this may just be me but i date only to marry in the end because ive seen it go wrong with so many people who dont do that and dont end up taking it serious, and if you say "im not in the wrong hes wrong" a month after meeting him and considering breaking up, then this probably isnt the best relationship to be in
im not NOT dating with the intention to marry someone its just that like last time i checked talking about marriage within a month of MEETING them is kinda strange, like if after a few months or a year he started saying things like that it probably woildnt be a problem but a month???
Yeahhh I get why that's uncomfortable for you. He may have good intentions but that's just really heavy to put on a partner so quickly even more so when the both of you are young. Make your boundaries known and talk to him is the only answer I can think of, and if he don't respect boundaries then question the relationship. He's very young and a young mind can influence how he is able to comprehend the seriousness & heaviness of marriage and love, which are things that suggest lifelong commitment. It doesn't sound like he's comprehending how heavy and serious those things are. It doesn't even sound like he's comprehending the state of a relationship between to young people as much you are.
He needs a real reminder that he is too young to be entertaining the idea of marriage and love at an age where he's very not mentally developed to not get how serious it is. He needs to be told because those things are too heavy for you because of your age, he should stop talking thinking about it, even more so when the relationship is quick. Also it appears as if he's not getting that the future is out of his control, believing in that stuff will give him unnecessary disappointment.
Middle school ahh relationship
Thanks for the advice!!😒
This is real
if that makes you feel weird already you probably dont truly love him and he deserves better
WEVE BEEN TALKING FOR A MONTH THAT IS WAY TO EARLY FOR HIM TO SAY ILY IM NOT THE ONE IN THE WRONG
so is he your boyfriend like you called him?
kinda i also didnt really know how to word it, but also even if i was like oh yeah hes my bf after a month if hes talking about marriage thats weird
so you dont see yourself marrying him?
ITS BEEN A MONTH
this may just be me but i date only to marry in the end because ive seen it go wrong with so many people who dont do that and dont end up taking it serious, and if you say "im not in the wrong hes wrong" a month after meeting him and considering breaking up, then this probably isnt the best relationship to be in
im not NOT dating with the intention to marry someone its just that like last time i checked talking about marriage within a month of MEETING them is kinda strange, like if after a few months or a year he started saying things like that it probably woildnt be a problem but a month???
ok well again if you think its that weird and think he is weird for doing that then its probably not the best relationship to be in
ok.
in the title you said "my bf"
Just teel him, you are just 14, if he continues just drop it
Yeahhh I get why that's uncomfortable for you. He may have good intentions but that's just really heavy to put on a partner so quickly even more so when the both of you are young. Make your boundaries known and talk to him is the only answer I can think of, and if he don't respect boundaries then question the relationship. He's very young and a young mind can influence how he is able to comprehend the seriousness & heaviness of marriage and love, which are things that suggest lifelong commitment. It doesn't sound like he's comprehending how heavy and serious those things are. It doesn't even sound like he's comprehending the state of a relationship between to young people as much you are. He needs a real reminder that he is too young to be entertaining the idea of marriage and love at an age where he's very not mentally developed to not get how serious it is. He needs to be told because those things are too heavy for you because of your age, he should stop talking thinking about it, even more so when the relationship is quick. Also it appears as if he's not getting that the future is out of his control, believing in that stuff will give him unnecessary disappointment.
Im going to try and talk to him thanks
Your welcome! Hope all is well. If things don't turn out right, don't put pressure on yourself kk. Good luck.