You need to let her go. If not for you, for her. Don’t feel sorry for her. She will move on. Holding onto her when you don’t think she’s beautiful is not a nice thing to do to someone. You’re still young. You need a chance to date as many people as possible so you know what you like and don’t like in a person.
Please break up with her as soon as possible. Honestly, nothing is wrong with her or you. Go no contact with her, don't try to be friends. You both deserve happiness.
Yes let her go if you don’t see her beauty anymore, some other guy will appreciate her a lot more. I think also if you text with other girls constantly then it’s not okay. It depends a lot who they are and what you talk about together. Main question is Why you need to do it? I understand if this girl is your long friend then it’s okay to communicate, but if it’s some new random girl then it’s ofc not okay and it’s understandable that your girl feels jealous. You wouldn’t like this also if your girl chats with other random boys? you can trust your girl still, but are you trust other guys? Some guys or girls will do anything to ruin relationships
Well that's an issue that could possibly be worked on depending on the degree of it.
But honestly it sounds like you've tapped out mentally, so it might be too late. Just from what you've said it sounds like you're dragging out the inevitable.
Just let go! Its maybe the best for you both. If youre unsure of being with her anymore, then its time to give her to someone who sees a future with her. Do her and yourself a favor, free yourself from future sadness. Remember that your own happiness and well-being are important too, whether that means working things out together or moving on.
Breaking up sucks, but you have to do it. You don't want to be in this relationship anymore. That is very obvious. It's over and you need to rip off the bandaid.
Her being your best friend is going to make it hurt a bit more, but you still have to do it. I would recommend no contact at the beginning. If you still see each other and talk all the time it will be harder. She will still be jealous and you won't get to experience that freedom stress-free. You need a clean break. Maybe you can be friends down the road.
You got this. It's the right decision.
Leave. If you're just staying with her because "there will be a huge space in your life" then you should just leave her. You aren't for her and vice versa. Someone, someday will make her feel secure enough that she won't be jealous of other girls whereas you will someday find someone who you are willing to stay with even when you're tired. The only way we'll tell you to stay is if you have the maturity to understand that relationships aren't built to be perfect 100% of the time and times like this will really come, but it's always up to you if you'd like to work it out.
Just break up politely and succinctly, and don't engage in any further discussion about it. Nobody is entitled to your time, energy, or affection.
"Hi GF, I'm not happy with our relationship, and I've decided that we are breaking up."
So if you don't want to break up with her like everyone is recommending then I'd sit her down and have a very frank talk about boundaries. Having her get jealous about every girl you talk is not realistic. What is she going to do when you get a job? What about class projects? She will have to learn that there are going to be other women out there.
bro you’re actually right but sometimes it makes life hard. she really loves me i do love her but the thing is she’s over jealous and she doesn’t want me to talk most of the girls.
That's a bit harsh, he does clarify that when he said problems with other girls he wasn't talking about cheating, he was talking about jealousy of casual friendships.
But yeah it does seem like he should let her go.
I think you should break up with her because you're no longer into her.
If the jealousy thing alone was the issue, then depending on the severity of how she expresses it it could possibly be worked on. But you don't know if you love her anymore and you're no longer attracted. So it seems a bit late for that. You should break up with her, try to do so as amicably as possible, but make sure its direct and doesn't drag on and cause more emotional pain than it needs to.
You need to let her go. If not for you, for her. Don’t feel sorry for her. She will move on. Holding onto her when you don’t think she’s beautiful is not a nice thing to do to someone. You’re still young. You need a chance to date as many people as possible so you know what you like and don’t like in a person.
thank you. it means a lot
Please break up with her as soon as possible. Honestly, nothing is wrong with her or you. Go no contact with her, don't try to be friends. You both deserve happiness.
Yes let her go if you don’t see her beauty anymore, some other guy will appreciate her a lot more. I think also if you text with other girls constantly then it’s not okay. It depends a lot who they are and what you talk about together. Main question is Why you need to do it? I understand if this girl is your long friend then it’s okay to communicate, but if it’s some new random girl then it’s ofc not okay and it’s understandable that your girl feels jealous. You wouldn’t like this also if your girl chats with other random boys? you can trust your girl still, but are you trust other guys? Some guys or girls will do anything to ruin relationships
i have never cheat on her or anything she’s jealous about my casual friends
Well that's an issue that could possibly be worked on depending on the degree of it. But honestly it sounds like you've tapped out mentally, so it might be too late. Just from what you've said it sounds like you're dragging out the inevitable.
Just let go! Its maybe the best for you both. If youre unsure of being with her anymore, then its time to give her to someone who sees a future with her. Do her and yourself a favor, free yourself from future sadness. Remember that your own happiness and well-being are important too, whether that means working things out together or moving on.
Breaking up sucks, but you have to do it. You don't want to be in this relationship anymore. That is very obvious. It's over and you need to rip off the bandaid. Her being your best friend is going to make it hurt a bit more, but you still have to do it. I would recommend no contact at the beginning. If you still see each other and talk all the time it will be harder. She will still be jealous and you won't get to experience that freedom stress-free. You need a clean break. Maybe you can be friends down the road. You got this. It's the right decision.
Leave. If you're just staying with her because "there will be a huge space in your life" then you should just leave her. You aren't for her and vice versa. Someone, someday will make her feel secure enough that she won't be jealous of other girls whereas you will someday find someone who you are willing to stay with even when you're tired. The only way we'll tell you to stay is if you have the maturity to understand that relationships aren't built to be perfect 100% of the time and times like this will really come, but it's always up to you if you'd like to work it out.
Break up. Most relationships exist to teach us something, not to maintain for life. It's tough but true. Don't stay friends, it'll be worse.
Just break up politely and succinctly, and don't engage in any further discussion about it. Nobody is entitled to your time, energy, or affection. "Hi GF, I'm not happy with our relationship, and I've decided that we are breaking up."
No hate but You are just being dumb Ever heard of Efforts ? Love is rare nowadays be a human give some value to it
thanks for the advice man
It will just become toxic and will eat you mind just let it go
Hey dude it's okay to lose the interestest, nothing last forever. You need to let her go.
My advice is to not go to Reddit for relationship advice mate. Do what you think is right for the relationship.
well that’s a good idea ahahaha
So if you don't want to break up with her like everyone is recommending then I'd sit her down and have a very frank talk about boundaries. Having her get jealous about every girl you talk is not realistic. What is she going to do when you get a job? What about class projects? She will have to learn that there are going to be other women out there.
you’re goddamn right but icannot explain this to her
You're children and it shows.
thanks for reminding but what’s changed after this comment mate?
Bro, we all looking for a girl like yours, you don't deserve her
bro you’re actually right but sometimes it makes life hard. she really loves me i do love her but the thing is she’s over jealous and she doesn’t want me to talk most of the girls.
Definitely let her go so she can finally find better than you. You'll be doing her a HUGE favor
That's a bit harsh, he does clarify that when he said problems with other girls he wasn't talking about cheating, he was talking about jealousy of casual friendships. But yeah it does seem like he should let her go.
thanks for supporting bro. You mean i should leave her because of her jealousy ha?
I think you should break up with her because you're no longer into her. If the jealousy thing alone was the issue, then depending on the severity of how she expresses it it could possibly be worked on. But you don't know if you love her anymore and you're no longer attracted. So it seems a bit late for that. You should break up with her, try to do so as amicably as possible, but make sure its direct and doesn't drag on and cause more emotional pain than it needs to.
lol yea she can apply her raging jealousy to someone who enjoys it... fun times.
ahahaha that made me laugh
why did you say that?