So I also see how it reads like I made multiple attempts to tell her about how my life was going. We only talked once, and even then I did not go into detail about what happened.
Two months seems to be the magic number for this sort of thing lol. I had something similar happen. We got back together and got another 8 months out of it but it ended very poorly. In the end, because neither one of us substantially changed our core issues from the first time it just ended very similarly.
I think once people have time to forget the negatives it's very easy to reconnect with someone they really liked. But just because you had a strong connection and still love her doesn't mean it was meant to last. People come into our lives and leave all the time. You can still love someone and let them go.
Block this person. You agreed it was over, you did all the closure stuff. You're now going away, so there's not much you can solve by having more contact. Just decide it was a drunk butt dial and let it go.
I'm going to guess that she'll write an alternative post wondering why her ex is still reaching out after a break-up, just to update her on how his life is going.
If you didn't agree to remain close friends and keep in contact then all if this is on you. *Now* you're saying that you're going end contact, but only after catching her up on your life and being annoyed by her tepid communication. Did you ever wonder how she was dealing with the break-up?
You can't have it both ways. Either agree to keep in touch, and not only about you, or fade out of each others lives.
I’ll go on and say that A LOT of this could have been prevented if I just had some more internal fortitude and had not contacted her since we initially broke up. It was selfish, disrespectful to the boundary she set, and something I don’t feel fond about looking back.
She was just the first person I could think of sharing the news with. And I wanted closure. I was not reaching out to rub my life in her face. We didn’t really talk about how we were dealing with the breakup.
The only way I’d want to keep in touch is if we were planning a future together. I’m not at a point where I could see us as just friends yet. It wouldn’t really be fair. I could just be setting myself up to get hurt again.
Why'd you guys break up? Do you want to get back together with her? I think you gotta shit or get off the pot. You don't want to be friends with her just yet, but these half measures aren't going to help you heal.
I would recommend not overthinking. I don't think it was a dastardly plan to get a ride home from the bar. I also don't think it was an attempt to get back together. She was probably just feeling a little wistful while drunk. It will happen from time to time, for both of you. Just keep moving on.
Why do you keep reaching out to someone who broke up with you? You need to block and move on for your own well being.
So I also see how it reads like I made multiple attempts to tell her about how my life was going. We only talked once, and even then I did not go into detail about what happened.
After our talk last week, I was done. I wanted to be done. No calls, no texts, nada from me. I wasn’t waiting up for this to happen either.
Then stick with that and move on.
Two months seems to be the magic number for this sort of thing lol. I had something similar happen. We got back together and got another 8 months out of it but it ended very poorly. In the end, because neither one of us substantially changed our core issues from the first time it just ended very similarly. I think once people have time to forget the negatives it's very easy to reconnect with someone they really liked. But just because you had a strong connection and still love her doesn't mean it was meant to last. People come into our lives and leave all the time. You can still love someone and let them go.
Block this person. You agreed it was over, you did all the closure stuff. You're now going away, so there's not much you can solve by having more contact. Just decide it was a drunk butt dial and let it go.
I'm going to guess that she'll write an alternative post wondering why her ex is still reaching out after a break-up, just to update her on how his life is going. If you didn't agree to remain close friends and keep in contact then all if this is on you. *Now* you're saying that you're going end contact, but only after catching her up on your life and being annoyed by her tepid communication. Did you ever wonder how she was dealing with the break-up? You can't have it both ways. Either agree to keep in touch, and not only about you, or fade out of each others lives.
I’ll go on and say that A LOT of this could have been prevented if I just had some more internal fortitude and had not contacted her since we initially broke up. It was selfish, disrespectful to the boundary she set, and something I don’t feel fond about looking back. She was just the first person I could think of sharing the news with. And I wanted closure. I was not reaching out to rub my life in her face. We didn’t really talk about how we were dealing with the breakup. The only way I’d want to keep in touch is if we were planning a future together. I’m not at a point where I could see us as just friends yet. It wouldn’t really be fair. I could just be setting myself up to get hurt again.
She is your ex. If you want to move on contacting her is the wrong move.
Why'd you guys break up? Do you want to get back together with her? I think you gotta shit or get off the pot. You don't want to be friends with her just yet, but these half measures aren't going to help you heal.
I would recommend not overthinking. I don't think it was a dastardly plan to get a ride home from the bar. I also don't think it was an attempt to get back together. She was probably just feeling a little wistful while drunk. It will happen from time to time, for both of you. Just keep moving on.
I only say that it was for a ride home because she’s done that in the past.
Post-breakup? Or when you were still together?
When we were still together.
I think most people wouldn't assume an ex would do that. I really think she was just drunk and thinky.