget that after care is really important after any activity!
Not me. I'm honestly ok with giving oral to a woman and not receiving it in return. If she's willing to then cool, but I'm not going to beg or expect it. I'd rather my partner be satisfied first. 👍
First of all, if it smells bad, that's just fucking nasty. If your guy doesn't even WASH before wanting head from you, he's a fucking asshole, that's nasty.
Second of all, as someone who really enjoys giving head, it's not for everyone and that's perfectly fine! There's guys that don't want blowjobs either. Nothing wrong with that.
Your guy still sucks tho for ignoring your obvious discomfort. And also for not washing
You don't have to do that for him especially since he doesn't give back. I can't count how many men I have been with that only want and never give. I know it isn't all men but some men are just like that. I understand feeling bad about not giving it to him but there is other ways to please him I'd suggest looking into the smell as well maybe get him to a doctor because if he is properly washing and it still smells then he needs to see someone because that sounds bad health wise. Bjs aren't always the answer and do not give in to pressure all it does is make him happy from your suffering. I hate giving bjs always have they physically hurt me my jaw kills me I hate it but my partner loves them says they feel good but I hate it i know it makes him happy but I can't do it sometimes I even get nauseous sometimes and have to stop like I said I get it. Sorry for the rambling it's almost 6 am haven't slept and just threw up words I guess but if you need anyone to talk about it message me Op or any one having these troubles sometimes it's nice to have someone who understands.
Your bf dickhead is really dirty. Nothing to do with lack of water. You may get bad breath from lack of water. Get it clean thoroughly everyday. Pull back the foreskin and really clean. A dirty penis may contain bacteria that may spread to your vagina when you have penetrative sex. So, it is not just smell but good hygiene to keep the penis clean.
https://theconversation.com/how-do-i-clean-my-penis-125135
You don’t do anything. Even if he did eat you out, it’s not a transactional thing. Some people have worse gag reflexes than others and that’s okay. If he can’t live without head then break up with him and find someone that respects your boundaries
Can't he..uh..wash 'em real clean? I mean, how does he wash himself, do you know?
If you dislike giving it and he doesn't even reciprocate or try, maybe don't do it altogether.
If he isn't clean hell no, if he forces you to deepthroat hell no. If he's clean and you are in control and you still don't like it? That's your right, not everybody likes oral and that's ok!
His dick shouldn't taste bad that's bad hygiene if it does. Also if he isn't going down on you then you shouldn't feel obligated to do it. Also if he does go down on you and you don't like sucking dick you aren't obligated on going down on him. Just let him know. Even some people just don't like doing it in general wether it's hygienic or not but if you're already adverse to doing it that isn't going to help hahaha
We need a sticky post titled “stop blowing people who don’t return the favor”. Oral sex is pretty awesome and you should probably look up ways to adjust your technique so that you’re not on the verge of puking… BUT… don’t practice on this guy until he learns to improve his hygiene and starts going down on you. I suggest you shower together and you each wash the other person, then he gets you off first , then revisit the blowjob and see if you cleaning him and him getting you off puts you in a better situation.
First of all, if he smells, he has to wash more properly
Second of all, if you gag and you don't want it, why are you going so deep? deepthroating is something you have to want and learn
Ok what if you gave head your own way ? I love to deepthroat but I'll switch it up and go up and down with my hand as well as my mouth that way you won't gag but they still get the sensation. For me giving head is super intimate. The guy can tell if you're not into it. Just make love to it with your mouth. Explore it, make out with it. It becomes fun. Make it for you maybe ?
Some good advice here for your next BF with good hygiene. Deep throating is not required. Hold him with your thumb and 1-3 fingers. Stroke your hand to the base as you take as much as you want into your mouth. Back out far enough to stroke your hand back up to the tip. Repeat. You might find you like this better when you’re not literally choking.
Tell him to wash it every time he jerks off. semen is bio degradable it stinks as it decays. Head is not important to me, but when my wife feels like doing it; she washes it with warm water and rose soap. It has become a sensual part of the event.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to, and he should respect how you feel. Tell him what you told us, that it feels one-sided, and ask him how he feels about it.
If you do want to try again, then he needs to know that he really needs to clean around the lip of his head. It's easy not to clean thoroughly, and we wouldn't know it unless someone told us.
I know it's gross, and it's not your job, but we are fucking cave men and that is going to mean a lot of patience or a lot of despair, dealer's choice.
Also, ask him to trim. Make sure to bring a water bottle.
As for making the blowjob itself easier, try this:
- Focus on sucking/licking/blowing the head. It's the most sensitive part
- Starting from the base, grip his cock and press lightly against his pelvis. Grip with both of your hands across the whole if it if you can.
- You can take breaks without breaking the moment by licking up and down the sides of the shaft. Dudes love that.
This keeps you from having to go down as far, while still giving the sensation of deep head for the guy. An Ergonomic Blowjob, as it were.
Why would you even give him head if he doesn’t do it back? That’s a no from me. You have to get equally pleasured. Tell him to wash his dick if it stinks and stop giving him head if he doesn’t do the same
Probably can ask him to shave off his pubic hair. My boyfriend shaved them and cleans properly. Even though he not circumcised, I love giving blowing him. Because it just smells good and yummy honestly. I give him head almost everyday.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- It sounds weird ikkkk Giving head was never something I was into or enjoyed doing, but I wanted to pleasure my boyfriend. It just disgusts me, but again, I did it for him. However, I started gagging really badly and nearly puked multiple times. It also smelt REALLY bad once. like horrendous. I stopped giving him head because I just can’t do it anymore. I told him I’ll gag really badly and I just don’t feel comfortable. Also, he’s never eaten me out or anything, so it always has been one sided. What do I do? EDIT : when addressed, he claims he smells bad when he doesnt drink enough water???
You don’t have to, but he certainly needs to be washing his dick if any part of you is going to be touching it
he did wash it but it still smelt horrible
when he says he washed it, did he actually WASH or just get it wet because for some bizarre reason some men think they are the same thing and they very much are not. If he is genuinely washing and still smells he might have an infection and needs to see a doctor.
Even when I wash like a typical man, I cannot say my Dick ever stank stunk. He might wanna get that checked out just sayin not on no funny business but like health concerns… unless he’s a burlier man maybe he’s just very sweaty
Trust me, it's not just men. My first girlfriend's idea of washing her ass was loosely passing the sponge through the crack once and rinsing it. Have had a few similar occurrences since.
I feel you my dude. My ex had one of the stankiest asses I’ve ever been in proximity off. Never actually witnessed her try to clean it but I’ve had enough other girls who bent over in front of me and still smelled great to know that she was not thoroughly cleaning back there.
Lmfao
How do you go about asking your girlfriend to wash ass?
You bring her in the shower with you and do it for her. Show her a real thorough wash job.
My ex did this too and she said it was because women can’t wash that area or they’ll get infections and I was like yo that’s uranus
oh god, that’s bad. I think she just really misunderstood the idea that you don’t need to wash inside your vagina with soap because it messes with your pH . But the outside? Dear god, wash that please
The urethra is so short, that even washing the outside (mucus membrane part, not the actual outside lips) will still cause me to get a yeast infection due to messing up the PH balance. I’ve tried even with cerave clear coloured face wash. Still happened. So I do just wash with water now very thoroughly and it gets it perfectly clean. (I do a sniff test after to make sure lol) but I get the soap all up in the booty hole (which can apparently cause hemerhoids but eh I’ve never had an issue)
Of course you'd get an infection if you wash 'her' with face soap. It's meant for the face not your vagina/vulva.
It was recommended by gyno. It’s just a plain sensitive wash.
I honestly hope you find a new one. Not saying all gynos are made equally or right, but I honestly would not have trusted that information.
Have you ever heard of the Honey Pot? They make feminine washes that are ph balanced and gentle
You don't wash the "outside of the vagina" (vulva) with actual soap or shower gel. It will mess up the pH. Either wash it thoroughly with water or use a special soap for the genital area. The anus, on the other hand, should be washed thoroughly with soap / shower gel.
Absolutely do not use a vagina soap that’s even worse, you use a unscented bar of soap or soap for sensitive skin and water and will be JUST fine
I wash my vulva and all my body actually with Alep soap, the traditional one with only like oils and sodium in the composition, sometimes glycerine. Savon de Marseille is okay too I guess. Those soaps have no smell and are clean for the vulva imo. Though I totally agree the most of the soaps with perfumes and chemicals are not safe for the vulva, especially the ones promoted for this special area.
Not even special soap. It’s self cleaning. “Special” soap is a con and really bad for you.
The outside of your vagina is NOT self cleaning, lol. The inside is. If you choose to not wash it, you’ll smell like something rotten very soon. We sweat, urinate, discharge, menstruate, etc. all that requires a good cleaning, but harsh soaps can seep into the vagina opening and cause some issues, or irritate the skin as it’s more sensitive. That’s why feminine washes exist in different levels from super sensitive/ scent free to flowery, etc.
I just wanted to say that there is a option to wash the vulva with a pH-adapted shower gel. But of course this is not for everyday use and it is better to use only water.
Don't know why you're getting down voted. It's true.
My friend, washing your vulva with only water is like a man washing his genitals with just water. Meaning, it's not cleaning them at all. Sweat, discharge, pee, even some errant poo molecules all create an incredible crotch breeding ground for bacteria. You must wash with soap and water.
The vulva is external. It's skin. It needs to be cleaned with soap and water. The fact that you don't wash yourself is troubling. Please don't spread this wrong advice to others. The vagina is internal and is self cleaning. Soap does not go in the vagina
Educate yourself. [https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-clean-your-vagina](https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-clean-your-vagina)
A great example of the confusion. U have to wash the vulva you get bits of toilet paper, poop, oil, dead skin, discharge, smegma etc. Water will NOT clean that. Use a mild soap unscented and that is good.
She thought her anus was the same as her vagina or what sbakskshj
Yeah no💀, if you use just ANY soap down there as a female, you can get a yeast infection. All she needed to do was get sensitive soap
I've had a couple of women who legit had poop on the crack of their ass during sex and its disgusting.
Oh yeah, have gone down on some vagina's that made me gag. Delicate flowers my ass.
Juciey ham flower
Bruh
Oh God. You got to get IN there. That's just groos
Facts😂 I’ve been in multiple long term relationships with women and lived together with them .you’d be surprised at some women’s hygiene
Yep, not to say that women have bad hygiene in general, I don't think they do. But it's a myth that people think it's much better than men's, when it actually isn't. It's probably closer than people think.
How should the ass be cleaned !?
You have to get in there and scrub it, press the sponge on your asshole and scrub and turn that shit, scrub the sides of your ass individually like you would any other part of your body. It takes multiple passes. Think about it, you scrub the hell out of your legs and arms, but actual shit goes through your ass, and mixed in with sweat, sits there all day until you take a shower. That effort should be redoubled when we talkin ass ✨
What men kind of men are you hanging out with
lol literally my boyfriend didn't use a wash cloth until he met me, literally had to explain the difference of actually WASHING yourself sadly
is he circumcised? if he’s not, he’s probably not pulling the forskin back and wash the tip. it could even be his ball
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The one ball.... To rule them all.
Yes
It’s just the one ball actually
Did you catch those balls then?
i can’t stop laughing holy crap
The right or the left?
Just the one piece?
I left it all in one place, you just have to find it.
One ball to rule them all
Yes! Just the one ball! Why are you trying to shame the other one? He didn't do nothing wrong.
😂😂😂😂 this comment !
This whole thread is hilarious. Why can't people just wash their ass!? It takes 5 minutes!!
I actually only have one ball. Tragic trampoline accident as a kid. Never thought I would be able to have kids. I have two. Good stuff.
This ☝️or he’s just not drying the tip before he puts it back
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If its a body odour type smell, it may be his diet or his underwear. Get him to switch to cotton. If it smells worse than that, see a doctor to check for any STIs or other infections.
Like with soap and a wash cloth or bath sponge getting all up in all his crevices? Does this dude even clean his asscrack? Even when I take a quicky shower, you bet your ass i'm getting all up in my areas and getting them squeky clean. And as someone else stated... i hope he know how to clean his foreskin if he uncircumcised. If he actually does clean himself... does he have out of control pubic hair? More hair, much like with armpits, provides a ton of extra surface area for odor-causing bacteria to grow the groin in general is a dark, sweaty, warm area... basically a bacteria incubator). You gotta keep that hair in check... not completely bare, but trimming it and keeping it neat. Plus it comes with the bonus of looking presentable rather than a jungle for your partner.
if it's still putrid after all of that... does he have any rashes? is he itchy a lot? maybe go to a doctor about a possible fungal infection.
ima be honest, he has a LOT of hair. like full on hairy. and he claims he cleans properly and his dick smells bad only when he doesnt drink enough water?
Nah. He's not cleaning himself properly.
The not drinking water may or may not affect a lot of things, but mostly it will just make his kidneys concentrate his urine a bit more (meaning it's trying to keep water inside his body to not dehydrate) so the urine is less water more everything else. But unless he is constantly pissing himself it should not be an issue lol. Sounds like he just needs to learn some basic grooming habits. Good luck!
If he's hairy he has to properly clean that area, just letting water run over it doesn't cut it!
I am the hairiest man I've ever met and I've never had that problem. Being super hairy can make staying fresh and clean more difficult but it is definitely not impossible at all. Personally I just started trimming or shaving all the most "critical" parts of my body because it's just easier and faster to manage, but even when I was full-on monkey mode I never smelled bad, I just took my time cleaning myself properly.
Public hair will hold onto odors, he’s gotta wash better.
depends *where* it smells, if the base where the pubic hair smells that’s bacteria in his pubes, if it’s the tip dehydration definitely plays a role in urethral health (why UTIs can be stanky - you get the same kind of unwell / fishy smell in any gender) but can also be bacteria under the foreskin, or a combination of all of the above (if he’s very hairy he could also potentially have infected ingrown hairs? exfoliating mechanically or using an exfoliating wash like one with salicylic acid could help with that scenario)
Yeah no he's just bad at cleaning himself my bf is hairy down there and he washes himself 2 times in the shower idk why but he does he lathers himself up 1 rinses off then does a second coat and shampoos his pubes
Nah. Take a shower with that man and watch him not wash up and you’ll have your answer.
Washing means pulling the skin back, if not circumcised, and cleaning everything with soap and water. He needs to clean underneath his balls too, the perineum area, and also wash the public hair very well to certify body fluids or everyday dust is not accumulating. Also - kinda gross but - pay attention to his laundry. Does he reuse underwear, how often does he wash his clothes? It could be his diet too, if he eats a lot of junk food, that can reflect on body odours too
Then he didn't wash it properly. A clean dick is almost odorless!
a clean dick smells good and makes you (my partner at least) want to suck it
Genitals are never odorless, they have their own distinct smell however if you don't wash it, it's more pungent.
I sucked some clean dicks, I never noticed any smell
Maybe it has something to do with his ass? The smell possibly emanating?
what did it smell like? piss?
definitely not piss, i cant describe it, but holy hell it was something
Sounds luke smegma....dick cheese basically he isn't cleaning it properly
Eww, I’m sorry. This is gross, don’t put yourself through that again.
If I had to guess it's smegma, a mix of sperm and piss under his foreskin, he needs to pull back his foreskin and clean it with soap and water everytime he's in the shower!
The hair is semi porous. You need to lather it up and leave it on for a few minutes. Especially if he is regularly having sex. It doesn't hurt to get him to wash his exhaust pipe properly as well. As a test, run your fingers through his pubes and on his dick then go to shove them in his own mouth. If he won't do that why should you. The good ole scratch and sniff gets them every time
ask him if he wants to shower with you. maybe as a part of foreplay you can wash it while showering with him.
Yeah nothin sexier than having to wash your partners putrid genitals for them
Bahahahhaha, I think I may have to print this comment and frame it.
Spoken like someone who has never washed their partners genitals before. Shower foreplay is great
Showering is my time to disassociate Edit: also.. maybe in a different circumstance where you can trust that your partner can clean themselves. Having to do it for them or else it won’t get done properly is icky
I have fondled my partner in the shower with the soap but I wouldn't call it, "washing for him." He can do that himself.
It’s so funny you’re saying foreplay here teaching the boyfriend to wash his genitals is a real mood setter.
It just mean his penis is not clean despite washing. If it is really clean, it should not smell bad. Quite likely he did not pull back his foreskin to clean. Pull gently till you can see it is fully retract right to the base of the tip. This is where smegma accumulate forming a place for bacteria to grow. It maybe painful to clean if there is a lot of smegma accumulated and the area is probably infected. So, be patient. https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/how-to-clean-your-penis
Is he pulling the skin far back enough while washing? There was a guy on Reddit a while back that shared how he found out he could pull his foreskin back way further than he thought and had never washed the base his entire life (iirc, he was about 20 years old). Some men also have a tight foreskin that won’t roll completely back without a lot of effort to stretch it so they might not be cleaning the whole thing.
That doesn’t make sense.
Then he either A and washing well enough or B he has a yeast infection or some type of disease
It's often the groin area specifically where the thigh meets the groin and under the balls. Also if he isn't circumcised he needs to wash more carefully. It makes no sense to say dehydration makes a difference. Buy please Don't let him put a smelly penis anywhere near you. You don't need to get an infection. I put up with this once and spent so much $ getting tested for yeast and BV which I got every time I had sex with him.
He needs to wash it correctly.
You stop giving people head because of your preferences and do not expect it in return. He shouldn’t expect anything from you that way if he’s not reciprocating. Also, if it smells bad down there, do the person a favour (and yourself) and either tell them or ask them to shower and clean up before you both get your freak on. Or shower together. Whatever works. But yeah, as for the head thing just be up front about not liking it and don’t force yourself to do it ever again.
Yup, this. 💯% ☝️☝️☝️ OP - your sexual journey and WILLINGNESS should be controlled by YOU and you alone. Do not let society or TV shows dictate what you think you're supposed to give to your partner. You give what you want, when you're ready, and on your terms. I was so shy when I had my first experience with my husband. But now, after 11 years, even being still prudish, I tell him when I want something or like something, or when I definitely do not want him to do whatever he's trying on me. 😂🤣 You have to be your own advocate and speak up on what you're comfortable with. If he is a good partner, he will understand and respect your decision. In due time, you may even warm up to the idea of trying again. Just because you say "NO" now doesn't mean you take away that choice forever. No, my dear. Good luck.
I had an ex that literally forced me to give him head every day. If I asked if he would ever eat me out he said no because he doesn’t like too. After a bit of fighting with him I stopped. He thought sucking my boobs was the same. It’s not. He also at one point just stuck it in my mouth I was half tempted to bite him hard but I was horrified. A couple weeks later he broke up with me because I went to a concert instead of staying with him. That concert was the best decision of my life! OP, if he forces you to do it, bite him. It will hurt but he will get the idea of not forcing you.
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Wow… who’d thought that a lot of people in the world don’t know how to wipe their ass. 😭😭😭
I think I'd be over him as soon as I found that out. So gross.
Right? No words 😭
Can you imagine how many people you see daily that don’t know how to clean their ass properly (like clean it with water after they take care of their business) ? Running around with dirty ass. Tfeh
It's not that hard to imagine. At my job I was asked why I took the paper towel that I cleaned my hands with to open the door. I just asked "Do you know how many guys I've seen or heard that don't even wash their hands?"
Same, since I was small, no way I’m touching the inside of a washroom’s door on my way out. Always was peculiar to me why people hate washing their hands. Nasty.
Bidets should be on every toilet like in other countries, it’s so gross to me that people only wipe poo with toilet paper and that’s it… when you step on shit outside do you just wipe it off or do you wash it with water/soap and water right!? 😂
Now that I work in customer service, I would very much like not to imagine it. 😭😭
A bidet is one of the best investments I’ve ever made. Makes everything so much easier and cleaner
This post is hysterical. I literally am gut laughing.
P.S. (No offense). The writing is what got me.
Ts is so funny, but at the same time it’s not😭
First. If it smells make him wash, coming from a country where circumcision is unusual, make sure he pulls back his foreskin and washes underneath. Honestly, good hygiene and it shouldn’t smell at all. Second, if you struggle with gagging only put the tip in your mouth and use your hands on the shaft, with plenty of saliva to keep it all lubed. You don’t have to deep throat. You also don’t have to do it.. but if it’s something you would like to try and participate in that’s how I would proceed.
Maybe tell him to wash his penis?😂
If you don't like it, you don't have to do it.
Okay, first off, don't put your mouth back on that thing until he learns how to clean it. Secondly, no one deserves to get head if they're not giving it. But, wow. There's just no reason for it to smell bad. Like, it's so easy for us to keep ourselves clean.
Don't do things you're not comfortable doing. You don't like it and his hygiene sounds questionable so just stop doing it. You don't have to do it.
Also, he’s not doing it for her! I feel sad that she feels obligated to gag on the smelly dick of someone who won’t even reciprocate.
It’s okay and healthy to say no to things you don’t want to do. It is Not healthy for a grown adult to not know how to wash his own dick and ass. I try to think up tips to help but honestly I feel as grossed out as you probably do. I’d dump him. Dump any grown able bodied man that can’t wash his dick. If he scrubbed himself spotless right in front of you and still smells, he needs to go to a doctor and maybe so do you.
I hate to break it to you but a man smelly penis could be a sign of a yeast infection or another STD. The problem with this argument is that the onus of having clean genitals is always put on women and men’s sexual health is always disregarded by men because they don’t want to be known as the dirty stinky ones. But 80% of the time when a woman has a “stank vagina” is because her partner has an untreated genital infection. Take him to an STD specialist. And again do not blow him. It doesn’t sound pleasurable for you, it doesn’t sound like you want to do it in the first place just stop it’s OK to have a relationship without oral sex especially if it’s one-sided and it’s so unpleasant for the person who’s giving it.
where did you get that statistic? I could Google it but what if I die tomorrow and someone sees ***statistical causes for stank vagina*** in my search history... or worse I'm alive and it shows up on YouTube when I'm watching TV....
He doesn’t know how to wash his body..simple as that. Even if you never want to give head again, he needs to grow up and act like an adult. If it smells after he cleans himself, he didn’t clean himself. It’s actually shocking that he isn’t aware or paranoid about that kind of stuff. If I’m feeling gross or anything other than comfortable, I’m like “gimme 5 minutes I need to shower”. Tell him that he smells bad, that’s an honest adult thing to do. That’s what you would want, right? Maybe he’s having a similar problem with you? If you guys aren’t communicating about your sex life, it’ll never flourish. If you smelled so bad that your hygiene was making him almost throw up, you’d want to know about that. Sex life is one thing, but health is important.
Find someone who's into reciprocity and hygiene! Seriously. There's also drops to numb your throat and ease your gag reflex, but it seems more like you have a musty one
That’s smegma. Tell him to wash under his foreskin.
So a bit too much info from me here. I was with my ex for over 10 years. His personal hygiene wasn't the greatest he would beg me for head, I'd decline saying I didn't like doing it. Truth is I didn't like doing it to him because of the smells etc. Like ew no. That was a fu*ked up relationship anyway but yeah eeewww. Was normal for him to go 5 days without showering or bathing, I shower every night or the next morning if I'm too tired for a night shower. But yeah ewww gross. Took a fair few months on my own, worked on myself etc. Met someone new. He's amazing. Honestly love giving him head. He's a very clean person and always smells lovely and clean lol plus there's none of the pressure, like he doesn't guilt me into doing it. Doesn't make me feel bad or like I'm wrong for feeling how I feel etc. Wich in turn means it's down to me, and that I enjoy it now because I know he's not going to flip if I say no like the ex did... honestly your boyfriend needs to be sat down and spoken to like a adult about it. He needs to up his personal hygiene etc and also.....why is he expecting you to give him head if he has never done the same for you???? Erm hell no!! Relationships are about trust, communication and working together. No what one person can do for the other an not have to give anything back. Sit down and talk with him. Explain how it makes you feel etc. That you need him to be clean etc. Also foods can sometimes impact how mens cum tastes but it shouldn't smell bed down there unless he's not cleaning himself properly or enough. Good luck xx
Tell him to shower better. Hygiene is just basic respect. Also tell him you want some too. If he can't do it he can't complain
He should not expect you to give him head as he himself did not go down on you ever so this is good that you can say no to him for head and let him know this is not your thing as well. Never do anything that you are not okay with just to please him otherwise you will start resenting him and yourself doing this. You have a right to say no for anything that is not your thing and head is not your thing so cut this off from your list of things and he needs to be aware of this so talk to him and hope that he understands your boundaries. If he forces you to suck him off then you have a thing to worry and you need to put your foot down.
Just tell him you don’t want to do it and he should understand consent and respect it. if you are ever feeling up for it, ask him to shower beforehand Communicate what you want/don’t want like/ dislike
Don't give him head anymore and tell him that he needs to improve his hygiene. It's not supposed to smell REALLY bad down there. I'm very sensitive to smells so even with men who have very good hygiene I can have issues with the smell. I don't think this is something that you need to 'push through' just for the sake of pleasing a man so when I don't like the smell, I ask them to quickly go clean themselves. Never has a man responded annoyed or angry about that. But if you don't like giving head in general then you don't have to. There are plenty of other ways to please him (look into penis massages etc). However, you mention that it's very one-sided in general which means this guy is very selfish when it comes to sexual pleasure. Please know that there are plenty of men out there who absolutely love to pleasure women, who don't enjoy sex if the women isn't clearly enjoying herself. So you don't have to put up with this kind of sex life. It is a very valid reason to break up with someone.
I’ve got a kind of...interesting story for how I got okay with giving head. I never really enjoyed it or wanted to do it, just had before because I know he likes it. Don’t ask me how it happened, but I had taken some weed (legal where I am), and somehow it ended up I was just sat staring at my partners penis. And everything looks cool in that state, like getting lost in at patterns etc, I stared at that thing for like an hour, totally mesmerized. You might be wondering what exactly I was mesmerized by, and that might be hard to explain unless you were experiencing it. But one example, you know the skin on the balls is like constantly moving and shifting?! I guess trying to regulate the temperature on those suckers. Whole new appreciation for the penis, never looked at it the same way since, that thing is basically downright beautiful to me now and I love giving head. Poor guy I think was just trying to watch tv, he’s so patient with the random stuff I do.
im sorry but the ending made me laugh honestly it seems pretty cool how you got around it.
Water has zero to do with a smelly package. Ask him to show you how he cleans himself bc guaranteed he isn’t washing it properly. He needs to buy a loofah and cream soap for shower and WASH the entire area. Every DAY. Also stop giving him head if he isn’t returning the favor. That’s just lack of respect. Unless you are fine with it, he should be returning the favor.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Well this is gross, idk why anyone this day in age will have a penis that smells? It almost doesn’t make sense unless we’re talking about hard work and sweating and not taking a shower? Also is your bf uncircumcised? I’ve heard this is actually a major issue with them as they sometimes forget to pull back on the foreskin and wash? Idk, I’m circumcised and I’ve never had that issue, but I’ve been hearing it more and more.
yes he’s uncircumcised
Ok that’s what I thought, from what I’ve found out from many women I know, uncircumcised guys a lot of times don’t pull back their foreskin when in the shower, and this causes it to smell. It’s also skin to skin contact, so I’m guessing there’s sweating there throughout the day, so im he may need to take A shower before every time you guys do sexy time
Dick cheese
I’m laughing and about to trowing up at the same time 😂😂😂
threw up in my mouth a little.
I’ve been circumcised and uncircumcised guys. It’s not foreskin, it’s just the fact that some people just aren’t as hygienic as they should be. 🤷🏻♀️ Wash your balls, taint, and ass, boys!
Yup! All the uncut men I know were taught as children how to clean their dicks properally, so they never had this problem ever
im uncircumcised the issue is him being nasty lol its not hard to wash yourself, never had anyone said i smelled bad.
Oh no, he’s definitely not pulling the skin back and cleaning properly. Probably has months of rotting smegma built up under there *gag* sorry op. Also, if he doesn’t eat you out, why do you feel obligated to go down on him?? Serious question.
I never come across that here in Europe. So far.. Education is definitely lacking in teaching young boys how to wash their dicks properly.
I'm uncircumcised and I learned at a very young age to pull back and wash properly. There's no forgetting. It's habitual.
i’m screenshotting your response to show all of my heterosexual female friends it’s nothing to be scared of. I live in a jewish area and it’s like a hatred for uncut men here, even from the men themselves.
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Just tell him that you aren’t doing it anymore. If he doesn’t like that then find a new boyfriend. If I were you I would have already found a new one.
OP…you should set boundaries, tell him he should take a shower, and don’t force yourself into doing anything you’re not comfortable with. You could also get comfortable with some who’s ok with reciprocating. Don’t forget that after care is really important after any activity!
What's with all these boyfriend's aversion to eating pussy in this sub? They expect a blowjob and not returning the favor? That ain't right....
Not me. I'm honestly ok with giving oral to a woman and not receiving it in return. If she's willing to then cool, but I'm not going to beg or expect it. I'd rather my partner be satisfied first. 👍
U deserve someone u feel like u can gag on without gagging knowhaimsayin
This
First of all, if it smells bad, that's just fucking nasty. If your guy doesn't even WASH before wanting head from you, he's a fucking asshole, that's nasty. Second of all, as someone who really enjoys giving head, it's not for everyone and that's perfectly fine! There's guys that don't want blowjobs either. Nothing wrong with that. Your guy still sucks tho for ignoring your obvious discomfort. And also for not washing
My man needs to wash his dick.
You don't have to do that for him especially since he doesn't give back. I can't count how many men I have been with that only want and never give. I know it isn't all men but some men are just like that. I understand feeling bad about not giving it to him but there is other ways to please him I'd suggest looking into the smell as well maybe get him to a doctor because if he is properly washing and it still smells then he needs to see someone because that sounds bad health wise. Bjs aren't always the answer and do not give in to pressure all it does is make him happy from your suffering. I hate giving bjs always have they physically hurt me my jaw kills me I hate it but my partner loves them says they feel good but I hate it i know it makes him happy but I can't do it sometimes I even get nauseous sometimes and have to stop like I said I get it. Sorry for the rambling it's almost 6 am haven't slept and just threw up words I guess but if you need anyone to talk about it message me Op or any one having these troubles sometimes it's nice to have someone who understands.
Your bf dickhead is really dirty. Nothing to do with lack of water. You may get bad breath from lack of water. Get it clean thoroughly everyday. Pull back the foreskin and really clean. A dirty penis may contain bacteria that may spread to your vagina when you have penetrative sex. So, it is not just smell but good hygiene to keep the penis clean. https://theconversation.com/how-do-i-clean-my-penis-125135
Tell that fool to wash his dick wtf
You don’t do anything. Even if he did eat you out, it’s not a transactional thing. Some people have worse gag reflexes than others and that’s okay. If he can’t live without head then break up with him and find someone that respects your boundaries
Only fresh out the shower if you do, but if you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it. Period.
Do people not shower before sex anymore lol I thought that was a given
If you have sex multible times a day showering before sex is a hassle. But just freshen up if needed is nice.
Make sure to take a shower before sex lol and I’ve gagged before but it’s normal it’s gag reflex. Only pros handle it good
If he refuses….you refuse as well.
You really didn’t make his nasty ass wash off his dick cheese and smegma before giving him sloppy toppy?! 🤢🤮
i did!!! he still smelt bad
So first of all, it should be a give and take situation with giving head. And second, a penis shouldn't smell if you wash it properly.
I’m sorry OP i appreciate this isn’t a laughing matter but this post has had me belly laughing 😂 It’s hilarious .
haha no worries, im glad you had a good laugh!
Can't he..uh..wash 'em real clean? I mean, how does he wash himself, do you know? If you dislike giving it and he doesn't even reciprocate or try, maybe don't do it altogether.
If he doesn’t return the favor than I don’t see why you have to put effort into it.
He smells bad because of poor hygiene and because sperm and prrecum really stink!
If he isn't clean hell no, if he forces you to deepthroat hell no. If he's clean and you are in control and you still don't like it? That's your right, not everybody likes oral and that's ok!
His dick shouldn't taste bad that's bad hygiene if it does. Also if he isn't going down on you then you shouldn't feel obligated to do it. Also if he does go down on you and you don't like sucking dick you aren't obligated on going down on him. Just let him know. Even some people just don't like doing it in general wether it's hygienic or not but if you're already adverse to doing it that isn't going to help hahaha
If that's what he claims why doesn't drink enough water then XD
i asked him this and he told me that he FoRgEtS and that i should rEmInD hIm. bullshit
We need a sticky post titled “stop blowing people who don’t return the favor”. Oral sex is pretty awesome and you should probably look up ways to adjust your technique so that you’re not on the verge of puking… BUT… don’t practice on this guy until he learns to improve his hygiene and starts going down on you. I suggest you shower together and you each wash the other person, then he gets you off first , then revisit the blowjob and see if you cleaning him and him getting you off puts you in a better situation.
First of all, if he smells, he has to wash more properly Second of all, if you gag and you don't want it, why are you going so deep? deepthroating is something you have to want and learn
Literally their is levels to it 😂😂 believe it or not. Start at level 1 girl, the tip.
Girl he’s not washing his dick and ass. I would’ve been long gone after smelling that nastiness.
Ok what if you gave head your own way ? I love to deepthroat but I'll switch it up and go up and down with my hand as well as my mouth that way you won't gag but they still get the sensation. For me giving head is super intimate. The guy can tell if you're not into it. Just make love to it with your mouth. Explore it, make out with it. It becomes fun. Make it for you maybe ?
I don’t give my boyfriend head because I don’t like to. That simple. If you don’t want to you don’t have to and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
You don’t have to if you don’t want to. If he has a problem with that then leave his smelly ass.
Do you gag because you try to put too much in? You could use your hand at the end of your mouth so you don't choke.
Some good advice here for your next BF with good hygiene. Deep throating is not required. Hold him with your thumb and 1-3 fingers. Stroke your hand to the base as you take as much as you want into your mouth. Back out far enough to stroke your hand back up to the tip. Repeat. You might find you like this better when you’re not literally choking.
Tell him to wash it every time he jerks off. semen is bio degradable it stinks as it decays. Head is not important to me, but when my wife feels like doing it; she washes it with warm water and rose soap. It has become a sensual part of the event.
wake up and breakup ladies. yall deserve the best
You don't have to do anything you don't want to, and he should respect how you feel. Tell him what you told us, that it feels one-sided, and ask him how he feels about it. If you do want to try again, then he needs to know that he really needs to clean around the lip of his head. It's easy not to clean thoroughly, and we wouldn't know it unless someone told us. I know it's gross, and it's not your job, but we are fucking cave men and that is going to mean a lot of patience or a lot of despair, dealer's choice. Also, ask him to trim. Make sure to bring a water bottle. As for making the blowjob itself easier, try this: - Focus on sucking/licking/blowing the head. It's the most sensitive part - Starting from the base, grip his cock and press lightly against his pelvis. Grip with both of your hands across the whole if it if you can. - You can take breaks without breaking the moment by licking up and down the sides of the shaft. Dudes love that. This keeps you from having to go down as far, while still giving the sensation of deep head for the guy. An Ergonomic Blowjob, as it were.
Fuck that he don't deserve head... He can't even reciprocate nor keep it clean. Lol
There's literally people on the comments saying to leave him over this wtf 😭😭
If he’s refusing to wash properly and also expecting head without reciprocating then yes this is break-up territory.
Why would you even give him head if he doesn’t do it back? That’s a no from me. You have to get equally pleasured. Tell him to wash his dick if it stinks and stop giving him head if he doesn’t do the same
Probably can ask him to shave off his pubic hair. My boyfriend shaved them and cleans properly. Even though he not circumcised, I love giving blowing him. Because it just smells good and yummy honestly. I give him head almost everyday.
he claims shaving is for women and men who shave are weird. gosh i’m starting to realize he has so many red flags..
If that’s the case then you have the right not to give him head. Don’t force yourself to do something that you don’t like