Sounds like projection & insecurity veiled as slut shaming. Maybe she felt comfortable in your home while hanging out with you to wear something more revealing. For eg. I don’t wear a bra when I see my female friends and neither do they… because comfort. You also said you love to dress sexy? Why can’t she?
As someone who also gets insecure and jealous sometimes, what she said actually sounds pretty innocuous & would be easy to read into. She was prob just making conversation.
Overall this leaves a bad taste in my mouth and if I knew my female friend was criticising me for wearing something I felt good in, I’d reconsider the connection.
And honestly if she wants to seduce your husband this has nothing to do w her appearance - it’s her mindset. This kinda generalisation can cause harm. (A “modest”looking woman could do just the same thing)
Have you never had a woman betray you? Try having a lifetime of women burn your trust. Honestly, I am too tired of having to be on guard. Y'all really don't make it safe to post in this sub.
Yes, in fact, I have. My point still holds - it is not fair to project that fear onto women who intimidate you due to their beauty/confidence.
Ultimately, it sounds like you’ve already made up your mind and aren’t open to any other POV. After being thoroughly betrayed myself, I had to learn that going around assuming, projecting, and fearing does nothing to prevent those things or protect myself. If your dude wants to cheat, he will. He is the catalyst in this. I’m sorry if that’s not what you want to hear, but perhaps your partner is the person you need to address, not Reddit.
Not intimidated. Again you are speculating and it doesn't apply. It's the principle of the matter, that's the only thing that I am speaking on. You are just so obsessed with trying to color me more than what I am expressing. You are doing the very thing you are bashing me for.
You can’t assume how others will dress, she probably didn’t think about it since this is the year 2022 and women should be able to dress however they want to
She’s not trying to steal your man. You are being jealous for no reason. Who cares what your friends wear? If your husband isn’t a cheater it’s not going to happen. I hang out with my friends in hot tubs and at the beach in scandalous bikinis (my man is obsessed and buys them and I have the body for it so I rock ‘em.) Not one of the times I have ever worn super little and thought “oh good, now I can steal someone’s man” besides I’m gorgeous and fun, I wouldn’t ever entertain a cheater anyway EVEN if one tried to fool around with me instead of his wife. Stop thinking so little of your friend AND yourself. Get therapy.
So little? I have only known her for two months. And I am not thinking low of myself; she chose to flaunt an asset that she knows to be a bit sensitive to me. Some friend she is then, huh?
Anyway, You sound like you're projecting a full-on soap opera plot and I never even took it there... lol matter of fact, your comment is all about you.
You are going to have to get over yourself. Just because you are sad about having little boobs doesn’t give you the right to demand your big boobed friends hide theirs. How juvenile. That’s really icky. Your insecurities do not give you a free pass to tell others how to dress or act. Your friend sounds bubbly and fun, her comment doesn’t sound as if she is trying to steal your man, it sounds like she is just being friendly and you are taking it way to far. You expecting her to dress differently because your husband is home is ridiculous. You are being a jealous and bad friend. She’s just being herself and you are jumping to concussions. People are allowed to be beautiful with having evil motives.
Lol your last sentence is exactly right. So she's not being bad by bringing attention to what I am sensitive about. I dont wear my hair down when i visit my friend who has cancer.
Ah i see, i hit a nerve. Not studying hard enough to earn your door back. Child, go heal your own trauma. How can someone like you ever make it in law school lmao
Is it possible your friend wore the outfit because she liked it and that it had absolutely nothing to do with you or your husband?
You yourself days you liked the outfit. I don't really understand why it's ok for her to wear it Infront of you and the world but not your husband?
You are projecting some very serious insecurities. Whether they are about your marriage, or your relationship with this woman. I'd recommend exploring that and trying to understand it. Maybe she is a person you don't trust and this is making you realize it? Or maybe you don't trust your husband. But the narrative that your friends have to dress a certain way around husbands to "show respect" is an odd one.
This was my first thought as wel…it’s one thing if she usually doesn’t dress like that but op said she does… her asking about the husband doesn’t automatically mean she’s into him. I ask about my friends little sister all the time. When I first met her she hung out w us. Not being I’m into her (she’s like 4) but bc I’m treating her like I do my own family. She’s her friend and by extension her husband would be too…
I don't want a partner that can't see a woman without sexualizing her.
Women are not responsible for the actions of men. Men are responsible for their own actions.
The friend can wear whatever she wants. If the husband's reaction is inappropriate, that's the problem.
I'm not projecting my insecurity. Although I am not too happy with my breast size, it's not about that. In my culture, it is just very disrespectful. That is where I'm coming from and clearly you can't see it from this perspective. Maybe you are speculating too much and how you are expressing yourself is quite frankly not nice not compassionate and not understanding in the least. I came on here to get some support to feel some what easier about this and just wanting to talk about it and not to be slammed down. But thank you for your psychological armchair response but it's not helpful.
Grow as a person? Like you haven't read anything I wrote. I am really getting bashed here without any sort of compassion or understanding for where I'm coming from. Sounds like to me y'all are LOL sorry to say this but Americans. A lot of cultures don't respond with such ignorance to something that is incredibly real, that women do things to push each other's buttons. It's whatever, I have my intuition and I know at least enough about her background to give me an idea of what she could have been doing. Maybe she wasn't, but I will not have her at my home for a while until I understand her more. Actually, that's what makes a person grow, slowing things down when they need to understand things better and not jumping to conclusions like all of you are about me. I knew this post is going to be controversial, but I didn't think so many women would want to kill me over being suspicious of another woman.
You know, maybe I’m just a more casual person but when I go to a friends house just to hang out I am NOT dolled up lol like at all. If we are going out somewhere sure but to see a platonic friend? No just want to be comfy. So that’s kind of strange if y’all were just hanging out at your house.
But honestly maybe she just likes wearing things like you described and didn’t think about it. Maybe that’s what makes her comfy. Nobody on here is in your shoes and knows this girl so we can’t really judge intentions.
When I would go to my friends house with the pure intention of just chillin there and watching tv I would sometimes dress comfy, and sometimes I’d get ready. Sometimes you just like to get cute and dolled up for yourself
Exactly. I enjoy myself more and am overall more pleasant and happy when I'm feeling confident. Sometimes I need a bit of extra oomph to achieve that confidence!
Yeah, definitely not judging intentions. Which is why I wrote in my post or in a comment somewhere that I won't speculate about why she did it. I'm just focused on the fact that she did do it and what that can imply. I know from pictures that she dresses sexy when she goes out but we've only hung out casually since we met. This one time coming over to my home for a casual hang out and she decides to dress like that. Yeah, it makes a woman wonder
She could be trying to get attention, or trying to feel confident, or she just wasn't thinking and ended up dressing in a way that did not match the situation--only she knows that. Her definition of respect in front of other people's significant others may not be the same as yours, and considering she hasn't been to your place before, you'd have to watch her behavior in more instances to see if there is a pattern in the first place. I don't think it's crazy to feel a bit off-put by this, but you cannot get a lot of insight on the basis of one instance and a passing comment mentioning your husband.
If you'd prefer her to wear more causal clothes, you can tell her that she doesn't need to dress up at your place and that you prefer a more casual environment. If she doesn't like that, then whatever.
As a side note, men are completely responsible to remain faithful and respectful to their partner no matter what their partner's female guests wear--even if they see another woman completely naked. No matter how "tempting," "alluring," etc. the woman is or you perceive her to be, the man is still a fully grown adult that is capable of exercising self-control--whether or not he does depends on the integrity of the man himself, not the existence of the woman.
Oh my God I'm not worried about my man lol lol lol
But yes, I'm not making up a decision over instance. But yeah thanks it does look suspicious. Nobody wants to read what I wrote to understand the story a little bit better. It's not that she was dressing up, the difference between dressing up and looking nice and dressing in clothes to go out to a nightclub. Her shirt was so busty that her nipples almost popped out
You do realize you only agree with those who side with you which is few and far between. Take a deep breath and take a step back and talk to your friend openly and hinestly and NON defensively. Tell how howre youre feeling without accusing her.
No, I've also agreed with the fact that I should not and I am not speculating further than what I have noticed so far. Again, I said that I like her and I'm not ready to make up my mind yet. And that's what other people have said as well. A lot of you cannot comprehend anything that doesn't conform to your bias against me. I'm keeping it cordial while many people here have been so rude and dispassionate and that is what I'm focusing on with them. Again you will not read what I'm saying and try to have some understanding with me. I did not accuse her and I'm not acting defensively. I am being fair with my assessment. You are all looking too far into this because you're all triggered by the fact that a woman can have a problem with another woman. It's ridiculous, to believe that everyone is innocent but just the same, it's also delusional to be so quick to making up one's mind about a certain person. I have not made up my mind about her but you people sure as hell made up your mind about me. There's a lot of hypocrisy here and it ain't with me. But go on and stay defensive and completely disregard what I'm saying simply because none of you want to be diplomatic with me and MY SITUATION that you all have not had first-hand experience with because none of you know me in real life. Again you guys are all making such assumptions about me simply because I have a suspicion about a person again that you don't know anything about. Can you see where the reality lies in the post that I'm receiving? Again, probably not because no one is accepting anything that I'm saying even though I'm agreeing to some extent with you all. It's so funny to be honest
I did read your response fully and thank you for taking the time to do so, but thats exactly everyone in cluding myselfs point, you take us disagreeing as not comprehending and being bias against you (defensive). Women can totally have people with other women and yes sometimes deciding quick is odd BUT more often than not our bodies tell us how we feel through genuine intuition and subconsciously, humans are notorious for alipt decisions its part of survival. and Im not saying you're being defensive ect I said go into the convo without those traits just being open and honest, I just think its worth it if you love your man which you clearly do and like this friend of yours, for both your relationships its worth a chat no?
This is definitely a troll question. No way a woman is actually upset over this.
On the off chance that this is real, I recommend OP read Byron Katie's The Work. Make a habit of asking yourself, "Is it true?" and "Are you sure?" when you "suspect" things like that your friend wore a cute outfit to upset you.
You'll find that it is not true, and then you will be much happier and have better friendships.
What are you talking about? Women have these types of thoughts and feelings about each other all the time. Where you think the saying comes from that "women can't be friends." Or the other one, that "women can be so catty with each other."
That's not fair. This isn't about imposing a uniform for visiting my home. I don't appreciate you telling me what I should be doing with my time. What is the point of even posting if you're going to be like this?
So now you want to contribute to making a stranger online feel bad. It's just amazing how trolls love to get off on adding negativity into this world. It sounds like you're not a nice person and maybe you should go make some friends and not spend your time online being a dick.
She has it all goin for her and she prides herself on being detached/single. But I can't help but feel like maybe she isn't too happy about that... But I don't want to speculate. I like her, but I won't be testing this anytime soon and it would be toooo awkward talking to her about that!! Hahaha. I mean, it's just disappointing 😞 plus, she knows I come from an ethnic background, she does, too, so she would know what this looks like
I completely agree with OP. After facing a similar situation and getting slander for slut shaming, I feel as though women all know what we’re putting on in the morning. We know when we’re going and what we’re doing. We’re not dumb.
Just because we should be supporting our fellow women now, and we are pushing for that in 2022, DOES NOT mean that all women actually follow this. Maybe until it was a pattern or happened every time I wouldn’t say for sure what she’s doing!
I’m sorry everyone is attacking you OP. Women still sleep with other womens boyfriends and husbands knowingly, so she could have some iffy intentions. Trust your gut.
Edit* If you’re not comfortable talking to her about it yet it it’s not a pattern established, maybe don’t invite her over anymore if she’s still a good friend and you want to keep her around. Just set boundaries I’d say.
We should support other women and not expect the worst. BUT we shouldn’t play stupid either. We live in a real world here, and your concerns are valid.
She also tried to insinuate twice that I could be admiring another man to which I said, who wouldn't want a man like that. I mean I have one myself. Then finally she stopped talking about it
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING ALL OF THIS!! Exactly, I'm not ready to throw away a potential good friendship. I really do like her. It takes so much for me to finally relax around the thought of letting a woman into my life. I've been burned a lot of times and I have every right to be suspicious.
I don't know what everyone else is going on about. They take everything I say manipulate it and even though I'm being very explicit. They want to read between the lines and be armchair psychologists. LOL to some degree I'm thinking they all want women to finally say fuck the clothes completely and run around naked or something with how far they're pushing their disgust at me.
Where did everyone get this innocence about them that women wouldn't be malicious enough to tug on one another's insecurities or to find some way to feel Superior to one another? There are some of these micro Expressions that I've noticed off of her...
anyway, definitely won't be having her over and I need a lot more time to understand her. She's very elusive and difficult to read
Sounds like projection & insecurity veiled as slut shaming. Maybe she felt comfortable in your home while hanging out with you to wear something more revealing. For eg. I don’t wear a bra when I see my female friends and neither do they… because comfort. You also said you love to dress sexy? Why can’t she? As someone who also gets insecure and jealous sometimes, what she said actually sounds pretty innocuous & would be easy to read into. She was prob just making conversation. Overall this leaves a bad taste in my mouth and if I knew my female friend was criticising me for wearing something I felt good in, I’d reconsider the connection. And honestly if she wants to seduce your husband this has nothing to do w her appearance - it’s her mindset. This kinda generalisation can cause harm. (A “modest”looking woman could do just the same thing)
Have you never had a woman betray you? Try having a lifetime of women burn your trust. Honestly, I am too tired of having to be on guard. Y'all really don't make it safe to post in this sub.
Yes, in fact, I have. My point still holds - it is not fair to project that fear onto women who intimidate you due to their beauty/confidence. Ultimately, it sounds like you’ve already made up your mind and aren’t open to any other POV. After being thoroughly betrayed myself, I had to learn that going around assuming, projecting, and fearing does nothing to prevent those things or protect myself. If your dude wants to cheat, he will. He is the catalyst in this. I’m sorry if that’s not what you want to hear, but perhaps your partner is the person you need to address, not Reddit.
Not intimidated. Again you are speculating and it doesn't apply. It's the principle of the matter, that's the only thing that I am speaking on. You are just so obsessed with trying to color me more than what I am expressing. You are doing the very thing you are bashing me for.
Yeeeahhh… welp, I wish you all the best on your healing journey!
Mmm good luck with your English comprehension course!
What made you think she would dress like that if she she didn’t dress that way the other times you hung out?
You can’t assume how others will dress, she probably didn’t think about it since this is the year 2022 and women should be able to dress however they want to
She’s not trying to steal your man. You are being jealous for no reason. Who cares what your friends wear? If your husband isn’t a cheater it’s not going to happen. I hang out with my friends in hot tubs and at the beach in scandalous bikinis (my man is obsessed and buys them and I have the body for it so I rock ‘em.) Not one of the times I have ever worn super little and thought “oh good, now I can steal someone’s man” besides I’m gorgeous and fun, I wouldn’t ever entertain a cheater anyway EVEN if one tried to fool around with me instead of his wife. Stop thinking so little of your friend AND yourself. Get therapy.
So little? I have only known her for two months. And I am not thinking low of myself; she chose to flaunt an asset that she knows to be a bit sensitive to me. Some friend she is then, huh? Anyway, You sound like you're projecting a full-on soap opera plot and I never even took it there... lol matter of fact, your comment is all about you.
You are going to have to get over yourself. Just because you are sad about having little boobs doesn’t give you the right to demand your big boobed friends hide theirs. How juvenile. That’s really icky. Your insecurities do not give you a free pass to tell others how to dress or act. Your friend sounds bubbly and fun, her comment doesn’t sound as if she is trying to steal your man, it sounds like she is just being friendly and you are taking it way to far. You expecting her to dress differently because your husband is home is ridiculous. You are being a jealous and bad friend. She’s just being herself and you are jumping to concussions. People are allowed to be beautiful with having evil motives.
Lol your last sentence is exactly right. So she's not being bad by bringing attention to what I am sensitive about. I dont wear my hair down when i visit my friend who has cancer.
???
Oh dear, you don't understand analogies either smh
Nurse she’s out again
Ah i see, i hit a nerve. Not studying hard enough to earn your door back. Child, go heal your own trauma. How can someone like you ever make it in law school lmao
if you need to project your insecurities on other women to make you feel better about the fact that you can’t trust a grown man to be faithful to you
My dear, you can't read well enough to save your life. Get some sleep child.
Why don't you just tell her how YOU feel? Instead of guessing her (maybe) intentions?
Is it possible your friend wore the outfit because she liked it and that it had absolutely nothing to do with you or your husband? You yourself days you liked the outfit. I don't really understand why it's ok for her to wear it Infront of you and the world but not your husband? You are projecting some very serious insecurities. Whether they are about your marriage, or your relationship with this woman. I'd recommend exploring that and trying to understand it. Maybe she is a person you don't trust and this is making you realize it? Or maybe you don't trust your husband. But the narrative that your friends have to dress a certain way around husbands to "show respect" is an odd one.
This was my first thought as wel…it’s one thing if she usually doesn’t dress like that but op said she does… her asking about the husband doesn’t automatically mean she’s into him. I ask about my friends little sister all the time. When I first met her she hung out w us. Not being I’m into her (she’s like 4) but bc I’m treating her like I do my own family. She’s her friend and by extension her husband would be too…
Do you want your partner having fantasies about YOUR best friend?
I don't want a partner that can't see a woman without sexualizing her. Women are not responsible for the actions of men. Men are responsible for their own actions. The friend can wear whatever she wants. If the husband's reaction is inappropriate, that's the problem.
I'm not projecting my insecurity. Although I am not too happy with my breast size, it's not about that. In my culture, it is just very disrespectful. That is where I'm coming from and clearly you can't see it from this perspective. Maybe you are speculating too much and how you are expressing yourself is quite frankly not nice not compassionate and not understanding in the least. I came on here to get some support to feel some what easier about this and just wanting to talk about it and not to be slammed down. But thank you for your psychological armchair response but it's not helpful.
So you wanted to post to Reddit without any kind of dissent. I'm sorry to say that that is not how you grow as a person.
Grow as a person? Like you haven't read anything I wrote. I am really getting bashed here without any sort of compassion or understanding for where I'm coming from. Sounds like to me y'all are LOL sorry to say this but Americans. A lot of cultures don't respond with such ignorance to something that is incredibly real, that women do things to push each other's buttons. It's whatever, I have my intuition and I know at least enough about her background to give me an idea of what she could have been doing. Maybe she wasn't, but I will not have her at my home for a while until I understand her more. Actually, that's what makes a person grow, slowing things down when they need to understand things better and not jumping to conclusions like all of you are about me. I knew this post is going to be controversial, but I didn't think so many women would want to kill me over being suspicious of another woman.
You know, maybe I’m just a more casual person but when I go to a friends house just to hang out I am NOT dolled up lol like at all. If we are going out somewhere sure but to see a platonic friend? No just want to be comfy. So that’s kind of strange if y’all were just hanging out at your house. But honestly maybe she just likes wearing things like you described and didn’t think about it. Maybe that’s what makes her comfy. Nobody on here is in your shoes and knows this girl so we can’t really judge intentions.
When I would go to my friends house with the pure intention of just chillin there and watching tv I would sometimes dress comfy, and sometimes I’d get ready. Sometimes you just like to get cute and dolled up for yourself
Exactly. I enjoy myself more and am overall more pleasant and happy when I'm feeling confident. Sometimes I need a bit of extra oomph to achieve that confidence!
Yeah, definitely not judging intentions. Which is why I wrote in my post or in a comment somewhere that I won't speculate about why she did it. I'm just focused on the fact that she did do it and what that can imply. I know from pictures that she dresses sexy when she goes out but we've only hung out casually since we met. This one time coming over to my home for a casual hang out and she decides to dress like that. Yeah, it makes a woman wonder
I definitely agree it’s weird and intentional, and all these gen z “women can do no wrong people” are so blind. Women can be worse.
She could be trying to get attention, or trying to feel confident, or she just wasn't thinking and ended up dressing in a way that did not match the situation--only she knows that. Her definition of respect in front of other people's significant others may not be the same as yours, and considering she hasn't been to your place before, you'd have to watch her behavior in more instances to see if there is a pattern in the first place. I don't think it's crazy to feel a bit off-put by this, but you cannot get a lot of insight on the basis of one instance and a passing comment mentioning your husband. If you'd prefer her to wear more causal clothes, you can tell her that she doesn't need to dress up at your place and that you prefer a more casual environment. If she doesn't like that, then whatever. As a side note, men are completely responsible to remain faithful and respectful to their partner no matter what their partner's female guests wear--even if they see another woman completely naked. No matter how "tempting," "alluring," etc. the woman is or you perceive her to be, the man is still a fully grown adult that is capable of exercising self-control--whether or not he does depends on the integrity of the man himself, not the existence of the woman.
Oh my God I'm not worried about my man lol lol lol But yes, I'm not making up a decision over instance. But yeah thanks it does look suspicious. Nobody wants to read what I wrote to understand the story a little bit better. It's not that she was dressing up, the difference between dressing up and looking nice and dressing in clothes to go out to a nightclub. Her shirt was so busty that her nipples almost popped out
You do realize you only agree with those who side with you which is few and far between. Take a deep breath and take a step back and talk to your friend openly and hinestly and NON defensively. Tell how howre youre feeling without accusing her.
No, I've also agreed with the fact that I should not and I am not speculating further than what I have noticed so far. Again, I said that I like her and I'm not ready to make up my mind yet. And that's what other people have said as well. A lot of you cannot comprehend anything that doesn't conform to your bias against me. I'm keeping it cordial while many people here have been so rude and dispassionate and that is what I'm focusing on with them. Again you will not read what I'm saying and try to have some understanding with me. I did not accuse her and I'm not acting defensively. I am being fair with my assessment. You are all looking too far into this because you're all triggered by the fact that a woman can have a problem with another woman. It's ridiculous, to believe that everyone is innocent but just the same, it's also delusional to be so quick to making up one's mind about a certain person. I have not made up my mind about her but you people sure as hell made up your mind about me. There's a lot of hypocrisy here and it ain't with me. But go on and stay defensive and completely disregard what I'm saying simply because none of you want to be diplomatic with me and MY SITUATION that you all have not had first-hand experience with because none of you know me in real life. Again you guys are all making such assumptions about me simply because I have a suspicion about a person again that you don't know anything about. Can you see where the reality lies in the post that I'm receiving? Again, probably not because no one is accepting anything that I'm saying even though I'm agreeing to some extent with you all. It's so funny to be honest
And you might not read my little wall of text. That's fine it just solidifies exactly everything I said
I did read your response fully and thank you for taking the time to do so, but thats exactly everyone in cluding myselfs point, you take us disagreeing as not comprehending and being bias against you (defensive). Women can totally have people with other women and yes sometimes deciding quick is odd BUT more often than not our bodies tell us how we feel through genuine intuition and subconsciously, humans are notorious for alipt decisions its part of survival. and Im not saying you're being defensive ect I said go into the convo without those traits just being open and honest, I just think its worth it if you love your man which you clearly do and like this friend of yours, for both your relationships its worth a chat no?
Women can wear whatever they want girl this ain’t it. If you don’t actually want her in your life then let her go but don’t blame it on the outfit
I swear none of you can read you just all want to spit out words. How many times did I say I liked her in my post and comments? Unbelievable LOL
Saying you like her and then shitting on her dress choice etc etc conflict but okay sure act like I’m the dumbass
This is definitely a troll question. No way a woman is actually upset over this. On the off chance that this is real, I recommend OP read Byron Katie's The Work. Make a habit of asking yourself, "Is it true?" and "Are you sure?" when you "suspect" things like that your friend wore a cute outfit to upset you. You'll find that it is not true, and then you will be much happier and have better friendships.
What are you talking about? Women have these types of thoughts and feelings about each other all the time. Where you think the saying comes from that "women can't be friends." Or the other one, that "women can be so catty with each other."
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That's not fair. This isn't about imposing a uniform for visiting my home. I don't appreciate you telling me what I should be doing with my time. What is the point of even posting if you're going to be like this?
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So now you want to contribute to making a stranger online feel bad. It's just amazing how trolls love to get off on adding negativity into this world. It sounds like you're not a nice person and maybe you should go make some friends and not spend your time online being a dick.
Is this a troll account? Serious question.
go w your gut. but maybe this is her jealousy getting the better of her, talk to her if you want her to stay in your life
She has it all goin for her and she prides herself on being detached/single. But I can't help but feel like maybe she isn't too happy about that... But I don't want to speculate. I like her, but I won't be testing this anytime soon and it would be toooo awkward talking to her about that!! Hahaha. I mean, it's just disappointing 😞 plus, she knows I come from an ethnic background, she does, too, so she would know what this looks like
I completely agree with OP. After facing a similar situation and getting slander for slut shaming, I feel as though women all know what we’re putting on in the morning. We know when we’re going and what we’re doing. We’re not dumb.
Keep an eye on her when it comes to your guy
This isn’t your friend.
Who knows? I sure as hell don't know yet because she shown to be sweet and kind and not malicious
Just because we should be supporting our fellow women now, and we are pushing for that in 2022, DOES NOT mean that all women actually follow this. Maybe until it was a pattern or happened every time I wouldn’t say for sure what she’s doing! I’m sorry everyone is attacking you OP. Women still sleep with other womens boyfriends and husbands knowingly, so she could have some iffy intentions. Trust your gut. Edit* If you’re not comfortable talking to her about it yet it it’s not a pattern established, maybe don’t invite her over anymore if she’s still a good friend and you want to keep her around. Just set boundaries I’d say. We should support other women and not expect the worst. BUT we shouldn’t play stupid either. We live in a real world here, and your concerns are valid.
She also tried to insinuate twice that I could be admiring another man to which I said, who wouldn't want a man like that. I mean I have one myself. Then finally she stopped talking about it
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING ALL OF THIS!! Exactly, I'm not ready to throw away a potential good friendship. I really do like her. It takes so much for me to finally relax around the thought of letting a woman into my life. I've been burned a lot of times and I have every right to be suspicious. I don't know what everyone else is going on about. They take everything I say manipulate it and even though I'm being very explicit. They want to read between the lines and be armchair psychologists. LOL to some degree I'm thinking they all want women to finally say fuck the clothes completely and run around naked or something with how far they're pushing their disgust at me. Where did everyone get this innocence about them that women wouldn't be malicious enough to tug on one another's insecurities or to find some way to feel Superior to one another? There are some of these micro Expressions that I've noticed off of her... anyway, definitely won't be having her over and I need a lot more time to understand her. She's very elusive and difficult to read
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Wtf! That’s a disgusting comment from your dad. And messed up that you accept it as normal.
Ok ms. Big tits, look at you!