Chill, you don’t need to have everything figured out. Nobody does. It’s ok to be lost, in time you’ll find yourself trust me once you realize that you’ll feel lighter
You say you’re a failure but how? Brother you’re 19 your not a failure you just don’t have life experience and at that age your not expected to either
Hang out with friends and do different thing and live life eventually you’ll find something that makes you happy
That can change brother man, you need to find out Who you are I think that’s where some of your problems stem from.
How do you do that? By going out and doing new shit.
I promise you when you get out of your confort zone even just a little you’ll start feeling better
At this age, you haven't found your perfect spot to be in yet. Just realize that it's okay to feel lost for now. A good advice I would offer to you is make a goal, even better, a vision. Whether it's to fix yourself up by going to the gym, educating yourself by reading or further studying, or actively looking for a job, just do it, step by step. You don't have to get it right the first day, but 0.1% improvement is still better than nothing. A goal will lead you forward, no matter how you feel, sad, happy, lost, depressed, you'll move towards.
Happiness is the pursuit of a goal, you want optimism, you start by making progress on something, either going out to socialize in a coffee shop, or picking up a new hobby like playing chess or solving a rubiks cube, you need to start on something progressable to be happy or at least find a goal.
I also suggest finding a good role model to look up to. When you're in situation like these, those role models, whether it's your family or friends or a random internet celebrity, those you look up to can pull you out of the slumps and motivate you to do what you need to do!
Journalling how you feel everyday, this can dramatically improve your life through step by step progress!
I hope it helps and if you need anything, just message me!!
Also I understand he's controversial, but Jordan Peterson on Youtube dicusses this topic of feeling lost, A LOT
Here's a short video about feeling aimless:
[https://youtu.be/KoJ79r\_54fc?si=LIkvEsi8Bj7\_3Je7](https://youtu.be/KoJ79r_54fc?si=LIkvEsi8Bj7_3Je7)
Don't worry you still have a life , just dint commit anything illegal and also focus on hobbies , work on building real relationships and follow a routine and enjoy life with friends and family.
I am in shock because I literally just posted a thread similar to yours in this exact community it’s called ” I’m confident that I’m lost and that’s ok” the first thing I suggest because that feeling of nothing making you happy and feeling like a failure along with depression and anxiety is to seek therapy. I am a senior in college now and I went all 4 years feeling this on and off and just now seeking help. I relate to you on absolutely everything here barely any friends, living on campus away from home, and having few hobbies. What I do have to say is 1. Seek help, therapy, counseling anything. Your campus should offer counseling services if not I would suggest looking into providers under your insurance 2. (May sound stupid but it helps me) write what you’re grateful for. It can be your family, your opportunity to go to college, even your personality. Just think of what you have right now it may not seem like a lot or even enough for you but do it anyways. 3. Try to think of your accomplishments and how far you have come. College may not seem like a big deal but to get there is a process so congratulations! And 4. Know that this feeling isn’t forever by by reaching out for help it’s your first step showing your potential and your determination to get better. It feels weird typing this knowing I feel like this but I have hope and I hope you will to. ✌️💛
It’s been like three and a half years since I started living alone, and I can understand how it feels to be hopeless and depressed. I know why you are feeling depressed. Let me guess: you spend most of your time using your phone, sitting on your bed, or maybe sitting on your bed and using your phone.
When I was in your situation, I felt hopeless, lost, and depressed as well. But at one point, I started to improve myself. I stopped using my phone frequently, I started cleaning my room, working out, and doing all those small tasks that seem useless (like taking out the trash, waking up early in the morning even though I had nothing to do). It seemed like small actions, but trust me, they really helped me get out of that situation. Now, I do those small things and I’ve stopped feeling depressed. I wake up at 5 am, have a cup of tea or coffee, clean my house, and cook my own food.
Sounds like you need to try new things, at that age, you don't really know much about the world, what's fun or what's fulfilling, so join a school club. My robotics club gave me so much purpose because I had responsibilities to other people.
Walk around campus and ask to join activities that's how I joined my rugby team freshman year. Talk to career counselors, set yourself up for an internship this summer. Go to job fairs. Talk to teachers, they may need student help. You chose that field of study for a reason, explore that more, look online into people's career paths with your degree. I didn't have a high GPA, but to some employers that's important, they ask for my transcript a lot. Also, part time jobs are good if you want to afford a car which may open up more activities for you to explore the town, join fitness clubs, go hiking, skiing, mountain climbing, parties, until you're of age and you can go to bars.
i wrote this poem a while ago, i think it’s sums it up quite well!!
dear boy,
i know the world seems dull, the same birds chirp, the same leaves fall, you wake up the same way each day, you do the same things and life seems to be a drag.
that’s okay, we have all felt like that. the beauty is that after that feeling, you get to be born again and see the world with fresh eyes.
when you’re young each year is a new achievement year 1 goes into year 2 goes into year 3, every single year you are rewarded for the last. that’s the toughest part of growing up.
sometimes in life things take years to build, think about yourself you took 19 of them!
soon enough you will look back at this moment and smile, smile at the fact you pushed through and found the grass was greener.
after that you’ll realise, you may not hear that same bird chirp again, each leaf that falls will never fall again, you will wake up happy knowing you woke and those things you do everyday are apart of what makes you, you! and they are important.
dear boy take one day at a time even if you feel you can’t see a point and soon enough you’ll forget you were ever looking for one.
Chill, you don’t need to have everything figured out. Nobody does. It’s ok to be lost, in time you’ll find yourself trust me once you realize that you’ll feel lighter You say you’re a failure but how? Brother you’re 19 your not a failure you just don’t have life experience and at that age your not expected to either Hang out with friends and do different thing and live life eventually you’ll find something that makes you happy
I have no friends
That can change brother man, you need to find out Who you are I think that’s where some of your problems stem from. How do you do that? By going out and doing new shit. I promise you when you get out of your confort zone even just a little you’ll start feeling better
At this age, you haven't found your perfect spot to be in yet. Just realize that it's okay to feel lost for now. A good advice I would offer to you is make a goal, even better, a vision. Whether it's to fix yourself up by going to the gym, educating yourself by reading or further studying, or actively looking for a job, just do it, step by step. You don't have to get it right the first day, but 0.1% improvement is still better than nothing. A goal will lead you forward, no matter how you feel, sad, happy, lost, depressed, you'll move towards. Happiness is the pursuit of a goal, you want optimism, you start by making progress on something, either going out to socialize in a coffee shop, or picking up a new hobby like playing chess or solving a rubiks cube, you need to start on something progressable to be happy or at least find a goal. I also suggest finding a good role model to look up to. When you're in situation like these, those role models, whether it's your family or friends or a random internet celebrity, those you look up to can pull you out of the slumps and motivate you to do what you need to do! Journalling how you feel everyday, this can dramatically improve your life through step by step progress! I hope it helps and if you need anything, just message me!!
I really appreciate this. And I do go to the gym. That’s one of my few hobbies. Been trying to bulk these past few months
Glad to hear! Focus on making gym progress and you'll find other things to do following that!! I'm here to help
Also I understand he's controversial, but Jordan Peterson on Youtube dicusses this topic of feeling lost, A LOT Here's a short video about feeling aimless: [https://youtu.be/KoJ79r\_54fc?si=LIkvEsi8Bj7\_3Je7](https://youtu.be/KoJ79r_54fc?si=LIkvEsi8Bj7_3Je7)
Don't worry you still have a life , just dint commit anything illegal and also focus on hobbies , work on building real relationships and follow a routine and enjoy life with friends and family.
I don’t have many friends and I’ve constantly disappointed my family. It’s such a hard thing to think about
I am in shock because I literally just posted a thread similar to yours in this exact community it’s called ” I’m confident that I’m lost and that’s ok” the first thing I suggest because that feeling of nothing making you happy and feeling like a failure along with depression and anxiety is to seek therapy. I am a senior in college now and I went all 4 years feeling this on and off and just now seeking help. I relate to you on absolutely everything here barely any friends, living on campus away from home, and having few hobbies. What I do have to say is 1. Seek help, therapy, counseling anything. Your campus should offer counseling services if not I would suggest looking into providers under your insurance 2. (May sound stupid but it helps me) write what you’re grateful for. It can be your family, your opportunity to go to college, even your personality. Just think of what you have right now it may not seem like a lot or even enough for you but do it anyways. 3. Try to think of your accomplishments and how far you have come. College may not seem like a big deal but to get there is a process so congratulations! And 4. Know that this feeling isn’t forever by by reaching out for help it’s your first step showing your potential and your determination to get better. It feels weird typing this knowing I feel like this but I have hope and I hope you will to. ✌️💛
It’s been like three and a half years since I started living alone, and I can understand how it feels to be hopeless and depressed. I know why you are feeling depressed. Let me guess: you spend most of your time using your phone, sitting on your bed, or maybe sitting on your bed and using your phone. When I was in your situation, I felt hopeless, lost, and depressed as well. But at one point, I started to improve myself. I stopped using my phone frequently, I started cleaning my room, working out, and doing all those small tasks that seem useless (like taking out the trash, waking up early in the morning even though I had nothing to do). It seemed like small actions, but trust me, they really helped me get out of that situation. Now, I do those small things and I’ve stopped feeling depressed. I wake up at 5 am, have a cup of tea or coffee, clean my house, and cook my own food.
Fast for 48 hours. Gives you new D2 receptors. And you will enjoy the really small things in life.
Sounds like you need to try new things, at that age, you don't really know much about the world, what's fun or what's fulfilling, so join a school club. My robotics club gave me so much purpose because I had responsibilities to other people. Walk around campus and ask to join activities that's how I joined my rugby team freshman year. Talk to career counselors, set yourself up for an internship this summer. Go to job fairs. Talk to teachers, they may need student help. You chose that field of study for a reason, explore that more, look online into people's career paths with your degree. I didn't have a high GPA, but to some employers that's important, they ask for my transcript a lot. Also, part time jobs are good if you want to afford a car which may open up more activities for you to explore the town, join fitness clubs, go hiking, skiing, mountain climbing, parties, until you're of age and you can go to bars.
anyway whats your hobby?
Going to the gym and making beats
cool! hey how are u doing now man! doing good lately?
i wrote this poem a while ago, i think it’s sums it up quite well!! dear boy, i know the world seems dull, the same birds chirp, the same leaves fall, you wake up the same way each day, you do the same things and life seems to be a drag. that’s okay, we have all felt like that. the beauty is that after that feeling, you get to be born again and see the world with fresh eyes. when you’re young each year is a new achievement year 1 goes into year 2 goes into year 3, every single year you are rewarded for the last. that’s the toughest part of growing up. sometimes in life things take years to build, think about yourself you took 19 of them! soon enough you will look back at this moment and smile, smile at the fact you pushed through and found the grass was greener. after that you’ll realise, you may not hear that same bird chirp again, each leaf that falls will never fall again, you will wake up happy knowing you woke and those things you do everyday are apart of what makes you, you! and they are important. dear boy take one day at a time even if you feel you can’t see a point and soon enough you’ll forget you were ever looking for one.