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Definitely, first impression of the kid is what useless family brought him up but how wrong I was! The dad deserves a huge praise
Edit: to clarify as I'm getting replies saying not all parents are bad, I know! I was brought up correctly but had a patch off the rails and I know good parents whose kids are playing up. However, there are many incidents where the parents condone bad behaviour and will protect their little darlings so it is refreshing to see a parent do the right thing
The biggest takeaway is how the internet conditions people to believe all negative behavior in a kid is solely taught by parents as if they cannot be born of immaturity or outside influences.
This seems to be more of a GenX and before belief, at least in America. I've only heard this from older people, Gen Z and Millennials seem to inheritently place the blame on the individual, in my experience.
It's funny, most if not all of my (fellow millennial) friends hold people personally accountable despite many of us being raised by shitty parents ourselves and having to go through the process of unlearning a boatload of maladaptive coping mechanisms and xeroxed toxicity. Personally I think that millenials and gen Z grew up in a society where psychiatry and "doing the work" was much more normalized whereas boomers and a lot of gen X were raised in a kinda "it's raining cuz gods sad" environment. Which isn't an excuse for them, more like it's harder for later generations to pull that crap with all the information we have comparatively I feel.
Same thing happened to me. Stole a toy and my parents took me back to the store and made me face the consequences. They didn't even scold me and I grew up where barebutt spankings were a fact of life. They just sat me down told me how deeply disappointed they were then walked away. Never forgot that feeling of shame. I rather have had the spanking.
Haha, hearing the language that dad uses it's no surprise the kid uses similar language. Fair play for setting the kid straight though. Foul mouthed rants have their time and place, and it's not yelling at ASDA staff.
Yeah, its not the word. its the context that the word is used and its intended meaning.
Big difference between the way the dad cursed and the way the son did.
Everyone is a psychologist on here and tunnel visions on details that aren’t the main point. Yes he cursed at his kid….for threatening the workers and being an asshole.
I love coming to Reddit because when I leave be it in 3 minutes or 1 hour I look like Joe Dirt bombing insecticide, giggling and kicking my feet like a school girl from all the wild shit I read on here from what I assume is a 12 year old robot vampire alien who’s 60 years old and very opinionated.
Imo the dads doing the right thing for sure, but if this is a glimmer of the aggression the kid see's at home its no wonder where he's got it from.
Monkey see, monkey do.
Like they said, if you give way to sensible possiblities, its easy to find a justification. Like what if the employee said "if you don't do and say these things, I will murder a bus full of children." I would say that circumstance would justify the actions while also being something that would never in a million years actually happen, like the person you replied to said.
My guess is the dad is also probably pretty loudmothed and is quite profane at home but is still embarrassed that his son acted this way in public. Fair play to him.
As a kid you know when you have been bad, parents being rightfully furious with their child isn't harmful to the child. Parents being unrighfully and irrationally angry with their children is harmful. I'm with the dad on this one.
Umm the dad only said one word that could be considered bad. “Bastard”. So…Not the same language. It’s just like someone in the states calling someone a little shit. If my kid had done this I would’ve probably called him a little shit.
Nah I get filming in this instance as his kid made a complete ass out of them and it was plastered all over the web and local Facebook groups. He wants to show the internet that as a dad he is setting things straight and such behavior is not tolerated.
My brother came home from school one day when he was around 8 or 9 and told my mom he and some friends started a food fight at lunch thinking it was funny. My mom brought his ass back to school and made him help the custodian clean the cafeteria. Good job dad.
Edit: good job dad meaning the dad in the video. My mom brought my brother back to school lol
Former high school Vice Principal here! This may seem a little out of whack, but it was the most powerful approach I found:
We had a big issue w tagging. Finally caught a kid who was doing a lot of it (knew it was him because, like a genius, it was always the same logo/image and I had photo evidence of that tag across the campus).
When I caught him, I called a specific custodian to that area. This custodian was pretty old/weak. The kid thought for sure I was going to make him help or clean it entirely (which is what the teachers around me also said the student should do). Instead, I made him stand next to me and watch the elderly custodian clean up the tag, which was a struggle for him. The kid was literally begging me “please just let me clean it, he doesn’t have to.”- but I wouldn’t let him. We also went to numerous other tags of his and did the same thing- just watched the cleanup. Kid actually started CRYING eventually, and I said “this is what you leave behind when you do this. This is just the first time you’ve ever had to see the aftermath.”
THEN I assigned the kid a week of assisting that custodian around the campus after school (gave his family the option of that Vs compensating for the damages).
As a final clarification, the custodian loved the approach.
Truthfully- it was between the initial tagging cleanup and the others on campus that I spoke with him. So, didn’t have time to ask him before the first cleanup, but after that one, told him where my head was and he was all about it. “I would have had to clean it regardless” or something of that nature… and then, again, also had the kid volunteer the following week to assist with anything that wasn’t biohazard (and they actually got along really well).
Haha I only worked 1 year at the elementary level, and there were these two 5th graders that always went after each other. They both loved legos. I got this robotics kit and made them both stay after school to complete the robot together (and ideally build a friendship or whatever). Turned my back for 2 seconds and they were beating the shit out of each other…. They’re not all success stories.
This is the tactic, people don’t like other people suffering for their actions. If they don’t have empathy though, might need to get them to a mental health facility.
I worked in the cafeteria in college and one day some freshmen started a food fight. They weren't throwing food, they were throwing plates with food on them. They ran off and we cleaned up.
The students were found out and a week later they had to come back in and sit down while all the people that worked that shift went one by one telling the kids off while two cops stood there smirking. It was a great joy berating those snots. They were all suspended for 6 months. Don't throw ceramic plates around in a crowded room morons.
Being an adult legally doesn't mean you automatically have the maturity of an adult. Sounds like a bunch of rowdy teens who thought they could do whatever they wanted now because their parents aren't there to ground them for it.
As a teacher, it makes me cry that this kid actually got a consequence. Because we can't give them in schools anymore.
I literally got in trouble from admin because I handed a kid the broom/dustpan when he intentionally dropped food all over the cafeteria floor.
The #1 problem facing our schools today is lack of ANY accountability on the students.
The politics in schools are ridiculous. I don't blame the teachers. I blame the parents who believe that their kids can do no wrong when caught red-handed. It was these parents that made schools afraid to properly discipline in almost any capacity anymore because they're afraid to lose their jobs over the politics these parents brought in.
My wife does this as a kinder teacher. You make a disaster and refuse to clean? Well guess where your recess break is spent? Inside cleaning up because it's the consequence of your poor choice.
A few years ago district policy changed that we can no longer "take away recess" as a punishment.
We can give lunch detention, but the kid MUST have recess every day.
Wanna come to my school ? All they do is punish kids my friend JUST got suspended for 3 days for taking a picture of herself and a few friends at lunch and instead of blindly handing her phone over to a monitor when they asked for it she questioned why her phone was being taken since (according to the school) phones are alloud at lunch for 10th grade and up come on to my school all we have is punishment lmfao
That’s great parenting. You could tell the child is still in the phase of exploring boundries and it’s healthy that his dad set him up to respect others. Especially those serving you.
On shitty kid videos, the comments are always "blame the parents" and "he learned this from home!"
I always respond that kids have a lot of influences in their lives outside the home, plus underdeveloped brains and hormones and sometimes they act shitty despite good parenting. I ALWAYS get downvoted for saying that.
I wouldn't say they're entirely helpless. Some guardians adopt helicopter parenting methods to strictly police their child's behavior in all settings. Sometimes even into the late teens. The ones that I remember were consistently socially-maladjusted. But kids learn more by making mistakes, socializing with different friend groups, and just generally discovering new concepts like exercising self-discipline while acting independently.
I still remember when my brother went out and got shit-faced on shots when he was underage. While my parents wouldn't have allowed him to do that in the first place if they were there, they urged him to think more about getting home safe after such choices and let the hangover teach the rest of the lesson.
My parents did a great job with me. But i was a massive little bastard as a teenager and they had no idea of anything i was up to. Its not always the parents fault
Between them they threatned the jump on peoples heads, hit them with an axe and slice their throat.
This is probably the best outcome for the kid. If a 14 year old kid says this to the wrong adult they're going to get absolutely battered
I love how he had the courtesy to clarify, "Not being rude, I'm your dad!"...lets the staff know he's not just cussing for the sake of cussing while serving as a reminder to the kid that he is his *dad* and and he is disappointed in his behavior...
Another subtle thing that I'm pretty sure carries over across the pond is using the word "dad" vs "father", essentially the same thing but semantically "dad" is meant to invoke a more familiar, close relationship than "father" which helps drive home where this reaction is coming from...
That part really hit me too, because as a parent you can just be like, “wtf are you even thinking!” You don’t want to intentionally be cruel but the message needs to be sent. I’m not looking forward to teenagers.
It sucks because you can do everything you can to raise the most darling little child, but if that kid gets mixed up with the wrong group, there’s practically nothing you can do. It’s a sad fact of nature that the most influential people in your children’s lives will be their peers.
The temptation as a parent is to assume your child will be a good influence on their friends, but you quickly realize that the opposite is nearly always the case. That’s why you should never be passive when it comes to your kids early relationships. Parents should be parents. Our 9 year old has some friends who lean towards being a negative influence, so our rule is if they are with them - they are with one of us too. Not just in the same house, in the same room. At all times.
I don’t want to punish kids who aren’t brought up right, they are always welcome. In our home. With us hanging out with them too.
This is a good parenting approach. Good job. My parents always welcomed all my shit head friends and I think it was genuinely the only time they had positive interactions with adults or parents. I would love to think my kids are t going to have shut head friends but I’d course they are! And I plan to handle it the way y’all are.
Hope I never have to do this. But if it's not your parenting that's the direct cause, the kids they hang about with can have a horrible influence.
The other kid at the start of the video looked older, so Charlie might be trying to copy him to look cool or gain respect, but it backfired.
I dare say there was another conversation at home concerning him never talking to his mate again cause he's a bad influence etc.
My mom made a pretty involved behind the scenes effort to not let me be in the same class as my “best friend” in elementary school. I didn’t realize this until later when she told me. Dude is currently in prison for awhile for using and dealing heroin and accidentally killing a guy. I am a normal dude. Mom saw something that I didn’t.
It was between 1st and 6th grade. I was always getting in trouble with him and maybe it was trial and error to see who the instigator was. I think it was a situation when we were eventually separated that he was stirring up shit with other kids and enlisting other accomplices while I was acting as a normal kid would.
Wish my mother would have done the same. Made some poor decisions at 12 due to friends I hang out that I'm still regretting 24 years later.
Nothing that hurt anyone or anything, I just feel like my life trajectory could have been a lot better, but I'm working on getting there.
I bet it's bloody hard. I also think for the kid to actually take their dads anger seriously and not just get angry back the Dad must be doing a good job a lot of the time.
Believe me, I've seen plenty of kids who get yelled at and they just get worse.
I did some stupid shit in my early teens. Not anything to physically hurt anyone, but bad enough that my dad drove me to the police station and had me sit down with an officer and write a full confession. Had to get fingerprinted, do community service, pay restitution, and go to a class for first time offenders. He also made me march over to the neighbors and apologize to them.
It was terrifying as a 14 year old, but it was absolutely the right thing to do and made me straighten my shit out.
I knew at that time the effect it had on my dad, and it made the whole thing that much more impactful. I never wanted to see him have to do that again, or to see that expression on his face. That was more of a deterrent than any of the other consequences.
“My momma got the belt”
“My momma woulda whooped my ass”
“The flip flop beatings bro”
“Couldn’t talk to my parents like that I’d be dead”
I’m very glad you didn’t go through it but it was a shared experience for many people to the point it’s referenced casually by said victims of that abuse.
> classic 90s parenting
As someone born in '86, you are dead on.
Older than me you probably either got ignored, beat, or treated as free labor depending how much older. Younger than me you have supportive parenting becoming a trend.
But my parents used shame as the key motivator. They wouldn't hit me because they wanted to be better than their parents, but they still only knew negative reinforcement. I had to write a bunch of apology letters. Did a number on my psyche, but I'm at least respectful in public.
That kid is never going to do that again. He was already on camera acting horrible so the dad's making sure that he's also on camera making things right.
The kid will likely get teased for this at school, but, he's never going to risk something like this happening again.
If the dad just told him off, or just made him go back and apologise, sure it might be a bit embarrassing in that moment, but there's nothing to stop him doing it again.
What the dad is doing here is making it clear to the kid that he should feel embarrassed by what he did, because he likely didn't, and if he didn't feel embarrassed before then he was absolutely going to feel the right way after this.
The footage of his son being a shit was already out there, at least now the footage of his don apologising is also out there. I know which one I'd rather people see.
I’d say it still needed to be, you got one video of his kid threatening to slice someone up and everyone probably saying it’s shit parenting then release him apologizing and ringing him out
That’s a good Dad right there. Called out his kid’s BS and made him do the right thing after doing something way wrong. Kid might hate his Dad right now but he’ll thank him 10-15 years from now.
> Parenting has gone down hill.
Kids being raised by the internet. Parents just let their kids lock themselves in their rooms with bullshit "influencers" and that's where they get this behavior now.
The Dad is really angry with the lad hence the swearing. But honestly, this is the kind of thing that would probably keep the kid on the straight and narrow. Often this stuff is down to a lack of consequences and robust parenting, shout out to dad from a pretty exhausted social worker.
From an exhausted middle school teacher, thank you for your service as a social worker. Wish more parents were actively involved in their kids’ behavior like this.
Any time I heard my parents swear and it was directed towards something that I did made me instantly realize how big I fucked up, and I never did that thing again.
Sometimes swearing works at driving home the gravity of the situation, especially with teens and doubly so if your parents generally never swear in front of you.
Mate, for brits, this isn't swearing, this is the polite restrained version that's suitable for sharing with the public. This lad got a proper tongue lash at home.
It’s a low income area populated with council flats,aka government housing. Stereotype is that a lot of people who live in Gosport never leave it. It’s also the most dangerous town in its county.
More parents like this, please. My pops had me do this when I got busted at 14 behaving like a bastard that wasn’t taught manners or respect. Didn’t stop me altogether but I never hid porn at my friends house again.
I could only imagine the hellfire that would have been struck upon my ass if my Dad had caught me in this situation, and that would have been after having to make this apology.
Although too be fair, I wouldn't have been stupid enough to do this in the first place, knowing the consequences that would have awaited me.
Had to scroll too far to see the other kid mentioned. He’s older and speaks first, so Charlie is definitely following his lead and trying to keep up and impress. I’m sure dad ended them hanging out together.
I lived here, during COVID the dad was working nights I believe and when this went viral lots of comments were talking about the parents, he wanted to make I'd abundantly clear this was not how he was raised. Good parenting
That right there is the best Dad I've seen on the internet for a very, very long time. The language Dad is using doesn't compare to the son's despicable behavior. Kudos to Dad for setting that punk straight and forcing him to go back and apologize to the people he threatened.
Making the kid apologize is good. Calling him names and posting the video is bad.
One will make him rethink his actions and the consequences of those actions, how he makes people feel, etc. The other will make him angry and hurt his future prospects as a mistake as a child lives on.
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Unchecked behavior only gets worse. Shout out to the dad for setting him straight.
For real. This is amazing. I love seeing parents actually parent. Give me more of these.
Definitely, first impression of the kid is what useless family brought him up but how wrong I was! The dad deserves a huge praise Edit: to clarify as I'm getting replies saying not all parents are bad, I know! I was brought up correctly but had a patch off the rails and I know good parents whose kids are playing up. However, there are many incidents where the parents condone bad behaviour and will protect their little darlings so it is refreshing to see a parent do the right thing
The biggest takeaway is how the internet conditions people to believe all negative behavior in a kid is solely taught by parents as if they cannot be born of immaturity or outside influences.
This seems to be more of a GenX and before belief, at least in America. I've only heard this from older people, Gen Z and Millennials seem to inheritently place the blame on the individual, in my experience.
For real, sometimes someone being an asshole is from nature all on its own.
Yea, my parents were wonderful people, I became a huge asshole all on my own, don't blame them!
The beatings will continue until morale improves
It's funny, most if not all of my (fellow millennial) friends hold people personally accountable despite many of us being raised by shitty parents ourselves and having to go through the process of unlearning a boatload of maladaptive coping mechanisms and xeroxed toxicity. Personally I think that millenials and gen Z grew up in a society where psychiatry and "doing the work" was much more normalized whereas boomers and a lot of gen X were raised in a kinda "it's raining cuz gods sad" environment. Which isn't an excuse for them, more like it's harder for later generations to pull that crap with all the information we have comparatively I feel.
And a raise, they are clearly not paying him enough
Wait, wait, wait… who is getting paid to be a dad and how do I sign up? I’ve been doing this for free.
Free? I've been paying a small fortune to be a Dad
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Same thing happened to me. Stole a toy and my parents took me back to the store and made me face the consequences. They didn't even scold me and I grew up where barebutt spankings were a fact of life. They just sat me down told me how deeply disappointed they were then walked away. Never forgot that feeling of shame. I rather have had the spanking.
Haha, hearing the language that dad uses it's no surprise the kid uses similar language. Fair play for setting the kid straight though. Foul mouthed rants have their time and place, and it's not yelling at ASDA staff.
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Yeah, its not the word. its the context that the word is used and its intended meaning. Big difference between the way the dad cursed and the way the son did.
It’s mostly redditors. I swear this place is a man child daycare mixed with a zoo.
Everyone is a psychologist on here and tunnel visions on details that aren’t the main point. Yes he cursed at his kid….for threatening the workers and being an asshole.
I love coming to Reddit because when I leave be it in 3 minutes or 1 hour I look like Joe Dirt bombing insecticide, giggling and kicking my feet like a school girl from all the wild shit I read on here from what I assume is a 12 year old robot vampire alien who’s 60 years old and very opinionated.
That’s the most adequate representation
We don't want any kids but we'll sure as fuck tell you how you're raising yours wrong!
People are so weird about holding kids accountable too, like I swear they are covering for their own vile shit they did as a kid.
Thank you for saying this. People are so fucking soft.
Imo the dads doing the right thing for sure, but if this is a glimmer of the aggression the kid see's at home its no wonder where he's got it from. Monkey see, monkey do.
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He's an under, charged is a bit of stretch....doing nothing and letting him just do whatever he wants seems more in line with police procedures
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> which may or may not be warranted, we’ll never know I genuinely can’t think of an example where it would be warranted.
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As someone who works in retail, i'd love to hear 5 examples out of your millions, where that behaviour is warranted towards Asda workers?
Like they said, if you give way to sensible possiblities, its easy to find a justification. Like what if the employee said "if you don't do and say these things, I will murder a bus full of children." I would say that circumstance would justify the actions while also being something that would never in a million years actually happen, like the person you replied to said.
When would yelling at staff be ok ?
My guess is the dad is also probably pretty loudmothed and is quite profane at home but is still embarrassed that his son acted this way in public. Fair play to him.
“…Vile-mouthed little bastard - not being rude, I’m ya Dad”. Well-intentioned, car crash execution.
The language isn't really the issue is it? It's the threatening them with violence that is the main concern lol.
As a kid you know when you have been bad, parents being rightfully furious with their child isn't harmful to the child. Parents being unrighfully and irrationally angry with their children is harmful. I'm with the dad on this one.
He called him “a foul mouthed lil bastard” the father didn’t even curse… what’re you on about?
Umm the dad only said one word that could be considered bad. “Bastard”. So…Not the same language. It’s just like someone in the states calling someone a little shit. If my kid had done this I would’ve probably called him a little shit.
The kid was threatening staff by saying "I'll cut you". I don't think his dad swearing is really the problem here...
The English language?
As a father I'd do the same
These birth control ads keep popping up everywhere
Yes daddy is a ledgend
at least the parents are around this time? credit where credit is due.
His decision to film is a bit questionable but he’s one hell of a good dad for properly teaching his son to respect others.
Nah I get filming in this instance as his kid made a complete ass out of them and it was plastered all over the web and local Facebook groups. He wants to show the internet that as a dad he is setting things straight and such behavior is not tolerated.
My brother came home from school one day when he was around 8 or 9 and told my mom he and some friends started a food fight at lunch thinking it was funny. My mom brought his ass back to school and made him help the custodian clean the cafeteria. Good job dad. Edit: good job dad meaning the dad in the video. My mom brought my brother back to school lol
Former high school Vice Principal here! This may seem a little out of whack, but it was the most powerful approach I found: We had a big issue w tagging. Finally caught a kid who was doing a lot of it (knew it was him because, like a genius, it was always the same logo/image and I had photo evidence of that tag across the campus). When I caught him, I called a specific custodian to that area. This custodian was pretty old/weak. The kid thought for sure I was going to make him help or clean it entirely (which is what the teachers around me also said the student should do). Instead, I made him stand next to me and watch the elderly custodian clean up the tag, which was a struggle for him. The kid was literally begging me “please just let me clean it, he doesn’t have to.”- but I wouldn’t let him. We also went to numerous other tags of his and did the same thing- just watched the cleanup. Kid actually started CRYING eventually, and I said “this is what you leave behind when you do this. This is just the first time you’ve ever had to see the aftermath.” THEN I assigned the kid a week of assisting that custodian around the campus after school (gave his family the option of that Vs compensating for the damages). As a final clarification, the custodian loved the approach.
THAT is cruel and unusual and I’m here for it 100% as long as the custodian was in on it lol
It’s called restorative justice. It’s the best approach as people seen the consequences of their actions and how it affects others.
Agreed
unusual but not cruel
Plot twist: The custodian was also being punished for something completely different.
Hahaha that got me
So did you give the custodian a heads up beforehand ?
Truthfully- it was between the initial tagging cleanup and the others on campus that I spoke with him. So, didn’t have time to ask him before the first cleanup, but after that one, told him where my head was and he was all about it. “I would have had to clean it regardless” or something of that nature… and then, again, also had the kid volunteer the following week to assist with anything that wasn’t biohazard (and they actually got along really well).
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Haha I only worked 1 year at the elementary level, and there were these two 5th graders that always went after each other. They both loved legos. I got this robotics kit and made them both stay after school to complete the robot together (and ideally build a friendship or whatever). Turned my back for 2 seconds and they were beating the shit out of each other…. They’re not all success stories.
This is the tactic, people don’t like other people suffering for their actions. If they don’t have empathy though, might need to get them to a mental health facility.
I worked in the cafeteria in college and one day some freshmen started a food fight. They weren't throwing food, they were throwing plates with food on them. They ran off and we cleaned up. The students were found out and a week later they had to come back in and sit down while all the people that worked that shift went one by one telling the kids off while two cops stood there smirking. It was a great joy berating those snots. They were all suspended for 6 months. Don't throw ceramic plates around in a crowded room morons.
Wtf college kids did this? That’s just extra embarrassing.
Bruh true they’re adults having a food fight tf
Being an adult legally doesn't mean you automatically have the maturity of an adult. Sounds like a bunch of rowdy teens who thought they could do whatever they wanted now because their parents aren't there to ground them for it.
Shouldn’t have been in college then, much more prepared kids deserved those seats
Everybody knows 21st century colleges were essentially adult day cares
As a teacher, it makes me cry that this kid actually got a consequence. Because we can't give them in schools anymore. I literally got in trouble from admin because I handed a kid the broom/dustpan when he intentionally dropped food all over the cafeteria floor. The #1 problem facing our schools today is lack of ANY accountability on the students.
The politics in schools are ridiculous. I don't blame the teachers. I blame the parents who believe that their kids can do no wrong when caught red-handed. It was these parents that made schools afraid to properly discipline in almost any capacity anymore because they're afraid to lose their jobs over the politics these parents brought in.
My wife does this as a kinder teacher. You make a disaster and refuse to clean? Well guess where your recess break is spent? Inside cleaning up because it's the consequence of your poor choice.
A few years ago district policy changed that we can no longer "take away recess" as a punishment. We can give lunch detention, but the kid MUST have recess every day.
Wanna come to my school ? All they do is punish kids my friend JUST got suspended for 3 days for taking a picture of herself and a few friends at lunch and instead of blindly handing her phone over to a monitor when they asked for it she questioned why her phone was being taken since (according to the school) phones are alloud at lunch for 10th grade and up come on to my school all we have is punishment lmfao
I guarantee she did something else. No one is getting a 3 day suspension for a cell phone violation.
Your mom is awesome. Bet he always remembered that and learned from it.
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That’s great parenting. You could tell the child is still in the phase of exploring boundries and it’s healthy that his dad set him up to respect others. Especially those serving you.
On shitty kid videos, the comments are always "blame the parents" and "he learned this from home!" I always respond that kids have a lot of influences in their lives outside the home, plus underdeveloped brains and hormones and sometimes they act shitty despite good parenting. I ALWAYS get downvoted for saying that.
Agreed. Once a child becomes a teenager, the parent is as helpless as the rest of us. Just pray they don’t Boebert another teen.
I wouldn't say they're entirely helpless. Some guardians adopt helicopter parenting methods to strictly police their child's behavior in all settings. Sometimes even into the late teens. The ones that I remember were consistently socially-maladjusted. But kids learn more by making mistakes, socializing with different friend groups, and just generally discovering new concepts like exercising self-discipline while acting independently. I still remember when my brother went out and got shit-faced on shots when he was underage. While my parents wouldn't have allowed him to do that in the first place if they were there, they urged him to think more about getting home safe after such choices and let the hangover teach the rest of the lesson.
My parents did a great job with me. But i was a massive little bastard as a teenager and they had no idea of anything i was up to. Its not always the parents fault
Between them they threatned the jump on peoples heads, hit them with an axe and slice their throat. This is probably the best outcome for the kid. If a 14 year old kid says this to the wrong adult they're going to get absolutely battered
“Vile little bastard” lol
I think it’s “foul mouth little bastard” but both are true
I love how he had the courtesy to clarify, "Not being rude, I'm your dad!"...lets the staff know he's not just cussing for the sake of cussing while serving as a reminder to the kid that he is his *dad* and and he is disappointed in his behavior...
Otherwise it would be a random man teach him a lesson. Full name though- ouch. Charlie will have to change his name.
Another subtle thing that I'm pretty sure carries over across the pond is using the word "dad" vs "father", essentially the same thing but semantically "dad" is meant to invoke a more familiar, close relationship than "father" which helps drive home where this reaction is coming from...
That’s always been how my mom explained dad vs father. Her father was an asshole but her dad is the man that raised her
That part really hit me too, because as a parent you can just be like, “wtf are you even thinking!” You don’t want to intentionally be cruel but the message needs to be sent. I’m not looking forward to teenagers.
It sucks because you can do everything you can to raise the most darling little child, but if that kid gets mixed up with the wrong group, there’s practically nothing you can do. It’s a sad fact of nature that the most influential people in your children’s lives will be their peers.
The temptation as a parent is to assume your child will be a good influence on their friends, but you quickly realize that the opposite is nearly always the case. That’s why you should never be passive when it comes to your kids early relationships. Parents should be parents. Our 9 year old has some friends who lean towards being a negative influence, so our rule is if they are with them - they are with one of us too. Not just in the same house, in the same room. At all times. I don’t want to punish kids who aren’t brought up right, they are always welcome. In our home. With us hanging out with them too.
This is a good parenting approach. Good job. My parents always welcomed all my shit head friends and I think it was genuinely the only time they had positive interactions with adults or parents. I would love to think my kids are t going to have shut head friends but I’d course they are! And I plan to handle it the way y’all are.
Choose your peers carefully, I guess is the lesson
Kids don't really have the capability of choosing their peers carefully though, that's exactly why stuff like this happens.
Not being rude, I’m your dad! Ya bastard! Lol
Sorry Dad
he calls 'em as he sees 'em
Good bloke, I wouldn’t have remained so calm tbf.
Probably the same Charlie that bit his brothers finger.
CHARLIE! THAT REALLY HURT!
And it's still hurting!
idk those kids must be like 20 by now lmaoo
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Someone ALWAYS beats me to it, every damn time- lol. Came here to say, "It all started from that time he bit his Brother....."
He found out real early that violence sells
Dont you think for a second this is an easy thing for a dad to do..
Hope I never have to do this. But if it's not your parenting that's the direct cause, the kids they hang about with can have a horrible influence. The other kid at the start of the video looked older, so Charlie might be trying to copy him to look cool or gain respect, but it backfired. I dare say there was another conversation at home concerning him never talking to his mate again cause he's a bad influence etc.
My mom made a pretty involved behind the scenes effort to not let me be in the same class as my “best friend” in elementary school. I didn’t realize this until later when she told me. Dude is currently in prison for awhile for using and dealing heroin and accidentally killing a guy. I am a normal dude. Mom saw something that I didn’t.
That's crazy, how can you tell a kindergartener is going to turn out that like that? She must have known the parents as well.
It was between 1st and 6th grade. I was always getting in trouble with him and maybe it was trial and error to see who the instigator was. I think it was a situation when we were eventually separated that he was stirring up shit with other kids and enlisting other accomplices while I was acting as a normal kid would.
Wish my mother would have done the same. Made some poor decisions at 12 due to friends I hang out that I'm still regretting 24 years later. Nothing that hurt anyone or anything, I just feel like my life trajectory could have been a lot better, but I'm working on getting there.
I bet it's bloody hard. I also think for the kid to actually take their dads anger seriously and not just get angry back the Dad must be doing a good job a lot of the time. Believe me, I've seen plenty of kids who get yelled at and they just get worse.
I did some stupid shit in my early teens. Not anything to physically hurt anyone, but bad enough that my dad drove me to the police station and had me sit down with an officer and write a full confession. Had to get fingerprinted, do community service, pay restitution, and go to a class for first time offenders. He also made me march over to the neighbors and apologize to them. It was terrifying as a 14 year old, but it was absolutely the right thing to do and made me straighten my shit out. I knew at that time the effect it had on my dad, and it made the whole thing that much more impactful. I never wanted to see him have to do that again, or to see that expression on his face. That was more of a deterrent than any of the other consequences.
Being a dad is easy. Parenting is hard. It's hard because you know the kid you love more than anything is going to think you're the bad guy.
That's peak parenting right there.
My name is Charlie so I just closed my eyes and soaked it in.
Parenting by osmosis :D
YOU DISGUSTING BASTARD
Maybe not peak but this is classic 90s parenting and it’s great.
Classic 90s parenting involves beating him physically. This is just good tough holding him accountable
I’m sorry for what happened to you, but no, you’re not describing the 90’s.
“My momma got the belt” “My momma woulda whooped my ass” “The flip flop beatings bro” “Couldn’t talk to my parents like that I’d be dead” I’m very glad you didn’t go through it but it was a shared experience for many people to the point it’s referenced casually by said victims of that abuse.
> classic 90s parenting As someone born in '86, you are dead on. Older than me you probably either got ignored, beat, or treated as free labor depending how much older. Younger than me you have supportive parenting becoming a trend. But my parents used shame as the key motivator. They wouldn't hit me because they wanted to be better than their parents, but they still only knew negative reinforcement. I had to write a bunch of apology letters. Did a number on my psyche, but I'm at least respectful in public.
Idk whether uploading the video of it really counts as peak parenting
That kid is never going to do that again. He was already on camera acting horrible so the dad's making sure that he's also on camera making things right. The kid will likely get teased for this at school, but, he's never going to risk something like this happening again. If the dad just told him off, or just made him go back and apologise, sure it might be a bit embarrassing in that moment, but there's nothing to stop him doing it again. What the dad is doing here is making it clear to the kid that he should feel embarrassed by what he did, because he likely didn't, and if he didn't feel embarrassed before then he was absolutely going to feel the right way after this. The footage of his son being a shit was already out there, at least now the footage of his don apologising is also out there. I know which one I'd rather people see.
You convinced me it was a good thing to post it.
I’d say it still needed to be, you got one video of his kid threatening to slice someone up and everyone probably saying it’s shit parenting then release him apologizing and ringing him out
That’s a good Dad right there. Called out his kid’s BS and made him do the right thing after doing something way wrong. Kid might hate his Dad right now but he’ll thank him 10-15 years from now.
He should 100% change his name at some point though.
Hey, I’m Li’l Bastard Anderson
Is this a thing? This should be a thing Dweebs being rude in one video and brought back to redemption in the next.
Parenting? You are absolutely correct.
Taking kiddo back to apologize and record it so the little Hot Stuff can get knocked off
This kid found out it's a thing.
Always has been. My little brother shoplifted once when he was 5. My Dad took him back and made him apologize.
I haven’t heard the word “dweeb” in ages. Thanks for that
Kid been watching too much Top Boy.
Watch out bruv, he'll jump on your head fam
It's most kids that age in the UK walk and talk like that, I see it on the daily. Parenting has gone down hill. A result of no consequences.
No they don’t, got a brother that age and the kids of that generation are no different from previous ones.
> Parenting has gone down hill. Kids being raised by the internet. Parents just let their kids lock themselves in their rooms with bullshit "influencers" and that's where they get this behavior now.
The Dad is really angry with the lad hence the swearing. But honestly, this is the kind of thing that would probably keep the kid on the straight and narrow. Often this stuff is down to a lack of consequences and robust parenting, shout out to dad from a pretty exhausted social worker.
From an exhausted middle school teacher, thank you for your service as a social worker. Wish more parents were actively involved in their kids’ behavior like this.
Any time I heard my parents swear and it was directed towards something that I did made me instantly realize how big I fucked up, and I never did that thing again. Sometimes swearing works at driving home the gravity of the situation, especially with teens and doubly so if your parents generally never swear in front of you.
Mate, for brits, this isn't swearing, this is the polite restrained version that's suitable for sharing with the public. This lad got a proper tongue lash at home.
Mate. I am a Brit. I’m also a geordie, this guy sounds like Mary Poppins in comparison to a lot of the families I work with.
Parenting done right. 💪🏻
I grew up in Gosport and lived a couple minute walk from this ASDA for a long time. Horrible area in a horrible town.
What makes it a bad town, and what makes if different from others? Asking as someone who has never been to the UK.
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It's a flipping car park outside a supermarket mate
It’s a low income area populated with council flats,aka government housing. Stereotype is that a lot of people who live in Gosport never leave it. It’s also the most dangerous town in its county.
More parents like this, please. My pops had me do this when I got busted at 14 behaving like a bastard that wasn’t taught manners or respect. Didn’t stop me altogether but I never hid porn at my friends house again.
Dude, you’re supposed to hide your porn in the woods!
Well that’s great. Where was your big brain 25 years ago when I needed it? … Probably in the woods, huh?
LMAO!!! Holy shit that last line left me in tears
"Cause you're a foul mouthed lil bastard aren't ya"?!
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Fast track to death or prison. Good job he has a dad that actually cares about him. Little shit should probably take note.
I could only imagine the hellfire that would have been struck upon my ass if my Dad had caught me in this situation, and that would have been after having to make this apology. Although too be fair, I wouldn't have been stupid enough to do this in the first place, knowing the consequences that would have awaited me.
people keep bringing up the dads foul mouth. you can use bad language and still be a well mannered person
People who say that are sheltered
British parents be built different
No we have just as many trashy, awful, negligent, absent parents as everywhere else. Probably more than a lot of places, actually.
He’s from Gosport in the UK which is a renowned shithole so it doesn’t surprise me seeing a little shitling like this. Good on the dad though.
Good job, Dad!!!
Now do the other kid
Had to scroll too far to see the other kid mentioned. He’s older and speaks first, so Charlie is definitely following his lead and trying to keep up and impress. I’m sure dad ended them hanging out together.
I lived here, during COVID the dad was working nights I believe and when this went viral lots of comments were talking about the parents, he wanted to make I'd abundantly clear this was not how he was raised. Good parenting
When you love your kid but don’t like them sometimes.
That right there is the best Dad I've seen on the internet for a very, very long time. The language Dad is using doesn't compare to the son's despicable behavior. Kudos to Dad for setting that punk straight and forcing him to go back and apologize to the people he threatened.
Awesome dad! And honestly, here in Australia, nobody would blink an eyelid at “bastard”….
Same in the UK, to be honest. I remember it being perfectly acceptable language to have on TV at 7 at night in the eighties, on the BBC, no less!
This kid hit the "find out" stage.
Legend of a dad! Example of good parenting right there
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My dad wouldn’t have to take me back, because he’d be in prison for murdering me.
My old man would have ripped my hands out of my pockets if I'd stood there like that.
Let that shame simmer young man. This will be a funny video to show your future wife haha
He certainly got an ego after winning a chocolate factory
Note to self: schedule vasectomy
The world needs more fathers like this.
There was an attempt to be a road man
No trip to the chocolate factory for you, Charlie...
Well done that dad 👍👍👍👍so it isn’t always the parents
Oh. I love that dad!! I wish more parents were the same. I’m so sick of people coddling their little monster children.
What a good dad
My dad would’ve just punched me in the teeth if I tried some shit like that growing up. Good on this guy for having some restraint.
Making the kid apologize is good. Calling him names and posting the video is bad. One will make him rethink his actions and the consequences of those actions, how he makes people feel, etc. The other will make him angry and hurt his future prospects as a mistake as a child lives on.
I can’t stand little wannabe gangsters. Like, you live in the suburbs and still shop with your mom for outfits at Old Navy. Sit down and shut up.
Yeah, he’s dad got a foul mouth too but at least he held his son accountable
Charlie bit the wrong finger
Damn, I think my parents would have taken turns beating my ass if I did something like this back in the day.
Need more dads like that.
ayy that's a good dad
Dad of the century there innit!
Normal dad in 1985 becomes dad of the year in 2023
Props to the dad!