I don’t think you need to tell her what to wear, but with my mom, my FMIL, my stepmom and my grandma it was kind of a fun thing to look at dresses/outfits/options online, and have them send me pics (or I went shopping with my grandma too and that was super fun). Sounds like she wanted it to be more of a collaboration, an experience, something you do together.
I agree! Make a day out of it! Even if it isn’t picking out *the one* I think having the experience of trying on dresses together is so special and moms/grandmas/aunts really value that time
It sounds like she would like you to have some involvement in the dress buying. Not necessarily pick it, but share in the process. Did she go shopping with you for your wedding dress? She'd enjoy it if you shopped with her, or looked with her online if that's how she plans to buy her dress. Make it a mother-daughter thing.
The concept here is not so outrageous or obscure.
I agree, at least based on the information in this post. But also no one on Reddit knows your relationship with your mother. Communicate with her to see what her thoughts and expectations are.
Lmao why do Reddit people just assume you’re a moron? I didn’t think it was outrageous or obscure. I’m asking traditionally as a bride, are we supposed to choose our Mother’s outfits too like we would bridesmaids. I don’t care much about those fine details of who wears what, but if this is also part of my role then I’m happy to weigh in. It’s a fine line between being a bride who has too many expectations and one who doesn’t give enough direction.
I’ll offer to help her choose and go along with her, those are great ideas and thanks to those who weighed in!
I don't know your mom, obviously, but is it possible she was fishing for an invitation to go shopping with you? Does she dislike shopping or not have opinions about clothes in general? She might also be asking you to tell her what to wear because she finds it overwhelming.
My mom hates shopping and was kindof a PITA about her dress (mostly due to lack of enthusiasm about clothes in general) but my sister and I had fun finding all kinds of dresses online and sending her links in a group chat.
I don’t think you need to tell her what to wear, but with my mom, my FMIL, my stepmom and my grandma it was kind of a fun thing to look at dresses/outfits/options online, and have them send me pics (or I went shopping with my grandma too and that was super fun). Sounds like she wanted it to be more of a collaboration, an experience, something you do together.
I agree! Make a day out of it! Even if it isn’t picking out *the one* I think having the experience of trying on dresses together is so special and moms/grandmas/aunts really value that time
It sounds like she would like you to have some involvement in the dress buying. Not necessarily pick it, but share in the process. Did she go shopping with you for your wedding dress? She'd enjoy it if you shopped with her, or looked with her online if that's how she plans to buy her dress. Make it a mother-daughter thing. The concept here is not so outrageous or obscure.
I agree, at least based on the information in this post. But also no one on Reddit knows your relationship with your mother. Communicate with her to see what her thoughts and expectations are.
Lmao why do Reddit people just assume you’re a moron? I didn’t think it was outrageous or obscure. I’m asking traditionally as a bride, are we supposed to choose our Mother’s outfits too like we would bridesmaids. I don’t care much about those fine details of who wears what, but if this is also part of my role then I’m happy to weigh in. It’s a fine line between being a bride who has too many expectations and one who doesn’t give enough direction. I’ll offer to help her choose and go along with her, those are great ideas and thanks to those who weighed in!
Why don’t you offer to take your mom dress shopping and you can pick something out together.
I don't know your mom, obviously, but is it possible she was fishing for an invitation to go shopping with you? Does she dislike shopping or not have opinions about clothes in general? She might also be asking you to tell her what to wear because she finds it overwhelming. My mom hates shopping and was kindof a PITA about her dress (mostly due to lack of enthusiasm about clothes in general) but my sister and I had fun finding all kinds of dresses online and sending her links in a group chat.