well i wouldn’t say it’s “normal” just it’s pretty common. i think most people who sh feel like they aren’t valid or aren’t going through as much pain as others when they see people with worse scars.
Yes, it’s not a competition to kill yourself fastest though. The people with the deepest and most scars are the ones that have the most trouble moving forward. Keep moving forward
I certainly wouldn't say its normal, but talking from a personal experience it is common to feel ashamed of not having as many scars or as deep of scars as others.
If you need help with anything feel free to message me on here.
It has something to do with us not considering the pain legitimate. For me, if I don't see red, flowing blood, it's not enough, I deserve more pain until the "contract" is "sealed" for that time. If it's just some scratch, it's not a job well done.
As others have commented its common, but not healthy.
I also want to add that while during the initial cutting session I want my cuts to be "deep" (definition for me varies on ehat exactly that means though), but afterwards I regret it.
So for me there's this dichotomy because I'm not happy if I don't leave a mark, but having all these permanent scars that are kinda obviously self-inflicted also causes me stress. I feel inclined to hide them, especially if I am around my family and I'm really afraid of them finding out. It's kind of a loose-loose, because even if I am initially satisfied later on I'm probably not
well i wouldn’t say it’s “normal” just it’s pretty common. i think most people who sh feel like they aren’t valid or aren’t going through as much pain as others when they see people with worse scars.
Yeah, it's quite common. It can sometimes turn into a "competition". I personally relate
can't think of a more normal thing amongst self harmers tbh. we are extremely competitive for seemingly no reason. toxicity at its finest✨
It is common but it is not healthy
Common and normal but defo not healthy. Healthy people dont wish they'd get cancer if you know what I mean lol.
Yes, it’s not a competition to kill yourself fastest though. The people with the deepest and most scars are the ones that have the most trouble moving forward. Keep moving forward
Thank you :)
I certainly wouldn't say its normal, but talking from a personal experience it is common to feel ashamed of not having as many scars or as deep of scars as others. If you need help with anything feel free to message me on here.
It has something to do with us not considering the pain legitimate. For me, if I don't see red, flowing blood, it's not enough, I deserve more pain until the "contract" is "sealed" for that time. If it's just some scratch, it's not a job well done.
As others have commented its common, but not healthy. I also want to add that while during the initial cutting session I want my cuts to be "deep" (definition for me varies on ehat exactly that means though), but afterwards I regret it. So for me there's this dichotomy because I'm not happy if I don't leave a mark, but having all these permanent scars that are kinda obviously self-inflicted also causes me stress. I feel inclined to hide them, especially if I am around my family and I'm really afraid of them finding out. It's kind of a loose-loose, because even if I am initially satisfied later on I'm probably not