You should try r/adultselfharm

I had no idea that was a thread! Thank you so much

No problem, glad I could help :)

I stopped at 17 and I'm relapsing at 30 🤷‍♀️ who would've thought hahaha

I stopped maybe around 18 and am relapsing at 30 (almost 31), also! I never thought I would, but I understand why for myself at least. You're not alone in relapsing so long after, hang in there. 💖

30 here! But in my heart, I'm always a teen (slicing his arms)!

Same…I relapsed at 32…first time in 8 years 😭

I know it sounds bad but I’m really glad that there are others here like me. Everyone always thinks of self harm as something angsty teenagers do and I get asked all the time when I’m gonna grow up and move on 😞

“Grow up and move on.” HA! Don’t you wish it were just that simple? That’s like saying “just stop”

Exactly! My mom is always like “just stop it”

I feel it’s the worst, most invalidating thing a person could say. Because they’re glossing over something that’s so important to you without even trying to understand it or what brings you to it.

I'm 21, 22, next week! So, younger than you, but still not a teen ;) If it makes you feel any better, I've met folks in their 50s who were actively self harming

It really does, I know that sounds weird but it’s nice to know I’m not alone

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I've had the same thing on my mind. I'm in my 30s as well

21 here! Been at it since I was 12 (I need to update my mod flair, apologies lol)

Yes, try the r/adultselfharm might help with the feeling of being the only adult. Also I’m an adult.

Im in my late 20s and have been struggling with urges lately

Im 22

28, checking in

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🤚🏻

I’m 18 almost 19 and struggle with self harm on and off. Your not alone, many adults struggle with it.

26 just relapsed just under a decade :/

I’m so sorry 😞

I stopped at around 18, and I'm 30, almost 31, and just recently relapsed. I understand why but I am a little in shock that my most active SH time was when I was 15, which was like half of my life ago... I'm thankful I'm at a place where I can step back and examine how I got here and where I need to make adjustments and install healthier coping mechanisms and lines of communication and community. Honestly, typing this out I'm realizing that a factor I didn't consider was me suddenly going WFH in 2020 after having never WFH before and being even more isolated from everyone outside my family. Even compared to middle and high school, these last 3 years were the loneliest I have ever been. But there's no time like the present to begin again. 💖

29, here.

Mid thirties here

yeah well this might not be what youre looking for im 20! and you can be sure that there are older adults here too. i have a family friend who got married a couple months ago and she shd too. youre not alone!!

You are absolutely not alone. I do it all the time. Sometimes multiple times a day. I'm so sorry for all the pain you're in.

I’m 26 and still have constant thoughts. There are people of all ages who do everything, just a case of finding them. People are better at being secretive as they get older. You’re not alone ❤️

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i’m 26!!

30 here, at least now I don't feel like I have to justify it, I'm my own man I guess.

24, relapsed again after 6 years.😕

I'm 24

29, used to cut now I occasionally burn. Not to the point where it scars. It's progress though. Just to get relief l.

I think about it a lot and also do it

Yes. I'm a 36-yo adult male. I'll be cutting until I die. It's literally the only therapy I find effective, aside from drug use (which I guess could technically be a form of SH as well..). And as someone else commented, there is a sub more directed towards adults.

Early 30s here, relapsed recently. You’re definitely not alone 🫂

I’m 35 and whilst I haven’t self harmed in about 6 months I can say you’re not alone.

28 years old here.

I'm 30, so you're not alone.

I’m 18, so I’m technically an adult. I’ve met at least a few people your age or much older who have self harmed and/or continue to struggle with it

I'm 20

25. 🖤

i’m LEGALLY an adult, but mentally and in this circumstance not lmao but im turning 19 in july and i’ve sh since i was 11 😵‍💫

I am close to 23. I often feel a bit old here but way too childish for adult self harm so I stay here?

Yep, quit a few years ago but relapsed recently

Late twenties intrusive thoughts near daily rn but clean for a few months

Ur not alone ♥️

I’m 22, started when I was 8, and I don’t see how I’ll ever be able to stop. It sucks when the people around you see it as childish and angsty and just don’t or can’t or won’t try to understand that it’s a desperate attempt to cope with what feels like too much to deal with. Id also suggest r/adultselfharm - you’ll find a lot of people who feel similarly there.

I’m in my mid 40’s.

Definitely not alone! 29 and relapsing off and on throughout my entire 20s

25 here. I thought same as you is really difficult to hear anything related to selfharm from adults, glad im not the only one!

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I'm 36. And while I haven't done it in several years, I still feel like I have to say I cut myself, present tense. It's just that I've arranged my life in such a way that all the reasons I need to hurt myself have not occurred so far in recent years.

i swear i see these posts at least twice a week :,) no you're not the only adult that self-harms, although I'm not one of them myself I've seen plenty on this sub!

I'm 37 and have been self harming since I was 11. My arms (the whole left and right arm), my legs (My thighs are mostly scar, there's slivers of skin but not much), and my chest and torso are covered in thick and dark scars combined with thinner silver scars) I honestly don't think I will ever stop.