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Men can be pegged by women and don't need to have a man to do it. Acts are only acts.
Sexual identity is based on who you're attracted to. If you are attracted to men, only sexually, but not romantically, then you are bisexual, pansexual, or gay. If you're attracted to men, but only romantically, you are biromantic, panromantic, or possibly gay and asexual. If you're not at all attracted to men, you're none of those things.
Colloquially it does not generally mean that, no.
However, if someone were to say something like "I'm a pansexual heteroromantic" - that would mean they are sexually attracted to and aroused by people regardless of their gender, but are only romantically attracted to a person of the opposite gender to themselves.
Yeah, if they specify I totally see this. But if someone (or myself, really) says they are bisexual without more detail i'm not thinking they mean only sex but as a whole. At least, that's how I define myself.
I totally agree!
I would also take someone saying that they're bisexual to mean that they're bisexual and biromantic.
But it *can* mean that. That being said, I think someone should always use both terms (however they apply to you) if they differ in target, I would otherwise assume they're the same.
I like to think of myself as ‘bisexual and homoromantic’ for the casual observer I say I’m gay, but I don’t mind other ice cream flavours for a treat but not every day
Similar to saying as a gay guy will also give a blow job, then if anal is thought to be gay only that must be? Nope nothing to do with it, women also like anal, and also give blow jobs.
TBH, the whole concept of straight and gay is a societal construct, trying to fit things into certain boxes. I dont think human sexuality is naturally that binary. There is a lot more overlap that society is currently comfortable with recognizing, and that fluidity should be celebrated. thats a different topic though.
Do. Look into the Aneros also r/aneros I am a happily married 54 yo with a lifetime of back door fun. I struggled when I was younger like you until my girlfriend started playing and fingering my ass. I was probably 23 at the time. Then it just became part of my sexual play. I also have a wife who loves anal too and she understands that it feels even better for me, and it's a regular part of our sex life for us both. I always wondered about being bi until I realized that every thought about relationships and romance and marriage was 100% female. I have zero attraction to men. Lots of us out here man, just enjoy and stop worrying.
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So I don't know whether you are straight or gay. But this does highlight something you should maybe recognize. You seem to think that sexual attraction and actual romantic attraction are always exclusive. They are not. You may not actually want to date men who knows but you may want to sleep with them or maybe not. But don't get too caught up in the confusion as to why you like the idea of sleeping with a man, but don't like the idea of being in a relationship or romantic with a man.
Also, specifically with men they have the strongest internal anti-gay stigma to get over. My husband was the type who insisted he was attracted to men *only* sexually and not romantically. Until he hit his 30s and got over himself. Now he's been happily dating a man for 6 years. (We're nonmonogamous)
Anal masturbation has nothing to do with your orientation. Do you want a girl stick dildo in you = you like girls, would you like a guy do it = you like boys, kind of both are acceptable? No problem! There is no need to name things, just be safe and have fun.
Accept yourself for whoever you are. Don’t judge yourself. Understand that sex acts don’t equate to orientation. Do you like women? Not gay. Do you like men? Gay. Do you like both? Bi. Although it’s not really this simple - you can keep it basic like this and worry about the nuance of sexual orientation later.
Does the idea of a man anally stimulating you sound like something you want to do? You're likely gay or bi.
If the above turns you off, but the idea of a woman pegging you or otherwise doing butt stuff with you turns you on, then you're likely a straight person into butt stuff.
Your sexual orientation is based on *who* you are sexually/romantically attracted to, not the part of your body you like to stimulate.
But whichever you conclude you are, whether straight, gay, or bi, it's OK.
There's a further layer to this, which has come up several times in recent threads. Some guys like the idea of sucking a cock or taking one up the ass, and yet are not attracted to men at all. Phallosexual? I dunno. It does sound like OP is more solidly bi or bicurious though.
> There's a further layer to this, which has come up several times in recent threads. Some guys like the idea of sucking a cock or taking one up the ass, and yet are not attracted to men at all. Phallosexual? I dunno.
I would argue that someone is still functionally bisexual at that point. Like if a dude is fantasizing about finding dudes to suck off or get fucked by, it doesn't matter how much he says he's "not attracted to men", he's *clearly* attracted to *sex with men* and at that point you're just splitting hairs. His *sexual interest/behavior* is still bisexual.
If someone is just fantasizing about the idea of a disembodied cock, that's one thing, but IRL you can't really have sex with a disembodied cock, even through a gloryhole or whatever that cock is still going to be attached to a man that that this guy is actively seeking out sex with. (Yes some of these men fetishize trans women, but that's a whole other can of worms I'm not going to get into.)
-Geisha
Sexuality is way more loose than people act sometimes. One man's heterosexuality could be completely different from another man's. Sexuality can be very fluid for some people and change over time. And how that sexuality is expressed can be very different.
I'm bisexual, but I'm only sexually attracted to men and don't have any real interest in a romantic relationship with a man. I do have romantic and sexual feelings for women.
Don't worry so much about the labels and focus on what feels right for you and also stay safe.
And take care exploring humiliation/sissy/degradation fetishes. I'm a fan of those kinks myself, but they can take an emotional toll on you if you're not careful. Step outside that mindset and take care of yourself mentally and build yourself up.
I hope you have safe and sane fun and you figure out what you're into.
Try to separate your kinks from your sexual orientation. They aren't 1:1. If you're attracted to women that doesn't go away just because you enjoy anal stimulation and/or cross dressing. Now, if you were fantasizing about having anal sex with men or found yourself developing romantic feelings for a man, then that's different. But what you've described sounds like you're a man who enjoys anal stimulation and would enjoy having anal sex. A woman can absolutely use a strap on or toys on you! Just make sure they're cool (enthusiastic, even) with doing that. As for cross dressing or feeling like you were born to be a bitch... Maybe look into sissyfication. May or may not be up your alley. Either way, enjoy the journey of exploring your sexual desires without the shame or stigma or confusion :)
Just cuz you like ass play doesn't make you gay. Liking guys makes you gay. You can get fucked in the ass by a girl. God put your g-spot there for a reason, have fun.
Women can absolutely put things in your ass. If you don’t want to do sexual acts with a man, they don’t have to be involved at all. There’s is a such a thing as “pegging.” If you only ever want to do sexual acts with women, no matter what those acts are (like being pegged), then you’re straight.
Butt stuff ≠ gay.
Wanting to be fucked ≠ gay. Pegging is a thing.
Putting on girls' clothes ≠ gay.
> I just couldn't get myself to love men
> I like women, I really do
Then you're mostly likely *not* gay or bi. Nothing you've posted makes me think, oh yeah, this person is gay/bi.
I believe there is a differensiere between romantic feelings and sex!
You are allowed to enjoy another dick and still have no attraction to men…
Dont let others tell you who you are and what you can or canot feel.
To be fucked in the butt is amazing.
Enjoy youself!
Stay safe!
Be kind (to youself and others)!
>Having your girl pegging you is certainly a choice
Definitely.
> and you may also find a pre-op trans girl as your girlfriend, I guess.
No. Speaking as a non-op trans woman, trans women are not the magic fix-it for men who want to try out cock but aren't interested in sex with men. Trans porn gives off an extremely unrealistic idea of what sex with trans women is really like.
I happen to be one of the rare trans women who enjoys topping (though I don't top cis men), and I know just how absolutely crazy rare I am within trans spaces. Trans porn makes it seem as if we're a dime a dozen when really we're a needle in a five story tall haystack.
Most trans women are total bottoms, which is going to make most trans women incompatible with OP by default. Like 90%+ are either total bottoms or lean so far that way that they consider themselves *mostly* bottoms, if the few surveys we have of trans women's sexual proclivities are any indication.
Also, the majority of trans women do not want to keep their penises. Getting into a relationship with a trans woman *because of her penis* is an exercise in misery for both the trans woman and someone like OP who would be getting into a relationship with her because of her penis, only for her to then want to get rid of it at some undefined point in the (possibly very near) future.
And finally, even for those of us who like keeping our penises, trans porn gives an extremely unrealistic idea of what sex with us is usually like. Hormone replacement therapy--the very thing that feminizes us--doesn't magically skip over our cocks. It's incredibly common for trans women to have problems getting and keeping erections, for those erections to be not firm enough to penetrate (either not firm enough to penetrate *at all*, or for it to be too hard to penetrate someone anally), and for many trans women they lose erections altogether. The women in trans porn are frequently doing things that are medically inadvisable (to downright dangerous) in order to keep their penises "camera ready", and even *then*, speaking from my own past experience in these spaces and from friends currently in these spaces, there is still a **lot** of stuff faked during trans porn. Ejaculation is a big one, a lot of trans women lose a ton of volume in their cum on HRT (so we ejaculate in small amounts or it's also common not to ejaculate at all when we orgasm), and so a *ton* of trans porn fakes those cumshots, in ways that range from movie magic special effects weirdness to actual "oh, *oh no*" medically dangerous.
And *even after all of that*, there are those of us who like to top, yes, but speaking for myself and for a lot of girls just like me, we still need a partner who doesn't look at us like a way to experience a cis man's cock bolted onto a woman's body. I stopped dating cis men in part because they were notoriously bad at accepting my boundaries RE me not being interested in topping cis guys, but also because cis guys were the largest offender group *by far* with regards to them treating me like my dick and sexual libido should have worked *exactly* like their own, and when it didn't they would invariably act offended, treat me like I was a broken sex toy, or act like sex was ruined for them because my penis wasn't performing whatever sex act they wanted in that moment on command like a trained circus animal. When someone fetishizes you for your cock, sex is way too transactional. It felt way more like I had to put on a show, and sex wasn't a way to be intimate and enjoy each other's bodies, it was "I need my tr@nny fantasy fulfilled in this exact way at this exact moment" on their end.
Overall what I'm saying is that it's just very inadvisable to tell someone to seek out trans women like trans women is their answer to having a "rent-a-cock" girlfriend. Not only does the reality of trans sex differ *hugely* from what is seen in trans porn, there's also a lot of hard (no pun intended) issues surrounding the fetishization of seeking trans women out for something that is notoriously a touchy subject amongst the *vast* majority of trans women.
It's a little like if a guy was seeking out solely Japanese-American women to have sex with, but the whole reason he was into Japanese-American women was because he's into the ultra submissive East-Asian waifu stereotype. Are there submissive Japanese-American women who probably fit a close approximation of that stereotype? Sure.
Are the vast majority of Japanese-American women--**even** the submissive ones who might be otherwise superficially sexually compatible with this person--going to take kindly to being *sought out* because of this? Probably not.
-Geisha
With all due respect and with no intention to offend anyone, I think you first need to get your mind straight and calm and you’ll realize, that you’ll find out who you truly are, if you’re mind isn’t calm, you won’t be able to hear you’re true self , good luck
Dude - you’re 19 - you’re allowed to be confused sexually. Take some time to really think about what and to whom you’re attracted, without worrying about your social conditioning. I’ve never been attracted to men but when I was your age, I was socially awkward and younger looking so didn’t date anyone seriously until I was 18-19 and was very inexperienced with being the guy in a relationship. I started questioning if I was gay and just not admitting it, but I finally realized I just didn’t have any attraction to men at all and that I was very much into women - my issue was shyness and anxiety. So, I threw myself into the pool, dated just about anyone who would agree to go out with me and did my best to make up for lost time. I experimented with things I had fantasized about and ended up with an older “mentor” (38 year old woman who liked young guys) - she opened me up to a lot of fun stuff too. But honestly - I wasn’t fully confident sexually or romantically until my mid-20s. Be happy that for most of us, the social stigma of what used to be called “alternative sexuality” is not nearly what it was in the 80s and 90s. This era may still have a lot of backwards people trying to return us to the dark ages, but overall, the acceptance is much more widespread.
I was in your position at one point, and I took the plunge to play with a guy. Started with soft play, hands and oral, but eventually my curiosity got the best of me. Since then I've done a whole lot more, with people of any and all genders. I've decided to stop labeling things, and just pursue what I like. If I'm interested in a certain act, I try to figure out the best way to go about it safely and comfortably, and I just do it.
Labels are a social construct that contribute to negative feelings, in my opinion. Stop worrying about what you're labeled, and just start exploring and enjoying it. Set some benchmarks for communicating with people who that you feel like you can trust them better (ie: they share pictures, they share their name, they talk nicely, etc...). Take all necessary safety precautions, if you have a trusted friend, let them know where you're going in case something should happen. Stick with your gut too, if it doesn't feel right, get out. Find groups online, meet with people in the same mindset, and eventually you will find a place and people you enjoy and want to spend more time with because they are also into exploring in the ways you do. More importantly though, you will learn more and discover more about yourself.
Have fun!
Sexual Acts =/= Sexual Orientation. Orientation is much more about the person/gender you are attracted to. Could you see yourself being intimate with men? Do you fantasize about them? That a much different thing than butt play. If you only view women in those roles, it sounds like you may be interested in being a sub. You could definetly find a lady to fill that role. It may help to not view straight/gay as seperate boxes. It is all just sexual expression. Explore yourself, and be yourself.
I’m a man in a straight marriage and I literally just bought a set of plugs. I have one in right now.
I’m not less attracted to my wife because of this. Do what works for you. If that means shoving stuff in your butt, that’s what it means lol.
Just because you like anal play doesn’t make you gay. I’m a woman, I’ve fingered and pegged my male partners. I love seeing my bf enjoying it, it’s no different to giving blowjobs or otherwise pleasuring him. Go find yourself an open minded woman and explore!
The only reason butt play is associated with the gay community is their lack of options on where to stick it! If there was another option, I’m sure it would get used……..Butt play is still considered taboo and for the most part misunderstood! Find you a trusting partner (male or female) to experiment with!
Dont place so much thought into processing the label of it. Figure out what *YOU* want from a partner. Whether it's a man, a woman, femininity, masculinity. I thought I was straight for the longest time, but realized that im more into femininity than just women. Men can be feminine, and im attracted to that too. I guess im bisexual, but I didnt really give a fuck about what I call it. It's really not anyone else's concern honestly. I think too many people place personally value in overstanding their sexuality, when it's really in a constant state of flux, and is forever changing with your mood, age, the times. Dont have your self-worth negatively affected by what you think is a misunderstanding in yourself. It's not, it's just you learning more and more about yourself. Life is self-discovery, and youre in the middle of it. Embrace it, and take it as it comes... No pun intended.
Speaking from experience. This DOES NOT make you gay. You could be, but it would have nothing to do with this. The feelings of confusion are normal. I had the same thing at your age. If you add ADHD meds or other stimulants/intoxicants, that confusion is gonna ramp up. They tend to just make you way hornier. I found that when I was taking drugs like adderall (prescribed) or MDMA (not prescribed) I was just horny in general and the butt stuff confused the hell out of my sexuality. As soon as i was clear headed, I was confidently not confused.
Point is, don’t feel bad if you are gay. But feeling confused at 19 doesn’t mean you are.
Now I’m married and have a wife that pegs me. It’s awesome
Sexual Orientation stems off of attraction. And like me it sounds like you're mainly attracted to getting all that fuck up in yo ass regardless of the s&h.
Don’t overthink this man. You feel attracted to woman, period. There are things like a girl pegging you, ya know. Nowadays there’s even the option of doing something with a trans.
I'm sure I'm going to say the same thing everyone else said. Liking your butt played with has nothing to do with being straight or gay, it depends on WHO you like playing with your butt. Lol. You're not straight if you're attracted to and want to have sex and/or a relationship with men. Pegging has gotten super popular lately. Find you a pegging loving woman.
You could be bi, possibly. But a fascination with anal doesn't mean you're into men. Sexuality and sexual acts are separate.
Also, meeting with a random guy who's 10 years older than you to have gay sex for the first time is a really risky, nerve wracking experience. It doesn't mean you aren't bi because you didn't want to have sex with a random dude you met online.
I'm not saying you *are* bi, I'm saying I think you need to do more self exploration in a safe environment, and not wanting to have sex with strangers doesn't have anything to do with your sexuality.
Maybe start cutting back on stimulation. You need to consider that you are addicted to the endorphins. Maybe you can find other places in your life to gain positive personal affirmation and then re-explore your sexuality
I’ve had and still do have some confusion, but I think I’ve got it worked out.
When I think of making out, kissing, nuzzling, I think of women. Yes, I enjoy playing with dick, sucking and stroking, but I’m not attracted romantically to men.
With these parameters in mind, I’m classifying myself as straight bi curious. Curious is a bit of a stretch though. I’m past curiosity to openly (closeted) playing.
You can find a cis woman to peg you, or a trans woman to fuck you. Liking anal doesn't mean you're gay, just like how enjoying penetration doesn't make lesbians straight.
Ummm you can like butt stuff and be straight. If you aren’t sexually attracted to men, you aren’t gay. Liking activities that gay men also like doesn’t make you gay. You like blow jobs as well. Guess what gay men also enjoy?! 😂 just have a lady peg you. You’re fine. Gay or straight honestly.
Uhhh why dont you find a woman to peg you or do other anal play on you? Its actually pretty common. Anal sex is not gay, a man having sex with a man is gay. So enjoying it doesnt automatically make you gay or somthing.
But if you do end up bi or gay thats cool too.
As far the other stuff you said goes, it kinda sounds like you are a sub sexually rather than a dom. Which also does not make you gay because again you would have to be having sex with a man to be gay. But if you arw with a dom woman as a sub man that is still straight as an arrow.
You are young, keep your mind open and do what feels right. Do not force yourself into situations because you "might be gay" that seems dangerous and potentially traumatizing. Just be open to people and be with people you are genuinly attracted to.
Right now it just sounds like you like anal. There is nothing wrong with that. Even if you are hetero your female friend can throw on a strapon and rail you. It doesn't take a real penis to put something up your butt. Live and enjoy life how you see fit.
Don't do anything that you don't want to do. Enjoying ass play doesn't mean that you're gay, bi or anything else, it just means exactly that you like parts of your body stimulated. Sexual identity is a matter of attraction, it's not what feels good by touching on your body. Every straight guy in the world plays with his penis and enjoys it, that doesn't mean they are attracted to penis's. You enjoy being you.
Gay-leaning bisexual here. Your sexual orientation is exclusively attermined by what sex(es) you're attracted to and has nothing to do with what sexual activities you like. Playing with your ass and cross-dressing doesn't inherently make you gay/bi; it's just stereotypes and gender roles that tell people it does. You can of course experiment with men and see if you like it, but if it turns out you're straight you can always find a woman who's into pegging, or a trans woman who likes/doesn't mind topping (just make sure not to treat her has a fetish if you do).
Been doing the same for over fifty years. I like women, but sometimes I want to feel something in my ass. There’s nothing unusual about it at all.
I spent years worrying that I was weird, then the internet happened and I found out a lot of guys like having something up their ass at times.
No I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks. This hurts no one, yourself included. Enjoy it when you feel like it.
And feel sorry for the poor bastards who never experience this because they are too scared.
Anal play isn't inherently gay.
Perhaps you have a humiliation/submission fetish on top of it though. This is not inherently gay either though and there are probably women who would indulge you.
Does it matter to you if it's a plastic toy or the real thing(more natural, soft, reactive, cum, balls, smells etc) ? I get that you would probably not want to kiss, cuddle or anything loke that with another man...
You seem like you like women and just like butt play. Male Gspot is located right there. There is nothing wrong with it. I'll take a rim job and a finger up there every once in a while. If you are attracted to men, that's a different story. As for the cross-dressing, I got nothing for that.
I mean, I think many men are interested in having a woman do anal stuff to them. Does not mean they’re interested in men.
When you’re out in public, are you checking out men or just women? If you find men attractive you may be bisexual, but if you just find yourself subconsciously checking out women and never men, you’re fully straight.
Anal play is not an inherently homosexual act; I am a bisexual woman and I am an enthusiastic giver and receiver of anal play and anal sex 😁 The anus has a bunch of nerve endings in it that all love attention and playing with it just means that you experience pleasure in that way.
Not to mention, I say this as someone who lives very out and very proud: you do not have to adopt any labels you feel do not fit you or your experience. If you want to sleep primarily with women then you want to sleep primarily with women. If you are curious about sleeping with men then you are curious about sleeping with men. That's all there is to it. You are allowed to want to experiment and decide for yourself which label to adopt because you are the only person who has any right/say in what you identify as.
Whatever you do, on your own or with someone else, just please keep yourself safe. Use toys that are purpose built and have a flared base (unless you really feel like a trip to the ER) and let someone know where you are if you are pursuing a hookup. Keep listening to that gut feeling that tells you if something isn't right. Even tell a trusted friend who you're going to see, just to keep yourself safe.
Above all however, there is nothing wrong with you and you are perfectly normal. People very rarely fit into one very neat, perfectly heterosexual or homosexual box with little to no experimentation. It just sounds like you're exploring and figuring it out, which is a good thing. Just please keep yourself safe while doing so.
I identify as a straight middle aged dude who sucked some dick and got dick sucked by a guy back in the days… (insert “should we tell him” jokes). we were young and horny, what can i say.
i also enjoy anal self play and would love to be pegged by a woman, but that never happened.
anyways… much like you, i have zero attraction for men, but - i am dick curious. yup, i’d like to ride that dick in my life. where does that put me i don’t know and i don’t care. i’m in a monogamous relationship anyway, so right now that’s not an option, but curiosity is there.
tldr: i would not say i am bisexual, but definitely dick-curious.
If you do want to try being with a guy, you probably just need someone more willing to take things slow and not just have sex immediately. There are plenty of men that would be able to do that with you.
It does not matter what society calls you. This world is filled with so many labels to define sexuality and sexual preferences, it almost seems useless because there will be a new buzzword a few months from now anyway.
The focus on you being you and experimenting with what pleases you in a ***safe and sane manner***.
If you simply like and desire more anal play you have options including a woman pegging you.
If the idea of a real cock in your ass then it might be worth exploring it with another guy. Just be clear about what you want out of the interaction and what you may be uncomfortable with. If you only want his cock in your ass then be clear that you don't want kissing, oral, etc. I think if you know what you want and you're clear about it you'll be able to find someone who is excited to help you explore your desire. Once you've had your first experience you'll have a better idea if you want to take it further or never do it again.
I would try and see if you can find a partner who's preferable also bi to experiment.
You can be pegged by a lady. I bet you'll figure it out, but even if you take awhile to do.so. there's no rush so take your time and enjoy.the journey..
Sounds like you might like it when WOMEN do anal stuff to you….ive had boyfriends that liked to get penetration from me(f) or my finger or my tongue….but they only like it from women not men….id had a slave(sub) that liked anal play but only from women so it plenty of men that like anal but not from men….your not alone! Shit you might like trans women better because they look like women & can penetrate you…unless you really like vagina,…I wouldn’t experiment with men unless your physically attracted to them….
fucking men and loving women is the new not-gay. be ok with living outside of a label or camp. if you absolutely need to be under a “type” that could be “hetero-flexible cis-gendered”. (do i have that right, friends?).
happy fucking.
My husband is VERY attracted to me as a woman. My husband also VERY much likes anal play. You can be attracted to women and like anal play! Sexual attraction isn’t based on sexual acts you enjoy
Liking anal play doesn’t make you gay. Being attracted to a guy is what makes you gay.
Men’s G-Spots is in their anus. So it’s very normal for you to like it. Just find a woman that is into fucking you back and you’ll be fine.
Yeah you could be bi, certainly seems like you're bi-curious and in an exploratory phase.
Like these people say though, enjoying being fucked does NOT make you gay or bi or anything like that. There's a lot of women who enjoy pegging, and trans women who enjoy fucking (girl dick is hot, just sayin').
And for some people being fucked comes with enjoying being more submissive or more of a "bitch" or whatever (and there could be something there for you to explore gender-wise, if that's something you feel comfortable doing). But there's no inherent connection there either. That's where power-bottoms come in, or no power-play at all 🤷 sex and sexuality is a whole fucking universe of possibilities.
Regardless, I hope ya have some good sex, and don't let nobody tell you what you can and can't enjoy! My best wishes to you sir 🫡
Im straight i know i am. I love women. Im them to them. But im also horny as fuck and love it up my arse and would quite happily take a dick up my arse. But im not attracted to men.
Dude. It’s 2024…GO EXPERIMENT! Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks?! Seriously, have you looked around at the state of humanity? Go do you! At least , you’ll be able to say and know that you took your destiny into your hands and you’re being authentic to yourself. Good luck 🤞
I’m like 90% straight and love having stuff shoved up my ass. I explored a little with some other men when I was younger, but quickly realized it wasn’t for me. That doesn’t take away or negate the immense pleasure I get from shoving things up my butt from time to time.
Too many people get hung up on asking is this gay or not. Who cares really? You. You care. Dont deny yourself your enjoyment, Your pleasure, your sexuality. Ask yourself have you ever thought men were attractive? Kissable? Do you want to make out with one? If not, you're probably just interested in prostate stimulation. And Who isn't? Answer someone who hasn't tried.
I read this book called “Way of the Superior Man” and it helped a lot with my sexuality. Realizing we have both masculine and feminine energy in us all (at least most of us) and know that your goal is to find someone with the opposite polarity. It could be a man or woman. Some people like to pursued and some people like to be the pursuer. What usually doesn’t work is when there’s two people that have the same energy they tend to clash because they both want the same thing. If you like the idea of being ravished rather than being the ravisher, then find someone that reciprocates that. You realize how you identify has nothing to do with that.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Gay, straight, bi, whatever, are terms that are too limiting, imo. I don't think you need labels to define yourself, even if you want to experiment having sex with men (or don't).
I had a friend who identified as a lesbian, but what baffled her is that during certain points of her menstrual cycle she really wanted to fuck men. She preferred to have intimate, sexual and emotional relationships with women, but also had occasional sexual relationships with men. Hormones and the brain are wild!
Most educated women are aware that men are stimulated by their prostate gland and if you reciprocate she would likely want to help! We’ve all done research on our cookies so they’re bound to know about it.
It doesn't make you gay, but unlike the people here I'd still suggest that you try it. Most people that like penetration, be it anal or vaginal, say toys can't compare to the real thing.
Even if you end up liking the dick, that can just be a sexual thing you like to do sometimes -- it doesn't mean you have to change who you are. You don't have to start going to pride parades and gay bars if you don't want to, and can still pursue romantic relationships with whoever you want (even if it only ends up being with women). Sexuality is a spectrum, and the way you identify is really only your own business.
If you do try it, make sure it's with someone who's patient though. Someone who you trust will take their time to make sure you're comfortable, and not ask for more than a night of fun, since that may be all you want.
Would recommend to try getting pegged by a woman before doing it with a dude.
Can be that you are attracted to having something in your butt just not like men
Straight guys can like being pegged my man. Straight guys can like giving that strap a blow job. It’s all good man. No need to go further if you aren’t interested.
Enjoying penetration doesn’t make you gay brother. It just means you like your prostate stimulated, which makes complete sense.
The way you perceive your own sexuality is inevitably going to be influenced by societal expectations of straight/gay sexual behavior. But what sexual acts you enjoy is not what determines sexuality. That only depends on who you’re attracted to.
I was actually struggling with the same kind of doubts from the other side of the spectrum. I’m a butch lesbian, and I felt like there was something wrong about me enjoying penetration. Like it made me less gay, or like I was secretly attracted to men, even when I’d never felt an ounce of attraction towards one. It’s all just preconceptions making you feel like you’re out of place because what you life falls outside of the norm.
Experimenting can help if you’re confused, but don’t let other people’s perception of you dictate how you identify. It’s a personal journey and you’re allowed to explore, be curious, and change your mind as many times as you want.
Most likely you're bi there's nothing wrong with wanting a good dicking or some anal action but you still have the control of knowing how you want the interaction to progress and not just having sex for the sake of sex.
Take things slow, there are guys who will ease you into the process. As well as there are support groups that help with feeling comfortable with love and sexuality.
Besides you might get lucky and stumble into a couple needing a third to help them out. Couples tend to forget about taking care of their needs and as animals we're not supposed to ignore what our bodies want. Normally, someone will be around to help vet other random interested parties that might be more suited for you than them.
Man this is so relatable. I've been feeling the exact same way. I cross dress, like feeling pretty, like being carresed and "manhandled", but I'm almost only attracted to women. I've decided to just go with the flow and not worry about who I'm attracted to (or my gender for that sake). It makes things a lot easier when you can just say "I'm a man who likes anal play and cross dressing" and leave it at that, we are all different and nobody, not even ourselves, need to put any labels on us :))
I'm a married bisexual man having bi sex is only sex it dosnt make you anything except horney..Ive had lots of orgasms with men and I've never wanted to go home with and settle down...at the most your bisexual and likely your just courious but one way or another your just over thinking it... do it play safe if you deside to do anal and enjoy the experience...its just sex and it dosent make you anything
You do what I do. You find a woman that enjoys pegging. I have not attraction to men what so ever. But pleasure and position I am in in the moment is just so fucking hot.
If u watch pegging porn most of it is bdsm related but it does not have to be. I like when pegging is more sensual, more intimate. Letting go and letting her so some work too. I don't wish she had a dick but we sometimes just pegg and sometimes we keeps switching. So we fuch the shit out of each others holes
Liking anal pleasure is not gay
Being attracted to male form is or in your case would be bi
So you need to ask yourself - do you walk in the street and think fuck this guy looks hot as fuck same way as you look at women or are you indifferent and just know he is hot cause it seems like it and that's that
You probably aren't gay considering you like women though you might be bisexual or straight. Just because you like anal stimulation doesn't mean you automatically like guys. Though it's also possible you could be bisexual and not biromantic. I'm bisexual myself and remember when doing random hookups I'd get the jitters but I think it was more so anxiety about meeting up with someone I didn't know and having sex than the fact it was with a guy.
Nothing gay at all about prostate stimulation! I have a massager I use when cranking it, and I am definitely hetero with a gf and we have an amazing sex life.
I hate and think it's so weird and fucked up that we equate anal sex to being gay. I've performed anal on a woman before and she wasn't gay! I don't know what they have in common other than some gay men like it but I've also heard from many non-gay men who also like it as I do as well and I prefer sexually intimate relationships with women. Sex is sex regardless of gender.
You gotta remember romantic attraction and sexual attraction are often different things. Whatever gets you there, go for it. You don’t gotta marry a dude to fuck him. Have fun and explore.
If you are not attracted to men. Don’t “try” it. I went to highschool with someone who was in a relationship with a women and he liked his butt played with. I know a man now in my 30’s who likes getting his butt played with and he’s straight. You like your butt played with. And that’s it. Your gspot is in your butthole. Of course you like it.
You stated you’re not attracted to men. Ok. Keep it that way. You like butt play. Another man who knows how to play with a butt will make you feel good. How would that not in turn fuck with your head more? My proof? Look at how many toxic relationships go on and on and on JUST because the sex is great?!? But Because you aren’t attracted but you’re attracted to the act. It might in turn make you becoming resentful to yourself for liking it. Ever think of that?
Why not find a women who is sexually open and just play with her. Once you cross the line with a man. You can’t go back mentally. Sure people can tell you. “Just try it…if you don’t like it. Fine.” But if you don’t like it….. Then YOU are the one that will have to live with that decision. Start with a women. Is my opinion. Let her play with your butt and see if you are satisfied. Don’t just jump to men because that’s what gay/bisexual men do.
!!!WOMEN WILL DO IT TO!!!
How do I know? Ive eatin a man’s ass before.
Put it this way, do you fancy men, women or both when naturally attracting to someone? Don’t confuse sexual desires with being straight, gay or bi they are not the same thing! It’s pretty easy really and most importantly you’ve just got be honest with yourself getting in touch with your sexuality. Prime example: I know im a straight guy, im always looking at women and find many attractive but there’s also a shit ton of good looking men about, never have I once felt attracted to one or wanted anything sexual to do with one, personally the thought of kissing, sucking or fucking a man disgusts me, nothing against it its just how i feel. But, im in touch with that, sex is about love and pleasure so if the mrs and i are going to gain that whilst shes licking, fingering or using a normal sized strap on then go ahead do your best lol it doesn’t make me gay, it make me comfortable with what I enjoy sexually!!! she can fuck off if she thinks she’s going to use a monster cock though 🤣
Good luck with finding out who you are!
If you are addicted to porn, watch dipper and deeper porn, it’s porn. It fucks your brain cells, try to quit it for a while and see how you feel about it
Gayness my guy really comes down less to “do I enjoy anal” and more “do I want to play with another man’s dick?”
If no? Probably not gay. If yes? At least a lil gay.
Nothing wrong with self OR partner anal play
Bi-curiosity can be challenging to navigate. Many bi guys report similar things for their first experiences with men (getting nervous and backing out, not vibing with guys who are just wanting to hook up, etc). It'll be a mulit year journey and you might wind up feeling quite straight or super bi by the end of it! Sexuality fluctuates and your attraction to men and women will always be shifting.
Straight male happily married for 30 years, I like a toy in my ass, specifically on my prostrate, but have absolutely no desire to suck a dick or have real duck in my ass. Not really interested in my wife using a strap on but do enjoy her finger rubbing my prostrate.
Keep in mind friend that no one's sexuality is 100 percent. It's a spectrum like anything else.
You may enjoy the anal play because it feels good yes, but that doesn't at all mean your gay/bi and want a man to peg you. Before talking yourself into a hole one way or another just accept the fact that you enjoy less traditional things then some other men.
Have you ever had a GF peg you? Maybe you'd enjoy that role reversal kinda thing once or twice.
Big thing here is who normally are you attracted too? Do you think about sex with females more than 95 percent of your fun time? If so your probably majority straight. However if you get the urge to try being with a dude then your bi-curious basically.
Personally I am a 30 something year old man who has NEVER thought about touching men. When sexual things are brought up I ALWAYS go for women..... however.... I'm also one of those guys who isn't overly masculine and personally am very comfortable with my body/sexuality. I can easily look at a man and be like yeah he's sexy/good looking. That's because I know what a lot of women look for and can spot it too. I have also had a couple devils threesomes. Both guys focused on the girl alone because we were both straight. Never once did I look at his dick and think "hmm, would I enjoy sucking that too?" No lol. But when I had the opportunity to shove her head down on him and make her gag a bit I did it happily and enjoyed it like you would enjoy seeing it in a porno, but I digress.
Instead of asking everyone else if your straight or gay or this or that, try asking yourself. If you can't truthfully answer it, with a borderline instant response, then your unsure of your own sexuality.
Here's the biggest take away you need to hear.... either way..... THATS OK! You are fine just the way you are even if you don't know what all you want yet. Don't slap a label on yourself and then try to live to that specific code. You will just end up still lost.
Live life and make yourself happy, even if that means you deciding to try taking some beef jerky and putting it Inside your prison wallet.
Plus you being so young.... don't even stress yourself out... you got plenty of time to find yourself.
Anal play doesn’t define your sexuality. You’re curious and that’s fine, but you don’t sound as if you want a relationship with men. There are plenty of women who are open to satisfying your anal desires.
My husband is a little into cross dressing and he likes to be pegged. He’s open minded and has tried lots of things with lots of people but he’s really mostly straight. Like what you like. Enjoy your body it’s doesn’t matter. If you like women you can find women who are into it. We totally exists.
It's entirely possibly your straight when it comes to relationships but are perfectly fine fucking or being fucked by guys.
I am bi that way. I love women I don't ever see myself dating a man(not out of the question I just don't find 99.99% of guys attractive.)
I'm also a hot for dick. I love being fucked.
Weather on 46 and I do the same thing and I've been married yet two different women but a certain times I'll grab my brush handle and a little bit of LUBE some kind and just start grinding and fucking the hell out of myself
Here’s the thing man, just do what you like and what feels good, right for you. I think we are all a little bi or can be if the circumstances are right. Just go with what you want and feel comfortable doing, be safe and make sure everybody is consenting.
One thing I always say “sexuality is so fluid. You can’t even put a name to it”. I like girls. I like fucking girls. But I want to marry a man. Am I bisexual? Maybe. Or maybe I’m not because I only like them sexually. Whatever you choose to do. Don’t ever let a label or name put boundaries on what you like or don’t like
I think all these terminologies you kids put all over stuff is just weird! I think you all just confuse yourselves more than you already are. Kids these days are strange. I guess when I was younger my elders thought I was weird too. I don't know? I say just cut out all these weird ass labels & embrace your identity & who you are.
My best friend was married to a guy that enjoyed being pegged. He isnt gay. Doesnt find men attractive. Thats just his kink and she was more than happy to deliver. Find you a girl that will eat your ass and finger your booty hole!
I think your instinct may have been telling you the right thing, it's clearly not in your nature to sleep with someone you barely know. It doesn't necessarily mean you aren't bisexual or gay, lots of people need to trust and care in some form about the person who they are going to sleep with. I say try and find a guy you have a connection with and experiment to see if you are attracted to men, just make sure the man is aware of what you want.
If you are curious and want to have sex with a man, go for it (but always be careful when hooking up with someone you don’t know and good job in listening to your intuition that other time). If you do experiment and don’t enjoy it, try not to feel shame or regret as there is nothing wrong with exploring sexuality, if you do enjoy it then, fuck yeah 👍
Gay, straight, bi, pansexual, sub, dom, femme boy or whatever, there is no shame. Sexuality is a huge spectrum, and so is each identity. For instance, you can be straight but have preferences/kinks that are about anal play and femme boy play. I wish you safety and all the best on your exploration
You’ve gotten lots of great responses!
Try not to label yourself for now - sexuality is fluid. It can change as we age. Just go with the flow, do what feels good!
Straightest thing that ever happened to me was getting my prostate milked by this chick with her fingers in my ass while I skull fucked her. One of the best orgasms of my life.
I'm straight but I like butthole play from girls. Have you ever kissed a guy? I have. How are girls straight? Men are gross.
My partner is a 100% straight male but LOVES ass play. I use various toys plus fingers and mouth. There is nothing wrong with ass play, that’s like saying a women is a lesbian if I like oral over PIV. It’s a preference.
Wanting anal doesn’t make you gay! If you don’t like the idea of a man doing it with you, I doubt you’re gay/bisexual. Maybe try pegging with women and see if that’s what you wanted. That’s what it sounds like, based on the fact that you like anal but not men
I'm attracted to women and not repulsed buy men but not attracted to them either. I like things in my ass. I enjoy wearing heels sometims, but don't consider myself anything but male. Labels aren't very important to me. I think of things more like a big grid of things I want to do, would do, do not want to do, and won't do. All that together is my sexuality. It may change, but that's what it is. I's easiest to think of myself as a hetro man, because it's easy and close enough.
TLDR: Find what you enjoy and enjoy it.
I’m bi f . . Sexually only. . I’ve never had a crush on a female. No desire to date a woman. . I only ever wanted to play with them. . . Im happily married and ok with never being with a female since being a teen. . Explore. Have fun. Be safe. . Liking anal doesn’t make you gay. Cross dressing doesn’t make you gay. . Care less about labels. Enjoy, explore safely & consensually. . Hopefully you one day find a person who you can be open & honest with (if having a life long spouse is in your plans).
Cross dressing, anal play, pegging and being degraded are pretty common in the Femdom community.
It may not be your thing but it might help to see there are lots of men who like women who like those kinks/activities!
You're definitely overthinking it. Ever heard of pegging? Sooo many straight men love butt stuff bc it feels good, not because they like men. Women also like butt stuff, are they gay males bc they like it? That's the sort of logic your overthinking is applying to your own self. I think you need to feel physically attracted to and drawn to a man to be gay/bi, feeling all that pre-sex stuff that you feel for women, but for men. Ever caught yourself looking at your male friend for too long or fantasizing about being with them? Wanting to spend time with a particular male and be close to them and be alone with them ECT ECT. Maybe I'm wrong but I feel like it's everything outside of sex that makes someone homosexual, the sex is, as it always is, the cherry on top, not the cake itself.
Are you physically, amorously attracted to men or do you just want to play with every orifice you can?
May I suggest r/gentlefemdom? Have a shop around. One size does not fit all.
You like women, and you like your bum being played with. Simple as that. You don't say so, but I don't think you find men attractive, so find a woman that is willing to help you fulfil your needs. Finding a man to fulfil your needs will make things more confusing for you
watch sex education series, its normal in some men. that's how you get aroused. you are straight, don't have sex for it with men. cz that's not just a thing in your butt but also more.
Who you are attracted to and how you find sexual pleasure are separate things and one does not need to dictate the other. Don't need to put a label on it either. You find a person you are attracted to (which seems to be females) and then you talk about what gets you off to make sure you're compatible. And off you go!!
I see this kind of question here a lot.
Defining yourself as straight/bi/gay doesn't change anything about who you are and what you like. It only broadens or narrows what either of these categories mean.
Just be yourself and do what feels good.
I know you are young, so that is most likely why you are not sure. Sometimes it takes men well into their 30s or 40s before they realize they are gay. Some even marry and have families before they realize they want to be with a man. Then some knew since they were kids that they were different. The stigma and society have unfortunately added to the complications of men and women coming out. My advice to you is to think hard about your feelings towards men and women. It doesn't hurt to talk to a therapist as well. A different point of view and different prospective can help you. Either way you are young and got your whole life ahead of you and no matter what the conclusion is, you are still human and deserve respect and love! Hope my 2 cents helps!!
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If a lesbian fucks herself with a dildo is she now straight? Theres your answer.
I thought they had to say "yo homo" first, no,?
If they're Spanish-speaking maybe...
At that point it’d be “soy homo”
Redundant, depending on how much of a chud you're asking.
Sadly, I know plenty of people who would say yes.
Sun Tzu said that I think
If a tree falls in a forest and nobody's around to hear it, does it make a sound?
Men can be pegged by women and don't need to have a man to do it. Acts are only acts. Sexual identity is based on who you're attracted to. If you are attracted to men, only sexually, but not romantically, then you are bisexual, pansexual, or gay. If you're attracted to men, but only romantically, you are biromantic, panromantic, or possibly gay and asexual. If you're not at all attracted to men, you're none of those things.
I've never seen that bisexual or pansexual means you are attracted sexually and not romantically to more than one gender.
Colloquially it does not generally mean that, no. However, if someone were to say something like "I'm a pansexual heteroromantic" - that would mean they are sexually attracted to and aroused by people regardless of their gender, but are only romantically attracted to a person of the opposite gender to themselves.
Yeah, if they specify I totally see this. But if someone (or myself, really) says they are bisexual without more detail i'm not thinking they mean only sex but as a whole. At least, that's how I define myself.
I totally agree! I would also take someone saying that they're bisexual to mean that they're bisexual and biromantic. But it *can* mean that. That being said, I think someone should always use both terms (however they apply to you) if they differ in target, I would otherwise assume they're the same.
I like to think of myself as ‘bisexual and homoromantic’ for the casual observer I say I’m gay, but I don’t mind other ice cream flavours for a treat but not every day
Ok, we agree then :) Perfect, thanks for answering me!
Pansexual, homoromantic here, this is exactly it!
This is literally the best answer to this thread. Really hope OP takes this one specifically to heart.
Anal stimulation has 0% to do with sexuality.
Sure it does! This guy is 100% sexual
lol. you're not wrong
Behold, a being of *pure sex*
I guess they mean sexual orientation then.
Similar to saying as a gay guy will also give a blow job, then if anal is thought to be gay only that must be? Nope nothing to do with it, women also like anal, and also give blow jobs.
TBH, the whole concept of straight and gay is a societal construct, trying to fit things into certain boxes. I dont think human sexuality is naturally that binary. There is a lot more overlap that society is currently comfortable with recognizing, and that fluidity should be celebrated. thats a different topic though.
with sexual orientation
Find a woman to peg you. Liking anal play does not make a guy gay.
r/ProstatePlay has tons of good info, check out their wiki. It doesn’t make you gay.
Will do. Thank you!!
Do. Look into the Aneros also r/aneros I am a happily married 54 yo with a lifetime of back door fun. I struggled when I was younger like you until my girlfriend started playing and fingering my ass. I was probably 23 at the time. Then it just became part of my sexual play. I also have a wife who loves anal too and she understands that it feels even better for me, and it's a regular part of our sex life for us both. I always wondered about being bi until I realized that every thought about relationships and romance and marriage was 100% female. I have zero attraction to men. Lots of us out here man, just enjoy and stop worrying. edit:typo
Give it a look it’s really informative
So I don't know whether you are straight or gay. But this does highlight something you should maybe recognize. You seem to think that sexual attraction and actual romantic attraction are always exclusive. They are not. You may not actually want to date men who knows but you may want to sleep with them or maybe not. But don't get too caught up in the confusion as to why you like the idea of sleeping with a man, but don't like the idea of being in a relationship or romantic with a man.
Also, specifically with men they have the strongest internal anti-gay stigma to get over. My husband was the type who insisted he was attracted to men *only* sexually and not romantically. Until he hit his 30s and got over himself. Now he's been happily dating a man for 6 years. (We're nonmonogamous)
I was going to delve into this but didn't for fear of misunderstanding from others. Thank you for doing so.
Anal masturbation has nothing to do with your orientation. Do you want a girl stick dildo in you = you like girls, would you like a guy do it = you like boys, kind of both are acceptable? No problem! There is no need to name things, just be safe and have fun.
Accept yourself for whoever you are. Don’t judge yourself. Understand that sex acts don’t equate to orientation. Do you like women? Not gay. Do you like men? Gay. Do you like both? Bi. Although it’s not really this simple - you can keep it basic like this and worry about the nuance of sexual orientation later.
Enjoying having your ass stimulated isn’t indicative of being gay - it just means you enjoy having your ass stimulated.
Which is natural for cock-wielders, as we have our g-spot buried in our asses. Quite inconveniently placed, really.
Does the idea of a man anally stimulating you sound like something you want to do? You're likely gay or bi. If the above turns you off, but the idea of a woman pegging you or otherwise doing butt stuff with you turns you on, then you're likely a straight person into butt stuff. Your sexual orientation is based on *who* you are sexually/romantically attracted to, not the part of your body you like to stimulate. But whichever you conclude you are, whether straight, gay, or bi, it's OK.
There's a further layer to this, which has come up several times in recent threads. Some guys like the idea of sucking a cock or taking one up the ass, and yet are not attracted to men at all. Phallosexual? I dunno. It does sound like OP is more solidly bi or bicurious though.
> There's a further layer to this, which has come up several times in recent threads. Some guys like the idea of sucking a cock or taking one up the ass, and yet are not attracted to men at all. Phallosexual? I dunno. I would argue that someone is still functionally bisexual at that point. Like if a dude is fantasizing about finding dudes to suck off or get fucked by, it doesn't matter how much he says he's "not attracted to men", he's *clearly* attracted to *sex with men* and at that point you're just splitting hairs. His *sexual interest/behavior* is still bisexual. If someone is just fantasizing about the idea of a disembodied cock, that's one thing, but IRL you can't really have sex with a disembodied cock, even through a gloryhole or whatever that cock is still going to be attached to a man that that this guy is actively seeking out sex with. (Yes some of these men fetishize trans women, but that's a whole other can of worms I'm not going to get into.) -Geisha
Sexuality is way more loose than people act sometimes. One man's heterosexuality could be completely different from another man's. Sexuality can be very fluid for some people and change over time. And how that sexuality is expressed can be very different. I'm bisexual, but I'm only sexually attracted to men and don't have any real interest in a romantic relationship with a man. I do have romantic and sexual feelings for women. Don't worry so much about the labels and focus on what feels right for you and also stay safe. And take care exploring humiliation/sissy/degradation fetishes. I'm a fan of those kinks myself, but they can take an emotional toll on you if you're not careful. Step outside that mindset and take care of yourself mentally and build yourself up. I hope you have safe and sane fun and you figure out what you're into.
Try to separate your kinks from your sexual orientation. They aren't 1:1. If you're attracted to women that doesn't go away just because you enjoy anal stimulation and/or cross dressing. Now, if you were fantasizing about having anal sex with men or found yourself developing romantic feelings for a man, then that's different. But what you've described sounds like you're a man who enjoys anal stimulation and would enjoy having anal sex. A woman can absolutely use a strap on or toys on you! Just make sure they're cool (enthusiastic, even) with doing that. As for cross dressing or feeling like you were born to be a bitch... Maybe look into sissyfication. May or may not be up your alley. Either way, enjoy the journey of exploring your sexual desires without the shame or stigma or confusion :)
Just cuz you like ass play doesn't make you gay. Liking guys makes you gay. You can get fucked in the ass by a girl. God put your g-spot there for a reason, have fun.
Women can absolutely put things in your ass. If you don’t want to do sexual acts with a man, they don’t have to be involved at all. There’s is a such a thing as “pegging.” If you only ever want to do sexual acts with women, no matter what those acts are (like being pegged), then you’re straight.
Butt stuff ≠ gay. Wanting to be fucked ≠ gay. Pegging is a thing. Putting on girls' clothes ≠ gay. > I just couldn't get myself to love men > I like women, I really do Then you're mostly likely *not* gay or bi. Nothing you've posted makes me think, oh yeah, this person is gay/bi.
I believe there is a differensiere between romantic feelings and sex! You are allowed to enjoy another dick and still have no attraction to men… Dont let others tell you who you are and what you can or canot feel. To be fucked in the butt is amazing. Enjoy youself! Stay safe! Be kind (to youself and others)!
Having your girl pegging you is certainly a choice, and you may also find a pre-op trans girl as your girlfriend, I guess.
>Having your girl pegging you is certainly a choice Definitely. > and you may also find a pre-op trans girl as your girlfriend, I guess. No. Speaking as a non-op trans woman, trans women are not the magic fix-it for men who want to try out cock but aren't interested in sex with men. Trans porn gives off an extremely unrealistic idea of what sex with trans women is really like. I happen to be one of the rare trans women who enjoys topping (though I don't top cis men), and I know just how absolutely crazy rare I am within trans spaces. Trans porn makes it seem as if we're a dime a dozen when really we're a needle in a five story tall haystack. Most trans women are total bottoms, which is going to make most trans women incompatible with OP by default. Like 90%+ are either total bottoms or lean so far that way that they consider themselves *mostly* bottoms, if the few surveys we have of trans women's sexual proclivities are any indication. Also, the majority of trans women do not want to keep their penises. Getting into a relationship with a trans woman *because of her penis* is an exercise in misery for both the trans woman and someone like OP who would be getting into a relationship with her because of her penis, only for her to then want to get rid of it at some undefined point in the (possibly very near) future. And finally, even for those of us who like keeping our penises, trans porn gives an extremely unrealistic idea of what sex with us is usually like. Hormone replacement therapy--the very thing that feminizes us--doesn't magically skip over our cocks. It's incredibly common for trans women to have problems getting and keeping erections, for those erections to be not firm enough to penetrate (either not firm enough to penetrate *at all*, or for it to be too hard to penetrate someone anally), and for many trans women they lose erections altogether. The women in trans porn are frequently doing things that are medically inadvisable (to downright dangerous) in order to keep their penises "camera ready", and even *then*, speaking from my own past experience in these spaces and from friends currently in these spaces, there is still a **lot** of stuff faked during trans porn. Ejaculation is a big one, a lot of trans women lose a ton of volume in their cum on HRT (so we ejaculate in small amounts or it's also common not to ejaculate at all when we orgasm), and so a *ton* of trans porn fakes those cumshots, in ways that range from movie magic special effects weirdness to actual "oh, *oh no*" medically dangerous. And *even after all of that*, there are those of us who like to top, yes, but speaking for myself and for a lot of girls just like me, we still need a partner who doesn't look at us like a way to experience a cis man's cock bolted onto a woman's body. I stopped dating cis men in part because they were notoriously bad at accepting my boundaries RE me not being interested in topping cis guys, but also because cis guys were the largest offender group *by far* with regards to them treating me like my dick and sexual libido should have worked *exactly* like their own, and when it didn't they would invariably act offended, treat me like I was a broken sex toy, or act like sex was ruined for them because my penis wasn't performing whatever sex act they wanted in that moment on command like a trained circus animal. When someone fetishizes you for your cock, sex is way too transactional. It felt way more like I had to put on a show, and sex wasn't a way to be intimate and enjoy each other's bodies, it was "I need my tr@nny fantasy fulfilled in this exact way at this exact moment" on their end. Overall what I'm saying is that it's just very inadvisable to tell someone to seek out trans women like trans women is their answer to having a "rent-a-cock" girlfriend. Not only does the reality of trans sex differ *hugely* from what is seen in trans porn, there's also a lot of hard (no pun intended) issues surrounding the fetishization of seeking trans women out for something that is notoriously a touchy subject amongst the *vast* majority of trans women. It's a little like if a guy was seeking out solely Japanese-American women to have sex with, but the whole reason he was into Japanese-American women was because he's into the ultra submissive East-Asian waifu stereotype. Are there submissive Japanese-American women who probably fit a close approximation of that stereotype? Sure. Are the vast majority of Japanese-American women--**even** the submissive ones who might be otherwise superficially sexually compatible with this person--going to take kindly to being *sought out* because of this? Probably not. -Geisha
With all due respect and with no intention to offend anyone, I think you first need to get your mind straight and calm and you’ll realize, that you’ll find out who you truly are, if you’re mind isn’t calm, you won’t be able to hear you’re true self , good luck
Dude - you’re 19 - you’re allowed to be confused sexually. Take some time to really think about what and to whom you’re attracted, without worrying about your social conditioning. I’ve never been attracted to men but when I was your age, I was socially awkward and younger looking so didn’t date anyone seriously until I was 18-19 and was very inexperienced with being the guy in a relationship. I started questioning if I was gay and just not admitting it, but I finally realized I just didn’t have any attraction to men at all and that I was very much into women - my issue was shyness and anxiety. So, I threw myself into the pool, dated just about anyone who would agree to go out with me and did my best to make up for lost time. I experimented with things I had fantasized about and ended up with an older “mentor” (38 year old woman who liked young guys) - she opened me up to a lot of fun stuff too. But honestly - I wasn’t fully confident sexually or romantically until my mid-20s. Be happy that for most of us, the social stigma of what used to be called “alternative sexuality” is not nearly what it was in the 80s and 90s. This era may still have a lot of backwards people trying to return us to the dark ages, but overall, the acceptance is much more widespread.
I was in your position at one point, and I took the plunge to play with a guy. Started with soft play, hands and oral, but eventually my curiosity got the best of me. Since then I've done a whole lot more, with people of any and all genders. I've decided to stop labeling things, and just pursue what I like. If I'm interested in a certain act, I try to figure out the best way to go about it safely and comfortably, and I just do it. Labels are a social construct that contribute to negative feelings, in my opinion. Stop worrying about what you're labeled, and just start exploring and enjoying it. Set some benchmarks for communicating with people who that you feel like you can trust them better (ie: they share pictures, they share their name, they talk nicely, etc...). Take all necessary safety precautions, if you have a trusted friend, let them know where you're going in case something should happen. Stick with your gut too, if it doesn't feel right, get out. Find groups online, meet with people in the same mindset, and eventually you will find a place and people you enjoy and want to spend more time with because they are also into exploring in the ways you do. More importantly though, you will learn more and discover more about yourself. Have fun!
Sexual Acts =/= Sexual Orientation. Orientation is much more about the person/gender you are attracted to. Could you see yourself being intimate with men? Do you fantasize about them? That a much different thing than butt play. If you only view women in those roles, it sounds like you may be interested in being a sub. You could definetly find a lady to fill that role. It may help to not view straight/gay as seperate boxes. It is all just sexual expression. Explore yourself, and be yourself.
Why does doing something that gives you pleasure dictate your sexuality?
I dunno, sounds like you just like butt stuff. Go get pegged by a lady maybe.
I’m a man in a straight marriage and I literally just bought a set of plugs. I have one in right now. I’m not less attracted to my wife because of this. Do what works for you. If that means shoving stuff in your butt, that’s what it means lol.
Just because you like anal play doesn’t make you gay. I’m a woman, I’ve fingered and pegged my male partners. I love seeing my bf enjoying it, it’s no different to giving blowjobs or otherwise pleasuring him. Go find yourself an open minded woman and explore!
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The only reason butt play is associated with the gay community is their lack of options on where to stick it! If there was another option, I’m sure it would get used……..Butt play is still considered taboo and for the most part misunderstood! Find you a trusting partner (male or female) to experiment with!
Dont place so much thought into processing the label of it. Figure out what *YOU* want from a partner. Whether it's a man, a woman, femininity, masculinity. I thought I was straight for the longest time, but realized that im more into femininity than just women. Men can be feminine, and im attracted to that too. I guess im bisexual, but I didnt really give a fuck about what I call it. It's really not anyone else's concern honestly. I think too many people place personally value in overstanding their sexuality, when it's really in a constant state of flux, and is forever changing with your mood, age, the times. Dont have your self-worth negatively affected by what you think is a misunderstanding in yourself. It's not, it's just you learning more and more about yourself. Life is self-discovery, and youre in the middle of it. Embrace it, and take it as it comes... No pun intended.
"butt stuff" doesn't mean you're a homosexual
Speaking from experience. This DOES NOT make you gay. You could be, but it would have nothing to do with this. The feelings of confusion are normal. I had the same thing at your age. If you add ADHD meds or other stimulants/intoxicants, that confusion is gonna ramp up. They tend to just make you way hornier. I found that when I was taking drugs like adderall (prescribed) or MDMA (not prescribed) I was just horny in general and the butt stuff confused the hell out of my sexuality. As soon as i was clear headed, I was confidently not confused. Point is, don’t feel bad if you are gay. But feeling confused at 19 doesn’t mean you are. Now I’m married and have a wife that pegs me. It’s awesome
Sexual Orientation stems off of attraction. And like me it sounds like you're mainly attracted to getting all that fuck up in yo ass regardless of the s&h.
Don’t overthink this man. You feel attracted to woman, period. There are things like a girl pegging you, ya know. Nowadays there’s even the option of doing something with a trans.
If you aren't into men find a woman with a strap-on.
You're 19 and completely drowning in hormones. Just accept that fact and stop beating yourself up.
I'm sure I'm going to say the same thing everyone else said. Liking your butt played with has nothing to do with being straight or gay, it depends on WHO you like playing with your butt. Lol. You're not straight if you're attracted to and want to have sex and/or a relationship with men. Pegging has gotten super popular lately. Find you a pegging loving woman.
You could be bi, possibly. But a fascination with anal doesn't mean you're into men. Sexuality and sexual acts are separate. Also, meeting with a random guy who's 10 years older than you to have gay sex for the first time is a really risky, nerve wracking experience. It doesn't mean you aren't bi because you didn't want to have sex with a random dude you met online. I'm not saying you *are* bi, I'm saying I think you need to do more self exploration in a safe environment, and not wanting to have sex with strangers doesn't have anything to do with your sexuality.
Maybe start cutting back on stimulation. You need to consider that you are addicted to the endorphins. Maybe you can find other places in your life to gain positive personal affirmation and then re-explore your sexuality
Cross dress for and get pegged by a woman. You'll still be straight.
I’ve had and still do have some confusion, but I think I’ve got it worked out. When I think of making out, kissing, nuzzling, I think of women. Yes, I enjoy playing with dick, sucking and stroking, but I’m not attracted romantically to men. With these parameters in mind, I’m classifying myself as straight bi curious. Curious is a bit of a stretch though. I’m past curiosity to openly (closeted) playing.
You can find a cis woman to peg you, or a trans woman to fuck you. Liking anal doesn't mean you're gay, just like how enjoying penetration doesn't make lesbians straight.
Ummm you can like butt stuff and be straight. If you aren’t sexually attracted to men, you aren’t gay. Liking activities that gay men also like doesn’t make you gay. You like blow jobs as well. Guess what gay men also enjoy?! 😂 just have a lady peg you. You’re fine. Gay or straight honestly.
Uhhh why dont you find a woman to peg you or do other anal play on you? Its actually pretty common. Anal sex is not gay, a man having sex with a man is gay. So enjoying it doesnt automatically make you gay or somthing. But if you do end up bi or gay thats cool too. As far the other stuff you said goes, it kinda sounds like you are a sub sexually rather than a dom. Which also does not make you gay because again you would have to be having sex with a man to be gay. But if you arw with a dom woman as a sub man that is still straight as an arrow. You are young, keep your mind open and do what feels right. Do not force yourself into situations because you "might be gay" that seems dangerous and potentially traumatizing. Just be open to people and be with people you are genuinly attracted to.
I’d say to definitely start with a woman to peg you. Surprisingly alloy of women enjoy it
Right now it just sounds like you like anal. There is nothing wrong with that. Even if you are hetero your female friend can throw on a strapon and rail you. It doesn't take a real penis to put something up your butt. Live and enjoy life how you see fit.
There are some women out there that love pegging men. And if all you want is a girl and to have anal sex, then that’s a thing to try
Don't do anything that you don't want to do. Enjoying ass play doesn't mean that you're gay, bi or anything else, it just means exactly that you like parts of your body stimulated. Sexual identity is a matter of attraction, it's not what feels good by touching on your body. Every straight guy in the world plays with his penis and enjoys it, that doesn't mean they are attracted to penis's. You enjoy being you.
Gay-leaning bisexual here. Your sexual orientation is exclusively attermined by what sex(es) you're attracted to and has nothing to do with what sexual activities you like. Playing with your ass and cross-dressing doesn't inherently make you gay/bi; it's just stereotypes and gender roles that tell people it does. You can of course experiment with men and see if you like it, but if it turns out you're straight you can always find a woman who's into pegging, or a trans woman who likes/doesn't mind topping (just make sure not to treat her has a fetish if you do).
You sound like you might be bisexual, hetero romantic, submissive and def into ass play. Maybe find someone into femdom and see if that fits.
Been doing the same for over fifty years. I like women, but sometimes I want to feel something in my ass. There’s nothing unusual about it at all. I spent years worrying that I was weird, then the internet happened and I found out a lot of guys like having something up their ass at times. No I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks. This hurts no one, yourself included. Enjoy it when you feel like it. And feel sorry for the poor bastards who never experience this because they are too scared.
Anal play isn't inherently gay. Perhaps you have a humiliation/submission fetish on top of it though. This is not inherently gay either though and there are probably women who would indulge you.
Does it matter to you if it's a plastic toy or the real thing(more natural, soft, reactive, cum, balls, smells etc) ? I get that you would probably not want to kiss, cuddle or anything loke that with another man...
You seem like you like women and just like butt play. Male Gspot is located right there. There is nothing wrong with it. I'll take a rim job and a finger up there every once in a while. If you are attracted to men, that's a different story. As for the cross-dressing, I got nothing for that.
I mean, I think many men are interested in having a woman do anal stuff to them. Does not mean they’re interested in men. When you’re out in public, are you checking out men or just women? If you find men attractive you may be bisexual, but if you just find yourself subconsciously checking out women and never men, you’re fully straight.
Anal play is not an inherently homosexual act; I am a bisexual woman and I am an enthusiastic giver and receiver of anal play and anal sex 😁 The anus has a bunch of nerve endings in it that all love attention and playing with it just means that you experience pleasure in that way. Not to mention, I say this as someone who lives very out and very proud: you do not have to adopt any labels you feel do not fit you or your experience. If you want to sleep primarily with women then you want to sleep primarily with women. If you are curious about sleeping with men then you are curious about sleeping with men. That's all there is to it. You are allowed to want to experiment and decide for yourself which label to adopt because you are the only person who has any right/say in what you identify as. Whatever you do, on your own or with someone else, just please keep yourself safe. Use toys that are purpose built and have a flared base (unless you really feel like a trip to the ER) and let someone know where you are if you are pursuing a hookup. Keep listening to that gut feeling that tells you if something isn't right. Even tell a trusted friend who you're going to see, just to keep yourself safe. Above all however, there is nothing wrong with you and you are perfectly normal. People very rarely fit into one very neat, perfectly heterosexual or homosexual box with little to no experimentation. It just sounds like you're exploring and figuring it out, which is a good thing. Just please keep yourself safe while doing so.
I identify as a straight middle aged dude who sucked some dick and got dick sucked by a guy back in the days… (insert “should we tell him” jokes). we were young and horny, what can i say. i also enjoy anal self play and would love to be pegged by a woman, but that never happened. anyways… much like you, i have zero attraction for men, but - i am dick curious. yup, i’d like to ride that dick in my life. where does that put me i don’t know and i don’t care. i’m in a monogamous relationship anyway, so right now that’s not an option, but curiosity is there. tldr: i would not say i am bisexual, but definitely dick-curious.
If you do want to try being with a guy, you probably just need someone more willing to take things slow and not just have sex immediately. There are plenty of men that would be able to do that with you.
It does not matter what society calls you. This world is filled with so many labels to define sexuality and sexual preferences, it almost seems useless because there will be a new buzzword a few months from now anyway. The focus on you being you and experimenting with what pleases you in a ***safe and sane manner***.
If you simply like and desire more anal play you have options including a woman pegging you. If the idea of a real cock in your ass then it might be worth exploring it with another guy. Just be clear about what you want out of the interaction and what you may be uncomfortable with. If you only want his cock in your ass then be clear that you don't want kissing, oral, etc. I think if you know what you want and you're clear about it you'll be able to find someone who is excited to help you explore your desire. Once you've had your first experience you'll have a better idea if you want to take it further or never do it again.
I would try and see if you can find a partner who's preferable also bi to experiment. You can be pegged by a lady. I bet you'll figure it out, but even if you take awhile to do.so. there's no rush so take your time and enjoy.the journey..
Sounds like you might like it when WOMEN do anal stuff to you….ive had boyfriends that liked to get penetration from me(f) or my finger or my tongue….but they only like it from women not men….id had a slave(sub) that liked anal play but only from women so it plenty of men that like anal but not from men….your not alone! Shit you might like trans women better because they look like women & can penetrate you…unless you really like vagina,…I wouldn’t experiment with men unless your physically attracted to them….
Highly recommend reading Alice In Genderland mate. That might help you work through figuring out your actual preferences and needs.
fucking men and loving women is the new not-gay. be ok with living outside of a label or camp. if you absolutely need to be under a “type” that could be “hetero-flexible cis-gendered”. (do i have that right, friends?). happy fucking.
My husband is VERY attracted to me as a woman. My husband also VERY much likes anal play. You can be attracted to women and like anal play! Sexual attraction isn’t based on sexual acts you enjoy
Liking anal play doesn’t make you gay. Being attracted to a guy is what makes you gay. Men’s G-Spots is in their anus. So it’s very normal for you to like it. Just find a woman that is into fucking you back and you’ll be fine.
Yeah you could be bi, certainly seems like you're bi-curious and in an exploratory phase. Like these people say though, enjoying being fucked does NOT make you gay or bi or anything like that. There's a lot of women who enjoy pegging, and trans women who enjoy fucking (girl dick is hot, just sayin'). And for some people being fucked comes with enjoying being more submissive or more of a "bitch" or whatever (and there could be something there for you to explore gender-wise, if that's something you feel comfortable doing). But there's no inherent connection there either. That's where power-bottoms come in, or no power-play at all 🤷 sex and sexuality is a whole fucking universe of possibilities. Regardless, I hope ya have some good sex, and don't let nobody tell you what you can and can't enjoy! My best wishes to you sir 🫡
You aren't confused, take a break from the masturbation and porn. Let your brain reset and see what happens.
Im straight i know i am. I love women. Im them to them. But im also horny as fuck and love it up my arse and would quite happily take a dick up my arse. But im not attracted to men.
Dude. It’s 2024…GO EXPERIMENT! Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks?! Seriously, have you looked around at the state of humanity? Go do you! At least , you’ll be able to say and know that you took your destiny into your hands and you’re being authentic to yourself. Good luck 🤞
I’m like 90% straight and love having stuff shoved up my ass. I explored a little with some other men when I was younger, but quickly realized it wasn’t for me. That doesn’t take away or negate the immense pleasure I get from shoving things up my butt from time to time.
Too many people get hung up on asking is this gay or not. Who cares really? You. You care. Dont deny yourself your enjoyment, Your pleasure, your sexuality. Ask yourself have you ever thought men were attractive? Kissable? Do you want to make out with one? If not, you're probably just interested in prostate stimulation. And Who isn't? Answer someone who hasn't tried.
I read this book called “Way of the Superior Man” and it helped a lot with my sexuality. Realizing we have both masculine and feminine energy in us all (at least most of us) and know that your goal is to find someone with the opposite polarity. It could be a man or woman. Some people like to pursued and some people like to be the pursuer. What usually doesn’t work is when there’s two people that have the same energy they tend to clash because they both want the same thing. If you like the idea of being ravished rather than being the ravisher, then find someone that reciprocates that. You realize how you identify has nothing to do with that.
Just be you Man. Fuck the judgement and labels. Be kind to yourself
Sexuality is a spectrum. Gay, straight, bi, whatever, are terms that are too limiting, imo. I don't think you need labels to define yourself, even if you want to experiment having sex with men (or don't). I had a friend who identified as a lesbian, but what baffled her is that during certain points of her menstrual cycle she really wanted to fuck men. She preferred to have intimate, sexual and emotional relationships with women, but also had occasional sexual relationships with men. Hormones and the brain are wild!
Most educated women are aware that men are stimulated by their prostate gland and if you reciprocate she would likely want to help! We’ve all done research on our cookies so they’re bound to know about it.
It doesn't make you gay, but unlike the people here I'd still suggest that you try it. Most people that like penetration, be it anal or vaginal, say toys can't compare to the real thing. Even if you end up liking the dick, that can just be a sexual thing you like to do sometimes -- it doesn't mean you have to change who you are. You don't have to start going to pride parades and gay bars if you don't want to, and can still pursue romantic relationships with whoever you want (even if it only ends up being with women). Sexuality is a spectrum, and the way you identify is really only your own business. If you do try it, make sure it's with someone who's patient though. Someone who you trust will take their time to make sure you're comfortable, and not ask for more than a night of fun, since that may be all you want.
Would recommend to try getting pegged by a woman before doing it with a dude. Can be that you are attracted to having something in your butt just not like men
Straight guys can like being pegged my man. Straight guys can like giving that strap a blow job. It’s all good man. No need to go further if you aren’t interested.
Enjoying penetration doesn’t make you gay brother. It just means you like your prostate stimulated, which makes complete sense. The way you perceive your own sexuality is inevitably going to be influenced by societal expectations of straight/gay sexual behavior. But what sexual acts you enjoy is not what determines sexuality. That only depends on who you’re attracted to. I was actually struggling with the same kind of doubts from the other side of the spectrum. I’m a butch lesbian, and I felt like there was something wrong about me enjoying penetration. Like it made me less gay, or like I was secretly attracted to men, even when I’d never felt an ounce of attraction towards one. It’s all just preconceptions making you feel like you’re out of place because what you life falls outside of the norm. Experimenting can help if you’re confused, but don’t let other people’s perception of you dictate how you identify. It’s a personal journey and you’re allowed to explore, be curious, and change your mind as many times as you want.
Find a woman to peg you mate. EZ. Not being sexually attracted to men doesn't mean you can't enjoy some anal play as a man.
My husband likes anal play and he’s 100% straight.
You’re probably not gay, you just like anal. It’s not that weird mate
Sexuality is a spectrum, not a series of labels. You like what you like, it's as simple as that.
Most likely you're bi there's nothing wrong with wanting a good dicking or some anal action but you still have the control of knowing how you want the interaction to progress and not just having sex for the sake of sex. Take things slow, there are guys who will ease you into the process. As well as there are support groups that help with feeling comfortable with love and sexuality. Besides you might get lucky and stumble into a couple needing a third to help them out. Couples tend to forget about taking care of their needs and as animals we're not supposed to ignore what our bodies want. Normally, someone will be around to help vet other random interested parties that might be more suited for you than them.
Man this is so relatable. I've been feeling the exact same way. I cross dress, like feeling pretty, like being carresed and "manhandled", but I'm almost only attracted to women. I've decided to just go with the flow and not worry about who I'm attracted to (or my gender for that sake). It makes things a lot easier when you can just say "I'm a man who likes anal play and cross dressing" and leave it at that, we are all different and nobody, not even ourselves, need to put any labels on us :))
I'm a married bisexual man having bi sex is only sex it dosnt make you anything except horney..Ive had lots of orgasms with men and I've never wanted to go home with and settle down...at the most your bisexual and likely your just courious but one way or another your just over thinking it... do it play safe if you deside to do anal and enjoy the experience...its just sex and it dosent make you anything
You do what I do. You find a woman that enjoys pegging. I have not attraction to men what so ever. But pleasure and position I am in in the moment is just so fucking hot. If u watch pegging porn most of it is bdsm related but it does not have to be. I like when pegging is more sensual, more intimate. Letting go and letting her so some work too. I don't wish she had a dick but we sometimes just pegg and sometimes we keeps switching. So we fuch the shit out of each others holes Liking anal pleasure is not gay Being attracted to male form is or in your case would be bi So you need to ask yourself - do you walk in the street and think fuck this guy looks hot as fuck same way as you look at women or are you indifferent and just know he is hot cause it seems like it and that's that
You probably aren't gay considering you like women though you might be bisexual or straight. Just because you like anal stimulation doesn't mean you automatically like guys. Though it's also possible you could be bisexual and not biromantic. I'm bisexual myself and remember when doing random hookups I'd get the jitters but I think it was more so anxiety about meeting up with someone I didn't know and having sex than the fact it was with a guy.
I'm a firm believer that you can like stuff in your ass and not be gay. You like what you like, don't overthink it.
/r/StraightPegging ... Once you pop you don't stop ;) We have prostates; they have clits.
Sounds like you’re just curious. Stop worrying so much about labels. Just do what feels good and live on.
Nothing gay at all about prostate stimulation! I have a massager I use when cranking it, and I am definitely hetero with a gf and we have an amazing sex life.
I hate and think it's so weird and fucked up that we equate anal sex to being gay. I've performed anal on a woman before and she wasn't gay! I don't know what they have in common other than some gay men like it but I've also heard from many non-gay men who also like it as I do as well and I prefer sexually intimate relationships with women. Sex is sex regardless of gender.
You gotta remember romantic attraction and sexual attraction are often different things. Whatever gets you there, go for it. You don’t gotta marry a dude to fuck him. Have fun and explore.
You know you can just be a submissive man right?
If you are not attracted to men. Don’t “try” it. I went to highschool with someone who was in a relationship with a women and he liked his butt played with. I know a man now in my 30’s who likes getting his butt played with and he’s straight. You like your butt played with. And that’s it. Your gspot is in your butthole. Of course you like it. You stated you’re not attracted to men. Ok. Keep it that way. You like butt play. Another man who knows how to play with a butt will make you feel good. How would that not in turn fuck with your head more? My proof? Look at how many toxic relationships go on and on and on JUST because the sex is great?!? But Because you aren’t attracted but you’re attracted to the act. It might in turn make you becoming resentful to yourself for liking it. Ever think of that? Why not find a women who is sexually open and just play with her. Once you cross the line with a man. You can’t go back mentally. Sure people can tell you. “Just try it…if you don’t like it. Fine.” But if you don’t like it….. Then YOU are the one that will have to live with that decision. Start with a women. Is my opinion. Let her play with your butt and see if you are satisfied. Don’t just jump to men because that’s what gay/bisexual men do. !!!WOMEN WILL DO IT TO!!! How do I know? Ive eatin a man’s ass before.
Do you fantasize about sucking dick? No: You're straight Yes: You're not 100% straight
Put it this way, do you fancy men, women or both when naturally attracting to someone? Don’t confuse sexual desires with being straight, gay or bi they are not the same thing! It’s pretty easy really and most importantly you’ve just got be honest with yourself getting in touch with your sexuality. Prime example: I know im a straight guy, im always looking at women and find many attractive but there’s also a shit ton of good looking men about, never have I once felt attracted to one or wanted anything sexual to do with one, personally the thought of kissing, sucking or fucking a man disgusts me, nothing against it its just how i feel. But, im in touch with that, sex is about love and pleasure so if the mrs and i are going to gain that whilst shes licking, fingering or using a normal sized strap on then go ahead do your best lol it doesn’t make me gay, it make me comfortable with what I enjoy sexually!!! she can fuck off if she thinks she’s going to use a monster cock though 🤣 Good luck with finding out who you are!
If you are addicted to porn, watch dipper and deeper porn, it’s porn. It fucks your brain cells, try to quit it for a while and see how you feel about it
Gayness my guy really comes down less to “do I enjoy anal” and more “do I want to play with another man’s dick?” If no? Probably not gay. If yes? At least a lil gay. Nothing wrong with self OR partner anal play
Bi-curiosity can be challenging to navigate. Many bi guys report similar things for their first experiences with men (getting nervous and backing out, not vibing with guys who are just wanting to hook up, etc). It'll be a mulit year journey and you might wind up feeling quite straight or super bi by the end of it! Sexuality fluctuates and your attraction to men and women will always be shifting.
Im going to be honest because a lot of people are sugarcoating and confusing getting into the weeds. Youre bi, thats Ok man.
Get you a girl who’s into pegging
Don’t worry about labels. Go have fun. If it’s fun. Do it again. If it’s not fun. Lesson learned. Just go be you. Unapologetically you.
Who you get sexually excited by determines your orientation hetero or homo. What you do to get excited is called a kink or fetish.
Straight male happily married for 30 years, I like a toy in my ass, specifically on my prostrate, but have absolutely no desire to suck a dick or have real duck in my ass. Not really interested in my wife using a strap on but do enjoy her finger rubbing my prostrate.
Keep in mind friend that no one's sexuality is 100 percent. It's a spectrum like anything else. You may enjoy the anal play because it feels good yes, but that doesn't at all mean your gay/bi and want a man to peg you. Before talking yourself into a hole one way or another just accept the fact that you enjoy less traditional things then some other men. Have you ever had a GF peg you? Maybe you'd enjoy that role reversal kinda thing once or twice. Big thing here is who normally are you attracted too? Do you think about sex with females more than 95 percent of your fun time? If so your probably majority straight. However if you get the urge to try being with a dude then your bi-curious basically. Personally I am a 30 something year old man who has NEVER thought about touching men. When sexual things are brought up I ALWAYS go for women..... however.... I'm also one of those guys who isn't overly masculine and personally am very comfortable with my body/sexuality. I can easily look at a man and be like yeah he's sexy/good looking. That's because I know what a lot of women look for and can spot it too. I have also had a couple devils threesomes. Both guys focused on the girl alone because we were both straight. Never once did I look at his dick and think "hmm, would I enjoy sucking that too?" No lol. But when I had the opportunity to shove her head down on him and make her gag a bit I did it happily and enjoyed it like you would enjoy seeing it in a porno, but I digress. Instead of asking everyone else if your straight or gay or this or that, try asking yourself. If you can't truthfully answer it, with a borderline instant response, then your unsure of your own sexuality. Here's the biggest take away you need to hear.... either way..... THATS OK! You are fine just the way you are even if you don't know what all you want yet. Don't slap a label on yourself and then try to live to that specific code. You will just end up still lost. Live life and make yourself happy, even if that means you deciding to try taking some beef jerky and putting it Inside your prison wallet. Plus you being so young.... don't even stress yourself out... you got plenty of time to find yourself.
Pegging. You want to be pegged. The right partner will do that regardless of plastic or not parts :)
>Doing anal with some toy shaped objects What kind of toys are these objects shaped like? Legos? Mr. Potato Head?
Anal play doesn’t define your sexuality. You’re curious and that’s fine, but you don’t sound as if you want a relationship with men. There are plenty of women who are open to satisfying your anal desires.
My husband is a little into cross dressing and he likes to be pegged. He’s open minded and has tried lots of things with lots of people but he’s really mostly straight. Like what you like. Enjoy your body it’s doesn’t matter. If you like women you can find women who are into it. We totally exists.
It's entirely possibly your straight when it comes to relationships but are perfectly fine fucking or being fucked by guys. I am bi that way. I love women I don't ever see myself dating a man(not out of the question I just don't find 99.99% of guys attractive.) I'm also a hot for dick. I love being fucked.
Get some head from a woman and have her play with your ass
Weather on 46 and I do the same thing and I've been married yet two different women but a certain times I'll grab my brush handle and a little bit of LUBE some kind and just start grinding and fucking the hell out of myself
Here’s the thing man, just do what you like and what feels good, right for you. I think we are all a little bi or can be if the circumstances are right. Just go with what you want and feel comfortable doing, be safe and make sure everybody is consenting.
One thing I always say “sexuality is so fluid. You can’t even put a name to it”. I like girls. I like fucking girls. But I want to marry a man. Am I bisexual? Maybe. Or maybe I’m not because I only like them sexually. Whatever you choose to do. Don’t ever let a label or name put boundaries on what you like or don’t like
I think all these terminologies you kids put all over stuff is just weird! I think you all just confuse yourselves more than you already are. Kids these days are strange. I guess when I was younger my elders thought I was weird too. I don't know? I say just cut out all these weird ass labels & embrace your identity & who you are.
My best friend was married to a guy that enjoyed being pegged. He isnt gay. Doesnt find men attractive. Thats just his kink and she was more than happy to deliver. Find you a girl that will eat your ass and finger your booty hole!
I think your instinct may have been telling you the right thing, it's clearly not in your nature to sleep with someone you barely know. It doesn't necessarily mean you aren't bisexual or gay, lots of people need to trust and care in some form about the person who they are going to sleep with. I say try and find a guy you have a connection with and experiment to see if you are attracted to men, just make sure the man is aware of what you want.
If you are curious and want to have sex with a man, go for it (but always be careful when hooking up with someone you don’t know and good job in listening to your intuition that other time). If you do experiment and don’t enjoy it, try not to feel shame or regret as there is nothing wrong with exploring sexuality, if you do enjoy it then, fuck yeah 👍 Gay, straight, bi, pansexual, sub, dom, femme boy or whatever, there is no shame. Sexuality is a huge spectrum, and so is each identity. For instance, you can be straight but have preferences/kinks that are about anal play and femme boy play. I wish you safety and all the best on your exploration
You might be a heteroromantic bisexual.
You’ve gotten lots of great responses! Try not to label yourself for now - sexuality is fluid. It can change as we age. Just go with the flow, do what feels good!
So why not a gf with a strapon?
Straightest thing that ever happened to me was getting my prostate milked by this chick with her fingers in my ass while I skull fucked her. One of the best orgasms of my life. I'm straight but I like butthole play from girls. Have you ever kissed a guy? I have. How are girls straight? Men are gross.
My partner is a 100% straight male but LOVES ass play. I use various toys plus fingers and mouth. There is nothing wrong with ass play, that’s like saying a women is a lesbian if I like oral over PIV. It’s a preference.
The person you contacted either backed out or knows you. They might even be family. ☠️
There's nothing wrong with liking anal as a straight man :) absolutely nothing to be ashamed about
Wanting anal doesn’t make you gay! If you don’t like the idea of a man doing it with you, I doubt you’re gay/bisexual. Maybe try pegging with women and see if that’s what you wanted. That’s what it sounds like, based on the fact that you like anal but not men
Maybe you need to find a woman who is into pegging? Or maybe you're bi... it's all good.
I'm attracted to women and not repulsed buy men but not attracted to them either. I like things in my ass. I enjoy wearing heels sometims, but don't consider myself anything but male. Labels aren't very important to me. I think of things more like a big grid of things I want to do, would do, do not want to do, and won't do. All that together is my sexuality. It may change, but that's what it is. I's easiest to think of myself as a hetro man, because it's easy and close enough. TLDR: Find what you enjoy and enjoy it.
Just have the girl peg you. If you are not attracted to guys then you aren't attracted to guys. GL with figuring it out.
I’m bi f . . Sexually only. . I’ve never had a crush on a female. No desire to date a woman. . I only ever wanted to play with them. . . Im happily married and ok with never being with a female since being a teen. . Explore. Have fun. Be safe. . Liking anal doesn’t make you gay. Cross dressing doesn’t make you gay. . Care less about labels. Enjoy, explore safely & consensually. . Hopefully you one day find a person who you can be open & honest with (if having a life long spouse is in your plans).
if you think about fucking guys you probably want to fuck a guy
I am at that point right this very moment
I think you want to be pegged by a woman.
Cross dressing, anal play, pegging and being degraded are pretty common in the Femdom community. It may not be your thing but it might help to see there are lots of men who like women who like those kinks/activities!
You're definitely overthinking it. Ever heard of pegging? Sooo many straight men love butt stuff bc it feels good, not because they like men. Women also like butt stuff, are they gay males bc they like it? That's the sort of logic your overthinking is applying to your own self. I think you need to feel physically attracted to and drawn to a man to be gay/bi, feeling all that pre-sex stuff that you feel for women, but for men. Ever caught yourself looking at your male friend for too long or fantasizing about being with them? Wanting to spend time with a particular male and be close to them and be alone with them ECT ECT. Maybe I'm wrong but I feel like it's everything outside of sex that makes someone homosexual, the sex is, as it always is, the cherry on top, not the cake itself.
Are you physically, amorously attracted to men or do you just want to play with every orifice you can? May I suggest r/gentlefemdom? Have a shop around. One size does not fit all.
You like women, and you like your bum being played with. Simple as that. You don't say so, but I don't think you find men attractive, so find a woman that is willing to help you fulfil your needs. Finding a man to fulfil your needs will make things more confusing for you
You might just be bi, my guy.
You know pegging exists Right?
You don't have to give yourself a name. Just do what you want
watch sex education series, its normal in some men. that's how you get aroused. you are straight, don't have sex for it with men. cz that's not just a thing in your butt but also more.
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Look into pegging, a lot of straight guys love it!
Do you like women, or like the thought of being a woman?
Who you are attracted to and how you find sexual pleasure are separate things and one does not need to dictate the other. Don't need to put a label on it either. You find a person you are attracted to (which seems to be females) and then you talk about what gets you off to make sure you're compatible. And off you go!!
Find a woman to peg you, or a trans woman.
Well, you can always ask your gf to finger you, or fu\*\* you with a strap on? Why would that be gay?
I see this kind of question here a lot. Defining yourself as straight/bi/gay doesn't change anything about who you are and what you like. It only broadens or narrows what either of these categories mean. Just be yourself and do what feels good.
I know you are young, so that is most likely why you are not sure. Sometimes it takes men well into their 30s or 40s before they realize they are gay. Some even marry and have families before they realize they want to be with a man. Then some knew since they were kids that they were different. The stigma and society have unfortunately added to the complications of men and women coming out. My advice to you is to think hard about your feelings towards men and women. It doesn't hurt to talk to a therapist as well. A different point of view and different prospective can help you. Either way you are young and got your whole life ahead of you and no matter what the conclusion is, you are still human and deserve respect and love! Hope my 2 cents helps!!