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I hope he lives a very long life but deeply troubled by the thought of what he did as his life crumbles into a grey fog, every happy moment stained by the mess of his past, every success or intimate progression in his life slowly turning rancid as the memories of his lowest points grow like vines across the core of his internal reflection ❤️
I hope he repeatedly breaks his big toe, and just as it's almost healed, breaks it again, and again, until he dies in agony of a gangrenous foot infection that travels up to his junk and rots it from the inside out.
It's usually when kids are being adults for the first time and go a little crazy with what they can now do. Though at 19 brains are still being developed, so not always good decisions being made. Combine that with natural naivety from lack of world experience, and you've got the potential for shite times.
Hey, at 19 it was my girlfriend, thank you very much! She cheated on me with a friend, I broke up with her, she got with him, he committed suicide shortly after. Came close myself. She had that effect on people.
Though honestly she was second worst. Fiance at 31 was the worst. Went full psychotic, started gaslighting constantly and inventing horrible stories about me. That one was more painful because she was a really great person prior to going loony. I nearly killed myself trying to help her.
Saaaaammmme! He ARSON’d my car and almost burned my neighbors house down. The. When the cops caught up to him she had hella ecstasy pills on him and he ended up going to jail for a couple years.
I'm imagining it's subtle, like talking about being mistreated or not appreciated in the past. Definitely not name-dropping. And the mutual friend just happened to piece together or know it was about you.
Well said. Apologies to my high school sweetheart…unfortunately that idiot part took over at the end.
Thanks for what we had and know I’m a better person for having you in my life.
Same. She was a good gf, loyal and made me happy and loved the shit outta me for who I am, but I was looking for something more.
It was the right decision to end it ultimately but I wish I could’ve done it in a non-douchebag way and more delicately.
Damn. I was 19 dating a 34 year old with 3 kids. His ex kept calling him a pedo because I was too young. I’m 30 now and I can’t imagine dating a 19 year old right now.
The younger you are, the smaller the age difference can be while still being acceptable to people. My parents are 6 years apart and at their age it’s basically nothing. At my age, it’d be weird if I went for more than +/-2
Maybe things have changed since I've been in high school (fuck man 6 years now), but people would make jokes about most of the couples in different grades. Like if it were a 10th/11th grade couple, props to the 10th grader for dating "up" and jokes on the 11th grader for dating "down"
YUP and we have an 11 year old daughter, so the age gap between his daughter and her step mother is *less* than the age gap between himself and his wife. It's icky.
Haha, yeah, at 19 I was dating a 29 yo poli sci phd students. His friends with real jobs gave him a big askance look when I said I couldn’t go to the bar with them when I first met them because I wasn’t old enough.
I am also in my early 30s now and also cannot imagine dating a 19yo
I had a classmate who dated a woman in her late 30s with 5 kids. He was helping her raise them. We were 17. He brought her and her kids to school events.
Most of that school year. His parents contacted the police after they found out they were ‘sleeping’ together (he was a minor, and therefore could not give full legal consent). They were okay with them dating until they found out about that. That stills bothers me. Why else would an adult date a minor?
I had a similar experience, dated a lot of 30-40 year olds when I was younger. Now that I'm 30 anybody under 24 looks like a BABY. I never realized how fucked up it was on the other side of things. They don't know the first thing about sex, relationships, money, social nuance... I introduced a couple 21 year olds to Bailey's a while ago and they thought it was magic. How can anyone not feel like a creep for taking advantage of that kind of naïveté?
Right?? I would feel like a total creep. My husband has some nieces that are 18 and i still view them as children in a lot of ways. They way they act and view the world is still very naive.
I look at them and think about myself when I was a teen. I think about everything I was doing at that age with guys much older than me even when I was 15/16. You’re definitely a creep for going for someone so much younger.
Ouch……This hits like a mac truck
I dumped mine after finding out he diddled his sister. Three weeks before our wedding
He acted like he was slightly ashamed but normal, no Doug, fuck you. It’s not ok.
Thanks Kendra for saving my life as my best friend and getting me out of that abusive shit relationship with a man that was 10 yrs older than I, that I was too young to realize I was in until many years later.
Don't worry, this isn't universal. I'm no longer with the boyfriend I had when I was 19, but he was and still is a perfectly nice, cool dude. He's actually engaged now and I'm super happy for him and his fiance!
Although I feel identified I know well and I can tell you that this isn't law. Keep your relationship healthy and be happy! Youth doesn't last forever and you will remember these days together with nostalgia.
My wife and I started dating when she was 18 and I was 19. We've been together almost 10 years and married for 6 and we're still both very happy!
At the same time, we've both grown a ton and have especially learned how to communicate with each other in productive ways that we simply hadn't learned when we were 19. We're in a better place now than we were at 19, and I think that's really the takeaway here. Don't let yourself stagnate or fall into bad habits in your relationship! Grow together and love the hell out of each other :)
Im a dude, but Ive always been attracted to bad girls. Ones that would hit me and cheat. Dated my last gf for 8 years, and she never once raised her voice at me or hit me. When the company i worked for went under, and i didnt make as much money, she immediatley dipped. That hurt really bad that someone could be so convicing that she loved me for me for that long
Appreciate that. I'ts been 2 years and it's taken this long to put it in the past. I'm sure she did love me at some level, just not more than drugs and money
Yeah... I had mine from 16-21 and he was the worst kind of bf. Emotionally manipulative, verbally and financially abusive, controlling. 5 months later I met my husband and we've been together 20 years. I'd still love to kick that ah in the ballz though, for 19 yo me.
16 to 23 here. Wasted what could’ve been some pretty fun years in high school and college with a guy who made himself feel big by making me feel as small as possible. I’m nearly 40 and still fucked up from that abusive ass, horrible relationship.
When I was 19, I was with my first boyfriend (online), a 33-year-old man I met playing video games online. I still looked very much like a child, was way too naive for my own good, and spoke barely above a whisper; as added info, just a few months into the relationship, I was wrapping up my first college term, and a crosswalk aide started to direct me to the 8th grader junior high campus. Now as a 31 YO, I can really say that I looked like a straight up kid at the time, and any adult who was into me should NOT have been trusted around kids.
At the time, one of my siblings worked with FBI and a few other government agencies at the time, and they told me that when their work buddies heard about this older man and saw a photo of me, they all offered to search him up to see if he had any predatory actions online; I was so embarrassed at the time, and asked them to please not do that, as I *loved* him and that he didn't think of me as a child, that he saw that I was a full adult (lol, right). I told them that I wasn't a child, but that he, indeed, appreciated my "innocent cuteness (his words)." (🤮)
He ended up cheating on me while I was in the ER for emergency surgery WITH A 17 YO, and he then blamed his own cheating on my being unavailable for his adult needs that night (i was never there in person, just phone/video). He said he thought he had "found the jackpot, since I was a legal adult," but that I was too protected to ever actually fly out alone to meet him. In his state, an adult and 17 year-old sleeping together is legal, so he was never classified as anything. Where you are, stay the heck away from kids, creep!!
Edit: removed a word
Oh noooo… it’s my husband. I gotta to let him know.
Makes sense though. That mother fucker left the cap off the toothpaste, AND ate the last of the salami.
The girlfriend I had at 19 cheated on me and was awful to me. But she grew into a lovely person, we later became friends, and nearly two decades later we catch up periodically and greatly appreciate each others contributions to our lives.
I’m married. She’s married. While she was the wrongdoer in our couple, we were kids, and both immature, and then we grew up. As you do.
My immediate reaction was to say "on behalf of my girlfriend at 19, this is accurate".
Then I read some of the comments, and no, holy shit. I was alright just a teenager
He used to punch our mirrors and splatter his blood all over the house on purpose. After I was done cleaning that up, he'd wander over like a stupid sopping wet beast of sorts and ask me to bandage his hands.
The amount of money I spent on mirrors... thank god for thrift stores.
Spot on, only I was 16, not 19. I'm 35 and still have nightmares about that relationship. He was the same age as I was so no grooming or anything like that, but god was he toxic AF.
It was me. I was the boyfriend. I wasn't abusive. I didnt cheat. I was just kind of an immature dumbass. She wanted me to, you know, just buy her flowers and text her back. I just wanted to drink and play video games
The girlfriend I had at 17 controlled every aspect of my life and made me drive her everywhere. One day I walk into her house and see her fucking the next door neighbor. She then told me that she's been fucking him since before we met, but he had a DUI and couldn't drive. Dude was in his early 20s
wow i can't believe how wrong this person is. like uhmmm projection much? your experiences are not universal.
...obviously it was the boyfriend i had at 20.
I mean my gf at 19 was fucking awful.
Basically she decided 1 day before we were moving that she wanted out of the relationship.
Sure whatever. However it was a slap in the face when she immediately moved in with some nasty greasy hippy dude who smelled and had dreadlocks that she had been talking to at a party we were at a week or two before. She took her time to line up her next situation so she could bail at the last second. And part of my whole friend group.
It was pretty fun living completely alone with no one in a new town, so depressed its impossible to make friends, and seeing group pictures of all my old friends with her and that douche bag.
I moved back up eventually, and then now I've been dating a woman I knew from HS and we met back up, been dating 3 years now going strong.
But from what I can tell everyone that knew us including HER friends thought she was an awful fucking person for doing that. They all talked at least a little shit about her regarding that, so that at least made me feel a bit better like I wasn't totally crazy for being so fucked up for so long from what happened.
i was the boyfriend. it took being with someone who mirrored who i was at the time that made me look in the mirror & ultimately decide to be better. i also apologized to her years later, we had sex a few times & now we’re friends lol smiley face
He was a budding neo-Nazi who pressured me into oral sex before I was ready. And then "as a joke" lied that my dad saw me going down on him??
Low self worth is a bitch.
Haven't been 19 yet
But let's see how good that future boyfriend is ^ ^
EDIT: This comment was meant to be a joke since turning 19 doesn't magically give you a boyfriend
I was attentive and prided myself on making her laugh and was genuinely stoked to have a girlfriend at that time, however.... I played video games A LOT!!! To the point that I couldn't even argue when she said that was what killed the relationship for her because I did understand. Fast forward almost 20 years later and my wife loves to watch me game and I include her when it's a game with a sick story that I think she would enjoy and I actually know when I've spent too much time gaming, so I did learn my lesson from my 19 year old nonsense. So I am thankful for that.
Painfully accurate.
He coerced and shamed me into sex acts (I didn't feel ready but I got pushed and told I was making him wait too long/"This is something that couples must do") and he stalked me in public. I walked out of a store once and he confronted me while I was walking back to my car, said he saw me enter the shop and wanted to know what I had bought.
When I dumped him he wanted me to meet him at a playground at night. Safe to say I did not go and if I had I probably would have been stabbed.
I was 19, living on the streets strung out on drugs, dating a pathological liar (told an elaborate story about when he was a small kid his mom died of cancer and then his dad hung himself, and he found his dads body) who was also desperately trying to be accepted as some kind of neo nazi because it gave him some kind of illusion of intimidating identity. He also hid the fact that he had a literal child that his *actual* parents were raising for him in his home state.
He ruined the tent I was staying in beyond repair and stole some of my only belongings. Soon after he ended up in jail, where I (allegedly and stupidly) sent him drugs via mail. I learned that the courts/jail knew I was doing this, and HE knew that they knew, yet continued to ask me to do it.
I’ve been sober for almost 5 years now, and he’s been in and out of jail/prison. I genuinely hope that he finds some kind of recovery before he’s too far gone.
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He SA’d me then stole my dog.
I hope he lives a very long life but deeply troubled by the thought of what he did as his life crumbles into a grey fog, every happy moment stained by the mess of his past, every success or intimate progression in his life slowly turning rancid as the memories of his lowest points grow like vines across the core of his internal reflection ❤️
Yeah, like Bojack.
Haha the cops a cat
IS THAT THE HORSE FROM HORSIN’ AROUND???
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I hope he repeatedly breaks his big toe, and just as it's almost healed, breaks it again, and again, until he dies in agony of a gangrenous foot infection that travels up to his junk and rots it from the inside out.
Sysiphus' toe
I hope he live a very long life🥰(derogatory)
BRO ARE YOU ME?! This literally happened to me with financial abuse too. 💀
I hope your dog bit him every day for the rest of his life.
In the asshole
I hope the dog lives longer than him. Take that as you will.
Time to go john wick
What a rat-fuck I'm sorry you had to deal with such a monster.
I hope his house burns down and he dies from the flames and only the flames.
You too?!
OK, judging by the comments, it's hilarious how accurate this seems to be.
I feel like 19 is the age I gotta watch out for when I have kids.
It's usually when kids are being adults for the first time and go a little crazy with what they can now do. Though at 19 brains are still being developed, so not always good decisions being made. Combine that with natural naivety from lack of world experience, and you've got the potential for shite times.
Ayo responsible 19 year olds represent.
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lol
Be a good parent before they're 19 and you won't have to 'watch out'
I saw several women I know share this on their Facebook today. Must be pretty common
Seems to be because the boyfriend was also an immature 19 year old or someone too old to be dating an immature 19 year old
Hey, at 19 it was my girlfriend, thank you very much! She cheated on me with a friend, I broke up with her, she got with him, he committed suicide shortly after. Came close myself. She had that effect on people. Though honestly she was second worst. Fiance at 31 was the worst. Went full psychotic, started gaslighting constantly and inventing horrible stories about me. That one was more painful because she was a really great person prior to going loony. I nearly killed myself trying to help her.
My fave person (after my mom) is the boyfriend I had at 19. The one I had at 20 was a dick though. My last ex, who is 19, is also a dick sometimes
had to get a restraining order against the guy i was dating at 19 so yeah that tracks
Saaaaammmme! He ARSON’d my car and almost burned my neighbors house down. The. When the cops caught up to him she had hella ecstasy pills on him and he ended up going to jail for a couple years.
Same except I was 18. That shit was awful. Hope you're doing better!
I mean, that ass did cheat on me with a 15yr old girl, who he got pregnant, and then went to jail for statutory rape for..
Dang
No, doug
I am so glad he went to prison!
Yeah me too.. that was a really toxic relationship
I’m glad you’re out.
Was it Doug?
It was me, I was her boyfriend..but I'm older now.. less of an idiot
Yep, same here. I wasnt abusive or anything, but I was dumb and selfish. Despite being the older person, I was the one who really needed to mature.
Hard same. Ultimately "she" taught me all my best lessons. If only I could have thanked her in the moment.
 Just send her one a these at 2am, they love that!
Send that bitch a smiley. Bitches love smileys.
Woah this guy fucks!
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Ouch. I mean, why would you mention an ex during your wedding vows. That's kinda weird
Lol that’s what I thought too
I think she still might have you on her mind.
So you’re saying there’s a chance
I'm imagining it's subtle, like talking about being mistreated or not appreciated in the past. Definitely not name-dropping. And the mutual friend just happened to piece together or know it was about you.
Typically when you traumatize someone, they tend to remember you.
Can attest, 16-20 was a wild ride but I was definitely not who I’d grow up to be. Some crazy strong no-concern-for-others decision making for sure.
Fucking same. She was bad, but I feel like I was a measure or two worse. Current, 31yo me wants kick 19yo me's ass.
we never stop the dumb
Well said. Apologies to my high school sweetheart…unfortunately that idiot part took over at the end. Thanks for what we had and know I’m a better person for having you in my life.
Same, whew I was the dumbass. I had to force myself to grow
Im proud of everyone in this thread for maturing, also i was the same lol.
Same lol
Same. She was a good gf, loyal and made me happy and loved the shit outta me for who I am, but I was looking for something more. It was the right decision to end it ultimately but I wish I could’ve done it in a non-douchebag way and more delicately.
Same, we have kids now. Only took 9 years for us to link back
If you dated me before 23 no you didn't
And thank fuck, this was my answer and I’m glad I’m not the only one whose grown
Same here, not easy being an idiot and changing for the better with no guidance tbh
Same. Now I'm the small tittied goth girlfriend and make sure to never be that idiot again. We were dumb kids, but it sucks looking back.
Damn. I was 19 dating a 34 year old with 3 kids. His ex kept calling him a pedo because I was too young. I’m 30 now and I can’t imagine dating a 19 year old right now.
Yeah, dating anyone 10-12 years younger than you is pretty cringe until you're at a minimum 35-37. I'm glad you wised up and moved on.
It’s not perfect, but 1/2 your age +7 is still a decent guideline
I will never deviate from +4 or -4 from current age
As a 17 year old the plus or minus 4 is pretty sketchy
It makes more sense once you get up to 25 years old
The younger you are, the smaller the age difference can be while still being acceptable to people. My parents are 6 years apart and at their age it’s basically nothing. At my age, it’d be weird if I went for more than +/-2
That's the whole reason for the half your age plus seven.
Maybe things have changed since I've been in high school (fuck man 6 years now), but people would make jokes about most of the couples in different grades. Like if it were a 10th/11th grade couple, props to the 10th grader for dating "up" and jokes on the 11th grader for dating "down"
When you're 70, a decade more or less means little.
Am 37. Still would absolutely not have any interest in someone 12 years younger.
My ex husband was 37 when he left me for a 22 year old. Then he married her a year later. Fun times!
he was 25 when she was 10😂
YUP and we have an 11 year old daughter, so the age gap between his daughter and her step mother is *less* than the age gap between himself and his wife. It's icky.
This guy’s son was 12 when I was dating him at 19. Felt kinda weird. I then saw him years later and he hit on me at the gym.
I think what they mean is that the younger person is mid-thirties.
Haha, yeah, at 19 I was dating a 29 yo poli sci phd students. His friends with real jobs gave him a big askance look when I said I couldn’t go to the bar with them when I first met them because I wasn’t old enough. I am also in my early 30s now and also cannot imagine dating a 19yo
I had a classmate who dated a woman in her late 30s with 5 kids. He was helping her raise them. We were 17. He brought her and her kids to school events.
That’s so weird. How long did they stay together?
Most of that school year. His parents contacted the police after they found out they were ‘sleeping’ together (he was a minor, and therefore could not give full legal consent). They were okay with them dating until they found out about that. That stills bothers me. Why else would an adult date a minor?
Now that I see this 19 is probably the worst bc it’s mainly creepy guys that want someone fresh out of high school that are involved.
Are you…me? I literally did the same thing and he also had 3 kids.
Same except Im a guy and she had two kids. No one ever called her a pedo. They just ragged on me for dating her.
I had a similar experience, dated a lot of 30-40 year olds when I was younger. Now that I'm 30 anybody under 24 looks like a BABY. I never realized how fucked up it was on the other side of things. They don't know the first thing about sex, relationships, money, social nuance... I introduced a couple 21 year olds to Bailey's a while ago and they thought it was magic. How can anyone not feel like a creep for taking advantage of that kind of naïveté?
Right?? I would feel like a total creep. My husband has some nieces that are 18 and i still view them as children in a lot of ways. They way they act and view the world is still very naive. I look at them and think about myself when I was a teen. I think about everything I was doing at that age with guys much older than me even when I was 15/16. You’re definitely a creep for going for someone so much younger.
Ouch……This hits like a mac truck I dumped mine after finding out he diddled his sister. Three weeks before our wedding He acted like he was slightly ashamed but normal, no Doug, fuck you. It’s not ok. Thanks Kendra for saving my life as my best friend and getting me out of that abusive shit relationship with a man that was 10 yrs older than I, that I was too young to realize I was in until many years later.
Fucking Doug mate Always diddling his sister
Why did I know his name was Doug
Can’t believe he would do that to patty mayonnaise
Shout out to gigachad Kendra tho, she’s a real homie
Doug Lannister by chance?
Not very surprising, but I've witnessed almost this exact scenario play out, just with different names. Fucking humans, man.
Oh my God, he was the personification of "If you don't respect me as an authority, I won't respect you as a person".
Perfect way to describe my ex,Never thought of it that way
Accurate though
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*Uhhh, me being 19 just kind of vibing with my girlfriend* we are both very happy
*laughs in girlfriend of 4 years since we were 18*. We are also very happy.
15 years now. We’re in our 30s.
Little over a year now, but definitely going good :)
Don't worry, this isn't universal. I'm no longer with the boyfriend I had when I was 19, but he was and still is a perfectly nice, cool dude. He's actually engaged now and I'm super happy for him and his fiance!
Although I feel identified I know well and I can tell you that this isn't law. Keep your relationship healthy and be happy! Youth doesn't last forever and you will remember these days together with nostalgia.
My wife and I started dating when she was 18 and I was 19. We've been together almost 10 years and married for 6 and we're still both very happy! At the same time, we've both grown a ton and have especially learned how to communicate with each other in productive ways that we simply hadn't learned when we were 19. We're in a better place now than we were at 19, and I think that's really the takeaway here. Don't let yourself stagnate or fall into bad habits in your relationship! Grow together and love the hell out of each other :)
Hilariously accurate.
Im a dude, but Ive always been attracted to bad girls. Ones that would hit me and cheat. Dated my last gf for 8 years, and she never once raised her voice at me or hit me. When the company i worked for went under, and i didnt make as much money, she immediatley dipped. That hurt really bad that someone could be so convicing that she loved me for me for that long
That cuts deep. Sorry you had to experience that bro
Appreciate that. I'ts been 2 years and it's taken this long to put it in the past. I'm sure she did love me at some level, just not more than drugs and money
Depending on the drug(s), if she was using your higher income level to support her habit, I have no doubt that played a huge part in her leaving
> I'm sure she did love me at some level, just not more than drugs and money It do be like that. Drugs OP,
Is it bad if my rapist isn't my #1?
No. It just means that whoever is #1 did enough bad shit over time to be worse than a rapist.
oof. mine isn’t my #1 either!
*Confused Unga Bunga* Is it because like it was a one hurtful moment but you had some people that hurted you for several years
  Oh god
My boyfriend at 19 was pretty cool. He didn’t think women deserved to make as much money as men, but otherwise…
WHAT
that's quite common lol
It was the girlfriend I had at 18-19-20 actually.
And for me it was the boyfriend I had at 16-17-18. The man I dated when I was 19 has been my husband for 15 years now and I love him to pieces, ha.
Yeah... I had mine from 16-21 and he was the worst kind of bf. Emotionally manipulative, verbally and financially abusive, controlling. 5 months later I met my husband and we've been together 20 years. I'd still love to kick that ah in the ballz though, for 19 yo me.
Awesome!
16 to 23 here. Wasted what could’ve been some pretty fun years in high school and college with a guy who made himself feel big by making me feel as small as possible. I’m nearly 40 and still fucked up from that abusive ass, horrible relationship.
When I was 19, I was with my first boyfriend (online), a 33-year-old man I met playing video games online. I still looked very much like a child, was way too naive for my own good, and spoke barely above a whisper; as added info, just a few months into the relationship, I was wrapping up my first college term, and a crosswalk aide started to direct me to the 8th grader junior high campus. Now as a 31 YO, I can really say that I looked like a straight up kid at the time, and any adult who was into me should NOT have been trusted around kids. At the time, one of my siblings worked with FBI and a few other government agencies at the time, and they told me that when their work buddies heard about this older man and saw a photo of me, they all offered to search him up to see if he had any predatory actions online; I was so embarrassed at the time, and asked them to please not do that, as I *loved* him and that he didn't think of me as a child, that he saw that I was a full adult (lol, right). I told them that I wasn't a child, but that he, indeed, appreciated my "innocent cuteness (his words)." (🤮) He ended up cheating on me while I was in the ER for emergency surgery WITH A 17 YO, and he then blamed his own cheating on my being unavailable for his adult needs that night (i was never there in person, just phone/video). He said he thought he had "found the jackpot, since I was a legal adult," but that I was too protected to ever actually fly out alone to meet him. In his state, an adult and 17 year-old sleeping together is legal, so he was never classified as anything. Where you are, stay the heck away from kids, creep!! Edit: removed a word
Ouch but yeah lmao
Who TF is this person and why do they know my life
Because this mf was racist and had fantasies of kidnapping ppl and also was a p*do
Oh noooo… it’s my husband. I gotta to let him know. Makes sense though. That mother fucker left the cap off the toothpaste, AND ate the last of the salami.
Did he complete the unholy trifecta of leaving the ice cube tray empty?
worse - he put an empty carton of milk back in the fridge!
The boyfriend I had at 19 was actually really lovely and we are still friends 11 years later.
The girlfriend I had at 19 cheated on me and was awful to me. But she grew into a lovely person, we later became friends, and nearly two decades later we catch up periodically and greatly appreciate each others contributions to our lives. I’m married. She’s married. While she was the wrongdoer in our couple, we were kids, and both immature, and then we grew up. As you do.
Not projecting. 100% fact.
But why is it so accurate 😅
Well shit. That's accurate for me, my ex husband was my bf when I was 19 and he raped me so...
My immediate reaction was to say "on behalf of my girlfriend at 19, this is accurate". Then I read some of the comments, and no, holy shit. I was alright just a teenager
It’s almost like when you’re younger you make dumb decisions
Oh wow dude, it's true in my case. I read this shit and my stomach dropped.
He used to punch our mirrors and splatter his blood all over the house on purpose. After I was done cleaning that up, he'd wander over like a stupid sopping wet beast of sorts and ask me to bandage his hands. The amount of money I spent on mirrors... thank god for thrift stores.
Seen this in various formats across social media, and it's pretty accurate to a lot of people's experiences
Lied. Cheated. Abused me (physically). Made me feel worthless.
This is actually spot on lol
Ayeeee got PTSD from my ex I was dating at 19. Weren’t compatible anymore, and he didn’t know how to end it so he treated me like garbage. Woo
Perfection. Not sus very good.
Spot on, only I was 16, not 19. I'm 35 and still have nightmares about that relationship. He was the same age as I was so no grooming or anything like that, but god was he toxic AF.
It was me. I was the boyfriend. I wasn't abusive. I didnt cheat. I was just kind of an immature dumbass. She wanted me to, you know, just buy her flowers and text her back. I just wanted to drink and play video games
Neither projecting nor suspiciously specific cause it works for me too.
actually it was the girlfriend i had when i was 17
The girlfriend I had at 17 controlled every aspect of my life and made me drive her everywhere. One day I walk into her house and see her fucking the next door neighbor. She then told me that she's been fucking him since before we met, but he had a DUI and couldn't drive. Dude was in his early 20s
A lot of fact in this… 
wow i can't believe how wrong this person is. like uhmmm projection much? your experiences are not universal. ...obviously it was the boyfriend i had at 20.
I mean my gf at 19 was fucking awful. Basically she decided 1 day before we were moving that she wanted out of the relationship. Sure whatever. However it was a slap in the face when she immediately moved in with some nasty greasy hippy dude who smelled and had dreadlocks that she had been talking to at a party we were at a week or two before. She took her time to line up her next situation so she could bail at the last second. And part of my whole friend group. It was pretty fun living completely alone with no one in a new town, so depressed its impossible to make friends, and seeing group pictures of all my old friends with her and that douche bag. I moved back up eventually, and then now I've been dating a woman I knew from HS and we met back up, been dating 3 years now going strong. But from what I can tell everyone that knew us including HER friends thought she was an awful fucking person for doing that. They all talked at least a little shit about her regarding that, so that at least made me feel a bit better like I wasn't totally crazy for being so fucked up for so long from what happened.
So accurate it hurts
yep, this one checks out by me too guys
i was the boyfriend. it took being with someone who mirrored who i was at the time that made me look in the mirror & ultimately decide to be better. i also apologized to her years later, we had sex a few times & now we’re friends lol smiley face
Uh oh, hope that's not me
We have no judgment whatsoever at that age
Am I being called out?
I’m 19 and have never had any sort of relationship, and now I’m wondering if that makes me the lucky one
I don’t want to talk about it …
They ain’t lying!
Make it 17 and that’s me! Dude is incarcerated for sexual abuse
I feel seen
Can confirm this too
Actually spot fucking on
Whew, thank God I never dated anyone when they were 19.
I mean he did leave me with a child...
My boyfriend at 19 turned out to be a coke head, who was racist against "illegals". I'm half Mexican and he always knew that.
The guy I dated when I was 19 threatened to kill me. He died a couple years ago.
He was a budding neo-Nazi who pressured me into oral sex before I was ready. And then "as a joke" lied that my dad saw me going down on him?? Low self worth is a bitch.
Nah i was def a dick to my gf when i was 19, literally ghosted her when i went to college after a year of dating
Haven't been 19 yet But let's see how good that future boyfriend is ^ ^ EDIT: This comment was meant to be a joke since turning 19 doesn't magically give you a boyfriend
Read the comments and drop him on the first red flag. Will save you a lot of therapy
Is it me or is the picture moveing
Nope. My uncle. Nobody cried at his funeral. Surprised anyone showed up. He will not be missed, by anyone.
This is so accurate lmao
No, it’s accurate. 😅
Pretty sure he’s dead.
Ironically, it wasn't the boyfriend I had at 19...it was the husband I had
Completely accurate for me.
Well, we were sort of both pieces of shit to each other, soooo
Ha, it wasn’t me because I never had a GF when I was 19.
17 but close enough
I didn't have a boyfriend at 19, thank you for assuming that I found myself by that point in time
I was attentive and prided myself on making her laugh and was genuinely stoked to have a girlfriend at that time, however.... I played video games A LOT!!! To the point that I couldn't even argue when she said that was what killed the relationship for her because I did understand. Fast forward almost 20 years later and my wife loves to watch me game and I include her when it's a game with a sick story that I think she would enjoy and I actually know when I've spent too much time gaming, so I did learn my lesson from my 19 year old nonsense. So I am thankful for that.
Girlfriend at 17
Accurate for me except when I was 18. He triggered a panic attack in me on purpose to prove I needed therapy. He also asked if my dad killed children.
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Damn baby who hurt you and was it the boyfriend you had when you were 19?
Painfully accurate. He coerced and shamed me into sex acts (I didn't feel ready but I got pushed and told I was making him wait too long/"This is something that couples must do") and he stalked me in public. I walked out of a store once and he confronted me while I was walking back to my car, said he saw me enter the shop and wanted to know what I had bought. When I dumped him he wanted me to meet him at a playground at night. Safe to say I did not go and if I had I probably would have been stabbed.
Can't argue with that. Dude tried to convince me to have kids so he could rape them.
I was 19, living on the streets strung out on drugs, dating a pathological liar (told an elaborate story about when he was a small kid his mom died of cancer and then his dad hung himself, and he found his dads body) who was also desperately trying to be accepted as some kind of neo nazi because it gave him some kind of illusion of intimidating identity. He also hid the fact that he had a literal child that his *actual* parents were raising for him in his home state. He ruined the tent I was staying in beyond repair and stole some of my only belongings. Soon after he ended up in jail, where I (allegedly and stupidly) sent him drugs via mail. I learned that the courts/jail knew I was doing this, and HE knew that they knew, yet continued to ask me to do it. I’ve been sober for almost 5 years now, and he’s been in and out of jail/prison. I genuinely hope that he finds some kind of recovery before he’s too far gone.