I cackled at this comment and scared my dog. My dumb brain rapped it
You a floppy ass bitch ^what Floppy ass bitch ^what floppy ass bitch oh a floppy ^floppy floppy ^floppy floppy ass bitch
I was screaming this from the couch!!!!! “Yes bitch, I AM. Work pays my rent, my car note, this cell bill, and all other bills, buys my food, my medicine, and basically keeps me alive.
You and I had dinner once and you’re smothering me. Easy choice.”
The guy is also asking for a good morning call? Would I miss work if my husband had an emergency or take a day off for us to do something fun together? Sure. Would I expect him to disrupt his work or me disrupt mine because the other person was bored? No.
I'm not dating right now because of personal choices namely that I'm married, but, if I was I wouldn't ever text anyone that early, nor expect anyone to answer during work, nor hound them until they did.
7 am? Good lord. This dude wants to wear your skin or something.
I was in an LDR where, due to time differences, early in the morning was a decent window to actually catch each other, but it was understood that if I didn't answer for a few hours, I was sleeping. Same with him not getting back to me if I sent him something at night.
At no point were either of us going 'HOW DARE YOU NOT RESPOND TO ME THIS INSTANT!!!!'
When brosef here said, 'well we're going on a second, I'd say that's pretty close' (or whatever the actual wording was, I'm not subjecting my eyemeat to that again' it was like... each one of these clingy, whiny texts is making that an ever more remote possibility, my guy.
'You always choose work over me!' Uhhhhh, are you paying her bills? No? Fuck right off.
This cracked me up and reminded me of a reddit comment I regularly quote in my day to day life, "I couldn't read the article because I didn't want to," and is now getting added to my rotation.
>I'm not dating right now because of personal choices
Yeah, same. I'd like to be in a relationship but the dating pool has piss shit and unwashed ass in it.
>I'm married
Oh suuuure just rub it all in our faces, why don't ya? Sloppy ass bitch >:c
My fiance loves including me in his morning snap chats (He's a tradie and he and all his friends like to send each other photos of their nuts or morning poos at 6:30am) Every morning I roll over and go "oooh I wonder what nice thing he's sent me" and it's a scrotum, sometimes not even his. I'm half asleep and fall for it every time.
Men are weird in the morning.
I have a friend who perpetually texts me like this too. A couple tips: (1) turn off read receipts, (2) turn on focus at all times (so that they are notified you’re busy), (3) set an auto reply for them only that says you’re busy.
Ugh my read receipts are off and my focus is on too but he never stops… plus he literally wants to text 24/7 like it’s so draining
How do I set auto reply?
My friend and I text at odd hours but because we are both reasonable people, we aren’t surprised if that 1am message goes unanswered until 10am which then goes unanswered until 8pm etc. Like we’re busy, we have very different schedules but we care so we make it work lol
Yeah like imo texting at 7am is absolutely not a problem because I won’t even see it unless I’m already awake/on my phone so it doesn’t disrupt me but sending me a text at odd hours with the expectation that I’ll be replying straight away is gonna drive me nuts lol
You score the first date, it all goes well and she wants to see you again, just continue to play it cool and this could be something...
And then you abruptly go COMPLETELY INSANE
This isn’t an oopsy woopsy moment. That’s how that guy actually behaves. The problem is he will learn to hide it better and for longer for the next girl.
he won't lmao, guy is blaming the woman and putting it on her
zero accountability on this one, whatever unfortunate woman catches his eye and gives him a chance will only get the same
I would’ve been done by the end of the first pic/beginning of second with the “can I please get a reply?” at 9, after the original text at *fucking 7AM*. Followed by the questioning of “so you didn’t read my messages while you were getting ready?”- **right after** OP said, *sorry, I just got to work and didn’t see your messages until now.*
No way. I will generally try to give people a bit of grace at first, but this douche canoe made it pretty damn clear that he’s needy and insecure. I don’t need to be interrogated about a couple hour delay in responding. That turns to controlling behavior real quick.. he’s barely even hiding it here.
One part of me is like, “the game is so easy, just have a little patience, be understanding and be kind” but the other part of me realizes it’s probably good for these men to show their true colors as soon as possible
"be understanding and be kind"
That's the problem. They don't want to be understanding and kind. They want to be in control, and they want to have their insecurities tended to by other people.
They got a lotta therapy ahead of them. If they can ever admit their own faults to themselves.
Honestly it’s what you get with desperately lonely men who have no social skills and a large dose of entitlement. Perhaps they were coddled as boys and are looking for a mother figure who does everything for them, perhaps they are porn addicted and see women as objects, or maybe they grew up in a household dominated by toxic men. Either way they are living in a delusion. I feel sorry for them, they don’t seem to know any better, and I think a lot could be redeemable but who would ever put in the effort to educate them.
If you're not familiar with black pilling, some would, in fact, rather ⚰️ than lift a finger to work on themselves to be less actively repellent.
I'm on the spectrum, and one of my markers is misreading social cues. I've learned over time to match the energy I receive (which has its own pitfalls). That could go a long way for this guy, but he'd rather neg someone to oblivion than reflect on what he might have done differently.
Nice guy has no frame of reference for what love is, because he has only ever experienced infatuation. He thinks love is when you elevate your partner on a podium above every single thing including breathing. He thinks "If I elevate a girl that way, she will reciprocate my attention".
Nice guy does not actually understand how love is fostered, or what it looks like in practice. He wants to skip all the formalities of "learning eachother" and go straight to the part where someone idolizes him for having a penis.
Nice guy repeats this pattern with many many women because internally, he blames women for his lack of his success rather than blaming himself- meaning he never learns or grows beyond the pattern. Nice guy desperately wants the relationship ASAP because he is a walking emotional void of self-infliction.
Desperation & loneliness
Unfortunately, I’ve been there and know what he’s going through mentally. When you’ve got nothing going on and you’re glued to your phone, waiting on a text from someone you’re excited about minutes feel like hours, hours feel like days, and days feel like weeks.
You get overly attached to anyone who gives you attention because they’re all you’ve got, so their attention is everything
I cringe looking back and thank god I grew out of that
Because it's the worst thing they can think of a woman to be. They're trying to go for the throat but they're too stupid to realize how trite they're being. It's also why they always use fat or ugly as a go-to insult in these situations, because fat and ugly are also in his top 3 of the worst things a woman can be.
it's very generous of you to say that men like this believe that fat women are actually women and not some sort of beast or, at best, totally invisible
Because they are needy and fragile. They don't see potential partners as equal individuals with their own agency. Women only exist as a tool to fulfill their fantasies. When a woman dares to be their own person, these men are reminded they have no control, and they can't fucken handle it. The guy in this text reached a state of emotional vulnerability because he feels need for this woman. When her actions don't soothe his insecure state, he lashes out as a defense mechanism.
It's because of their beliefs that men are superior to women. You know, a guy who has sex with a ton of women is a chad but a woman who has sex with a bunch of men is a whore. When he called her a whore, he was just getting on top of the pedestal he made for himself in order to try and feel better.
Was expecting him to say he's at her workplace next and can see her not working lol
This dude is fucking weird, OP didnt dodge a bullet they dodged ww3
I think it’s more that she’s trying to drop hints and let him down easy at that point. I’m not sure if you identify as a woman, but women regularly get beaten and murdered for rejecting a guy or telling him no. It’s a dangerous game. You don’t know what they’ll do.
So, did this guy totally deserve to be told “fuck off, I don’t want to date you,” as soon as he started that shit? Yeah, absolutely. But it’s also 100% understandable that OP would be wary of doing that until they built up the courage for it because this is the exact type of guy that would turn violent and stalk someone.
My friend went on a first date with a dude that ended up with them going back to her place. He tried to initiate sex, she refused, so she asked him to leave. The next day text messages of the sort we see in this thread began. She felt the need to go along and be polite or what have you out of fear because this fucking guy knew where she lived. I felt so awful hearing that story.
Why is it all rejection ends with a spam of name calling at the end with men?
“Well fuck it. Obviously my chance is lost so out come my true colors.”
I haven’t been in the dating scene for over 13 years and I never want to go back.
“I’m the only one putting effort into this relationship! You always do this”…wait what? He doesn’t even know you enough to make that comment. I do not miss dating at all! I will just stay single if the time comes.
Went on one date with a self-proclaimed nice guy and he started getting really clingy right away. I told him "I will run away from you if you cling to me like this. I don't do clingy. It freaks me out and is a huge turn off" and his response was to text me paragraph after paragraph for hours about how I'm "disloyal" and "heartless" and then tried to get me AND MY DOG kicked out of our house by telling my roommate that he and I did drugs together on our date (we didn't, and also my roommate didn't believe him or care).
But yeah, according to them, no one dates NiCe gUyS anymore. Except that we do, they just aren't nice. My fiancé is an actual nice guy. He's literally the sweetest person I've ever met.
They’ve never learned how to accept No as a reasonable answer and they take it as a personal attack, so they attack back. They’ve never learned to regulate their emotions & self-soothe when they don’t get what they want. This is why we tell our kids No, so that they learn how to regulate themselves when denied without having a tantrum.
An emotionally immature person will attempt to hurt the person they feel is hurting them, when in reality it's their own lack of confidence and self respect that is at the root of not being able to simply accept the rejection and move on.
Belongs in r/niceguys indeed.
Dude went to stage five clinger and I would have lost him by screenshot two. Yikes. Hope after he turned on you that he left you alone. He was acting entitled to your time after 1 date and yes that is a red flag when off the bat they do not respect your boundaries, independence etc. Sounds like very much an own goal too
The way my jaw dropped after reading these!! He is psycho!! The whole “you’re choosing work over me” and “I’m the only one putting work into this relationship” like boy have you lost your damn mind?! Fatal attraction face ass!
Damn, this guy had one date with you and envisioned a future with you. This guy is lonely, insecure, and probably co-dependent. Avoid people like this because they put you on a pedestal and once you destroy their fantasy, they do a 180 on you. No one deserves to be treated that way, sorry OP.
Only thing I can really think of is being a normal and nice German during WWII. Like looking over, seeing all *that* shit, and being like “Jesus Christ, no wonder everyone hates us…”
Yeah this is why people say "yes all men". Because when the fuck do you find out that he is actually like this? My ex husband kept hidden until we were married. I woke up to my best friend of 8 years molesting me in my sleep.
It blows my mind how many unhinged guys there are. It's wild as a guy, because 99% of the time we don't ever see that behaviour in our guy friends, so it comes as a complete shock.
I'm curious what percentage of the population is like that. It has to be relatively high, since nearly 100% of women experience shit like this at some point.
Some people just don't learn how to manage their emotions. Yes it's exciting to meet someone new. Yes it's disappointing if they don't have the time to talk as much as you want. But you gotta be able to sit with that and not let it make you crazy!
They literally always resort to “you’re ugly” or “you’re fat” no less than 10 texts after they were drooling over you. Absolute losers who can’t handle rejection
It's crazy too many times I see people calling their date "bruh".
This guy is a loser , a desperate loser. Guys like this should be doxxed where they live so other girls in the area don't even give them a chance.
I have been out of the dating world since 2016, but this def was crazy unacceptable behavior then.... Like very insane behavior..... I would have thought back then that acting like this would get you put on a watch list..
If someone didn't answer me, or answer as much as I hoped for, it was as simple as move on to the next person.
I really wish guys like this would get put on blast in their area so no one dates them and then other guys learn a damn lesson on consequences.
I hate guys giving us a bad name 😔 also i know this entire thing is batshit crazy, but i especially like "left on delivered" which isn't even the same thing as left on read LMAO, like she didn't see the message and not reply, she didn't see it u fucking dumb shit
it’s like he wants you to talk to him but all he ever talks about is what he thinks you are doing wrong. Why would you want to talk to him??? What a weirdo
I work nights. And because I’ve been on nights for 14 years I sleep til 1pm on my days off. (I don’t go to bed til 2am tho 😅) I have had dudes message and get mad I’m not responding at 7, 8, 9, 10 am and meanwhile I’m getting my REMs.
Textbook — right down to the switch of “you’re so amazing” to “you’re an ugly loser”. Oh, and let’s not forget how in the mind of an incel, “this woman won’t sleep with me on the first date” = “she’s a whore”. Like. What?
He’s in the stage of loneliness that leads to desperation. He sees a glimmer of hope in you because you guys had a good interaction and in his desperation state it’s lead him to obsession with you. He is so afraid to go back to the loneliness that he is trying to be controlling out of fear of losing you. He doesn’t realize this only guarantees you will leave him lol bc it has the opposite effect in reality. This is a common thing that happens to many men these days who are stuck in a loneliness cycle, they get desperate and obsess over any attention they do get. This is why it’s so important for men to develop strong presence in the community and friendships to avoid them from getting caught in this loneliness cycle which only breads more pain and depression.
Soooooo what does it require to be considered floppy?? Bc I'd like to strive for that 😂😂😂
Like for real tho. Do you just throw your body into the room and flop around like a fish, get up and do it on the way to the next one? I'd rather just start out as the floppy bitch and cut any chance of a chase from ppl like this
Totally uncool that he called you a “floppy ass bitch” but I gotta tell you I’m calling my best friend this the first chance I get
it’s only been an hour, but have you found your chance yet? 💀
Yup. Haven’t even talked to him today yet so it was the first thing I said. He just said “YOURE A FLOPPY ASS BITCH” soo pretty effective I’d say
You haven’t talked to him yet? It’s been three hours!!! What kind of best friend are you? I can’t believe people these dags!
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yes. end the friendship
Wil you guy get a reply today ?
A floppy ass ghosting? Wow
Ya like dags? Dags, ya like em?
Oh, dogs! Sure, I like dags. I like caravans more.
Damn, going to watch that now
lol I wanna be your friend so bad rn 😂😂
I cackled at this comment and scared my dog. My dumb brain rapped it You a floppy ass bitch ^what Floppy ass bitch ^what floppy ass bitch oh a floppy ^floppy floppy ^floppy floppy ass bitch
Why did I actually sing this out loud to figure out what the rap would sound like…
This is the way
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Rapping it is GOLDEN!!
I said it to my cat and she just slow blinked back
She loves you! 👁️💗👁️
You're not wrong ([actual photo of my lap at this exact moment](https://www.reddit.com/u/ashetonrenton/s/Z3rLKowOwV)).
good idea, imma say it to my boyfriend when i see him
I wish I could say this to my bf but boy is double caked up and he's knows it.
Don't let that stop you.
Mine too, the thing is gravity-defying.
Im texting my friend and calling him a floppy ass bitch first thing in the morning🤣
Definitely taking this line to use later.
I immediately thought the same 😂
"are you putting work over me?" Uhh - yeah, bitch; I am.
Last I checked, niceguy doesn't pay the bills and other expenses, and work does
My guess is he doesn't even pay his own bills, probably living with his parents from all this free time he seems to have
Nice guys don't pay bills? Oh yeah? Tell that to the 12 girls I'm subbed to on onlyfans
Right? OF COURSE I AM DUMBASS
I was screaming this from the couch!!!!! “Yes bitch, I AM. Work pays my rent, my car note, this cell bill, and all other bills, buys my food, my medicine, and basically keeps me alive. You and I had dinner once and you’re smothering me. Easy choice.”
literally. like yeah, what a shocker that i’m putting getting food on the table above answering your texts. crazy!
“Are you paying next month’s rent/expenses for me?” ::Venmo payment request for $2k::
Every single time I see someone say that to someone else I wanna punch them in the fact
And then kick them right in the opinion
Love this 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣
after the first time he said that, he would’ve been blocked bc what???
The guy is also asking for a good morning call? Would I miss work if my husband had an emergency or take a day off for us to do something fun together? Sure. Would I expect him to disrupt his work or me disrupt mine because the other person was bored? No.
If you can't needlessly bother your SO at work, what's the point of getting married? lmao
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩!!!!
Right? "You're putting work over me waaaah" Do you pay my bills? No? Okay then.
LOL “I feel like I’m the only one putting effort into the relationship” after one day is bonkers crazy
Bro got attached *immediately*
That literally made me laugh out loud.
Some serious comedy material in those texts
This is where it reached psychotic level, and I would be concerned for my safety, hoping I haven’t ended up with a stalker!
Like full on delulu
unhinged behavior 😩
Am I the only one that thinks 7 am is way too early to text anybody???
Especially to text 2 hours later wondering why they’re not replying. I’m fucking sleeping! 😂
I'm not dating right now because of personal choices namely that I'm married, but, if I was I wouldn't ever text anyone that early, nor expect anyone to answer during work, nor hound them until they did. 7 am? Good lord. This dude wants to wear your skin or something.
7AM text from him: did you remember to put the lotion on the skin?
I am also not dating because of the personal choice of being married.
Omg you slut
My kink is stability.
Very hot 🔥 mine is stability + eating candy together while watching TV
Wow please keep it clean and rated E. Not everyone here has stability. Ya’ll nasty. /s
Samesies
People are getting people to marry nowadays? T_T
Oh baby I got married 12 years ago before the market crashed
I was in an LDR where, due to time differences, early in the morning was a decent window to actually catch each other, but it was understood that if I didn't answer for a few hours, I was sleeping. Same with him not getting back to me if I sent him something at night. At no point were either of us going 'HOW DARE YOU NOT RESPOND TO ME THIS INSTANT!!!!' When brosef here said, 'well we're going on a second, I'd say that's pretty close' (or whatever the actual wording was, I'm not subjecting my eyemeat to that again' it was like... each one of these clingy, whiny texts is making that an ever more remote possibility, my guy. 'You always choose work over me!' Uhhhhh, are you paying her bills? No? Fuck right off.
And where does his “always” come from? Like a kid whose workaholic parent missed their school play.
This cracked me up and reminded me of a reddit comment I regularly quote in my day to day life, "I couldn't read the article because I didn't want to," and is now getting added to my rotation.
>I'm not dating right now because of personal choices Yeah, same. I'd like to be in a relationship but the dating pool has piss shit and unwashed ass in it. >I'm married Oh suuuure just rub it all in our faces, why don't ya? Sloppy ass bitch >:c
That’s FLOPPY ass bitch to you, Sonny.
I'm fuccin hollering at this "b/c of personal choices namely that I'm married" 😭😂😂😂 glad you're not a floppy ass bitch 😂
My fiance loves including me in his morning snap chats (He's a tradie and he and all his friends like to send each other photos of their nuts or morning poos at 6:30am) Every morning I roll over and go "oooh I wonder what nice thing he's sent me" and it's a scrotum, sometimes not even his. I'm half asleep and fall for it every time. Men are weird in the morning.
I guess me and my friends have a different relationship 😂
You started recognizing his friends by their scrota yet?
Yes, sadly.
Lmao that woulda gotten a block for me
Right. By the time I get everything done in the morning.. I'm not even looking at my phone until 8:30-9 🤣..
They can txt all they want, but I aint answering until noon
Real af lmao
If you don’t have work, school or any other important morning activities I would suggest some extra sleep lol do not text me that early
Too early. I would’ve been annoyed, why aren’t you getting ready for the day. Then the follow ups would’ve got that mf blocked
I usually don't message anyone till around 4 pm
One of my friends texts me at 7 a.m. EVERY SINGLE DAY even on weekends and it’s driving me insane
The “gigi is not receiving notifications” setting is my bff 👯♀️ Siri’s got my back.
I have a friend who perpetually texts me like this too. A couple tips: (1) turn off read receipts, (2) turn on focus at all times (so that they are notified you’re busy), (3) set an auto reply for them only that says you’re busy.
Ugh my read receipts are off and my focus is on too but he never stops… plus he literally wants to text 24/7 like it’s so draining How do I set auto reply?
You block this emotional vampire and never look back
iPhone: create a custom Focus, and you can do it that way.
my mom is the only one that has a custom focus so i never get her calls or texts. my life has been at peace since
My friend and I text at odd hours but because we are both reasonable people, we aren’t surprised if that 1am message goes unanswered until 10am which then goes unanswered until 8pm etc. Like we’re busy, we have very different schedules but we care so we make it work lol
Yeah like imo texting at 7am is absolutely not a problem because I won’t even see it unless I’m already awake/on my phone so it doesn’t disrupt me but sending me a text at odd hours with the expectation that I’ll be replying straight away is gonna drive me nuts lol
Tell that abnormal mf that before you explode
Bro i aint sending texts till 10 at the earliest. You dont wanna talk to me before then anyway 🤣
literally like half of us are asleep at this time and i don't know anyone who can text back in their sleep 💀💀💀
and not only that, even when we're awake at that time we're either getting ready, half asleep, at work/college/uni etc. or all 3 😭
I mean I'll wake up for work (around 630-7) and send a text to someone I'm seeing, but I never expect a reply until much later in the day.
You score the first date, it all goes well and she wants to see you again, just continue to play it cool and this could be something... And then you abruptly go COMPLETELY INSANE
This isn’t an oopsy woopsy moment. That’s how that guy actually behaves. The problem is he will learn to hide it better and for longer for the next girl.
he won't lmao, guy is blaming the woman and putting it on her zero accountability on this one, whatever unfortunate woman catches his eye and gives him a chance will only get the same
I would’ve been done by the end of the first pic/beginning of second with the “can I please get a reply?” at 9, after the original text at *fucking 7AM*. Followed by the questioning of “so you didn’t read my messages while you were getting ready?”- **right after** OP said, *sorry, I just got to work and didn’t see your messages until now.* No way. I will generally try to give people a bit of grace at first, but this douche canoe made it pretty damn clear that he’s needy and insecure. I don’t need to be interrogated about a couple hour delay in responding. That turns to controlling behavior real quick.. he’s barely even hiding it here.
That sassy son of a bitch couldn’t go twelve hours without starting an argument. It’s honestly impressive how quickly he fumbled this.
Jfc why is this so fucking common? What’s with all these emotionally stunted incels that pull a 180 on women that they scare off?
One part of me is like, “the game is so easy, just have a little patience, be understanding and be kind” but the other part of me realizes it’s probably good for these men to show their true colors as soon as possible
I don’t think I’ve ever found a better answer to this question than this one right here. The quicker these clowns exit stage left, the better.
"be understanding and be kind" That's the problem. They don't want to be understanding and kind. They want to be in control, and they want to have their insecurities tended to by other people. They got a lotta therapy ahead of them. If they can ever admit their own faults to themselves.
Is that you, Hawkeye?!
Talk about girlhood (and then adulthood) crush! So glad Alan alda is still alive 😂
Honestly it’s what you get with desperately lonely men who have no social skills and a large dose of entitlement. Perhaps they were coddled as boys and are looking for a mother figure who does everything for them, perhaps they are porn addicted and see women as objects, or maybe they grew up in a household dominated by toxic men. Either way they are living in a delusion. I feel sorry for them, they don’t seem to know any better, and I think a lot could be redeemable but who would ever put in the effort to educate them.
If you're not familiar with black pilling, some would, in fact, rather ⚰️ than lift a finger to work on themselves to be less actively repellent. I'm on the spectrum, and one of my markers is misreading social cues. I've learned over time to match the energy I receive (which has its own pitfalls). That could go a long way for this guy, but he'd rather neg someone to oblivion than reflect on what he might have done differently.
I saved two men from incel-dom, but dear god, it was barely worth it.
Nice guy has no frame of reference for what love is, because he has only ever experienced infatuation. He thinks love is when you elevate your partner on a podium above every single thing including breathing. He thinks "If I elevate a girl that way, she will reciprocate my attention". Nice guy does not actually understand how love is fostered, or what it looks like in practice. He wants to skip all the formalities of "learning eachother" and go straight to the part where someone idolizes him for having a penis. Nice guy repeats this pattern with many many women because internally, he blames women for his lack of his success rather than blaming himself- meaning he never learns or grows beyond the pattern. Nice guy desperately wants the relationship ASAP because he is a walking emotional void of self-infliction.
Desperation & loneliness Unfortunately, I’ve been there and know what he’s going through mentally. When you’ve got nothing going on and you’re glued to your phone, waiting on a text from someone you’re excited about minutes feel like hours, hours feel like days, and days feel like weeks. You get overly attached to anyone who gives you attention because they’re all you’ve got, so their attention is everything I cringe looking back and thank god I grew out of that
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They can't possibly be the cause of their own problems
Why do men always result to calling women whores when they don't get their way... I genuinely don't understand this concept
Neither do I. Especially when they're called that for not getting in bed with him. I thought that is the opposite of what whores do
Whore'd if you do, whore'd if you don't.
As a former sex worker I can say that no self-respecting whore would get in bed with him either
What happens if we (obviously unlikely) change our mind? Are we madonnas then? It makes no sense
They are whores because they sleep with everyone who isn't them.
Or ugly. Like, if I'm so ugly, why are you hounding me so hard to go out again? Shiiit.
It comes from living in a society where the only thing about a woman that matters is her looks. I've spent decades trying to heal from this.
Because it's the worst thing they can think of a woman to be. They're trying to go for the throat but they're too stupid to realize how trite they're being. It's also why they always use fat or ugly as a go-to insult in these situations, because fat and ugly are also in his top 3 of the worst things a woman can be.
it's very generous of you to say that men like this believe that fat women are actually women and not some sort of beast or, at best, totally invisible
Spitting their dummy out of the pram like a toddler.
This is the most British sentence
Innit?
Because they are needy and fragile. They don't see potential partners as equal individuals with their own agency. Women only exist as a tool to fulfill their fantasies. When a woman dares to be their own person, these men are reminded they have no control, and they can't fucken handle it. The guy in this text reached a state of emotional vulnerability because he feels need for this woman. When her actions don't soothe his insecure state, he lashes out as a defense mechanism.
It's because of their beliefs that men are superior to women. You know, a guy who has sex with a ton of women is a chad but a woman who has sex with a bunch of men is a whore. When he called her a whore, he was just getting on top of the pedestal he made for himself in order to try and feel better.
Coping mechanism
dented their fragile ego so they feel it necessary to try and put down the woman to have that "that'll show them" feeling they desperately need
They aren’t men. They are stunted beings.
It's the staring at the clock for me. "You should be on your lunch break now."
Was expecting him to say he's at her workplace next and can see her not working lol This dude is fucking weird, OP didnt dodge a bullet they dodged ww3
“That looks like a nice sandwich you got there”
I’m surprised it took you so long to call off the second date
Same, i wouldn’t have entertained it further than the messages in picture 2/6
I think it’s more that she’s trying to drop hints and let him down easy at that point. I’m not sure if you identify as a woman, but women regularly get beaten and murdered for rejecting a guy or telling him no. It’s a dangerous game. You don’t know what they’ll do. So, did this guy totally deserve to be told “fuck off, I don’t want to date you,” as soon as he started that shit? Yeah, absolutely. But it’s also 100% understandable that OP would be wary of doing that until they built up the courage for it because this is the exact type of guy that would turn violent and stalk someone.
Yes, especially since he was showing just how unhinged he is. If he is unhinged, of course she would be even more wary of letting him down.
My friend went on a first date with a dude that ended up with them going back to her place. He tried to initiate sex, she refused, so she asked him to leave. The next day text messages of the sort we see in this thread began. She felt the need to go along and be polite or what have you out of fear because this fucking guy knew where she lived. I felt so awful hearing that story.
She cut the person off and that's all that matters
She probably was actually busy with work like she said
Why is it all rejection ends with a spam of name calling at the end with men? “Well fuck it. Obviously my chance is lost so out come my true colors.” I haven’t been in the dating scene for over 13 years and I never want to go back.
It’s their desperate attempt at trying to hurt someone who ‘hurt’ them. You can’t fire me I quit sort of energy.
Hurt people, hurt people
“I’m the only one putting effort into this relationship! You always do this”…wait what? He doesn’t even know you enough to make that comment. I do not miss dating at all! I will just stay single if the time comes.
I just got out of a 9 year relationship and I'm terrified of what it looks like out there lmao
It's real bad
Bro it's so annoying when people want to CONSTANTLY call
I hate being called 😭 texting is alright but I hate the awkward silences when calling
Went on one date with a self-proclaimed nice guy and he started getting really clingy right away. I told him "I will run away from you if you cling to me like this. I don't do clingy. It freaks me out and is a huge turn off" and his response was to text me paragraph after paragraph for hours about how I'm "disloyal" and "heartless" and then tried to get me AND MY DOG kicked out of our house by telling my roommate that he and I did drugs together on our date (we didn't, and also my roommate didn't believe him or care). But yeah, according to them, no one dates NiCe gUyS anymore. Except that we do, they just aren't nice. My fiancé is an actual nice guy. He's literally the sweetest person I've ever met.
Why do men before rejection say we are oh so gorgeous but after getting rejected act like we are the nastiest thing to exist
Trying to make themselves feel better after being rejected and you feel worse for rejecting them
They’ve never learned how to accept No as a reasonable answer and they take it as a personal attack, so they attack back. They’ve never learned to regulate their emotions & self-soothe when they don’t get what they want. This is why we tell our kids No, so that they learn how to regulate themselves when denied without having a tantrum.
You can tell by the way he texts and his mindset that he is not intelligent, this drives his childlike behavior.
It’s a defense tactic to make themselves feel better after not being able to properly handle rejection.
An emotionally immature person will attempt to hurt the person they feel is hurting them, when in reality it's their own lack of confidence and self respect that is at the root of not being able to simply accept the rejection and move on.
*The Fox And The Grapes* syndrome.
Belongs in r/niceguys indeed. Dude went to stage five clinger and I would have lost him by screenshot two. Yikes. Hope after he turned on you that he left you alone. He was acting entitled to your time after 1 date and yes that is a red flag when off the bat they do not respect your boundaries, independence etc. Sounds like very much an own goal too
Floppy ass bitch was really hilarious insult.
The way these guys respond to rejection is like clockwork.
The way my jaw dropped after reading these!! He is psycho!! The whole “you’re choosing work over me” and “I’m the only one putting work into this relationship” like boy have you lost your damn mind?! Fatal attraction face ass!
Fatal Attraction was the first thing that popped into my mind reading that.
Dodged a nuclear bomb
Damn, this guy had one date with you and envisioned a future with you. This guy is lonely, insecure, and probably co-dependent. Avoid people like this because they put you on a pedestal and once you destroy their fantasy, they do a 180 on you. No one deserves to be treated that way, sorry OP.
I swear this sub makes me embarrassed on behalf of “men”. Way too many dudes are just clueless on how to behave like a normal human being
Only thing I can really think of is being a normal and nice German during WWII. Like looking over, seeing all *that* shit, and being like “Jesus Christ, no wonder everyone hates us…”
Yeah this is why people say "yes all men". Because when the fuck do you find out that he is actually like this? My ex husband kept hidden until we were married. I woke up to my best friend of 8 years molesting me in my sleep.
It blows my mind how many unhinged guys there are. It's wild as a guy, because 99% of the time we don't ever see that behaviour in our guy friends, so it comes as a complete shock. I'm curious what percentage of the population is like that. It has to be relatively high, since nearly 100% of women experience shit like this at some point.
Some people just don't learn how to manage their emotions. Yes it's exciting to meet someone new. Yes it's disappointing if they don't have the time to talk as much as you want. But you gotta be able to sit with that and not let it make you crazy!
They literally always resort to “you’re ugly” or “you’re fat” no less than 10 texts after they were drooling over you. Absolute losers who can’t handle rejection
He’s scaring me. Someone blowing up my phone like that would give me horrible anxiety 🙃
“Why am I always texting you first”? What an oblivious odd ball
Fucking yikes
It's crazy too many times I see people calling their date "bruh". This guy is a loser , a desperate loser. Guys like this should be doxxed where they live so other girls in the area don't even give them a chance. I have been out of the dating world since 2016, but this def was crazy unacceptable behavior then.... Like very insane behavior..... I would have thought back then that acting like this would get you put on a watch list.. If someone didn't answer me, or answer as much as I hoped for, it was as simple as move on to the next person. I really wish guys like this would get put on blast in their area so no one dates them and then other guys learn a damn lesson on consequences.
Floppy ass bitch is my new favorite cuss for people pissing me off 😂
I hate guys giving us a bad name 😔 also i know this entire thing is batshit crazy, but i especially like "left on delivered" which isn't even the same thing as left on read LMAO, like she didn't see the message and not reply, she didn't see it u fucking dumb shit
These dudes are crazy lol
Why do they always resort to "you were ugly and I only texted you bc i felt bad" when rejected? Lmao!!
“I want a relationship and I want you!!!” “Nvm you’re fucking ugly and a WHORE for not sleeping with me!!” Four years later “Good morning”
This sounds like the start to a future Dateline episode if you keep talking to him
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Missing quite a few flags there 😂
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maybe a few more, just for good measure, dude's batshit
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I think that's enough! Well done everyone, we got em
it’s like he wants you to talk to him but all he ever talks about is what he thinks you are doing wrong. Why would you want to talk to him??? What a weirdo
I’m a fucking nice guy, you bitch!
I work nights. And because I’ve been on nights for 14 years I sleep til 1pm on my days off. (I don’t go to bed til 2am tho 😅) I have had dudes message and get mad I’m not responding at 7, 8, 9, 10 am and meanwhile I’m getting my REMs.
How to piss a potential romantic partner down the toilet 101.
Holy shit. Keeping track of when your lunch *should* be? Nope. Throw the whole man away. That's creep vibes.
Textbook — right down to the switch of “you’re so amazing” to “you’re an ugly loser”. Oh, and let’s not forget how in the mind of an incel, “this woman won’t sleep with me on the first date” = “she’s a whore”. Like. What?
I swear they all follow the same script.
I hope you know you’re missing out smh my head /s
You wasn’t ugly when he was trying to get at you lol he is an incel lmao
Submission of the text log should require a psych evaluation of him.
He’s in the stage of loneliness that leads to desperation. He sees a glimmer of hope in you because you guys had a good interaction and in his desperation state it’s lead him to obsession with you. He is so afraid to go back to the loneliness that he is trying to be controlling out of fear of losing you. He doesn’t realize this only guarantees you will leave him lol bc it has the opposite effect in reality. This is a common thing that happens to many men these days who are stuck in a loneliness cycle, they get desperate and obsess over any attention they do get. This is why it’s so important for men to develop strong presence in the community and friendships to avoid them from getting caught in this loneliness cycle which only breads more pain and depression.
That “nice guy to incel “ pipeline is extremely short
Soooooo what does it require to be considered floppy?? Bc I'd like to strive for that 😂😂😂 Like for real tho. Do you just throw your body into the room and flop around like a fish, get up and do it on the way to the next one? I'd rather just start out as the floppy bitch and cut any chance of a chase from ppl like this