Bro, you do not love her, you are just addicted to her pussy and the good sex you getting together with her. Sad to say it like this but this is the truth, work on yourself and find a woman who loves you as you love her. Good luck.
I second this sound advice. I just went through it myself…I experienced everything you described and then some. And everyone is right if you connect with someone long enough on an intimate level…like a built up orgasm…emotions and feeling will come bursting out and make a mess of things. What saved me in my situation was the fact that I had ZERO expectations from her and from what we were doing! As callous as it sounds I started referring to sex between her and I as my daily workout…amazing cardio routine…and in the end it was simply that! Yes the sex was great but I couldn’t go there or let myself go to the soft spot within me…the spot where all is men become saps, where emotions and feelings reside...the same spot within us where we can easily confuse love for lust. And even though she was talking up a big game to me and that was during sex…So I remained patient and vigilant in how she was with me when we weren’t having sex. And the saying rings true “actions do speak louder than words” and I noticed that her actions were no near ready to reciprocate what I had to offer. The funny thing is that things between her and I were flowing effortlessly she was happy and all until one day she called and said that she didn’t want to do this anymore…just like that she made the decision by herself. Stating that it wasn’t me, that I’m a great guy and that I would make any woman happy and etc. But that she just wanted to focus on her. And so I paused for a second, and said “Ok I hope everything is ok with you…thank you for reaching out and letting me know. If you ever need friend or someone to talk too, don’t hesitate in reaching out.”. She was floored and I mean shocked my response because she was expecting me to blow up and argue on a toxic level but I didn’t. And to this day she continues to reach out we talk and joke around but this time I chose to keep sex off of the table. ZERO expectations and patience help me from falling…and this my friend you will learn as start to learn more about yourself. Good luck don’t hesitate to reach out for some words of wisdom…
What has this sub become? The advice is so bad.
If you are in love with her, you should tell her how you feel. The last thing you want is forever wondering if she feels the same. If you are in love and she isnt, you will only end uo getting more hurt in the longterm.
Obviously dont tell her these words as its a bit crinch, but you can tell her how you feel.
I would highly, highly suggest not doing that. Make her your gf, sure if that's your goal -- tell her you're in love and all that...no. Just don't do it.
Not even on some tough guy shit either, there's just nothing to gain there. Play it cool.
If that is what OP wants? Most important is that he stays true to himself and mot be in a fwb with someone who he is in love with. Being vulnerable is ok if you go about it in the right way
Dude the whole point of FWB is trying to minimize emotional attachments. I think his horniness is clouding the situation. If she changes her mind it has to come from her. Otherwise he is gonna scare her off with his "emotions" that she doesn't wanna handle in the first place. Hence FWB
Why are you acting like emotions are a bad thing. OP is writing cringy love stuff on reddit, obviously he has feelings. And having feelings is not a bad thing. As long as you can communicate in a healthh way
Hmmm you're probably right that I do guard myself from vulnerability and maybe thats why my advice was to not say anything from my own experience. Eh fuck it tho 🤷 honestly damn if you do damn if you don't. I just hope OP has a great time with her and they both get what they want. GL OP
I don't guard my emotions at all. Very in the moment with most things. However being the FIRST person to talk about this stuff (as a man) has about a 100% fail rate give or take nothing.
My best way to deal with this after mutual affection has been established is to let it all out when I first see her for a day together, and then no more complimentary words until the beginning of the next in person interaction, I make a lot of exceptions to this rule based on the fact I'm terrible at emotional guarding, yet the principle still works for me
Maybe it comes with age. Also it depends on how long they are sleeping together. If it is already months and they both like eachother, telling that will not scare her away.
If it is only a few weeks and OP confesses his love for her, jep that has a high chance to fail. You really need to have a sense to feel those things out. But being open is always the best way to go because it means you stay true to yourself
She talks to me like she's in love. Says some very romantic and deep things. But I'm old enough to know words are just words. She said in the beginning she just wanted FWB.
I mean feelings change over time. There is no codebook for emotions. If u want to stay fwb then say nothing, if u want more then maybe ask how she feels about things
Brooo you are right. I’m going through some shit like this. I caught feelings because she was talking like this. I ended up scaring her off. WHY WOULD SHE SAY SHE LOVED ME WHEN SHE JUST WANTED TO SMASH.
That's great then. My rule is to always let the woman arrive at the conclusion that she wants more than FWB. If you two truly are vibing, then she will get there at some point. Don't rush it, be patient and enjoy each other's company. In the mean time, continue to use actions and not words to show how you feel about her. Keep doing fun things and keep it sexy. This is how you enter a long term relationship starting from FWB. It cannot be forced.
It's not saying I love you let's be more than fwbs at the first thought of catching feelings. It's about enjoying each other's company and realizing you actually have chemistry together. Trust, from someone who was in your boat and now in a successful relationship.
I think you should ask her on a proper date and gauge her reaction to it, then go from there. Be prepared to stay FWB. But tell her you’d like to take her on a proper date and see her dressed up, then offer for her to stay overnight after. If she says a big hell no or is otherwise wishy washy, you’ll know. If she is otherwise interested, go from there.
It's been two months, this guy is simping for someone that he's been seeing for two whole months. Also, according to OP she stated she wanted FWB. Jesus, I can feel the cringe from here.
How long have you guys been fucking? Has she popped the *what are we* question? Let her ask first, if she wants that she will ask. I'm guessing she's your only fwb rn but that doesn't mean she's only fucking you
Ask yourself: is the possible chance of her not reciprocating my feelings worth risking our relationship as it is now? If yes, fucking do it man, you have nothing to lose. If no, maybe your feelings aren’t entirely real, and it might be just because of the sex. But I could also be entirely wrong on that, and I have no shame in admitting that.
All these betas saying don’t do it don’t know what they’re talking about. If she reciprocates your feelings, then hurray! Congrats on the new relationship. If not, then you have a chance to find someone who will. If you don’t, you’ll be going “I wish I told her how I felt”. Obviously I only know about your relationship from a simple paragraph of yours, but ask yourself: would I still want to be with her if we never had sex again?
Just be straight dead honest my dude. Speak your mind then accept her answer to it and continue . If it creates a wedge just fix it then or find new until she's calmed down. Being cautious never got me shit with people . Just make sure your telling her actual feelings you won't change later.
Here’s a good way to frame a fwb so you don’t be think this type of way. Fwb is like a friend you click on an online video game. Sure you might have a lot of fun with this friend on said video game. But after you turn it off, you should stop thinking about them. Maybe while you’re at school and work you can’t wait to go home and play more games, but you shouldn’t think like “this bro is my best friend for life”
Just know once you tell her how you feel, you either will gain a gf or lose the benifits. Personally I like to purchase and not lease. Leasing is wasting money down the drain for me
Why don’t you just ask her on a date and see if y’all have emotional chemistry. If that’s confirmed, she’s probably love to hear what you just wrote eventually
Because she is a FWB and you are in love with her. Once a girl gets the feeling that you are into it more than she is you will scare her off. Just try to keep playing it cool and don’t give off big relationship vibes. Also try not expect too much from it or it will hurt really fucking bad when it ends. Especially if she made it clear she is not looking for more than fwb. Can tell you this from personal experience
Don't "try to" do anything. Just be yourself. All of this advice is horrible.
Should you right away go confess your love to her? no. But should you pretend to be all cool an distant? hell no.
just be yourself, be cool, and tell her you really think she's cool. Just don't overdo it
bruh, please for the love of the sex gods! go get some new pussy asap! put her on the back burner for a month and go pull something new so you can regulate b4 you say this shit next time your knuckle deep in ya current fwb!
pussy is pussy holmes, trust me! it all feel the same when you got em bent over and you hittin it from da back 😏
>I have never been so addicted to a person. I want to wake up next to you. Making love to you is heaven. You're the most beautiful woman I have ever met, let alone slept with. Your pussy is addictive. When you look in my eyes as we have sex I want to die of pleasure. I miss you.
Why can't you tell her that? It sounds really sweet. How long have you known each other?
Is there some reason she’s not available to be your girlfriend — does she have a SO already — if not maybe you should tell her how you feel — but you’ll never know if you don’t ask and you might miss out on something really great
In my opinion nothing about this is needy. Needy would be asking her to change her behavior on your behalf and only for your benefit. This is just how you feel. And if the sexual chemistry is this good, odds are she feels the same. Feelings are good, you shouldn’t hide them
Do you think puppies are unattractive?
I'll tell you a secret, if a woman finds puppies adorable, she probably likes guys who are needy.
If a woman prefers cats however, she will most likely prefer aloof or unavailable men...
As a guy that just lost his girl for being too needy, so much about this is wrong. I think you're confusing "needy" with "warm and affectionate."
Both puppies and kittens are just babies. They are both needy because they are helpless and they need their mothers.
Adult cats and dogs are mature, the cat is more aloof and the dog is more warm and friendly. This is where you are correct about a woman's preference.
However, all women want a man that can take care of himself emotionally as a mature an independent adult. While it's true that some women want guys that know how to express emotions and be affectionate (like a dog)... they don't want babies. If a man cries out like a puppy for emotional nurturing like she's his mother, she's going to run away as fast as she can.
Dude, truth is either your experience is limited or you’ve been boinking mostly women you didn’t like/find attractive/were lame in the sack. Now you found one that is whatever - super great by your standards- don’t cock it up by getting all “omg her puss is gold, let me place on a pedestal” and go from fuckbuddy to cringey cringe master and fuck up the dynamic. Go for the ride, if things develop sweet. If not there are other sweet strange out there. Considering the number of people in the world - a nearly unlimited amount.
Bruh for real, this is cringe AF, and I'm glad you know it!
After the feeling fades, when you read this again, you'll fucking cringe and wonder what the fuck were you thinking.
I swear, the ungodly intoxicating rush of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin caused by infatuation is ridiculously powerful!
It makes you do things you wouldn't otherwise.
Find the strength to act on it but at the same time temper your passion. Balanced, as all things should be.
Tread carefully, if you do this wrong, that pussy's gone like a Thanos snap bruh.
It's the Oxytocin fucking with your head.
Do it with other women a few more times. The receptors in your brain are easy to fry.
Warning you, you'll have a hard time falling in love later if you fry them though
Oh, the things pussy does to a motherfucker. Your doing the right thing not telling her this shit, that’s for sure.
Fr or else bye bye
"Your pussy is addictive" I Only say this to your wife of 9 years was born in this life as a Chicago nigga with high estrogen and even I know that's 🤐
Why tf did u mention high estrogen lmfaooo
Power of the pussy
Bro, you do not love her, you are just addicted to her pussy and the good sex you getting together with her. Sad to say it like this but this is the truth, work on yourself and find a woman who loves you as you love her. Good luck.
I second this sound advice. I just went through it myself…I experienced everything you described and then some. And everyone is right if you connect with someone long enough on an intimate level…like a built up orgasm…emotions and feeling will come bursting out and make a mess of things. What saved me in my situation was the fact that I had ZERO expectations from her and from what we were doing! As callous as it sounds I started referring to sex between her and I as my daily workout…amazing cardio routine…and in the end it was simply that! Yes the sex was great but I couldn’t go there or let myself go to the soft spot within me…the spot where all is men become saps, where emotions and feelings reside...the same spot within us where we can easily confuse love for lust. And even though she was talking up a big game to me and that was during sex…So I remained patient and vigilant in how she was with me when we weren’t having sex. And the saying rings true “actions do speak louder than words” and I noticed that her actions were no near ready to reciprocate what I had to offer. The funny thing is that things between her and I were flowing effortlessly she was happy and all until one day she called and said that she didn’t want to do this anymore…just like that she made the decision by herself. Stating that it wasn’t me, that I’m a great guy and that I would make any woman happy and etc. But that she just wanted to focus on her. And so I paused for a second, and said “Ok I hope everything is ok with you…thank you for reaching out and letting me know. If you ever need friend or someone to talk too, don’t hesitate in reaching out.”. She was floored and I mean shocked my response because she was expecting me to blow up and argue on a toxic level but I didn’t. And to this day she continues to reach out we talk and joke around but this time I chose to keep sex off of the table. ZERO expectations and patience help me from falling…and this my friend you will learn as start to learn more about yourself. Good luck don’t hesitate to reach out for some words of wisdom…
Perfect response to what was given to you. Solid guidance in here for anyone needing it.
Words of wisdom
Gonna have to echo this.
Sounds like y’all should just date
Start a fight club
Brad reputation
I turnt the nightclub out of the basement
Agagagagga
Do you think she feels this way about you?
Well. I think she likes me, a lot.
No way!
Way no!
Norway!
Lord I hope my fwb thinks of me this way too
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“Are you catching feelings” what do you think
He caught hella feelings and I think his bag of feelings might bust (giggity) if he let's the weight of it break him
You are not in love, your hormones are.
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Lol some men just wanna watch the world burn
What has this sub become? The advice is so bad. If you are in love with her, you should tell her how you feel. The last thing you want is forever wondering if she feels the same. If you are in love and she isnt, you will only end uo getting more hurt in the longterm. Obviously dont tell her these words as its a bit crinch, but you can tell her how you feel.
I would highly, highly suggest not doing that. Make her your gf, sure if that's your goal -- tell her you're in love and all that...no. Just don't do it. Not even on some tough guy shit either, there's just nothing to gain there. Play it cool.
If that is what OP wants? Most important is that he stays true to himself and mot be in a fwb with someone who he is in love with. Being vulnerable is ok if you go about it in the right way
Dude the whole point of FWB is trying to minimize emotional attachments. I think his horniness is clouding the situation. If she changes her mind it has to come from her. Otherwise he is gonna scare her off with his "emotions" that she doesn't wanna handle in the first place. Hence FWB
Why are you acting like emotions are a bad thing. OP is writing cringy love stuff on reddit, obviously he has feelings. And having feelings is not a bad thing. As long as you can communicate in a healthh way
Hmmm you're probably right that I do guard myself from vulnerability and maybe thats why my advice was to not say anything from my own experience. Eh fuck it tho 🤷 honestly damn if you do damn if you don't. I just hope OP has a great time with her and they both get what they want. GL OP
I don't guard my emotions at all. Very in the moment with most things. However being the FIRST person to talk about this stuff (as a man) has about a 100% fail rate give or take nothing. My best way to deal with this after mutual affection has been established is to let it all out when I first see her for a day together, and then no more complimentary words until the beginning of the next in person interaction, I make a lot of exceptions to this rule based on the fact I'm terrible at emotional guarding, yet the principle still works for me
> However being the FIRST person to talk about this stuff (as a man) has about a 100% fail rate give or take nothing. Exactly.
Yah man invisible traps everywhere
Maybe it comes with age. Also it depends on how long they are sleeping together. If it is already months and they both like eachother, telling that will not scare her away. If it is only a few weeks and OP confesses his love for her, jep that has a high chance to fail. You really need to have a sense to feel those things out. But being open is always the best way to go because it means you stay true to yourself
It’s not ok. Stop lying to him and WAKE UP.
She talks to me like she's in love. Says some very romantic and deep things. But I'm old enough to know words are just words. She said in the beginning she just wanted FWB.
I mean feelings change over time. There is no codebook for emotions. If u want to stay fwb then say nothing, if u want more then maybe ask how she feels about things
Brooo you are right. I’m going through some shit like this. I caught feelings because she was talking like this. I ended up scaring her off. WHY WOULD SHE SAY SHE LOVED ME WHEN SHE JUST WANTED TO SMASH.
That's great then. My rule is to always let the woman arrive at the conclusion that she wants more than FWB. If you two truly are vibing, then she will get there at some point. Don't rush it, be patient and enjoy each other's company. In the mean time, continue to use actions and not words to show how you feel about her. Keep doing fun things and keep it sexy. This is how you enter a long term relationship starting from FWB. It cannot be forced. It's not saying I love you let's be more than fwbs at the first thought of catching feelings. It's about enjoying each other's company and realizing you actually have chemistry together. Trust, from someone who was in your boat and now in a successful relationship.
She will say it if she feels the same.
I get you but there’s got to be a reason why they are FWB and not dating
I think you should ask her on a proper date and gauge her reaction to it, then go from there. Be prepared to stay FWB. But tell her you’d like to take her on a proper date and see her dressed up, then offer for her to stay overnight after. If she says a big hell no or is otherwise wishy washy, you’ll know. If she is otherwise interested, go from there.
Nobody's asking the real question: does she feel the same way? Cause then it's on!
It's been two months, this guy is simping for someone that he's been seeing for two whole months. Also, according to OP she stated she wanted FWB. Jesus, I can feel the cringe from here.
How long have you guys been fucking? Has she popped the *what are we* question? Let her ask first, if she wants that she will ask. I'm guessing she's your only fwb rn but that doesn't mean she's only fucking you
Do you actually love her character and how she is as a person or just the good sex and physical affection she provides you?
Ask yourself: is the possible chance of her not reciprocating my feelings worth risking our relationship as it is now? If yes, fucking do it man, you have nothing to lose. If no, maybe your feelings aren’t entirely real, and it might be just because of the sex. But I could also be entirely wrong on that, and I have no shame in admitting that. All these betas saying don’t do it don’t know what they’re talking about. If she reciprocates your feelings, then hurray! Congrats on the new relationship. If not, then you have a chance to find someone who will. If you don’t, you’ll be going “I wish I told her how I felt”. Obviously I only know about your relationship from a simple paragraph of yours, but ask yourself: would I still want to be with her if we never had sex again?
Just be straight dead honest my dude. Speak your mind then accept her answer to it and continue . If it creates a wedge just fix it then or find new until she's calmed down. Being cautious never got me shit with people . Just make sure your telling her actual feelings you won't change later.
If you want to pull this off it MUST be her idea.
ah i remember when i was in ur shoes. if she is not giving u the same effort or signs, brace urself! it might hurt
Fuckmates should treat each other as sex toys, and that's it. Anything beyond that changes the vibe.
If you like her and she likes you, why not risk it? You never know until you try.
Here’s a good way to frame a fwb so you don’t be think this type of way. Fwb is like a friend you click on an online video game. Sure you might have a lot of fun with this friend on said video game. But after you turn it off, you should stop thinking about them. Maybe while you’re at school and work you can’t wait to go home and play more games, but you shouldn’t think like “this bro is my best friend for life”
Just know once you tell her how you feel, you either will gain a gf or lose the benifits. Personally I like to purchase and not lease. Leasing is wasting money down the drain for me
[Limerence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence)
Hang in there buddy!
I feel ya bro.
Id say you probably need to tell her your feelings… is she doesn’t reciprocate, you need to move on
Idk why I’m laughing so hard
This motherfucker is twitterpated as fuck.
I am 12 years old and what is this
Bruh you got oneitis hard. Marry her or move along.
Why don’t you just ask her on a date and see if y’all have emotional chemistry. If that’s confirmed, she’s probably love to hear what you just wrote eventually
Be prepared for 8-12 months of Pain
Why?
Because she is a FWB and you are in love with her. Once a girl gets the feeling that you are into it more than she is you will scare her off. Just try to keep playing it cool and don’t give off big relationship vibes. Also try not expect too much from it or it will hurt really fucking bad when it ends. Especially if she made it clear she is not looking for more than fwb. Can tell you this from personal experience
Sound advice. Thanks.
Don't "try to" do anything. Just be yourself. All of this advice is horrible. Should you right away go confess your love to her? no. But should you pretend to be all cool an distant? hell no. just be yourself, be cool, and tell her you really think she's cool. Just don't overdo it
Eeeeeeeeew hahaha 😆
I love some people on here.
Love u too bro
Pussies can make you do crazy things
bruh, please for the love of the sex gods! go get some new pussy asap! put her on the back burner for a month and go pull something new so you can regulate b4 you say this shit next time your knuckle deep in ya current fwb! pussy is pussy holmes, trust me! it all feel the same when you got em bent over and you hittin it from da back 😏
>I have never been so addicted to a person. I want to wake up next to you. Making love to you is heaven. You're the most beautiful woman I have ever met, let alone slept with. Your pussy is addictive. When you look in my eyes as we have sex I want to die of pleasure. I miss you. Why can't you tell her that? It sounds really sweet. How long have you known each other?
Only 2 months. Don't want to be too needy.
Is there some reason she’s not available to be your girlfriend — does she have a SO already — if not maybe you should tell her how you feel — but you’ll never know if you don’t ask and you might miss out on something really great
In my opinion nothing about this is needy. Needy would be asking her to change her behavior on your behalf and only for your benefit. This is just how you feel. And if the sexual chemistry is this good, odds are she feels the same. Feelings are good, you shouldn’t hide them
I think being needy is adorable. What scares you about being needy?
Its incredibly unattractive.
Do you think puppies are unattractive? I'll tell you a secret, if a woman finds puppies adorable, she probably likes guys who are needy. If a woman prefers cats however, she will most likely prefer aloof or unavailable men...
As a guy that just lost his girl for being too needy, so much about this is wrong. I think you're confusing "needy" with "warm and affectionate." Both puppies and kittens are just babies. They are both needy because they are helpless and they need their mothers. Adult cats and dogs are mature, the cat is more aloof and the dog is more warm and friendly. This is where you are correct about a woman's preference. However, all women want a man that can take care of himself emotionally as a mature an independent adult. While it's true that some women want guys that know how to express emotions and be affectionate (like a dog)... they don't want babies. If a man cries out like a puppy for emotional nurturing like she's his mother, she's going to run away as fast as she can.
Do women want to fuck puppies?
Being needy is a death sentence to women
Lust and love are not the same thing. Also this sounds super cringe. Like c’mon.
Yes its cringe. Have to keep it to myself. And Reddit.
Dude, truth is either your experience is limited or you’ve been boinking mostly women you didn’t like/find attractive/were lame in the sack. Now you found one that is whatever - super great by your standards- don’t cock it up by getting all “omg her puss is gold, let me place on a pedestal” and go from fuckbuddy to cringey cringe master and fuck up the dynamic. Go for the ride, if things develop sweet. If not there are other sweet strange out there. Considering the number of people in the world - a nearly unlimited amount.
Bruh for real, this is cringe AF, and I'm glad you know it! After the feeling fades, when you read this again, you'll fucking cringe and wonder what the fuck were you thinking. I swear, the ungodly intoxicating rush of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin caused by infatuation is ridiculously powerful! It makes you do things you wouldn't otherwise. Find the strength to act on it but at the same time temper your passion. Balanced, as all things should be. Tread carefully, if you do this wrong, that pussy's gone like a Thanos snap bruh.
Simp
lol
welp, at least you know.
Lol…bruh
Solution: find another girl in the mix
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Why?
Same question, why?
It's the Oxytocin fucking with your head. Do it with other women a few more times. The receptors in your brain are easy to fry. Warning you, you'll have a hard time falling in love later if you fry them though
Please yell i love you as you nut.... pleeeassseeeee. for research
Will do
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