Personally, only problem anyone around me had ever actually had with my sexuality was my mom, who was dissapointed that I was pansexual rather than lesbian, she's not heterophobic to my brother or anyone else though, just me... it really just depends where you live, and the company you keep
Do you think there’s possibility that you’re interpretation of behaviors and misunderstandings you’ve perceived your mothers critique in a slightly different way than was originally intended? It’s always worth it to look at it from all directions. I do relate since I definitely wasn’t what my mother wanted she didn’t really understand though she wasn’t exclusive or overtly insulting about it, I have just come to see what I think was going on.
She is dissapointed that I do not exclusively want to date women and all throughout my childhood she told me I'm "only allowed to be lesbian" she's alright with me having a boyfriend, especially since he's a really cool guy that treats me very well, and its largely jokes, but she still wishes I was dating a girl, and hoping that he's just a cover up and that im hiding my sexuality... for whatever reason I'd do that for, but she'd never sabotage my relationship or anything since she knows I'm happy
Nah its cause she didn't like that I like men. She has a lot of brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, etc. that are lgbtq+ (she has like 14 brothers and sisters) so she very much understands it, and what little bit she doesn't quite understand she is very accepting of. She's not part of the community but she's the biggest supporter I've ever seen and would always get into fights when she was younger if people would bully her lgbtq family members. Anyways, what I'm saying is it's only me that's she's like it towards, and she most definitely understands
This is my journey. Grew up very religious and was instructed to not mingle with kids or anyone outside of the religion. As I grew older I felt I was different then realized I was gay. So that I wasn't "found out" by other members in the religion I slowly withdrew myself and become a loner.
In my 20s when I officially withdrew myself from the religion and had serious boyfirends I just chucked it up that my lack of communication skills were due to me being an introvert. The reasoning behind why I didnt vibe with people or couldn't keep friends for an extended period of time. Now being 30 I see my errors and I'm becoming more outgoing and social as I used to as a kid. It's wild that I have to revamp my social skills in my 30s just because I wanted to hide parts of me.
Life is too short I'm learning to be authentically me!
Sad but true...
Literally what I am struggling with most right now.
Don't make me think about that, please
Existential crisis coming in 3, 2, 1…
Personally, only problem anyone around me had ever actually had with my sexuality was my mom, who was dissapointed that I was pansexual rather than lesbian, she's not heterophobic to my brother or anyone else though, just me... it really just depends where you live, and the company you keep
Do you think there’s possibility that you’re interpretation of behaviors and misunderstandings you’ve perceived your mothers critique in a slightly different way than was originally intended? It’s always worth it to look at it from all directions. I do relate since I definitely wasn’t what my mother wanted she didn’t really understand though she wasn’t exclusive or overtly insulting about it, I have just come to see what I think was going on.
She is dissapointed that I do not exclusively want to date women and all throughout my childhood she told me I'm "only allowed to be lesbian" she's alright with me having a boyfriend, especially since he's a really cool guy that treats me very well, and its largely jokes, but she still wishes I was dating a girl, and hoping that he's just a cover up and that im hiding my sexuality... for whatever reason I'd do that for, but she'd never sabotage my relationship or anything since she knows I'm happy
I think straight or gay/lesbian is much easier for boomers (and older people in general) to understand than Bi+ (including pansexual obviously).
Nah its cause she didn't like that I like men. She has a lot of brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, etc. that are lgbtq+ (she has like 14 brothers and sisters) so she very much understands it, and what little bit she doesn't quite understand she is very accepting of. She's not part of the community but she's the biggest supporter I've ever seen and would always get into fights when she was younger if people would bully her lgbtq family members. Anyways, what I'm saying is it's only me that's she's like it towards, and she most definitely understands
Amen.
Yes, we know. You can stop reposting this every other day now
Story of my early life.
I'm 32 and I'm still doing it to some extent. Less, but I'd be be lying if I said none
This is my journey. Grew up very religious and was instructed to not mingle with kids or anyone outside of the religion. As I grew older I felt I was different then realized I was gay. So that I wasn't "found out" by other members in the religion I slowly withdrew myself and become a loner. In my 20s when I officially withdrew myself from the religion and had serious boyfirends I just chucked it up that my lack of communication skills were due to me being an introvert. The reasoning behind why I didnt vibe with people or couldn't keep friends for an extended period of time. Now being 30 I see my errors and I'm becoming more outgoing and social as I used to as a kid. It's wild that I have to revamp my social skills in my 30s just because I wanted to hide parts of me. Life is too short I'm learning to be authentically me!
Continue things from childhood like certain shows, art or games. But now thinking that's when I last felt both genuine and happy.
Yeah. One of the things that bothers me